what a girl to do!? help help help

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libragirl37
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13 Years

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I'm in need of some advice!!
I've been seeing this guy for months. We are so in sync its shocking. We've been through alot for the short period I've known him. I feel like I've known him for years because we connect so well. Here's the problem, everytime we tell eachother emotional stuff and tell eachother how much we like eachother the next day he pulls away. What the hell!? Last night he told me he has commitment issues which is fine with me because I'm in no rush to hitch up and settle down fast. I learned moving fast ruins a relationship but damn at least stay on the same page. I really care about him. He said we would be the perfect couple because we never fight and get along famously. We somehow got on the topic of marriage once freaking again. I was just stating my opinion and he says how do I know you won't leave me. Woahhh I was speaking theoretically. Well now he's giving me the cold shoulder. What do I do? Is he playing games or unsure?
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nunogil
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12 YearsGemini

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Well supposing he is a Gemini because u'r a Libra girl at the Gemini's forum I don't think he is playing games with u. If u can provide more details like he's moon etc would be nice but he's probably unsure and afraid of being left u know. I don't know him and u didn't gave much details but it's probable that his commitment issues are related with things from the past and in general we appreciate freedom.
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Este8
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Dating for months isn't all that long. However, "commitment issues" can be a red flag. I'm not saying dump him by any means but it kind of reveals his pattern of pulling away when you get close. This is what men do who have commitment issues. It gets real tricky with these cats. Some can adjust to commitment but the pace has to be slow. Others just can't handle it no matter how much space you give them. I think a key factor is consistency. If his pattern is inconsistency it's doubtful to me that he'll get it together. If you see him consistently but have these odd few days after after some intimate sharing of feelings, then it sounds like he's trying to work thru his issues and be present in the relationship.