To all my gem patri/matriarchs, how has your experience been with raising children? I really ask this to the mommas....I'm not expecting a baby but I am worried that I will only confuse my children and they will be spoiled or rebels w/o a cause....
Do you find yourself having trouble disciplining your children?
So then self help books wad the best way for you...damn my momma was right. Thanks tho...it freaks me out. I guess I'm showing my immaturity. Plus, I've witnessed gem mommas get walked on by there kids....I'm like....girl my kid would have heard what I had to say.
I'm a mother of two boys, one 11, who turns 12 in a month, and the other, a 12 year old. First boy was by birth, second by adoption. So both present some unique challenges.
When I got pregnant it was a bit of a surprise, but it was time. I was in my early mid 30's and you know about the time clock etc. However, I didn't think I was ready to be a parent.
I did some reading in the usual parenting magazines at the Dr.'s office. I've never bought into the Dr. Spock philosophy. I think he had a lot wrong. And that is why so many kids now have so much difficultly dealing with life's challenges.
So when the time came, I reverted back to things my Mother taught me about personal integrity, values, discipline, and how to be a constructive role model for your child. I'm by no means perfect. I make many mistakes and hopefully, learn from them. But the one thing I set in stone when our son was born was that I would not allow others to teach him values etc. He would grow up seeing those values in action and have a solid foundation when he was tempted with peers. I have no doubt when I was a teen and searching for an identity etc., that core foundation my parents instilled in me got me through a lot of tough times. I want my boys to have something other than drugs for example, to fall back on.
I also am more involved in their lives at school and sports. My mother attended many of my sporting events. My father never attended, period. I know how much it meant to me to see my Mother supporting me. I get just as much out of being their for my boys as they do seeing me there cheering them on with a huge smile.
I am a Gemini momma with moon in Sag & Venus in Cancer. I ADORE my children, they are my world. I have lots of fun with them (we have dance parties, wrestling/tickling matches, play games, crafts, and just get goofy together), however, I teach and demand respect from them. They have manners, treat others with respect, and are very well behaved kids.
I am very blessed. I waited till my late 20's to have children, as I knew once I had a child my life would be all about them and not about me anymore. And that is exactly what happened.
My goal in life was to become a mother. Best decision I ever made
I have been thinking about this subject a lot. I am NOT a mother yet. First I want to finish my second degree so that I will be able to take care of my babies. I want 3 I think, but i will settle for two. As long as I can instill in them to be respectful, intelligent ,considerate ,independent thinkers and spiritual , I believe they will turn out great. I have a cancer dad and a Libra mother and my cancer father was more nurturing. I am apprehensive that my scattered thoughts and indecisiveness will not support my future childrens emotional side but I think I would make a good mom overall.by the way my Venus is in cancer so I do have a pretty skilled emotional side mixed with logic. good topic.
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