How can scorpio guy attract gemini girl?

I am a scorpio guy. I am dating to this Gemini girl who is fun-loving and very talkative. I know we have first impression for each other. I read Zodiac Compatibility signs and found that this two won't work for long relationship. So, any advise how can I keep her interested in me for long time? Probably I want advise from Gemini people. What excite you most and what kind of relationship you want from Scorpio guy like me?

Please help this scorp who is now madly fall in love with a gem. 🙂

"I read Zodiac Compatibility signs and found that this two won't work for long relationship."

Normally, these relationships don't last long, as Markella has pointed out, since she's been through 2 already ... however, there is a Gemini woman in here who has been successful with a Scorpio man and I think it all depends on the maturity level of both parties. According to compatibility .. water and air aren't suppose to work for the long haul, however, it's possible.

The problem that arises is that Scorpio's, once they find Mr/Mrs Right, then they settle-down rather quickly and want to maintain a sense of routine .. they like stability, and dependability .. and this is inherently contrary to the Geminis nature. The Gemini likes to keep things moving, have constant stimulation, excitment .. their soul is restless, while yours (Scorpio) is more settled. So, this is the reason why the compatibility reports normally say that these two won't make it.

My brother is a Scorpio and has been married to his Gemini wife nearly 30 nears now .. and their marriage is very successful, built around respect and trust. So, this pairing isn't impossible, regardless of the opposition in nature of the two. Instead of working against each others differences, they have worked towards bringing a quality that the other was lacking.

She has taught him to take leaps once in a while .. be spontaneous, eventhough his nature is to be concerned with every little detail of the consequence. Because of trusting her judgement .. he will close his eyes and jump when she gets worked up over something that sounds thrilling, he trusts that she will land him on his feet, and will go along for the ride (sometimes).

He has taught her to re-direct some of this excess energy, and has shown her how she can be more diplomatic during an emotional uproar that zings through her whole essence, which causes her to want to react to every situation that arises ... by his uncanny ability to remain calm, cool and collected.

However, all that is once you're actually in a relationship with this girl. To get her there .. you'll have to maintain your respect for her by not being judgemental of her incessant opinions about other people, which she will do because Geminis like to talk about other people .. they have a geniune interest in other people, and will gossip about them. But you have to keep in mind that this isn't for the sake of being catty, or petty .. rather, a real interest in others life.

Also, to get and keep her interest .. you have to make sure that you show her some creativity in your thoughts .. meaning, talk about your dreams, what you find exciting, even if it's just silly fantasies.

The whole point is .... Geminis are so restless, and flip along in life simply because their mind is ever turning .. and if they can't find an avenue in thought in which to direct this, then they feel compelled to "act" it out .. to get it out.

So, if you give her a mental place to exercise, and release .. by sharing with her your hopes and dreams, and what moves you .. then you'll have her deepest respect because she'll know that you can understand entertain her ever-churning thoughts, without judgement.

However, be prepared to be on the move, also ... it can't just be in thoughts to share .. pay attention to what she finds exciting and take her there.

"You will connect on many levels but there is a place inside BOTH that the other cannot touch or understand."


That really is a good thing, Emma .. if put into perspective. If there are levels in which the other cannot easily find an understanding, while maintaining respect for this very difference .. then it keeps the other always searching the soul of the other. It keeps the interest there to find one another on a different level, and that can provide a lot of growth on the individual level, as well as the partnership.

Hi guys, thanks so much for your responses. Very interesting facts you guys have there.

To Atlantic Myst, my Birthday is 9-November-1979, her birthday is 11-June-1984. Well, I only know the Scorp/Gem signs. I am not very much familiar with Horoscopes in Detail. 😄

Very thoughtful and well written, MarKella and P-Angel. I take note the advises you guys give. I love to see there are many success Scorp/Gem stories. I hope mine was one of those too.

Was talking to her yesterday. She has like full of energy all the time and I have to keep up with her. 😛

We talked about Horoscopes stuff and compatibility. I think about the way to adapt her Gemini instinct to work with my Scorpio instinct. Below is the list I could think of. What do you guys think?

- Never be possessive and jealous (ok...I will try)
- don't give pressure to Gemini (ok...I will never)
- learn to back off a little (ok...learning learning 😄 )
- don't be intense (ok...how to un-intense? teach me 😛 )
- don't be secretive (fine...this is the only thing I have and now I gonna throw away.)

Its like I have to give up my whole scorpio personality for her.

😄 haha...I am just saying it. Of course, how can I give up my own personaility.

Yes, I believe more in what reality says than Star sign. But a bit of side help from Horoscopes never hurt, right? 😛

I guess I need to learn to chill and take things less seriously. You know, being a scorpio, we feel too deep even on the smallest thing.

😄 ok guys...don't worry, I still use my judgement.
btw, I just found a site which calculate all my related signs and hers. Like sun, moon, venus, mecury (I was like oh my god! I didn't know horoscopes is so deep). The reason I started doing research on compatibility is just because she seems to be interested in and had a conversation with her about Zodiacs signs.

Anyway, do you guys know any web sites that tell the compatibility of each sign like sun signs, mooon signs. So far, I can only find sites showing compatibility of Sun signs.

Thanks

Your Cancer moon squares her Scorpio mars ... this could lead to serious fights, even to beating each other up.

Your Cancer moon trines her Scorpio moon, however ... which means you know how to make each other feel comfortable, warm and fuzzy, so as long as you two don't let arguements get out of hand, you both can find a "safe zone" in each others hearts.

Your Sag mercury squares her Capricorn jupiter .. this will cause you to have many mis-understandings because your likes/dislikes are so different from each other.

Your Scorpio sun conjuncts her Scorpio mars .. there should be an intense sexual attraction with this aspect.

Your Sag mercury is in opposition with her Gemini venus .. this will cause your relationship to be either black or white .. no gray areas. Either you're really happy together, or furiously fighting .. no middle ground.


There are other aspects .. but, your biggest obstacle will be the opposition of Mercury's ... complete opposition in communication style s .. yours is in Sagittarius and hers is in Gemini ... which means the way you talk to each other will lead to many, many disturbances in the relationship, and this will likely be the catalyist that either makes, or breaks.


I agree with your thoughts on your post .... to give everything that has been suggested is necessary, you will have to stop being yourself. A Scorpio HAS to have their secrets ... a Scorpio is by nature, jealous and intense.

To tell you the truth, after seeing where your planets are, this doens't sound like a good compatibility for a relationship. You two will tear each other apart.

Your Sag mercury squares her Capricorn jupiter .. this will cause you to have many mis-understandings because your likes/dislikes are so different from each other.


That one can't be right .... will look again.

You - aspect - her

Sun - Conjunction - Mars
Moon - Trine - Moon
Mercury - Opposition - Mercury
Venus - Opposition - Mercury
Venus - Conjunction - Uranus
Mars - Square - Moon
Jupiter - Square - Mercury
Jupiter - Trine - Jupiter
Saturn - Sextile - Moon
Uranus - Conjunction - Moon
Neptune - Opposition - Sun
Neptune - Opposition - Venus
Pluto - Trine - Sun
Pluto - Trine - Venus

Thanks P-Angel for your detail analysis on our signs. Hey, you are pretty good. You must be a professional Astrologist, right?

I love this one "Your Cancer moon squares her Scorpio mars ... this could lead to serious fights, even to beating each other up." haha...if there are fights, I guess I gonna let her win, coz with her skinny body can't even pinch me.

Yes, to avoid those misunderstanding, I guess I better to be more communicative then. From her side, there is no problem, I guess. Last night, we had long conversation again. And she pointed out all those good things she likes and some bad things she doesn't like about on me (I didn't even have to ask her, I so love gemini nature of being so frank and open-minded).

Yes, we already noticed a lot of differences in our like/dislike. Even on food, type of movies and plances, etc. But we agree to try to match each other. Like this Friday, I plan a date, I let her choose the place and what to do. But she asked me to take this movie that I wanna see, even though I know she so hate that one.

Perhaps, its too early to say things right now, because its only a few week so far.

I haven't read the other posts on this thread except the first one. I did the same thing, when a scorpio guy asked me out. In fact i checked long before he asked me out, whether we could be compatible. He doesn't look great, but has a great heart and is very passionate. All the sites said on our poor compatibilty, i didn want to show it to him when we wer just friends. But i showed it to him the day after he proposed and he got really angry as he thot it was really silly. Then i dug out a few more sites and got into one that said scorpio and gemini is air and water which is like an effervesent mix! It's just the way you think about it! All the best!

I haven't read the other posts on this thread except the first one. I did the same thing, when a scorpio guy asked me out. In fact i checked long before he asked me out, whether we could be compatible. He doesn't look great, but has a great heart and is very passionate. All the sites said on our poor compatibilty, i didn want to show it to him when we wer just friends. But i showed it to him the day after he proposed and he got really angry as he thot it was really silly. Then i dug out a few more sites and got into one that said scorpio and gemini is air and water which is like an effervesent mix! It's just the way you think about it! All the best!

Thanks smartgem. Things are going well for me so far. Its all about heart! 😛

You are right it's all about the heart and knowing your partner's potential flaws before they come out. i've been reading up on the scorpio sign. i really like my scorp but i also know the nature of the problems that could potentially come up. I'm prepared to compromise and understand. I think if we rely too heavily on astrology that says gems and scorps are not compatible, we could miss out on a great opportunity.
so MS: enjoy every moment with your gem. We are great people.

I heard on one site, that it's rare that gemini-scorp relationships are successful, but if it is, they're almost unbreakable...

Hey guys, haven't been in the forum for a few days. Thanks so much for your inputs. Don't worry, Mr. Nice, you are not being negative, thanks for your advise too. Yes, there is a darker side of being scorpio, I still can't control my jealousy. And she knows 😄

I agree with MarKella. I feel like I wanna try this challenge. God knows how it will continue or end. So far, I am having great time with my gem. I hope she does the same too 😛

wow...Mr Nice, great advises you have there. Thanks a lot.
Yup, learning to control my jealously is my top priority. Still emotional thing - can't help it 😛

By the way, I can tell you this. Gem thinks scorps are sexy. At least thats what my gem is feeling.

Yes i think my Scorp is sexy and great in bed.

MysticScorp, I am not a Gemini but I know alot about them and astrology. Perhaps I can be of some assistence. For starters, a strong relationship is built on compromise. Don't put too much pressure on yourself just to appease her. It will be fine in the short term but difficult in the long term. If you want this relationship to be successful build it on the notion of compromise.

Your Gemini is a Gemini Rat. Gemini born in the year of the Rat 1984. Sheeps and Rats are not the best compatibility, but hey that's okay.

Here is what you need to know about your Rat lady. She is a talker. She is also more emotional and possesive than the average Gemini. The more your relationship begins to develop the more you will notice her becoming more possesive. Rats are witty, and very funny. She has a large circle of friends which is compounded by her Gemininess. You are going to need to be patient and unjealous.

She will be loyal to you, and don't be surprise in the back of her mind she expects a serious relationship from you that can lead to marriage, even if you are just dating her. Like I said this is no ordinary Gemini. She is a Gemini Rat!

Rats NEVER date someone unless they can see a long future with.

To woo a rat Gemini, stimulate her mind. Be good in bed. Rats love sex. Allow her to be the socialite that she is. Be prepared to travel. Rats love to travel. Most importantly do NOT come between her and her guy friends. She will have them, and she will not give them up for you.

I am a Gemini, never had any experience with Scorpion men but would like to say a couple of things: First, being spontaneous always works with us. We love making and receiving surprises. We like being social, so you may take her out and introduce to new people and places. We also like people who can keep up with our changing nature, I mean our moodiness. We like lighthearted, self motivated and practical people who instead of constantly whining, try to make things work out. Also keep her busy with many things at once, do not let her get bored. Good luck!

Posted by saywha?
Hmm, interesting eric11.

Coz I'm a gemini rat too 😛... 1984... hopelessly caught in a destructive dance with a scorpio horse ... 1978.

Any inputs on the pairing?? or the horse?

Hey I answered your question on another thread. This reminds me about your thread, how you get turned on when your boyfriend in you argue. Lol. It all makes sense now.

That's okay, we Monkeys are a pretty randy lot too. 😛

I'm a Gemini woman dating a Scorpio man 3 years now.


mentally stimulate her
don't be boring
dont suffocate her
take her out places and have fun

be her best friend first

I AM A GEMINI GIRL AND I LOVE SCORPIO VERY TOO MUCH ....ONLY THING I DONT LIKE ABOUT MY SELF IS THAT I DONT HAVE THE PATTIONS 😢 ......I\CAN BE HONEST AND A GOOD GIRL BUT I CAN ALSO BE UNSECURED AND THAN MAKE MISTAKES BUT NO METTER WHAT ..I LOVE SCORPIO UNCONDITIONALY NO METTER WHAT HOROSCOPES SAYS . ...

Posted by MysticScorp
I am a scorpio guy. I am dating to this Gemini girl who is fun-loving and very talkative. I know we have first impression for each other. I read Zodiac Compatibility signs and found that this two won't work for long relationship. So, any advise how can I keep her interested in me for long time? Probably I want advise from Gemini people. What excite you most and what kind of relationship you want from Scorpio guy like me?

Please help this scorp who is now madly fall in love with a gem. 🙂

how is it going ——?

Posted by MysticScorp
I am a scorpio guy. I am dating to this Gemini girl who is fun-loving and very talkative. I know we have first impression for each other. I read Zodiac Compatibility signs and found that this two won't work for long relationship. So, any advise how can I keep her interested in me for long time? Probably I want advise from Gemini people. What excite you most and what kind of relationship you want from Scorpio guy like me?

Please help this scorp who is now madly fall in love with a gem. 🙂

😄! This makes me excited! My first love/everthing was a scorpio male. We were entirely opposite and not a typical match at all, but we would balance each other so well. We learned a lot from the way the other person perceived the world. Honestly, I still love him. For everything great and amazing about that relationship the fall out was over jealousy, mistrust, and possessiveness. We tried everything to change the parts of our character that triggered those problems. The two of us tried together, but in the end it was only making us miserable.

If this gemini woman falls in love with you she Will change to make you the center of her life, and she will love every moment with you. Unfortunately, her loving you won't make her feel less smothered if you start becoming jealous over those she may eventually choose to spend time with. She will flirt, and that will kill you. It means nothing to her, and she'll argue with you about that point. In fact, she'll probably argue (more of a conversation in her mind - apparently not so with most people 😛) with you about just about anything. When she realizes how badly this hurts you it may be too late. She'll have fallen off of the cloud you've likely put her on, and that will kill you too.

If you force her to stop talking to any of her friends most likely she'll comply. For a while. When she starts to feel guilty/hurt/lonely she'll either bring it up again or just sneak behind your back. Usually she'll bring it up before she acts, but if you don't budge and it turns into an argument then she'll just do it without your knowledge. For a while.


From my experience, sneaking around a scorpio lasts about as long as it starts. You'll lose trust in her. It will be a ruined relationship. She'll resent you, and you'll never see her the same again.

My advice? For the most part you'll mesmerize her. That will be easy for you

Oh, and I don't think all gem woman hate how emotional scorpio men are. I honestly miss it in a lot of my relationships now. This could be because he shaped the way I perceive relationships, but it always made me feel closer to him. It broke down my tough walls. I could see how he would keep others at a distance, but with me he let me see. I felt like I could always trust him because of that.

have no backbone. have no opinions of your own. think about what you're going to eat for dinner out loud - is it going to be instant noodles or a frozen entree? have no passions. care profusely about what others think. have no sense of humor. spontaneity does not exist.

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Posted by Kleo
have no backbone. have no opinions of your own. think about what you're going to eat for dinner out loud - is it going to be instant noodles or a frozen entree? have no passions. care profusely about what others think. have no sense of humor. spontaneity does not exist.

Could've just said 'Be a Libra'

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LMAO. Sorry homie. i heart libras. Big hugs 🙂

lol. that's pretty funny.

you suck scorpio, worst sign ever, she wont stand you a bit because once you get comfortable with her, anything she will say you will argue your opposite irrelevant facts, geminies are the smartest girls ever, and you, with your stupidity, trying to shove down her throat your knowledge not even letting her open her mouth will doom you to breakup, so dont even try, ive had enough experience with you motherfukers and im not having you as a friend or something ever again

i have never dated a scorpio girl cause i dont respect them and dont think much of them. its like they give me a bad vibe.

I'm late to the convo, but I'm a Gemini woman (June 15) married to a Scorpio man (Nov 5). P-Angel's post was right on the money.

What does he bring to the table that I need and admire? He's a rock. He's there through thick and thin giving support no matter what. He gives the relationship stability. His loyalty and integrity is unmatched and he has a tender heart.

What's the hardest part? His lack of communication skills. You simply MUST talk- and not just about the weather. Tell her things she doesn't know. Give her something to explore, speculate upon, ponder. DO NOT settle on a few go-to stories and repeat them all the time. I once did an experiment to see if we could do a 4-hour drive without his talking at all. He made it two hours without saying a word. That doesn't fly! Gems have to communicate or they will feel that something is lacking.

Number two: You can't get rid of your inborn Scorpio jealousy, but keep it to yourself. It's your problem, not hers, and she will only accommodate you so far. You'll only end up driving yourself nuts and making her angry. A Gem belongs only to herself, ultimately, and is with you because she chooses it daily.

Number three- don't be a knot on a log. She needs to keep moving and having new experiences. She doesn't WANT it, she NEEDS ut like water and oxygen and will feel that she really isn't living without it.

Dang it...fooled again by a post from 2008! Gotta learn to read dates.

lmao! Don't worry, I only just now noticed it because of your post.

Gemini girl here newly dating a scorpio male.

He's very jealous. He needs to know what I'm doing, who I am with, what I'm thinking, what I'm feeling, what my plans are for today, tomorrow and the rest of the week 24/7. At first I thought it was cute but it's really starting to rub me the wrong way. So, control your urges to probe into her schedule too much. If she's a typical gemini, she probably doesn't even know what she'll be up to herself.

Secondly, and in my opinion, MOST IMPORTANTLY... if you treat her like a child, she will act like one. If you treat her like an adult woman with valuable thoughts and opinions, she will act like a grown, mature woman. Avoid trying to act like a strict parent (see paragraph above), avoid telling her what to do or what she should do. Gemini girls cannot be controlled and we will not tolerate your efforts to do so. We're naturally predestined to feel like a caged bird so trust your instincts, if she's acting distant-mirror her behavior. Do not cling or probe more, you will just push her away. If you can respect her need for space she's a lot more likely to stick around.

Also, don't mock or put down her dreams, desires and thoughts. Clip her wings or make her feel inferior or stupid and she will bolt. My scorp has made a few cutting remarks and he's really trying my patience. If you're lucky she'll call you out on it, if you're not, she'll just be gone...

Never be afraid to be open with her. If you're upset with her, TELL HER. If you're feeling insecure, tell her. If she's mature, she will handle it well. I always appreciate direct conversation and honesty, even if it's not something I want to hear. Try to approach it in a care-free manner. Don't come off accusing or manipulative or too angry. This will annoy her to no end.

Mate I dont recommend this for long term, I didnt meant to dump her but you should think about yourself whether you can live a whole life with a person whos is 24/7 chatty, with 0% emotions and free spirited? You want a partner who shows you emotions and feelings, who hold hands and go for a long walk, who stares your eyes and giggles, who always tells you "I love you" most of the times, and who don't talks dirty in bed lol. Am a Gemini and I been with Pisces, best sex I ever had but thats all. She is very emotional and caring but I dont want it and she expects that in return and I dont know how to do that. (There was times I googled how I can be emotional) I can look after myself. I think you better find a Pisces, you will be happy ever after.

Scorpios will have difficulty with a Gemini..Scorpio is grounded and settled, though they are all about sex sex sex..Gemini is far from grounded and settled, and sex is not the main priority. I can see Gemini having trust issues with Scorpio and vice versa. I dont know how faithful and loyal Scorpios are, but their constant talk of sex will put off more settled Geminis.