What am I gonna do with this Gemini guy?!!

I've been friends with him for nearly half a year, we talk and see each other almost daily. From the outside he could come off as a presumptuous, egotistical prick, I myself couldn't quite stand him when we first met. But when I got to know him better, he turned out to be such a gentle soul and a very intelligent person. I've fallen so hard for him, but I can't tell him that. He's very unpredictable and as he told me himself, fickle in the love department, so I'm really scared to get hurt in the end.

Lately he's been acting especially confusing. For instance, we walk at the park, talk about trivial things as usual, and then all of sudden he would become sentimental, he would smile at me, hug me and tell me things he loves about me and how beautiful I am and how lucky he is to have met me and etc. Sometimes he would also withdraw into himself and become too silent, which is VERY unusual of him. He always have something to say and is always attentive, but lately it has changed. I tried to talk, but he wandered off the point and I didn't push.

Then, last weekend he showed up drunk at my door in the middle of the night, saying, I quote, "I had a sudden urge to see you, so here I am". Then he insisted we watch a movie together and we did, even though he was barely registering the situation. Then he said that he wanted to cuddle, something that I wanted too, but deep down knew that it was better not to. So we cuddled anyway, he said that he feels happy and next day left without much clarification.

There was no word from him throughout this week. I grew more confused than ever. Yesterday I saw him at our mutual friend's party and guess what? He was shoving his tongue down some girl's throat, and he was being so smug and demonstrative and giving me stares all the time, I wanted to fucking strangle him!!!!

I was done and livid so I left. He texted me a few hours ago, saying that he hates himself and that he's sorry about yesterday. SMH!

What the hell do I do, guys? I'm sitting here, pulling my hair out, trying to figure him out. I don't know what to text him back and if text him back at all.

His chart:

Sun Gemini 5°43' in 1st House
Moon Pisces 8°15' in 12th House
Mercury Gemini 28°31' in 2nd House
Venus Gemini 18°45' in 1st House
Mars Taurus 23°26' in 12th House
Jupiter Libra 0°27' R in 6th House
Saturn Libra 3°04' R in 6th House
Uranus Scorpio 27°46' R in 6th House
Neptune Sagittarius 23°59' R in 7th House
Pluto Libra 21°53' in 6th House

My chart:

Sun Sagittarius 24°12' in 1st House
Moon Pisces 9°54' in 2nd House
Mercury Capricorn 5°49' R in 1st House
Venus Sagittarius 15°21' in 12th House
Mars Leo 11°28' R in 8th House
Jupiter Cancer 1°59' R in 7th House
Saturn Virgo 0°31' R in 8th House
Uranus Scorpio 14°34' in 10th House
Neptune Sagittarius 16°11' in 12th House
Pluto Libra 16°23' in 11th House

Sounds very reactionary...like he's getting you back for something you didn't know you even did...lame. I'd ask him straight up whats up. Sounds like he has feelings but doesn't know how to be appropriate about them.

venus in gemini.... mm good luck

Posted by littlegigabyte

Posted by Nevermore

Posted by littlegigabyte
He sounds 16

Believe it or not.. but they have Pluto in Libra (Either they are in 35 or 40's).

Good eye, Nevermore! And ... Yikes... What in the world lol. I mean, I could see a teenage boy acting like that or maybe like a guy in his early twenties...

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Yeah, well.. When I met him, I thought he was 25, not 35. I know some of his actions might seem immature and they are, but it doesn't negate the fact that he is a good person.

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Sounds very reactionary...like he's getting you back for something you didn't know you even did...lame. I'd ask him straight up whats up. Sounds like he has feelings but doesn't know how to be appropriate about them.

I did ask him straight up, but he clearly tries to avoid these kinds of conversations.

I'm sorry, but Sun and Venus in Gemini in 1st house? So not worth it. You should move on.
Also Moon in Pisces in 12th house - he will never tell you how it is. His real emotions are hidden from everybody.
And Mars in 12th house - he has self-destructive tendencies.
You guys have quite a synastry though. Pisces Moons conjunct - that's an amazing thing to have. Venus-Venus opposition - attraction might be really big. His Sun, Mercury and Venus must be in your 7th house as well as your Sun and Venus in his 7th house. You two could accomplish an impeccable partnership if you worked hard for it.
BUT, your Saturn square his Sun and opposite his Moon most likely will destroy it all. Even if he has feelings for you, he might be feeling unhappy with you and it's not something he or you can control. Saturn is a harsh dude.
My advice is the same as everyone else's here - don't waste your time.

Posted by Instantkarma
Gemini-Sag Sun &Venus axis at work 😄
Venus-Venus opposition and mars-mars square.
Good luck 😢

There's no Mars-Mars square.
Orb is too big.

Posted by alayna_nyx
I'm sorry, but Sun and Venus in Gemini in 1st house? So not worth it. You should move on.
Also Moon in Pisces in 12th house - he will never tell you how it is. His real emotions are hidden from everybody.
And Mars in 12th house - he has self-destructive tendencies.
You guys have quite a synastry though. Pisces Moons conjunct - that's an amazing thing to have. Venus-Venus opposition - attraction might be really big. His Sun, Mercury and Venus must be in your 7th house as well as your Sun and Venus in his 7th house. You two could accomplish an impeccable partnership if you worked hard for it.
BUT, your Saturn square his Sun and opposite his Moon most likely will destroy it all. Even if he has feelings for you, he might be feeling unhappy with you and it's not something he or you can control. Saturn is a harsh dude.
My advice is the same as everyone else's here - don't waste your time.

wow you know a lot about this stuff....can you look at my post in the relationships and astrology section..i wanna know if I am compatible with my gem. I dunno how to get the numbers and houses and what not tho....🙂

Also if he can't answer honest questions I'd let him be, cuz frankly that's just rude. Hes old enough to know better..