Crying woman.. what would you do?

This question is for Leo men in general but anybody can chime in.

Recently I had poured my heart out to a man who I love. we had a huge argument over a miscommunication. I lashed out on him on something and I regret doing it and I tried to apologize knowing I was at fault.

I cried in front of him. to the point where I was losing my breath and I was in so much pain. The argument was huge. We have never argued like this before. if anything we never argued about anything just had discussions etc.. He never consoled me or anything, he just looked at me with a look of disgust, or at least that's how I perceived it to be. He just sat there looking at me while I was crying to him about how I felt about him how I was so sorry about what happened. I had asked him for a hug and it was like it was forced. Mind you he was away on business and I drove almost 5 hours to see him and I felt like nothing got resolved. I don't know if I will see him again.I had asked him that question and he wouldn't answer. Would you do the same if someone was pouring out their heart in front of you. what would you do if you saw somebody who was in so much distress over the possibility of losing you and genuinely sorry for something that had escalated out of control.

Does said "miscommunication" has something to do with him not wanting the same things as you do?

Cuz if it is it's not miscommunication, it's communication. And it was resolved, only not to your liking.

Ohhhhh how this is bringing back memories.... she was a cancer too...

I consoled her... as a leo I hate to see people in pain... especially if im the one who is deemed responsible......of course if they are an enemy... they can rot in piss.

You cancer women try wayyyyy too much to have a leo on an emotional leash... it almost ALWAYS backfires.

You use your emotions way too much... Let the leo be himself.. let him come to you... let him conquer you(but put up a fight) dont conquer him.

Big hug for you miss cancer as this touched me with memorable past moments.

no it had to do with plans on me driving to see him. long story short...

He has a history of not always answering my phone calls and text messages. Sometimes when I call him he would put me to VM and send a text asking what's up instead of just answering. stuff like that. this time around we were trying to get together and I tried calling him to let him know I was on the way to see him. he put me to VM a couple of times then I text him to give me specific address of where he was and I didn't get a text back..at that point I was already on the road about 30 minutes driving. I know its not that long considering I was going to drive 5 hours. I got mad that he wasn't answering or letting me know what's up after we had discussed me going down there. I left a not so nice VM and turned around. I honestly thought he was blowing me off, because he has done this to me in the past. He called me hours later asking where was I and I told him I turned around. He got mad at me and things got ugly from there on out. After this I drove out there at 3 am after the fact that he sent me his location again with complete directions. This was the first time ever that I had let him down compared to the numerous times he has let me down. I had explained that to him and he just didn't like that I was trying to compare and contrast the difference and after all of that I still drove to see him after he sent me his location and his room number the second time around. it turned out that the first time ever he didn't have pone service where he was staying but he didn't let me know that beforehand. I KNow I was at complete fault and I owned up to my mistake.

@AL4813

I don't think I put him on an emotional leash. I have always let him be himself. I have always compromised for him. I have been fighting for him for almost 3 years. The only time I get emotional is when I think he is being unfair. We talk about it and sometimes things gets resolved other times I just let it go. This time though was bad. I don't think he will ever see me the same again.

@Taurusgil...I get that he needs space.. I give him his space. we live 2.5 hours away from each other as it is. I get that he needs his own time. I do my own thing too. he was consistent in the beginning. there were times we wouldn't talk to each other for months at a time, because we were so busy. so I get what he needs.

Cancer Chika, you are doing to much.
Driving 5 hours to see a dude?? NAH! 😱

More than likely he feels like you are emotionally manipulating him.
Not acting like a women but a child.
Throwing crying fits and carrying on.

He is your lover. Not your father.
Sit him down and speak clearly about what you want.
I'm not saying go against your nature as an emotional person.
Just calm down, clear your mind.

Hm what.. lol

ok how old are you guys? Don't cry. I cried with my ex arian bff alot only because I felt betrayed and disgusted and the shit people do make you a different person usually for the better..

I haven't cried since then.. don't have emotions..my Aquarius moon is detached.. I will never cry in front of people.. if I cry it's not because a guy, it's the cancer rising and it's a movie or funeral or something unrelated to guy..Fuck em sometimes.. find the right one who enjoys talking and keeping plans..

Damn that's foul, what room a hotel room-? And you guys known each other how long?

5 hours away fuck that.. nope..
Love makes you do stupid shit..at 3 am.. that's booty call in wee hours of the night.

Hm the first time I ever met an air sign Gemini male. It seemed that always happened. I make plans, he was always busy. We finally make plans had a blast.. few days nothing. It was off an on like that the whole time I knew him.

.lucky he was only an hour and a half away.. one time didn't see him for awhile because we were both busy with life, made plans was happy to meet up again...he called me was already on my way like 20 minutes out and rescheduled.. Gemini and Sagittarius change so quickly and me well if we plan hope we stick to it..exhausting shit after awhile. Oh and they're never on time..

I have Aquarius moon and Taurus mercury and Cancer rising makes me love deep but once you do some stupid unrealistic shit.. will detach..

A. If I have to think and ponder about wtf is going on, sometimes I get critical and take things way too serious, I might detach more so now than I was younger..
B. Are there red flags to ponder about, yup..
C. Detach and do my own homebody thing myself cause I don't need this shit.
D. One thing I can't stand is silent treatment especially if we have plans. Lol.. Not about emotions it's about respect, dignity, dedication, to the one you chose.

I understand what you are all saying trust me I do. I have been dealing with this for 3 years. Why do I stick around? because I love him. I put up with his crap because I accepted him for him. this was the very First time EVER I had cried about a situation between us in front of him. I have talked to him always in a calm cool manner. I think this time I lashed at him out of frustration. Frustration of this happening on more than one occasion. I explained that to him. I know where I went wrong. I think I became emotional when I saw his anger for the first time ever. I know there is a HUGE possibility I will never see him again. I am giving him his space. I'm almost embarrassed by this whole situation. We have gone through some rough times but this right here is big.

@busyeyes88 I am sure he has put up with my crap too. maybe your right. maybe our relationship has run its course. I can say this though I have always done right by him no matter how he treated me. Except for this one time I have never ever let him down. I haven't been shady like he can be sometimes. I have always been honest and upfront with him. I ave gone out of my way for him so he can never say that I haven't put in work. What ever happens.. happens. I am prepared for it. This can either make us or break us.

Posted by SensualCancerChika
I understand what you are all saying trust me I do. I have been dealing with this for 3 years. Why do I stick around? because I love him. I put up with his crap because I accepted him for him. this was the very First time EVER I had cried about a situation between us in front of him. I have talked to him always in a calm cool manner. I think this time I lashed at him out of frustration. Frustration of this happening on more than one occasion. I explained that to him. I know where I went wrong. I think I became emotional when I saw his anger for the first time ever. I know there is a HUGE possibility I will never see him again. I am giving him his space. I'm almost embarrassed by this whole situation. We have gone through some rough times but this right here is big.

Sorry, but why didn't have location, address, room number,

etc before leaving?

If he knew you needed these things, why didn't he go where

he had phone service (or golly, call you from a land line)

to make sure you had them?

Didn't he get worried, when even an hour after you'd left,

he hadn't heard from you?


Something doesn't sit right with this, to me. :/

Chika, don't ever think that crying and emotions are a bad thing.
Just doing it in excess when using it as a source to get what you want, hurts relationships.
Sounds like you need to learn how to channel this energy.

As a Cancer woman I am highly emotional and find myself on the verge of tears sometimes because when I move through this world I am often touched by what I see.

Now when it comes to relationships in the past, I found that I was MORE on the verge of tears when I dealt with Fire/Air males because we are just on different wave lengths and I often found myself frustrated.

You are working so hard because a fire/water relationship is going to take WORK.
And Cancer women being Cardinal, we seek solutions NOW!!!
People don't understand this but Cancer women are VERY willful which can clash with the Leo strong and proud nature.

This is the masculine/feminine archetype relationship where the man needs to be the man and the woman need to be the woman.
But with this particular male the Cancer woman will need to use less tears and more feminine wiles.

I read some astro books years ago that I found to be quite accurate with my dealings with Leo males.
When it comes to arguments the Leo male will get tired of constantly giving in to the Cancer lady.
There is a clash of wills between the two.

I have to admit for a fixed sign Leo males will give in and let you get your way, but you can't expect this ALL the time.
You have to let them have their way, even if it leads to driving the car into a ditch. LOL

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by SensualCancerChika
I understand what you are all saying trust me I do. I have been dealing with this for 3 years. Why do I stick around? because I love him. I put up with his crap because I accepted him for him. this was the very First time EVER I had cried about a situation between us in front of him. I have talked to him always in a calm cool manner. I think this time I lashed at him out of frustration. Frustration of this happening on more than one occasion. I explained that to him. I know where I went wrong. I think I became emotional when I saw his anger for the first time ever. I know there is a HUGE possibility I will never see him again. I am giving him his space. I'm almost embarrassed by this whole situation. We have gone through some rough times but this right here is big.

Sorry, but why didn't have location, address, room number,

etc before leaving?

If he knew you needed these things, why didn't he go where

he had phone service (or golly, call you from a land line)

to make sure you had them?

Didn't he get worried, when even an hour after you'd left,

he hadn't heard from you?


Something doesn't sit right with this, to me. :/

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In a few more pages we will get the whole story. 😆

Lol

Good luck though. Ta ta.

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by SensualCancerChika
I understand what you are all saying trust me I do. I have been dealing with this for 3 years. Why do I stick around? because I love him. I put up with his crap because I accepted him for him. this was the very First time EVER I had cried about a situation between us in front of him. I have talked to him always in a calm cool manner. I think this time I lashed at him out of frustration. Frustration of this happening on more than one occasion. I explained that to him. I know where I went wrong. I think I became emotional when I saw his anger for the first time ever. I know there is a HUGE possibility I will never see him again. I am giving him his space. I'm almost embarrassed by this whole situation. We have gone through some rough times but this right here is big.

Sorry, but why didn't have location, address, room number,

etc before leaving?

If he knew you needed these things, why didn't he go where

he had phone service (or golly, call you from a land line)

to make sure you had them?

Didn't he get worried, when even an hour after you'd left,

he hadn't heard from you?


Something doesn't sit right with this, to me. :/

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That' why I'm glad we have you miss montgomery.... you catch the things some of us other very fiery leo's dont.

Cancerchika, I'm like you. When a man yells at me or goes into a rage, my most usual reaction is to break down and cry. I don't want to argue or fight, so I just crumble.

It might be something in the Cancer waters. My best friend and I were both dumped on the same day by men who won't give us a chance to explain.

Take heart. Life only moves forward. Its either you both heal from it or you need to move on.

I hope for the best for you.

We've been doing the crying circle here though. I don't think its helping at all, but there's nothing else for it. Sigh. 😢

@Montgomery He sent me his location via Iphone... but since he wasn't getting any service it wasn't going through correctly. I am telling you he is not good at communicating at all.

Chika can you post both of your charts?

I don't know our charts.. I don't know how to do that

my DOB: 6/25/78 his: 8/16/72

Try not to cry in front of men it makes them view you as being weak.

Depends on what the crying is about.
We are allowed to have our vulnerable moments.

I usually can keep my composure, but this time I just couldn't. It all came out and I really don't like how people say that its manipulation. I wasn't trying to manipulate him at all. Once I saw his anger the tears started to flow and I couldn't stop. I knew I was wrong for assuming things and he put me in my place. I had a very vulnerable moment.

@seraph
He has never ever seen me cry Ever. He has never ever seen me that upset.. Have I addressed concerns about our relationship in the past yes I have. This will be the very first time we have argued like this. This is not a habit, but I understand what you are saying that I shouldn't make it a habit. I am not trying to do that.

Posted by SensualCancerChika
I usually can keep my composure, but this time I just couldn't. It all came out and I really don't like how people say that its manipulation. I wasn't trying to manipulate him at all. Once I saw his anger the tears started to flow and I couldn't stop. I knew I was wrong for assuming things and he put me in my place. I had a very vulnerable moment.

You were frustraterd and desperate. its understandable.

I just want to say thank you all for commenting it really helped

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. Typical cancer behaviour. This is how they are able to 'manipulate' the man. I never cry in front of my man when having an argument or discussioN. I save that for the bathroom in my own time. The reason being is because if s woman starts to cry the man is less able to express how he feels and he should be allowed to without having to feel pity for a sobbing mess sitting in front of him.

Water heavy placement people do not belong with fire dominant people as you guys will constantly poor water over their fire and zap their energy. Especially cancer. Cancers I find to be very very needy, clingy, moody weak, manipulative, controlling. I am taurus and even I had to dissolve a friendship with a cancer female friend because all she did was drain my energy!! And we know what happens when too much water hits earth = MUD.

Maybe he has had enough and you have finally drowned whatever fire he has left with your constant flow of water. My advice: give him a break and let him come to you. No matter how long it takes. Give him space continue your life. 3 years is a long time and maybe your relationship has already run its course. If he does not come back... Get yourself a water sign or a patient earthling. Even The natural elements of water and fire do not worK.

This was very harsh but needful. Sometimes the truth hurts. All Cancers should read this. I am saying this looking at it from both ends of the spectrum. I am a day away from being a Leo. I consider myself as being a Leo stuck in a Cancers body, but in my opinion I act more like a Leo however when I was married to my Leo husband I showed my true Cancer colors by being emotional needy, moody weak, and controlling, and yes it backfired because one day he woke up and snapped and the tables turned.

Now I will never allow myself to act like that. I embrace my Leo side to the fullest.

The real issue is not her being emotional, but the fact that her Leo is insensitive....Huge red flag.Sure Leo men do not work well with emotional women,but look at the signs...He neglected to answer her calls(sure he had no connection.)And most importantly,he got angry with her, because she was going out of her way to come and see him, mind you a 5 hour drive, and he gave her no clear instructions..I myself would have stayed home, until he was able to communicate with me effectively about our plans...She is doing all of the driving, the least that he could have done was make sure that they were on the same page..He probably thought that she was desperate,and turned it all on her...Typical Leo man...Also, I noticed that when a woman is always visiting the man, and he seldomly drive to see her, that is a red flag...He does'nt take her seriously.Now if a Leo man come to you more than you come to him...He is definitely feeling you...

are you both in a relationship?

okay, i understand that you love him, but does he see you as his lover?

i feel that he's stringing you along and only do things at his convenience. and that he can do this is because he knows you will always be there no matter how poor he treats you.

i understand how you feel, it's like all these frustration feelings are bottled up throughout these 3 years and it reach a point that you break down. but i think this should not happen in a healthy realtionship.

Good morning everyone.

He text me yesterday evening. He asked me how I was doing and letting me know he got back home ok. All I said was I'm doing great and I'm glad he's back. I kept it short and sweet.

Hey at least that's a good sign..

Posted by SensualCancerChika
Good morning everyone.

He text me yesterday evening. He asked me how I was doing and letting me know he got back home ok. All I said was I'm doing great and I'm glad he's back. I kept it short and sweet.

Hey at least that's a good sign..

Yes, its a great sign. Lucky you. I'm happy for you. :-)

Thank you _??

That's great🙂

Now don't go to him, let him wonder about you and miss you, let him chase you a little 😉

I think crying is good but not in front of a guy. That's weakness.. lol stay strong buck up and do what makes you happy by yourself..

IE...cook something new, buy new decor for your place, get your own place, have a job working towards a stable lifestyle...get a man-pedi, go shopping, read online yahoo news, and come back to dxp and discuss. Haha..

I've been very busy actually.. Surrounding my self with real good people. I actually feel pretty good. I didn't hear from him yesterday but that's normal sometimes we go days without talking. Hey at least he did contact me which is good. I'm not feeling as bad as I was before. What ever happens happens. I'm just trying to move past this and learn from it. Thanks again Verona

Oops I meant to say everyone.

iPhone problems lol

Posted by Vegetta91
What kind of relationship are you in? not talking all day is fine but not hearing from him even for 1 day is not
Your not his mother or father or whatever, but you have the right as a gf to at least know that he is fine or something
Crying is not a sign of weakness, if you use it to much it could become one but even then he should accept the way you are because these days there are only a few people who actually love somebody and not for his car, money etc
I have a leo side myself(leo moon which is quite strong) and if my gf came to me I would be happy because I know that she cares
I think that your bf should appreciate you more , to much emotions sometimes become boring but Leos love to be loved and admired
Does he really love you?
Also the way he acted doesn't show me that he cares to much about you, I like to be always right (which I'm not) but if my gf was crying in front of me then at least I would consider doing a compromise because I care more about her then about some stupid idea or whatever caused you to start crying
Anyway take the time to examine how things are, and I don't want to hear that leos are bla bla, because they are also like the rest, and if their loved one is crying on front of them then at least try to do a compromise because I love her
Now I don't know how things are between you two but sometimes doesn't seem alright to me
Well anyway

That's why I backed off.. I agree with everything you just said. We are in a long distance relationship. Both of our jobs are very demanding and I hardly have time to spend with family alone. So usually I wait around two days and if I don't hear from him that's when I start thinking something is up.

Someday it will happen... Thank you

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Posted by Montgomery

Posted by SensualCancerChika
I understand what you are all saying trust me I do. I have been dealing with this for 3 years. Why do I stick around? because I love him. I put up with his crap because I accepted him for him. this was the very First time EVER I had cried about a situation between us in front of him. I have talked to him always in a calm cool manner. I think this time I lashed at him out of frustration. Frustration of this happening on more than one occasion. I explained that to him. I know where I went wrong. I think I became emotional when I saw his anger for the first time ever. I know there is a HUGE possibility I will never see him again. I am giving him his space. I'm almost embarrassed by this whole situation. We have gone through some rough times but this right here is big.

Sorry, but why didn't have location, address, room number,

etc before leaving?

If he knew you needed these things, why didn't he go where

he had phone service (or golly, call you from a land line)

to make sure you had them?

Didn't he get worried, when even an hour after you'd left,

he hadn't heard from you?


Something doesn't sit right with this, to me. :/

That' why I'm glad we have you miss montgomery.... you catch the things some of us other very fiery leo's dont.

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You flatter me!


(This is your best avi, to date, btw??_ handsome devil)

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Posted by SensualCancerChika
@Montgomery He sent me his location via Iphone... but since he wasn't getting any service it wasn't going through correctly. I am telling you he is not good at communicating at all.

"He called me hours later ..."


He really isn't.

Five hours is a LONG time to be on the road--

if someone was making that effort on my behalf,

and I hadn't heard from them, I would be beside

myself.

Red flag for this guy. smh


I'm sorry, but I don't think you "let him down."

Shame on him for not being more concerned about

where the fck you were, and if you were alright.

Posted by seraph

Posted by SensualCancerChika
I've been very busy actually.. Surrounding my self with real good people. What ever happens happens. I'm just trying to move past this and learn from it.

There you go. Now you're talking like a champ.

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Ahh... ok.

Just got to the update... agreed. 🙂

Well he wants to see me today , but guess what I'm going out with the girls.. I really don't feel like driving .. I told him this and he was like I'll drive to you. I told him thanks maybe we can get together sometime later on this weekend because I already have plans.. So him wanting to see me is a very very good sign.. I'm not going to drop everything just because.. Time to focus on me. _??

Haha go girl.. Good job!.. Keep doing just that.....Good luck..

Im happy for you Chika! They come around.

Haha alright good to know.. lol

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Posted by Montgomery

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Posted by SensualCancerChika
I've been very busy actually.. Surrounding my self with real good people. What ever happens happens. I'm just trying to move past this and learn from it.

There you go. Now you're talking like a champ.

Ahh... ok.

Just got to the update... agreed. 🙂

Yep no worries.

Was gonna happen eventually. 😉

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Twice in one thread.


Yes... you nailed it.

happpy for you! 😄

i still think leo are great man though my leo ended things before we can start anything official.

i got cancer moon so a big hug to you! lol..

Ok well don't get too excited.. We were suppose to meet up today and you know what he canceled on me stating he will still have his kids.. Granted I can't say anything because it's his kids obviously, but how much is that the real truth? I decided to go out have a few drinks with some close friends.. Get my mind off things and I had some liquor courage and sent him a text.. A text that i don't regret sending. It's something that I needed to get off my chest and up until now I didn't have the guts to say it. May have jumped to conclusions but screw it. I told him how I don't think I'm he only one he's seeing.. Obviously didn't get a text or call back.. Typical. For somebody who has his kids and I sent a text around 9:30 he should still be up for the most part.. But who knows right..It's coming to a point where I'm getting tired and I'm actually looking forward to meeting somebody new. I actually want to meet somebody new. I just want to be appreciated and loved. I'm tired of being pushed to the side and going above and beyond for a man who doesn't give a rats ass about me. He said he wanted to see me today and he cancels. But for him to ignore me for the whole damn day that's some bullshit!!! Bye Felicia!!! —?? On to the next and trust me I have no problem getting somebody new. I'm like Beyonc? I can get another one in a minute... Not saying I look like her at all but I am one hot ass Puerto Rican.. It's crazy how the heart wants what it wants and for me it takes a little more time to realize that some people are just not worth it. Usually when I love I love deep. I always give my all to that one person who I think is worth it.. Sometimes I may not always be right but it's a life experience something that I have to live and learn. Anyways that's my update.. Hope all is doing well..

That's right girl, move on from him and have fun dating some other men.

If he's meant to be, he will be back.. and by then it's up to you if you still want him 🙂

i think he will be back to give you some lame explanations/excuses and try to blame it on you.

Right now, you are not his priority.. he may or may not be seeing other people..
but his actions are not matching his words.. now he's taking you for granted because he knows you will be available to him...

i read this before, ' some people are meant to walk into your life to teach you how to let go.'

That's a good tip. Thanks bullbull.