Can Leo Men Give You Space Just As Easily As Him Asking For Space?

I’ve been talking with a Leo man for the past 6 months. He’s gonna be with his family for the next couple of days for Labor Day. Since he was going to be busy I told him that I’m going to take this time to be to myself for awhile to self reflect n see what it is I really want. I told him don’t hit me up Bc it’ll just make things harder. I kno Leo’s can be sensitive. I just don’t think he should take any offense to it Bc he does it almost every two months he slows communication down for a week or 2 but never longer than that.

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I’ve been talking with a Leo man for the past 6 months. He’s gonna be with his family for the next couple of days for Labor Day. Since he was going to be busy I told him that I’m going to take this time to be to myself for awhile to self reflect n see what it is I really want. I told him don’t hit me up Bc it’ll just make things harder. I kno Leo’s can be sensitive. I just don’t think he should take any offense to it Bc he does it almost every two months he slows communication down for a week or 2 but never longer than that.

I’m sure he’ll reach out some point during his trip

Not as in he’s the wrong person as in I need to pause and figure my life out. He’s so used to me being around. He don’t kno how to give space but be wanting space. Fall is coming and I need to get everything in order.

N all I told him is I need time to myself for awhile. He said I hope I didn’t do anything wrong.

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Posted by LibraGyal

N all I told him is I need time to myself for awhile. He said I hope I didn’t do anything wrong.

When you ask for space from someone it's implied that their presence is a burden and you want them to leave you alone. I would be upset or think I did something wrong too. Or think you're using that time to decide if you want me around or not. If you want time to yourself, just go do your thing. Switch your phone off or tell him you're sorting whatever it is you're doing and you'll talk to him when he gets back.

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Yeaaa if he’s still there when she “decides” to come back 🙄 sounds like libra is playing some kind of game. Leo will not like it one bit.

Also why do people need to tell the person that their dating that they need space? Why not just go about your day if you need time to yourself?

Just sounds like your looking for a certain reaction...

I’m not playing some kind of game. It’s him. If I don’t answer a call he thinks he did something wrong and gets sensitive about it. If I were to ghost off While he was on his trip he would freak. That’s why I felt the need to say something. Just Bc most Libras play games doesn’t mean all of them do. If anything this would be the first time ever. like I stated before he pulls away and I “decide” to still be there when he gets out of whatever stage he’s in. If I can put up with it he can too. Leo’s have a tendency to be one sided in their actions Bc everything runs on ya’ll time

@MoonshineLeo and from what you say with “when she decides to come back” i’m The one who actually has to deal with that from him lol. He plays more mind games. He tests my loyalty. He likes to get reactions out of me. He has the Libra Rising.

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@MoonshineLeo and from what you say with “when she decides to come back” i’m The one who actually has to deal with that from him lol. He plays more mind games. He tests my loyalty. He likes to get reactions out of me. He has the Libra Rising.

Yea i don’t know Leo guys to act that way. Usually libra is the wishy washy one.

Well not all Leo’s are the same. And he’s a Leo Cancer Cusp.

Posted by LibraGyal

I’ve been talking with a Leo man for the past 6 months. He’s gonna be with his family for the next couple of days for Labor Day. Since he was going to be busy I told him that I’m going to take this time to be to myself for awhile to self reflect n see what it is I really want. I told him don’t hit me up Bc it’ll just make things harder. I kno Leo’s can be sensitive. I just don’t think he should take any offense to it Bc he does it almost every two months he slows communication down for a week or 2 but never longer than that.

This is one of the biggest obstacles between Libra and Leo. We simply do not understand how someone can be that indecisive. That's because we're generally decisive creatures, even when we're indecisive we tend to know what we want. That doesn't mean that we can't be patient and understanding toward those who don't, but all falls apart if you're being indecisive about a Leo specifically.

Telling a Leo to back off and not contact you, means you will get just that. A Leo is not your plaything, so don't expect the Leo to come back and forth like a yo-yo when you ask for space. Be direct in your intentions and clear on what you want and the Leo will listen. Oscillation will only annoy the Leo and inspire him to leave once too much time has passed.

Leos intrinsically only want to deal with partners who are absolutely sure about us and are enthusiastic to be with us. We simply will not settle for less and will be offended if a person does not see our value. So if you're not sure about a Leo, just know the Leo is now weighing that against the people who are.

While you may not see the harm of taking the time to weigh your options and thoughts, the Leo is wondering how the person he/she was sure about isn't on the same page. Since Leos are big on reciprocation, we generally expect to hold the same place in a partner's heart that they hold in ours. Also Leos put our best foot/heart forward the first time. If you push it back, we won't be as energetic toward you the next time. We want partners that know what they want and are ready to take life the horns.

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@MoonshineLeo and from what you say with “when she decides to come back” i’m The one who actually has to deal with that from him lol. He plays more mind games. He tests my loyalty. He likes to get reactions out of me. He has the Libra Rising.

Well in that case, just tell him exactly what he's doing and let him know that it needs to stop. Tell him the game playing and tests only make you feel more doubtful about the connection. Let him know it's not a healthy way to create a trusting relationship. Let him know that you now need time to think because on his actions and he needs to start listening to you a lot more if he plans to keep you around. Then let him sit with that. If that doesn't straighten him out, then it may be time to leave. It sounds like he's got some major insecurity issues though.

Thank you @Chuckcem and yeah he told me at one point that he acts conceited but he’s really insecure about himself. He always says he doesnt kno what it is I see in him n he never wants me to give him answer.

And I don’t play any kind of games with him. I’ve been nothing but honest with him even when he asks about my past. Even tho I don’t have to Bc we’re not in a relationship. I’m not obligated to but I do. If anything I find him more shady. He said he talks to other girls but I’m the one he spends most of his time with. That I’m not going anywhere. He said even if I try go drop him he’s not letting our friendship go anywhere. He’s very open about everything but his feelings. But always wants to know how I feel. Gets upset if he thinks he upset me. When gets mad tho he can be very petty. But always apologizes. That doesn’t happen often tho. We’ve gotten into like 3 arguments but it due to miscommunication. We don’t argue about anything petty. He’s sensitive tho so I mind what I say

As a Leo male, I would not be happy with you needing space or doing the same thing I may be doing. We do not get the message and only see you are stepping back. This is a good way to lose this Leo guy. I agree with being direct and you did not appreciate his disappearing act every once in a while. The other best approach is to try to tame him in making him aware of games he plays. He is not aware of it or maybe he is... who knows. Be nice about it and direct. If you are unsure about him, then this is perfect because he is now unsure of you. You be make this right easily by reaching out to him and telling him you miss him. Then problem solved just like that....boom!

@4evercharm he already knows I’m not unsure of him tho. He’s the one who’s unsure of what he wants. I’m just stepping back so I don’t fall so deep in. To prevent myself from being hurt if he decides this isn’t what he wants anymore. Or am I supposed to leave myself vulnerable to that?

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Thank you @Chuckcem and yeah he told me at one point that he acts conceited but he’s really insecure about himself. He always says he doesnt kno what it is I see in him n he never wants me to give him answer.

Yeah he sounds majorly insecure. You may have to be a bit harsh to be kind. Leos respond best to direct statements. Also when I say "best" I mean that the result/change in the Leo's behavior has a higher chance of occuring faster. That's not to say he won't get irritated or bark back, but that will pass. Leos don't like being critiqued harshly, but we will listen and adjust when it's important or useful.

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@4evercharm he already knows I’m not unsure of him tho. He’s the one who’s unsure of what he wants. I’m just stepping back so I don’t fall so deep in. To prevent myself from being hurt if he decides this isn’t what he wants anymore. Or am I supposed to leave myself vulnerable to that?

I can see you want to protect your heart. This makes sense to me of course.

@Chuckcem i love him. He knows I do. I’m not in love with him but I have love for him. I told him that I don’t wanna “share” him. That I don’t feel comfortable enough to be as vulnerable as he wants me to be Bc he doesn’t make it easy. I told him he is who I would wanna be with at some point and I kno that he was hurt in his last relationship. Told him I’d ride with him thru w.e as long as he shows me it’s worth it. I also told him though that I know my worth and until a man wants all of me I’m not going to be sexually active. To me that’s a huge vulnerability and he wants me to give all of myself to him and I told him how can I do that when I don’t have all of you? I’m not saying we have to be boyfriend girlfriend. But to know we’re only dealing with each other. I’m not going to force him into anything though. I told him that this is just how I feel. He hates when I don’t express myself.

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@Chuckcem i love him. He knows I do. I’m not in love with him but I have love for him. I told him that I don’t wanna “share” him. That I don’t feel comfortable enough to be as vulnerable as he wants me to be Bc he doesn’t make it easy. I told him he is who I would wanna be with at some point and I kno that he was hurt in his last relationship. Told him I’d ride with him thru w.e as long as he shows me it’s worth it. I also told him though that I know my worth and until a man wants all of me I’m not going to be sexually active. To me that’s a huge vulnerability and he wants me to give all of myself to him and I told him how can I do that when I don’t have all of you? I’m not saying we have to be boyfriend girlfriend. But to know we’re only dealing with each other. I’m not going to force him into anything though. I told him that this is just how I feel. He hates when I don’t express myself.

If you've told him what you need and he doesn't seem to be able to deliver, then it's time to cut him loose. Just be sure that you've been very clear before you do. If you've asked him for exclusivity and he isn't budging, that's on him.

So me feeling like this at 7 months in isn’t wrong right? It’s my first time going thru the talking stage idk the average time frame there is for talking. I don’t like to ignore my feelings though

Posted by LibraGyal

So me feeling like this at 7 months in isn’t wrong right? It’s my first time going thru the talking stage idk the average time frame there is for talking. I don’t like to ignore my feelings though

Well it depends. As you've stated before, you're not in a relationship. So I'm not entirely sure what more you're looking to get out of this situation. I will say that if this is how this guy acts now, don't think things will get better if you get into a relationship with him. Also realize that the push//pull dynamic is possibly what's driving your feelings more than anything else. People tend to want what we can't have or can't control. Based on how you've described this Leo, I'm not sure why you would even want to be with him.

@Chuckcem Bc I only stated the negative. But why sit up here n complain about the positive things when the negative thing is what I need advice on. If those were the only traits he possessed I wouldn’t wanna be with him either.

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@Chuckcem Bc I only stated the negative. But why sit up here n complain about the positive things when the negative thing is what I need advice on. If those were the only traits he possessed I wouldn’t wanna be with him either.

Understandable, but since you're not in a relationship with this guy yet, you'll need to account for all of the red flags. Ultimately how you handle this is your decision, but the writing appears to be on the wall here. I'm sure there are good aspects to him. However when the negatives involve trust and communication, which are essential for a healthy relationship, it doesn't bode well.

Update: so since I said how I felt and what I will and will not stand for he’s become a lot more affectionate and believe it or not shy. But in a cute way. I told him that I also won’t have sex with him until somebody sees my entire value. He doesn’t push for sex. Gives me longer hugs wants to cuddle with me. Give me kisses. He be saying like “I wanna cuddle with you rn” or I could really kiss you right now” stuff like that but he says it in a shy way I think it’s so cute lmao only Bc I didn’t think he could be shy like that. He’s reciprocating.

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Update: so since I said how I felt and what I will and will not stand for he’s become a lot more affectionate and believe it or not shy. But in a cute way. I told him that I also won’t have sex with him until somebody sees my entire value. He doesn’t push for sex. Gives me longer hugs wants to cuddle with me. Give me kisses. He be saying like “I wanna cuddle with you rn” or I could really kiss you right now” stuff like that but he says it in a shy way I think it’s so cute lmao only Bc I didn’t think he could be shy like that. He’s reciprocating.

Sounds like he was unsure of how you felt, leos can get very insecure if we've had some bad relationships in the past. BUt sounds like a road to a relationship, hope it works out for you guys!