Right? What happened with looked, kissed, kissed, explored body with hands while keep sucking faces...found a cozy corner - bingo!!! There was not much to talk...it's not a job interview! If you having sex - it's not like you packing for the trip! But it sure sounds like it...
Maybe OP should wait for when she will transform from a virgin to a spinster and then sex will be just...naaah...who needs that! Lol
The problem with just letting it happen is, when getting to know somebody to see if you have a connection, the question almost always comes up. Idk I guess they can tell that there's not many miles on this car. The last one, I did as some of you have suggested and I didn't say anything about the fact. And it most certainly came up because he was actually trying to get to know me and possibly build a relationship (but in the end he was playing with my feelings). So I told him the truth. In the future, even though there was major sexual tension and chemistry he was steadily trying to "take things slow" but I was ready. And like some of you have stated before, I got to try not to look desperate so I didn't disagree to his let's take things slow notion. But the slowness was most likely due to the fact that he knew I was a virgin even though before he knew, he was full steam ahead when he didn't know.
IDK I'm going to go with the just let it happen thing again. If the question pops up like it did times before, I'll just Improv lol.
You have it all wrong. It's not that they feel unworthy. They don't want to cause pain/ick factor of hymen tearing. They also probably don't want to have to deal with your infatuation after.
Have you treetrunked yourself with a dildo? Your fingers?? Your not really a virgin then even though a dick hasn't penetrated you. It's also highly unlikely you have a hymen intact, especially if your a tampon user.
My point is if your just looking for a hookup don't mention the virgin thing. I didn't my first time, and like you I was in my early 20s.
Have you had oral sex before? I'd suggest getting yourself a fwb and get super comfortable/play without going all the way the first few times. You'll be more relaxed which will enhance the experience.
First of all, it's not what you think it is. I'm a 25 year old virgin female. After thinking for about 12 years of my life, I feel like I'm finally ready to lose my virginity. The thing is when searching for men to lose my virginity to, I felt the best approach was to be open and honest that I am a virgin and that I'm ready to take a possible relationship to a physical level if the connection is there.
But when I tell the guys this it's like they don't want to take my virginity. They don't want to be my first. I feel that they feel unworthy and that they think they're going to have to coach me and teach me through everything.
So now I'm thinking that I need a story so that when me and a possible candidate do have sex, that they'll be alert enough to be cautious and treat the sex unlike the regular basic bxtch sex they have all the time, but not treat me like a fragile little baby that don't know what I'm getting myself into.
I was thinking of telling the guys that yes, I've had sex before with one guy. But I don't want to make this hypothetical guy seem like the best thing I never had. Yet also I don't want to make it seem like I didn't rack up enough experience points from him.
Saying that I've only had sex with 2 guys is suspicious af. And saying I've had sex with 3 guys is getting into basic bxtch sex territory.
What do you guys think? Should I still be honest? I've told four guys this and they all react the same, and I'm honestly not thinking of having this guy for a relationship. I've come to terms with the fact that my first time... it's probably not going to be special and magical, which is sad. I pretty much just want to experience the experience.
If you understand the struggle I'm going through, what's a good story I can tell a guy when speaking about my hypothetical sexual history?