Do Leo's find it hard to let go?

Well, if you've read my previous posts you would get the jist of my story.

So my boyfriend admitted that the reason why he wasn't able to let this girl go was because she was pregnant (he broke down crying when he told me this) what prompted him to tell me was the fact that i broke it off with him because i realised that he was acting strange so i suggested that it was best we broke up. However, after a long series of email exchanges (i wasn't picking up my phone to him)...i finally gave in to hear him out, he told me the truth and to be honest, i was relieved because i knew that there must've been a reason why he was still clinging to this girl he was cheating on me with (even though he kept denying it, she told me different). I know its strange that i felt relieved but because i felt strongly attached to him. I decided to stick by him as long as he doesn't 'act up' and he didn't..for the longest while. He told me i could call him whenever i want and that he had stopped speaking to her (which i believed because his actions changed dramatically) he would call me all the time (i live in another town from him but she lives in his town)...this makes it difficult when it comes to trust.

Anyway, so he made everything up to me until around christmas time when he acted up again. I ended it and he immediately apologised. However, just last week (on friday night-- i was with him on valentines day) i saw photos on his sisters computer of his family members, him and her! This shocked me because i remember that around this time (which was a couple of days before xmas) he was acting strange. I confronted him and asked why he lied to me. He stated that shes pregnant and because shes pregnant, she would have to be around, however, judging from the pictures she doesn't look pregnant to me. I must admit, the pics weren't very intimate. he seemed pretty moody in the photos (i guess because that was the day we argued, but it really showed on his face) but it still hurt me that he lied.

And two days ago i saw an email from her to his email account sending him some pictures of his certificate (nothing serious) and i was able to see because his given me the passwords to all of his accounts (i guess his forgotten that i have them) and my heart dropped again. I thought he hasnt had contact with her because he dosent believe thats his baby? This confuses me and ive told him many times that im okay being just friends with him (i value our relationship and friendship)

This makes it hard especially when he says that if he isn't in a relationship with me then he doesn't want to know me at all. I don't want to loose him together but i cant keep thinking about this situation either.

If she isn't pregnant, why is he keeping her around? If she is, then i understand she would have to be around. However, shes keeps acting as if she is his main girlfriend and im not? When everyone knows I'm his girlfriend. I guess she does this to annoy me. Anyway, were looking for a place together in his town but I'm not sure if i should lose him completely.


So my question is. Do Leo's find it hard to let people go no matter how much it hurts the other person and as long as their able to?

I want honest answers 🙂 i feel that a lot of people have been lying to me including his mum and sister (for what reason, i dont know) because surely its easier for us to remain friends and for them to be in a relationship? I need honest feedback. Thanks x

@everevolvingepithet

His not sure and I'm not sure if shes pregnant (from photos, she doesn't look it).

@ninjafish thank you and i have a feeling that they do too.x

@tiziani i think so too. He gets very very angry and sometimes even a little physical (not a total beating but shakes me up a bit) or makes threats when he finds out we've been speaking or when i suggest we break up. Thanks for your honesty. I do agree that I've been putting myself in his mindset and that of everyone else's....just find it hard

I also think that because i could be quite busy. He is happy that she is around (in his town) when he needs some attention and then when I'm ready, his happy to see me too. Just needed people to spell it out. I feel much more at ease now.

If I were you I'd pick up my dignity & self love & LEAVE.

Thanks for the comments guys. I guess the friendship alone isn't worth holding on to and if he cant see things from my point of view (as I've tried with him) then il have to eventually let go. I just find it hard at the moment but I'm going to take each day as it comes and slowly distance myself until i can truly let go. Thanks once again, I'm starting to see that it was all about feeding his ego and giving him attention whilst he keeps this girl on the side too. Its going to be hard but I'm sure it would be worth it in the end 🙂

I also think that due to our signs. We tend to both stand by each other because we respect the relationship (which is something i read) and we like the stability of knowing that each of us are in each others lives.....i think this is a fault because even when something is wrong, we still want to hold on. I feel this is a destructive trait to have now wheras before i use to see it as two people who really want to be together and make it work. I just dont want it to be at the extent of my happiness. Thanks once again guys x

Posted by Justsomeguy
Seems like he wants to hold on, I'll admit, I have times where I don't want to let go but I always do.

Why?

Posted by TAURUSbelle
If I were you I'd pick up my dignity & self love & LEAVE.

I always love your advice.

Posted by Justsomeguy


Why don't I want to let go? Because I have feelings for the person still and I still want her.

Why do I always let go? Because it's not fair to myself to torture myself by wanting someone I can't have. Especially if there's another female in my life already, that's disrespectful and I was raised better to know that you shouldn't do shit like that.

If you are thinking about your Leo dude that you gave up for another Leo dude...please just stop there because there's no point and you need to move on. He may or may not still have feelings for you but you did him wrong and it would be stupid of him to trade in a girl that did accept him and put him first for a girl who didn't but realized what she did wrong. And if he did, shame on him and I would Spartan kick him off of Pride Rock!

No I wasn't thinking of that Leo that I have given up for. He's good person but I'm not good enough for him. Flashes of my ex still appear in my mind and yea I believe I'm the one he wants to let go because he want the other girl more. Lol that kind of hurt my pride. Oh such is life.

Posted by Huntress

Posted by TAURUSbelle
If I were you I'd pick up my dignity & self love & LEAVE.

I always love your advice.

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Thanks Huntress! 🙂