Gemini parents

Be honest- How effective are you at disciplining your children?

Growing up my gemini dad left the "disciplining" to my Aries mother, which was more than enough. However, both my stepmom and my dad (both Geminis) do not discipline their children whatsoever. It's weird, they don't teach them manners or apply any boundaries. They have four young kids, all under the age of six. I can tell my Dad gets really embarrassed whenever they're out in public or people are visiting his home.

Now that I think about it my Dad has always had an aversion to enforcing any rules. I remember all I had to do was pout or act angry and he would go out of his way to make me happy again. Which is really sweet, when you think about it. But these kids are out of control! When I go out with them, they literally bite and spit at complete strangers. When this happens my Dad and Stepmom just look at the floor and ignore it. It's madness!! lol

Sometimes I get the feeling that they want other family members to teach the kids right from wrong. I was visiting over the summer, it had been about a year since I've seen them, and one of them started shoving, biting and scratching at my Dad. The kid was smiling while tearing at my Dad and my Dad wasn't saying anything, but he kept looking over at me. Weirdly, the kids listen to me, either they're afraid of me or they respect me.

I know my Dad knows their behavior is wrong and not normal, because he looks at how temperately well behaved and polite my cousins (same age range) are and seems sooo ashamed. The dichotomy between his kids and my aunt's children, is so stark and blatant. Though, he genuinely hasn't seemed to make the connection between discipline and good, balanced behavior. He just looks so confused all the time.

Any Geminis relate to this fear of "your children not liking you" or disciplining them? Do you pass off disciplining to other family members?

Hmmm I wonder if all the earth has a significant effect...

My Dad's placements: Gemini sun, Leo moon, Gemini mercury, Gemini venus, Gemini mars
Stepmom's placements: Gemini sun, Gemini moon, Leo mercury, Sagittarius venus, Libra mars

as a single mom, i think we have to be both, the mom and dad. to our kids. so, no, i never had an issue carrying out discipline in my home.

Dunno about parents but kid wise these kids need a strong hand. I know of a deaf Gem kid who is nuts he does anything and everything to get attention.

Posted by DG
My mother was a Gemini and she would chase me with her slipper. Pulled my hair out my head a few times too. I was scared of my mother.

-Rolls around laughing-

All apart of growing up though somethings have there place. Excluding you Dg was talking to a Gemini mother of 2 at the library and the aversion to laying down a strong hand is excactly her problem. Its societys change for patting the kid on the head and in the process making everything he does allright. Her excuse of some type was she leaves discipline up to the father.

Posted by DG
She's lucky to have that option.

The kid is to but she needs to excersise her other options. Like the back hand of her hands.

Hmmmm F em if they feel I abuse em I guess I abuse em. Something always gets taken outta context you would have to pay me to pay attention. Children need to be spanked more then they'll act like children instead of grown ups. -.-

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The force is strong in you.

Posted by DG
Well my children are all young adults now. Spanking days have been over for some time now.

These days its more like, "mom can I have some money"?, No get a job!

Mom I'm hungry, thats nice, I just went food shopping, go cook us some dinner. I'll walk you through it. 🙂

lmao! same here! my response to the "i'm hungry" was "you know where the kitchen is!" i still use that response when they come to visit. lol! and if i received a half a penny for each time i told them to get a job, i'd be one rich woman! haha!

Posted by DG
As we grow older we cut ourselves off from the world in some areas and forget that this earth is an ever changing place.

I guess ill have two wives Earthy and Dg who's buying the rings— This is definitely felt if I had tears I might cry. Losing the ability to laugh is something I never want to do as I get older. Imagine sitting in your rocking chair and saying. "Look at those kids when me myself and I was younger we would've never ever done that" Your ability to laugh is your abilty to see that everything is not so serious. Life is all what you make it comes to mind. Lonely and cold? or warm and chuckles.

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Posted by DG
As we grow older we cut ourselves off from the world in some areas and forget that this earth is an ever changing place.

I guess ill have two wives Earthy and Dg who's buying the rings— This is definitely felt if I had tears I might cry. Losing the ability to laugh is something I never want to do as I get older. Imagine sitting in your rocking chair and saying. "Look at those kids when me myself and I was younger we would've never ever done that" Your ability to laugh is your abilty to see that everything is not so serious. Life is all what you make it comes to mind. Lonely and cold? or warm and chuckles.

You didn't even propose! What do you mean you'll "have" two wives?! LOL! JK.

So, true. Life is what you make of it. I want to be happy therefore I work at it and maintaining it. 🙂

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I dunno about proposing now that might take me awhile it sounds like commitment. I like the child "grow and raise palaces thing. The flipside of that is inside the palace the stupid people outside can't annoy you. Then you can invite whoever you want in. The smartest thing to do is balance, maturity and innocence.

Incredibly nice thoughts I think we slow down or speed up according to situations or boredem as one day we wake up and go hmmmmm the same old same ole is not for me habits begone.

@Earthy, Do not make a commitment thread. -.-

21, 19, and 17. all of them have moved out of the nest.

Im fine physicially 4 women is a challenge as the usual way these types of things go I will demolish you.

Lol at sister wives I guess ill transform from Gem

-Hugs Earthy, steals a milkdud from Dg-

Posted by DG
How old was your dad when he started his new family?

Took me awhile. He was in his mid-40s. He was in his early 20s when he had me and my siblings. But like I said my mom was the disciplinarian.

Just read through the rest of the comments. This thread turned into something very sweet! Glad y'all bonded. Also someone said something about Geminis not realizing how talented they are until they're older...I'm going to go back and find it and show it to my Gemini brother. He's going through a weird time right now, maybe it'll be a nice boost.

Posted by RoseTheTaurus
He's going through a weird time right now, maybe it'll be a nice boost.

Explain.

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Posted by RoseTheTaurus
He's going through a weird time right now, maybe it'll be a nice boost.

Explain.

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My brother is not really following through with anything (school, work, general responsibilities). I think he's depressed, honestly. He's the oldest of my siblings and the only one who doesn't seem to be on some sort of fruitful path. I think he's feeling inadequate about his capabilities. He told me that he actually goes out his way to disappoint people and reduce their expectations of him. He's in a weird place right now. Maybe an identity crisis. I imagine it's hard being the oldest and having a childhood filled with responsibilities. Only to become an adult and realize your identity changes and the people you felt responsible for, no longer need you and/or doing much better than you 😢

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Posted by RoseTheTaurus
He's going through a weird time right now, maybe it'll be a nice boost.

Explain.

My brother is not really following through with anything (school, work, general responsibilities). I think he's depressed, honestly. He's the oldest of my siblings and the only one who doesn't seem to be on some sort of fruitful path. I think he's feeling inadequate about his capabilities. He told me that he actually goes out his way to disappoint people and reduce their expectations of him. He's in a weird place right now. Maybe an identity crisis. I imagine it's hard being the oldest and having a childhood filled with responsibilities. Only to become an adult and realize your identity changes and the people you felt responsible for, no longer need you and/or doing much better than you 😢

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Tell him everyone has there own path and that sometimes a life once in awhile has no directions.