Men addicted to Gem's?

Ladies, do you find the men returning in your life, wanting more, especially when its too late.

I have the most unusual situations with men these past three years, trying to figure me out.......any input....is it a "gem" trait?

I get so tired of the back and forth w/these men. Its like "grow up" wow. I love being young at heart and love life, some men just dont know how to have "plain ole FUN" !

Pet it and let it pass, dag gum!

I think a lot of men do it (my ex does it to me -- recently a condolence note 'bout my Dad). Oh perhaps I count as a Gem, given the Gem rising.

Seriously, we are light, loving, and VERY VERY tolerant of quirks that others would slam on. And then, as EmGem mentions, when the love is gone..............it's..................................GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONNNNNNNNE.

Can't never get it back!

Also, friends do it, too. I tolerated a lot from a double Aries/Leo who was constantly putting me down. Then one day....bye bye. She couldn't figure it out. She still can't.

i've had 2 guys try to talk me into get back with them since january. and another one claims he's "just checking up on me". all knowing i have a man, but didn't care. i just told them politely that i'm happy and to back off.

I've had one come back this year and I have a wishy washy Libra in the mix. I never take them back, as gems we really give it our all when in a relationship and when it's done...well, IT'S DONE~

OH ladies, I can relate to you all.

I say all the time, when I am DONE I am DONE.

I also say they "cost themselves exactly what they want" and I see them do it all the time.

We are also intimidating to men, would you agree? Too good to be true? Seems that is the experiences I keep having as a single.

I believe it should be easy and natural and refreshing and breezy and romantic, loving, open, honest, innocent, etc. When someone breaks, damages any component that was undamaged, they are working on a possible fatal mistake, one you may not, or I may not be able to get passed, a deal breaker. If indeed two people want to be there, why make waves? Why jerk that chain of I am going to move on only to want to come back to where you already had exactly what you wanted? I dont like to waste my time and energy like that or on such non-sense. If we both can not be happy and positive, then I dont want to be less than that to another person.

yes,happens ways too often for my liking,& it's rather boring as well as
irritating to say the least! When I'm done,I AM SOOOO FREAKIN' DONE!!!
My X virgo took a very long time to get the message finally,& many others
just don't seem to understand that I can't feel what I use to feel for
them anymore,they are like," But you loved me once,& I'm like,I thought
maybe I did,"ONCE" that was then,it's no more!!!

Posted by Perfect Gem Angel
Ladies, do you find the men returning in your life, wanting more, especially when its too late.

I have the most unusual situations with men these past three years, trying to figure me out.......any input....is it a "gem" trait?

Why do you think it is too late to reconcile? People change. They may not have been ready to be the right person in your life while they were in your life, but now that they know they were wrong, why not let them be the person they could have been?

I think Gemini's lack the constitution to change what they see in people, that is why it is near impossible to reconcile with a Gem once it's over.

I was friends with this Gemini girl. She was a darling girl, and we had tons of fun hanging out. However I went through a rough period in my life and done some things that I regret. So she cut ties. Now I have grown from that experience and moved on, but at times I wonder why this girl cannot see me for the person that I am now.

It's really her loss too.

Posted by lanathegreat
Ladies! I give you sooo much credit for not taking those stupid men back! I'm too weak to do that if I still care about a person.
Just took my saggi back. He was after me for two weeks straight. Couldn't help it, he looks way too adorable when he begs. 😄

Do not give them any credit for being stubborn and selfish. That's a sign of weakness.

I think the credit belongs to you, that you have grown to the point you are spiritualy capable of forgiving. It takes a mighty heart and strength of character to forgive some one who has hurt you, believe me I know. Any fool can hold a grudge tell the day they die.

Posted by Geminithefox
yes,happens ways too often for my liking,& it's rather boring as well as
irritating to say the least! When I'm done,I AM SOOOO FREAKIN' DONE!!!
My X virgo took a very long time to get the message finally,& many others
just don't seem to understand that I can't feel what I use to feel for
them anymore,they are like," But you loved me once,& I'm like,I thought
maybe I did,"ONCE" that was then,it's no more!!!

Geminifox you gave me good advice before, and for that I am greatful. My advice to you is let go of the past. The past does not equal the present. You may not be able to love somebody the same OLD way, but you can love some one in a NEW way. It is possible.

Gemini's need to know this. People change. If there is people coming back from the past trying to resurface in your life, be greatful. Deep down you all miss them, even if you can't bring yourselves to admit it. Be greatful.

They come back for a reason. Nothing in this universe is by accident. If you didn't believed it you wouldn't be wasting your time on this astrology board.

Open up your heart and listen. People change. Now find it in your heart to change yourself. That is where the real work needs to start. When you do this, you will finally understand why people, guys, girls, BF's, friends, GF's always come back in your life. They are NOT the same people they were when they left. If they were they would still be gone!

Posted by eric11

Posted by Perfect Gem Angel
Ladies, do you find the men returning in your life, wanting more, especially when its too late.

I have the most unusual situations with men these past three years, trying to figure me out.......any input....is it a "gem" trait?

Why do you think it is too late to reconcile? People change. They may not have been ready to be the right person in your life while they were in your life, but now that they know they were wrong, why not let them be the person they could have been?

I think Gemini's lack the constitution to change what they see in people, that is why it is near impossible to reconcile with a Gem once it's over.

I was friends with this Gemini girl. She was a darling girl, and we had tons of fun hanging out. However I went through a rough period in my life and done some things that I regret. So she cut ties. Now I have grown from that experience and moved on, but at times I wonder why this girl cannot see me for the person that I am now.

It's really her loss too.

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Ahh, I have allowed them to return, and given chances, to be hurt again. The rule of thumb seems to be more of "the open door" policy. "Can I hit it again and for how long" policy. Men ages 33, 43, 44 where as, honestly, the younger men, less mature usually on some levels, yet more mature about a relationship, and being of their word is my experience. Virgo 44 just did it again this week. I did not go, I did speak to him, made sure his ego was in tact, only for him to again, be at the cost of me.

I did give my aries man another chance,but in his
case,as rare as it was,I still had deep feelings
that I never did feel for anyone other than him,
& he had done no wrong,I just left him because I
got scared & I panicked,but thats not the rule it's
the exception. If I loved someone or thought I loved
someone from my past but it didn't work,I move on,
I have to,& I don't feel the same ever again!
If someone did me wrong especially,or if I just had
a change of heart,it can't be undone,but I could
possibly cherish them as a friend as long as they
understand it will remain that way.
eric,I am so glad I was a help to you.Gemini's like
to help others & it's good to tell us when we have.
Thank you eric!

also eric,we do change ourselves so when you tell us to
change ourselves your speaking to the Choir!!!
We change & we tend to change alot because we like new
things,new experiences & higher learning.
We like to improve & better ourselves,but going back to
the past isn't really changing,it's trying to recapture
something thats long gone.Yes people change & they do
learn but timing can be so very crucial & important!
Don't waste someones time if you don't know what you
want once you get their trust & loyalty.
My aries man was different. For me,I had never given
him & I a real chance before & when I did,things
rushed so fast it made my head spin but I knew I really
loved him,no doubt in my mind,He was the absolute Best
person for me,But I got afraid!!!
I realized my mistake & I went back & told him how I
honestly felt. I thank God he thought I was worth
another try & that he still loved me.
But..... That is very rare & he's the only one I ever
felt this way about,but also,He didn't do me wrong &
it was a fear thing,not anything to do with wanting
to let him go,ect....
Our Love Story is very much like a miracle & I am so
blessed by my Man,but I kissed a whole lotta toads
along the way,& I hate to admit it,but once I got em'
I threw em' right back. Us Gemini's also like the
thrill of the chase sometimes,lol.... but then it's
done!

Remember one thing very crucial about us Gem's
okay? It's not that we cannot forgive someone,
but it really boils down to how things went &
our level of trust & love for the person.
If someone wronged us,they shouldn't have since
it can take a very long time to get us to commit
to a relationship & put ourselves in a place
where we are certain we can be loyal & love
someone whole-heartedly,so if that person
betrays us,they had plenty of time to get to
know us & know better & thats where it's very
different,but if the damage was slight,or not
so bad,then it is possible we might give it one
more try! For me,that normally cannot happen.
Cheating makes the other person very undesirable
to me & for sure very unsexy. The mystery & allure
is gone after that.For cheaters,there isn't a
chance to come back ever.

We don't deal with cheaters,but if you
are trying to say that we can't give
someone another chance if they never did
us wrong by betraying us or cheating,then
that is false. We are very forgiving &
we give people many chances,but once we
move on,thats really the end of it.

as someone wrote here,,people seldom dont know what they have until its gone,,they underestimate gems..When we give love its true love,people just cant appreciate it.As for cheating,.if im in a relationship and start to doubt or think hes cheating,,,im off and they have set a new standard wich is not being true,..

i cant speak for all gems,but once i see that a person is a backstabber,i become the sneakiset enemy to them,i keep them close but treat them bad and when im bored of it i kick them and they cant see why.People are too bad at looking into them selfes to see their mistakes.Once im finished with them,its for good i cant never be real to them if they approach me.I have alot of friends from the past where we split up as enemies and years later they return and think something is different,once someone has done something bad they are never forvigen.

Don't waste someones time if you don't know what you
want once you get their trust & loyalty.


IMPACT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

God thank you, !!!!!

Libra is driving me nuts and boy, that says so much!!!!

And once it is broken, DON'T WASTE THE/THEIR TIME!

goes off to shower and go drink w/friend who got back into town, looking for FUN!!!!!!!!!

Perfect Gem Angel, I hope you had a marvelously great time with your friend!
Sounds like fun!!!

Geminifox, do you see what I mean? Once you lost your guy only then did you realize how much you wanted him. The only reason why you two are together because he gave you another chance. He forgave you for breaking his heart. That was my point exactly. Everybody deserves another shot if they sincerely want to be better than what they were before.


"We like to improve & better ourselves,but going back to
the past isn't really changing,it's trying to recapture
something thats long gone."

You see this is the problem with the Gemini logic. You keep thinking about the past as something that is real. It is not. It doesn't exist but in your memory. The only thing that exist is the present. Hence if some one is trying to show you how much you mean to them, they are not doing it to resurrect the past, they are doing it to ressurect the present.


"If someone wronged us,they shouldn't have since
it can take a very long time to get us to commit
to a relationship & put ourselves in a place
where we are certain we can be loyal & love
someone whole-heartedly,so if that person
betrays us,they had plenty of time to get to
know us & know better & thats where it's very
different,but if the damage was slight,or not
so bad,then it is possible we might give it one
more try! For me,that normally cannot happen"

Unfortunately people make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. Sometimes we need to learn the hard way before we can do it the right way. Based on your testimony you can relate to that.

I am not saying you are wrong but I am saying your perception of reality is different from mine. For me I allowed people back into my life that have done me wrong. I forgave them. Does it change things? Of course it does, but it doesn't mean there isn't room for something different. 🙂
I will end this post with this truism from the Dali Lama.

"Never fall into the trap of absolute emotional commitment or detachment. For in life things change. Your friends will not always be your friends, your enemies will not always be your enemies, hence treat everyone the same."

Posted by saywha?
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But really... i think.. 😛... instead of trying to put all your energy into trying to make a boardful of geminis "realise" a truth which they simply are trying to step aside 😛.. maybe you could try convincing the gem that you're pining about?? LOL.. maybe she'll understand how genuinely you want this to work the second time round. Then maybe you can go about boasting that you changed a stubborn gemini's mind 😛😛 LOL instead of trying to nail in your point here (j/k)

😛😛😛😛 Go there, do your thing, and let us know how it fared sailor! 😛

I have given up on my so called Gemini friend. 😢 I think she has acted rather immaturely about the whole situation and it annoys me she throw away a perfectly good friendship and by the sounds of it she will never change her mind about it.

Oh well, I may never understand it. I am just a curious Cappy who's trying to understand people. 🙂 Anyways it is time to move on from this topic. Until next time...🙂

"The past is real. It happened. Just because it didn't exist at our given time frame, or existed once before doesn't magically disappear, it is still real. We learn from the mistakes that were present at that time and recap them when a similar situation arises; or we'll fall into an endless loop of uncertainty. We recall real events to acknowledge our present. Time exists in unity; meaning in order to have our present, we need a past and a future. However, I for one know time is something hard to comprehend; other than a measurement of an interval of change."

It's real? It WAS real. It is real in our memories, and perhaps in our feelings but it doesn't exist apart from that. We can't change the past or influence its outcome. We can only influence the present. Lion king moment; If I hit you in the head with a stick, it would hurt, but you couldn't do anything about it because it is in the past.

You may try to debate me if you wish but you are arguing a non sequitar. The past is always going to be in the past, the future is always going to be in the future. Hence the present is the only time in which you can make a difference it is the time in your chart that actually matters. 🙂

Posted by Geminithefox
Perfect Gem Angel, I hope you had a marvelously great time with your friend!
Sounds like fun!!!

Thank you Gem-Fox, I DID I DID have a good time, much needed break, not long enough I must say, and not enough of the "On the border" margaritas! LOL

Posted by eric11
"The past is real. It happened. Just because it didn't exist at our given time frame, or existed once before doesn't magically disappear, it is still real. We learn from the mistakes that were present at that time and recap them when a similar situation arises; or we'll fall into an endless loop of uncertainty. We recall real events to acknowledge our present. Time exists in unity; meaning in order to have our present, we need a past and a future. However, I for one know time is something hard to comprehend; other than a measurement of an interval of change."

It's real? It WAS real. It is real in our memories, and perhaps in our feelings but it doesn't exist apart from that. We can't change the past or influence its outcome. We can only influence the present. Lion king moment; If I hit you in the head with a stick, it would hurt, but you couldn't do anything about it because it is in the past.

You may try to debate me if you wish but you are arguing a non sequitar. The past is always going to be in the past, the future is always going to be in the future. Hence the present is the only time in which you can make a difference it is the time in your chart that actually matters. 🙂

I actually agree w/you Eric, problem is, my head does not forget when one has betrayed my trust or loyalty. I do want to know I am the "one" he wants or it is only another attempt to hit it, in my opinion, of this subject of couples and second chances, I have not had anyone prove me wrong yet.......indeed sad, lost time of mine, which is precious and limited in this world, I hate wasting my time and emotions.
I in turn, when another chance is given and spend my time w/such other person, well, i have no problem being real, honest, and letting them know, they can be the "only one" but that is on them.....gotta want it, really want it.....easier to walk when I need to these days, when I start seeing it is probably what I need to do to take care of me and my heart/life/head/etc.

BUMP!

Here we go again, Libra and I took a "month break" well, break off as it were in my opinion, spent friday afternoon and monday evening w/him, and yes, sack time til tues morning, boy do i feel like i should not have ....... but, we are both adults, I do care about him, as well, we actually get along great when we are together and have LOTS in common, every time we talk we discover something else we have in common, he being a Libra 43 fixen to be 44 I just dont feel like he is "that into me" so to speak, feel like i am more into him.......

Virgo hit me up again to see him when i am in his area, we live less than 2 hours apart. I am scared,but i think this time i will go see him or attempt too while i am in the area this weekend which i made him aware of last night. I hope to maybe get some closure in my head /heart where he is concerned, I can hope that once we are face to face again, all the feelings wont be on my sleeve, but i wont know until i do this, or so i dont think? IDK until then. Second thoughts are not to hit Virgo up at all while I am in town this weekend........that would be turn about fair play, delt back what you delt, but, I would like to for my own selfish reasons see him, wonder if he is doing the same? His birthday is the 12 and the 16 is the "anni" date for us, two years......this is a difficult time of year for me, wonder, is it for him, is this why he is desiring to see me? In his mind, he always thinks we intially met in Aug but it was Sept, three days after his b-day 41st. I never forget him saying "people ask what is it like to be 41" and "act like your 41" we laughed, what is that? LMAO

Had a Leo contact me this week, a bit taken "shocked" not terribly but yet, so did a couple others, must be the season? LOL
I did finally see Virgo, and its over w/Libra though I am sure I will hear from him again, we parted on good terms and just no follow up contact. He is moving on I am sure as am I. I wonder did he sense this w/Virgo tearing at me? Libra sat right in my face saying how he was "into me" after I had stated "you are not that into me, and that is okay" everyone is not for everyone and your actions say this too me, got a long lecture about how he was "into me" as well about other things, went way out of his way to then walk w/no contact. Anyway, its all good to me an in da hood, LOL ;p

I'm a Pisces woman in love with a Gemini man...I NEED HELP! He can be so sweet one day and then the next day he can be mean and sarcastic.Me being Pisces,this behavior is hurtful and confusing.when he does this I shut down and I won't see him but, he comes back.Perhaps you Gemini females can tell me how to deal with this Gemini man.

Dang it! I read this whole thread before realizing it's from 2009! This was a really good thread, though!

Of course it was an amazing thread ..... PGA, GF and Emma were talking.

Posted by Perfect Gem Angel
Ladies, do you find the men returning in your life, wanting more, especially when its too late.

I have the most unusual situations with men these past three years, trying to figure me out.......any input....is it a "gem" trait?

happens all the time. boring, frustrating, middle school nonsense.
Gem's are too resilient for their own good. We put up with any and all nonsense believing that there is an excuse for all madness...that at least is my down fall, but than I myself do not walk away when I should.

Posted by P-Angel
Of course it was an amazing thread ..... PGA, GF and Emma were talking.

Until you brought your country ass over here. 🙂

that is so true..when i begin to mistrust someone i become the sneakiest backstabbing person around.. Ill play the game and keep my poker face..and when i bust them its over and ill tell out all the crap and the one being most hurt is not usually me.

Posted by ThisAndThat
that is so true..when i begin to mistrust someone i become the sneakiest backstabbing person around.. Ill play the game and keep my poker face..and when i bust them its over and ill tell out all the crap and the one being most hurt is not usually me.

me too. but for me it's enough to let them know that I know and knew all along that they were full of BS and I just sometimes sit back and watch how far their antics will carry on...sad actually.

you should go post this on the relationships/astrology board and the gem board as your OWN thread so it doesn't get buried. my heart is with a water sign (cancer) and i can tell you that we don't mean to be insensitive, it's just a defense mechanism...typically displayed through humor and/or sarcasm. there is a lot that has to be learned in a water/air pairing from both sides.

Thank you! Thank you so much for mentioning this. I get so disheartened with constantly hearing that being a gemini means we are cold. We are NOT cold. We are just stronger at hiding our feelings. No, I don't break down every time I feel insecure or slighted. That does not mean I'm not still hurt. Unfortunately for all of us alive, we're still not perfect. My hurt comes out as an attack sometimes. Its meant as a joke (to loosen up the stress), but once its out I hear it being so much harsher than it should have been. I hate it (and always try to change that), but at least I'm not one of those women that cry at a pin drop. That would just be pathetic and embarrassing.