Can You Date Yourself?

These past several months I've chosen to date myself. Sure, it gets lonely sometimes, but I've decided to take myself to dinner. To take myself to the movies. To get myself pampered. To buy myself flowers. To read, well Kindle, more. To journal my feelings, wants and desires. To improve my career path. To focus on being a better Mommy. And you know! I'm peaceful!

Sure, I have takers...but if I feel like I'm settling why even bother. Its like I'm leading them along if I keep dropping breadcrumbs. So, I limit my conversations and not everyday. I might meet for lunch, time constraints and having to return to work. And it's so hard for men to JUST BE FRIENDS! (That was another thread/forum)!

So, I've been dating myself. I like me. A Lot! LOL!

Dating yourself is awesome!!! No one knows what you like better than you. I always say that when Im having sex with myself! 🙂

I did leave out the "self intimacy" statement! Silently said that I can please myself and it's cleaner! LOL!

I decide I'm going to take a break from men and do me all day all the time! It amazes me how angry/controlling/cynical they get when you don't oblige their propositions. It's becoming a little irritating when NO doesn't mean NO anymore. I'm not a rude person, but you rub me the wrong way and I can go MIA quicker than you breathe...GEEZ!!!

I know! So do they...but, if you respect my position and learn how to be JUST FRIENDS! Let me get to know you and who you are and I'll like you even more! Then when you do get the Kitty? Oh Man, it would be so worth the respect you've earned!

I'm really trying to stay single...my girlfriends always have this "great guy" for me to meet! I meet! I greet! Goodbye!

Recently, my friend brought her cousin to a private gathering and told me on the spot that she invited him there to meet me specifically. GOODNESS! Thanks for the heads up! We chatted towards the end of the night and I felt obligated to give him my number when he requested because it's my good friends cousin. I'm convinced already that he'll just be a companion because there was no "spark" - you know when you get all warm and fuzzy; but the conversation was fulfilling. He's very intelligent (VIRGO) and we like the same things.

Posted by Pecheresse
The best love is the kind you give yourself....... so they say!

YES! Completely Agree, but some people really don't know what love is? I dunno, I guess I was surrounded by love. My Mom/Dad + Uncle/Aunts + Grandma/Grandpa + Cousins/Married!

Hell no. I would love me as a friend but I know I am an acquired taste in romantic affairs. I can be feisty, and while I don't exactly demand what I want, I always make sure that I do. I don't need the competition 😛

They never fought, at least not in our presence! My Dad totally protected my Mom, even from us! My Mom and Dad did divorce when I was 10-11, but I honestly didn't know why until I was 20 and found out I had a brother 8 years younger and he aint my Mom's!

Even thru the divorce, they were amicable! Mom(Sag-Dec 8) Dad(Scorp-Nov 16). I only saw them argue one time during that phase! After I learned what my Dad did, I couldn't talk to him for years because he was my god! After having children because I wanted him in their lives, I did away with the anger, forgave him and he past several years later. But he still loved my Mom secretly, he followed her to Florida and moved ONLY 10 minutes away. So when I visited my Mom, he'd come over. CRAZY!!!

Posted by ninjamu
Hell no. I would love me as a friend but I know I am an acquired taste in romantic affairs. I can be feisty, and while I don't exactly demand what I want, I always make sure that I do. I don't need the competition 😛

An Acquired Taste in ROMANTIC AFFAIRS **SMH-LOLs**! I guess you're that rare fine wine we have to go to the cellar for—

being a conservative virguy, i typically play the LJBF card first because i don't want to deal with messy emotions. whenever i do, i get my bones jumped. seems women don't take the rejection well and double their efforts once i drop a big fat "let's just be friends" bomb on their heads.

LJBF - I'd take that and run with it. We'd JUST BE FRIENDS! - NO BENEFITS!

I've actually had to stop talking to several male friends. You guys never stop trying it's so funny, but annoying as hell. So, I wouldn't mind embracing "male companionship" - that means NO LEVEL INTIMACY! That's been difficult for many men I've attempted to be JUST FRIENDS with! After the outing, we go our separate ways. Nothing else! I guess frustration sets in for them and it resonates in our conversation. I eventually start calling/responding less.

I love taking me out! I get to pick where to go. I don't have to share my food/drinks and I stay as long as I want. I don't have to figure out who's paying!

Of course, I still hang out with my girlfriends and talk to some of the men that are tolerable; but I still love hanging with me! I'm my best friend!

i try to be just friends with no benefits too. when i'm adamant to maintain a platonic relationship, it's like it sends off some sort of "oh no, this awesome guy must see me as undesirable" signal to their wacky female brains and they won't leave me alone like i'm some sort of unattainable prize to be won. annoying indeed. people always want what they can't have.

So, SRVirgo! If you start off with LJBF and you eventually genuinely began liking her. If it's Physical or relational or otherwise; what do you do? I've often heard that men put women in two categories a FBuddie and Wifey Material. So, is the LJBF really a potential FBuddie to begin with?

When I meet someone and I'm not into them; I'll still be kind and listen (maybe my Moon in Taurus). This then gives them the idea that I'm actually interested. I immediately become annoyed because they tend not to pick up on the non-verbal ques. I smile A LOT! So, maybe they're taking that for I'm might into you. Need to start frowning huh?

well, I dunno about other men but I have a third category called "just friends". i'm a straight guy but 90% of my friends are female and i view them as sisters. i guess where i differ from most is that until recently (i'm with a lioness now =P), i've never really cared to be in a relationship because just being friends is easier. so honestly when i first met the majority of my gal pals, sex and attraction had to be the furthest things from my mind. my wiring must be off haha.

WOW! Funny, because until I met Mr. Virgo I really never thought about anything but "Just Male Companionship"! I'm thinking with him, I might give it a try. He's been a complete gentleman and pays attention to my non-verbal cues. He knows I find him attractive and the conversation is much better than I expected, maybe me being born on LEO-VIRGO cusp? He's also very careful of not over stepping...

Is that why you're over here on the Leo Boards? LOL!! I know this is the reason I started reading the Virgo threads; but without success I haven't found any relationships with this combination! There's not much mentioned about LEO relationship from a male/female perspective. Disheartening!

Keep me posted! I'd like to know how it's going? When's her birthday?

Posted by LeoGal4Real
WOW! Funny, because until I met Mr. Virgo I really never thought about anything but "Just Male Companionship"! I'm thinking with him, I might give it a try. He's been a complete gentleman and pays attention to my non-verbal cues. He knows I find him attractive and the conversation is much better than I expected, maybe me being born on LEO-VIRGO cusp? He's also very careful of not over stepping...

Is that why you're over here on the Leo Boards? LOL!! I know this is the reason I started reading the Virgo threads; but without success I haven't found any relationships with this combination! There's not much mentioned about LEO relationship from a male/female perspective. Disheartening!

Keep me posted! I'd like to know how it's going? When's her birthday?

It's an interesting relationship. She's clearly the dominant one of our pair while I'm more laid back. I was attracted to her strong personality and intellect while she was attracted to me because I have good morals(I'm no angel but I'm a really nice guy haha) as well as being an incredibly good listener. I'll be honest though, when it's good, it's great. But when it's bad, it's pretty sad.

Posted by SomeRandomVirgo

It's an interesting relationship. She's clearly the dominant one of our pair while I'm more laid back. I was attracted to her strong personality and intellect while she was attracted to me because I have good morals(I'm no angel but I'm a really nice guy haha) as well as being an incredibly good listener. I'll be honest though, when it's good, it's great. But when it's bad, it's pretty sad.

You guys do APPEAR to be shy/innocent, but can string together statements that would make my head spin. Wondering where did it come from. Just suddenly! Unexpected! Filled with sexual tension and statements that would leave your mind wondering all damn. I'm completely attracted to his innocence, but I'm sure that innocence does not carry on into the bedroom.

My issue, from my lifelong friend (Virgo Sep11)- we tried to date. Main probably was that he didn't communicate much about us! I don't know if he was scared to open up his feelings! We talked a lot, but it was mostly about family and careers, etc...for we had the same interests. He was completely surprised when out to dinner that I told him I view him more of a friend than anything else. He didn't get angry, just smiled. I took the time to tell him why. He appreciated the feedback and even commented about his dates with others! The running joke is still "she dumped me years ago". We're wonderful friends to this day! I get nervous around him STILL!

So, we're not officially dating. "JUST HANGING OUT"! Getting to know each other. We both agreed that PUBLIC settings would make this a successful friendship/relationship!!! LOL!

Posted by LeoGal4Real

Posted by SomeRandomVirgo

It's an interesting relationship. She's clearly the dominant one of our pair while I'm more laid back. I was attracted to her strong personality and intellect while she was attracted to me because I have good morals(I'm no angel but I'm a really nice guy haha) as well as being an incredibly good listener. I'll be honest though, when it's good, it's great. But when it's bad, it's pretty sad.

You guys do APPEAR to be shy/innocent, but can string together statements that would make my head spin. Wondering where did it come from. Just suddenly! Unexpected! Filled with sexual tension and statements that would leave your mind wondering all damn. I'm completely attracted to his innocence, but I'm sure that innocence does not carry on into the bedroom.

My issue, from my lifelong friend (Virgo Sep11)- we tried to date. Main probably was that he didn't communicate much about us! I don't know if he was scared to open up his feelings! We talked a lot, but it was mostly about family and careers, etc...for we had the same interests. He was completely surprised when out to dinner that I told him I view him more of a friend than anything else. He didn't get angry, just smiled. I took the time to tell him why. He appreciated the feedback and even commented about his dates with others! The running joke is still "she dumped me years ago". We're wonderful friends to this day! I get nervous around him STILL!

So, we're not officially dating. "JUST HANGING OUT"! Getting to know each other. We both agreed that PUBLIC settings would make this a successful friendship/relationship!!! LOL!

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My innocence did actually carry into the bedroom at first haha. I was still trying to maintain a level of respect for her even in bed until she said "you're being too nice. this is what i want." She's brought out passion in me that I didn't even know I had. Combined with my memory and attention to detail, she's always satisfied. 😉 And your friend sounds like me, lol. The way we Virguys love is odd indeed. You won't see us shouting from a mountaintop but we'll never forget what's important to you and we'll always be there when you need us. 🙂

Been hanging out a bit with Virgo-Guy-Friend! It's awkward because I feel very comfortable with him already. His shyness allows me to be myself and not be guarded. I like the pace that I think we both have set. I don't feel pressured about sex or commitment or schedules. We flow when we're both available with no set times and no rules. I try to text him good morning and a few times thru-out the day because I think he feels that I'm not attractive to him. Oh, to the contrary. He's very handsome and bald head and tall and chocolatey. Yea Me! LOL!

However! Yes you knew that was coming. His moods can switch to aloofness at times when we're texting. I think he reads too much into my blunt messages. When I notice a delay, I try to follow-up with something light and funny to bring his emotions back down to normal, then I give him space and time to brood over whatever has entered his mind during the conversation and hopefully he'll share at a later time. I think. Probably will be saying that word a lot when talking about him. When we're communicating on the phone or in person it's like we've known each other forever. I appreciate his complete openness and honesty. Anyways, I like him! It's been a while for me to actually say that about anyone I've tried to date these past few years.

He did tell my friend that I have too many rules? Not sure what that meant? I don't let anyone I just met around my kids or Mz Kitty. Maybe I set the pace and didn't realize he really wants to jump right in....