Does this leo girl just wanna be friends?

Soo, there's this leo girl I know. We've been talking for months and have shared many experiences together. In the beginning, I was instantly attracted to her and let it be known. She told me, "you're not my cup of tea," so I bailed. A couple of months passed and she calls me up and tells me she wants to hang. She doesn't compliment me, but flirts and jokes with me. We connect on an intellectual basis and I asked her playfully, "so... remember the time you told me I wasn't your cup of tea?" and her response was, "I said that?? Omg, I'm so sorry... That's not true." So I ask, "Oh, soo I am now eh?" and she laughed and went, "I don't know, I guess time will tell...?" I didn't do anything, because during this time she was still on and off with her ex who was an Aquarius. Didn't want to deal with that baggage.

That was that, I'm usually very blunt and straightforward in regards to showing affection but with her, I was always afraid of doing it. She intimidated me and was in a weird place emotionally. Anyway, she left and moved back home for a few months. She lived in a different state, and I thought it was done with. Fast forward to two weeks ago, and she randomly hits me up and tells me, "I'm back! I wanna see you." We meet up after months, and she gives me a huge hug. We chat, catch up, joke around, flirt, etc. She tells me she's done with her ex and moved on, but has to go to a show with him since she got him tix to a gig months prior. I tell her nothing's changed and that I still feel the same way for her. Her response was, "people change without realizing it, I feel like I don't know you quite yet." I told her, "I'm sure I've changed to some degree, sure, we all do, but I'm still the guy you met two years ago at heart." The most we've ever gotten, is me holding her in my arms, embracing her, and her leaning in on me and grabbing my arms. A long passionate hug from the back. She proceeds to tell me after I asked her how she felt about me, "you do realize that I've hung out with you the most out of everyone I know right? More than my ex, more than my friends, more than my fam when I'm here." and we kinda just left it at that. I didn't know if she implied something with that. We danced a little bit at this private gig I took her to, but she was hesitant for some of it.

It's present time now, I haven't seen her in over a week because I've been avoiding her. She went to the gig with her ex and didn't really enjoy it. I feel like it's one sided and I'm essentially a meal ticket to her, a free ride, a free joint, etc. I don't mind treating my date out, but in our case, we're just friends and I've never treated a friend out to this many hang outs like I have with her. She called me the other day asking about my whereabouts since I stopped talking to her and such. I told her I wanna see her and she responded, "plz LMK, you busy man."

So... does she like me at all or is she just toying with me?

To add to this, I compliment her frequently and she's always embarrassed or self conscious when she's around me, saying she looks "hideous" or "not up to my standards" when she hangs around for no reason. There's nothing wrong, but she'll bring up how "bad" she looks and in some ways it feels like she's baiting me to compliment her. What's the point of mentioning that? She's absolutely beautiful to me, even at her worst. All I want to do is hold her and make sure she's taken care of. Even when I'm upset at her and don't want to pay for her anymore, I still do. The pull is strong, and I can't deal with it.

Does it really matter what sign I am? I'm trying to figure that out without giving out what my sign is.

How old are you both?

What's your chart look like and hers?

And if she had broken up with anyone recently and she has a alot of detaching planet's she will take things extremely careful and won't want to be like settled in anything long term just yet as you seem to be ready.

Lol I gave alittle insight without signs. But the real points are there just got out of a relationship not to long ago and no one would be ready that quick and easy..

If one wants a relationship and the other doesn't it has to take time and communicate to each other better.

Haha, not trying to cause an uproar here! She's a Leo - Sun, Capricorn - Ascendant, Pisces - Moon, Virgo - Venus. I'm a Taurus - Sun, Leo - Ascendant, Capricorn - Moon, Aries - Venus.

Hope this helps! And in regards to her ex, it's been complicated and they broke up over a year ago. I think it's just this weird on and off or FWB sorta situation that's finally over with. She does have serious trust issues because of him being f'd up. She's loyal as hell and I don't understand why she can't let go but I think she has gotten to that point.

Posted by earlorg16
Haha, not trying to cause an uproar here! She's a Leo - Sun, Capricorn - Ascendant, Pisces - Moon, Virgo - Venus. I'm a Taurus - Sun, Leo - Ascendant, Capricorn - Moon, Aries - Venus.

Hope this helps! And in regards to her ex, it's been complicated and they broke up over a year ago. I think it's just this weird on and off or FWB sorta situation that's finally over with. She does have serious trust issues because of him being f'd up. She's loyal as hell and I don't understand why she can't let go but I think she has gotten to that point.

MY MISTAKE: She's a Leo - Sun, Aries - Moon, Virgo - Venus, Gemini - Mars, Capricorn - Ascendant. I'm Taurus - Sun, Capricorn - Moon, Aries - Venus, Gemini - Mars, Leo - Ascendant.

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Posted by earlorg16
Haha, not trying to cause an uproar here! She's a Leo - Sun, Capricorn - Ascendant, Aries - Moon, Virgo - Venus. I'm a Taurus - Sun, Leo - Ascendant, Capricorn - Moon, Aries - Venus.

Hope this helps! And in regards to her ex, it's been complicated and they broke up over a year ago. I think it's just this weird on and off or FWB sorta situation that's finally over with. She does have serious trust issues because of him being f'd up. She's loyal as hell and I don't understand why she can't let go but I think she has gotten to that point.

I knew I sensed some stubbornness somewhere

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Heheh, I was genuinely curious to see if this could be answered without giving my sign out! But anyway, it is revealed. Apologies for the stubbornness.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
How old are you both?

What's your chart look like and hers?

And if she had broken up with anyone recently and she has a alot of detaching planet's she will take things extremely careful and won't want to be like settled in anything long term just yet as you seem to be ready.

I'm 29, she's 22.

Awe she does have detaching planet's I was sorry right .

I have to ask why are you so interested in a 7 year old younger relationship like that?. First she is going to do and be free, and date others.

I dunno... Maybe detach and wait to see if she comes to you. See her put in some real effort.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Awe she does have detaching planet's I was sorry right .

What do you mean by detaching planets?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I have to ask why are you so interested in a 7 year old younger relationship like that?. First she is going to do and be free, and date others.

Age is only a number to us, she's way mature for her age. I'll admit, when I found her age out, i was pretty stunned to say the least. We get along though, that simple. And yeah, she's totally down to date and be free, I'm not trying to hold her back from doing those things, I just like her and want to know if she likes me. She's told me numerous times that she's not into flings or one night stands or anything like that, as I'm not a fan of it either. Not into dating but is always trying to hang with me even though she can hang with all the other guys that she talks to.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I have to ask why are you so interested in a 7 year old younger relationship like that?. First she is going to do and be free, and date others.

This is true! You change once you hit 25/26 the "bubble" pops and then you really start to see life for what it is. It's scientifically proven. You make better choices.

Posted by Moonbutter
I dunno... Maybe detach and wait to see if she comes to you. See her put in some real effort.

I did that the past week or 2 and didn't talk to her. She called and texted a bunch asking about my whereabouts but I didn't respond. She wanted to hang the other day but I couldn't make it. We started talking again today and she asked if we could go to the beach together.

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Posted by Moonbutter
I dunno... Maybe detach and wait to see if she comes to you. See her put in some real effort.

I did that the past week or 2 and didn't talk to her. She called and texted a bunch asking about my whereabouts but I didn't respond. She wanted to hang the other day but I couldn't make it. We started talking again today and she asked if we could go to the beach together.

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Just be careful not to be the rebound guy. Keep it light, guard your heart. In time if it's meant to be then you have built a solid foundation or if not, then you made a great friend 🙂

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I dunno... Maybe detach and wait to see if she comes to you. See her put in some real effort.

I did that the past week or 2 and didn't talk to her. She called and texted a bunch asking about my whereabouts but I didn't respond. She wanted to hang the other day but I couldn't make it. We started talking again today and she asked if we could go to the beach together.

Just be careful not to be the rebound guy. Keep it light, guard your heart. In time if it's meant to be then you have built a solid foundation or if not, then you made a great friend 🙂

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Thanks! It's most likely the Aries in Venus for me... You'd think I'd have patience with this sort of thing (i am a taurus afterall) but I've grown very impatient and am tired of the ambiguous responses you could say. But yeah, I guess I'll wait and see.

Posted by AriesLove
Leo Sun Aries Moon it's all about them. Ego and Self....enjoy!

mmmm not really, and i really dont like you

to OP, i think you should let her come to you and when she does be super fun and flirty and see how she reacts. When you give her space because you dont want to be a rebound i think thats a really smart thing to do 😉

She is a kid my man. Age doesn't matter, but at 22 you are still wet behind the ears. For what it is worth however, my kitty and me dated for 6 months before anything serious finally happened. Took like 6 weeks just to kiss her! Plus I spent A LOT of money in the process. Dinners, movies, events, you name it, all upscale too. She was jaded from a previous bad relationship. I'm a slow stepper myself, and liked her, and am pretty determined so I didn't mind any of it. Fast forward 4 years we are still going strong. If you are patient and don't force things, you may be well rewarded.

But yeah man. You will spend money, and you will need to stroke that ego. Tell her how beautiful she is, when you guys get together. Trust me she puts effort into her looks, let her know you appreciate it. Find out what little trinkets and stuff she likes. Give her little surprise gifts here and there, etc. Let her know she is number 1 in your life. Do NOT ignore her or put distance between you guys, but don't force things either. Use some intuition. She will be loving you in no time. Of course she will hold you to this too. So be honest with her and yourself. Last thing you want is to create a monster you can't sustain. Communication is key.