Why can't my mom be proud of me?

Damn it! I didn't mean to flag this topic. It slipped on my phone. Here is what I wrote. I read a couple responses and I am so grateful for the kind words. I didn't get to see them all though. Here is what I wrote..



My mom is a libra, and I am a gemini.
She is a leo moon, I am a scorpio moon. (Mercury is communication.. I have a cancer mercury and she has a sag mercury.)

I'm a firm believer in living everyday like it's your last, and I want to appreciate what I have when I have it.

But. She. Makes. It. So. Hard.

First off, she is the most unsympathetic person I know. Growing up I was always told to suck it up. If I was crying, I was a baby. She never let me embrace my feelings. This affects me every single day. I'm afraid to tell people how I feel.

Second off, she never went to my senior art show in high school. I ended up winning best in show. In college when I graduated with my degree in art, I won third place in the student body for my artwork at my senior show. Her nor my father weren't there.

Now, I am creating a successful business. It's my second year in business. And I finally have my dream website. She. Picked. It. Apart.

"You're not getting hired because you don't have enough experience, you look too young in your bio photo, no one will take you seriously, the colors are too light." (I happen to have a very professional and expensive website.. If you want to know what it is.. Inbox me and I will send it to you!) I try to see where she's coming from, but she is so HARSH.

She's proud in a crowd. I literally can't even listen to her brag about me in public because she is the complete opposite towards me when it's just her and I. It disgusts me.

My mom has hurt me the most out of anyone in my life. And she will never realize it.

I don't know how to deal with the pain.

Someone's response said maybe I am looking too much at the negatives. Honestly maybe you are right. But it seems like the negatives are constant.

I make really good money right now. My mom even said today.."I know you're making more money then me" I work two jobs. I waitress at a high end restaurant and run my business. It's still in the building stages, but with my business money alone I was able to buy a car in my own name. I recently moved out too and can afford to be on my own.

So I know that I'm doing well for myself, but she always picks me apart. It's heartbreaking, but someone said it in the flagged post.. At the end of the day it's only the way I feel that matters.

LMAO. Your problem sounds exactly like mine. My mom is also that negative type of person. She's a pisces with aquarius moon. She just never tells anything nice to me, no matter how good I'm doing. I've always been the best student throughout my school years, and she just never ever told anything nice or encouraging to me. The only difference is she brags about you in public, my mom doesn't do that. Every time when I make some accomplishment, her reaction is just "meh". I don't know why some moms are like this, though I guess that she is extremely self-critical and wants you to be the same.

"If I was crying, I was a baby. She never let me embrace my feelings. This affects me every single day. I'm afraid to tell people how I feel."--> I know how you feel. I've real trouble with expressing my feeling/emotion. As a kid every time when I get emotional, she would completely ignore my feelings, and has this "your life, your feeling- none of my business" kinda attitude towards me. idk. Probably she didn't receive much compliment,and emotional support as a kid and don't know anything about it.

Another weird thing about my mom is, when I buy new clothes she would start to complain about how selfish I am, and why I don't help her to choose clothes etc...

I'm still trying to be positive about her, though. She raised me anyways. Envious, probably? but errrr....I hope not.

Well, I think that you should just accept her for who she is, perhaps. And don't worry about pleasing her, making her proud of you etc. Probably, she IS proud of you and don't know how to express it. 🙂
You know you're doing well, that's all that matters.

I think she is proud of you but does not know how to show it to you. Her criticisms reflect her fear of failure not your lack of talent, age or ability. My mom's the same way-a major negative Nelly and like you it was kind of upsetting to me at times but I later learned she was fearful and often unhappy in her own life and that kind of got projected onto me. As for not being there for your key moments, that one's tough and I don't know what to say other than sometimes the people who love us best don't know how to show it. The fact you are her son and she talks you up in a crowd shows me she's proud of you. Her negative comments are really meant to protect you because she's afraid of failure and afraid you'll fail. It's a fear based thing. Not a lack of love thing. Hope this helps.

Wow. Thank you so much you guys. This was truly some life changing advice. It made me look at things in a more positive way. I am so happy I wrote about it.

Also, I am her daughter.. not her son! 😛

Thank you so much again.

Hi my love! (love the play on words)

I have been visiting this site for quite some time, and when I read your post, I had to register. 🙂

We share the same sun and moon sign and a lot of the things you wrote reminded me of my childhood.

Scorpio moons have a problem with receiving love from mother (based on my experience and research). On top of that, she is a Leo moon and you are Leo rising (your external self), so I hardly see a lionness being sympathetic to her cub. Especially since you have Leo rising, so what she sees in you, she feels inside.

Given that you are a scorpio moon, you might be knowingly or unknowingly hiding your true feelings (we have a tendency to do that). Scorpio moon is fkin sensitive to everything, yet on a subconscious level cannot communicate that. Plus, a cancer mercury would mean (I'm guessing here), that your preferred style of communication is emotional. I do not know about Sag. moon so will not comment.


My mom has hurt me the most out of anyone in my life. And she will never realize it.

(Sad but true, unfortunately that is just the way it is, and it is the way it is because you are a lot stronger than you think. You're a scorpio moon, pain will always be a part of your life. To give you an example, I was threatened with life while dealing with the local land mafia, while my mother and brother are in the States. My mother's reaction to me crying and telling her that I feel scared [cause dammit I was fkin scared] was to talk about some random dog she saw in the street. This was 3 years ago, and I have pretty much stopped talking to her after that. Ultimately, it is not her responsibility, you know? After all, she is the way she is, and it would be pointless to expect her to behave in any other way)


I don't know how to deal with the pain.

(You can email me or call. I've been told that I am a good listener)

Anyway, I hope this clarifies it on an astrological level.

To all the other people who posted here, it was your kind comments that made me finally register, so Thank You! 🙂