Routine

I hope it's ok for me to post so soon after my last message.

Me and Gem were talking today and I mentioned to him that I wanted to try something new.
I love road trips and getting lost. Discover new places, try new food, new things.
He wasn't excited.

We ended up talking about how he liked it with his ex (the insecure, emotive girl forced him to have kids), because they did nothing but watch TV and he liked it.
Yet, when he's home, and there's nothing to do. He's bored and don't like his life.
He also talk about trips, going places around the world, going parachuting, bungee jumping.

So what would make him go meh when I suggested something fun?

I sometimes hate doing things like this. I don't do it on purpose either. Visiting events where there are lots of people put me off, simply because I do the driving and I know parking is going to use up a lot of energy. Also, my fella cannot organise an outing to save his life and so all the hard work is left to me to arrange. Together with the fact that I need to keep an eye on him when we're out as he can easilly get lost himself causing me considerable stress. So if all those stress factors were taken out, or in fact minimised, I'd probably go.

Are you SURE this guy's a Gem? What's his rising?

Posted by Whimsy
Are you SURE this guy's a Gem? What's his rising?

Haha yes I'm sure he's a Gem
🙂

I don't know his rising as he doesn't know what time he's born.
Is there something else I should look for in his chart?

There's two things about this situation.
I have been thinking about it, and I don't know if it's because I've been over thinking it all but,

1- He's moody. Goes through what I call "Meh phases" where it's like I'm boring him. But today, when I asked him he said no.

2- For months now, I've been very busy with school, doing my thing. We were close, but it took me hours to answer him, and he asked me to hangout with him often, but I was always busy and had to say no most of the time. Yet, he kept asking me to do things we both like.
He said he understood and things were fine.

Then, I got my diploma and therefor more free time, and I decided to initiate activities. Rather than him always asking me and me saying no, I decided to ask him if he wanted to do things we both love.

At first he said yes, but then it was always "Meh" or found excuses not to. Like sitting on his couch and watching TV was more fun.
But we still talked all night, he came over too and we ended up cuddling.

So, (again, maybe I'm over analyzing it) if he didn't wanna talk, he just wouldn't.

I also decided to be more open about my feelings and stop being so Capricorn'y with him. I decided to let him come inside my fortress and that's when things started being similar to a Meh phase.

Like I wasn't interesting anymore, or was talking too much.
Short answers.
I don't know.

Hence I asked if it was normal.

Because sometimes, he tell me about crazy ideas he has.
I'm a photographer and he wants to work on projects with me.
Visit things, have fun with me,

But, then today I asked him about doing something with me and he said that nothing was fun, and said he preferred staying home doing nothing :/

Posted by domz
I love road trips!!!

Congrats, you fit the general description of Geminis!

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/gemini/gemini-men-and-love-1028446/
This post got me thinking.

And then I thought about talking to him.

Something like: "Hey, I wanna talk to you" (He will say Ok) And I will say "You asked me to open up before, and I always refused because of what happened** but I wanna start opening up more to you. Call more, hangout more and do everything you've been asking me to do for two years and I never said yes entirely because I felt like I needed to protect myself from you. But last summer, you showed me that you care and that you're serious and I'm ready to let my guard down. However, I want you to be honest with me if I do something wrong or say things you don't like or act weird. You have to tell me. I'm not good with emotions, I'm very logical and I also think I forgot what it's like to be closer to someone. I don't want you to change anything about you for this. I love you for who you are and you know that. Accept you for what you are. Unlike your ex, I won't try and change you or force you into a life you don't want. I won't trap you, you know that's not who I am."

**Three years ago, we talked about being together and I drove all the way to his house. A 8 hours drive. Only to learn that the girl he got kids with, learned about me going there and she went to his house, poured her heart out and they ended up sleeping together. He was talking to us both, I knew it, she didn't know how serious it was between me and Gem though (because he felt he could tell me anything but couldn't say anything to her) and so she got pregnant. When that crazy Pisces learned he was still talking to me, she told him to cut all links with me for the sake of her family (she was expecting) and Gem felt forced to stay. He ended up cheating on her, she kicked him out. They've been separated since, and he came back to me, and I gave him another chance)

He told me many times he was frustrated that I didn't let my guard down after he did it.
That's why I'm thinking about saying this to him.