Hey guys and girls....have any of you had experience with a Libran and if so, how did it go or how is it going 😛
Im struggling to understand my Libran man but there is certainly something there....just seeking others experiences and perhaps some advice...been seeing him for 3 months but can't quite grasp the push/pull thing yet....any Leos out there with some insight?
Well, I never really went anywhere with any of the Librans I've been interested in, but I do feel like I've learned a lot about them. From my experience, I got swept up and completely lost in their charm, so much so that it was difficult to really be aware of myself. It was so much fun to be around that energy, that all I knew was how good it felt. This made it really easy for me to behave stupidly without really thinking about what I was doing. It didn't make me behave stupidly, it was that I felt like it didn't matter how I behaved because I felt completely comfortable around them, almost like I was at home by myself. And now I'm realizing that it did matter, and just because I feel comfortable doing just about anything around Libran females doesn't necessarily mean that I should do it. Whether or not I will now be capable of applying this lesson remains to be seen since there aren't any Librans of interest that I am currently in contact with. My insight.
*** it was that I felt like it didn't matter how I behaved because I felt completely comfortable around them, almost like I was at home by myself
OMG Banini! I have used those exact words to describe my time with the last leo. It was like being at home by myself yet there was someone else in the room, yet I was alone by myself. We could just see right through each other. There was no filter. I would forget there were other people around. It is almost like we are the same person. It was crazy intense. It really freaked me out.
Other Leos have not had that effect on me. Just this one.
Generally, Chatz I find Leo-Libra a really playful fun energy. Libra will heap tons of attention on Leo. Leo will happily lap it up. There is generally a lot of space and freedom in the relationship.
Hi. I'm a Leo and had a Live-in Libra boyfriend once. It was very hard. At first it was great. The push/pull and aloof thing was HUGE. Looking back, I feel I screwed it up royally, simply because I could never "understand" him. I took the aloof thing as him not caring, when really I think we just had two very different ways of showing love. According to him, the backing-off/giving space was love, where I more wished for devotion and presence. I was much younger then. One thing that was crystal clear though.....he put me on a high pedastool and was dissappointed when I was REAL, or "just a girl", shall we say.
if u dont mind me ask'n how old were u when and ur libra boyfriend was dating? Im a very young leo n astrology is my thing! Everything you've mentioned bout ur past is kind of like whats goin on with me and my libra boyfriend. In ways i do understand him as 4 we do have things in common!!! Sex is awesome but way different 4rm my others meaning like when im with him physically i seem to back into this shell as if im shy but we both kno im not! It seems as if i'm play'n another zodiacs role except the more i say no we both kno i mean yes! strange! Its like i want him to be aggressive when startin off like taken it 4rm me as if he has control when i say no, but @ da same i good and well that i cant handle it when get further into it he knows this also! Basically wat im sayin is dat even though i know and understand him a good lil bit its like he knows everything about me mentally and physically but not 4rm words of mouth!!! We really dont have a problem except for how i dont understand this love he claims he shows socially when aren't able 2 be with each other
babylon...that's interesting....the push pull thing I just do not understand and Im not that young LOL...
LS...I can definitely agree with the playful stuff but its the inbetween I find so difficult....we have a great time but once a week isn't much *sigh*....ahwell I'll hang in there a little bit longer 🙂
hi i am a sag who dated a libra .....the aloofness was always there....1 day he would be super close to me the next day i felt like he was ready to leave me......he confused me so much and towards the end he hurt my feelings...but honestly after we broke up he has still never let me go ....he calls me and i just ignore his phone calls ....but when we do speak it is like we have this instant chemistry and i feel like he is a special person who will always be in my heart......just not in a relationship....
one more thing if you are interested in games libra man is for you........because they get bored after they know you are truly sincere with your feelings...
Um..yeah..I didn't really want to go there but my experience was just like that^^^Both of her posts really. Another word for aloof, could be detached. BUT, I'm sure they are ALL not like that.
They were together for almost 20 years before my mom left cuz I guess she wanted to "party"?
They only knew each other for 3 weeks before they got married. They fell very much in love.
She treated him like a King(until she left) and he treated her like a Queen.
Even after she left he still looked out for her. Made sure she had her rent paid and had everything else she needed. She still talks about him being the love of her life and dreams about him(he passed in 1993).
I still remember seeing him pull her away from the kitchen stove and taking her up into his arms so he could dance with her. She would act all annoyed cuz she was cooking dinner. He would ignore her and keep dancing with her. They would both be smiling the whole time. 🙂
smileysag why didnt you tell me that before—?? it was all going great until I told him I'd like to see him more and that I was becoming "somewhat attached".....LOL....its been a little cold since then.....all the signs were there that we felt the same but trust this Leo to open her big mouth!!!!
I know he'll probably reel me in again soon enough but those inbetween weeks?? they're a killer!!!
Leos, my friends, my proud lions! May I please apologize, on behalf of all us Librans, for our detached manner? I'd like to shed some light on our nature. I am currently dating a Leo who's complaints are parallel to those previously posted. Being a rather conservative business guy, constantly worried about projecting an image of success, he too will be caught off-guard and lose himself in my presence, goofing around like a child. We have a great time together, and the world is ours! But then there are times (maybe an hour later) when we're sitting on the same couch, and he feels that I am miles away. Truth be told, I am miles away.
The only reason people think Librans are so charming, care-free, and fun to be around, is because we are escapists who live in our fantastic minds. (Fantastic implying imaginative; remote from reality). After discussions with many fellow Librans, we agree that our imaginations are more fun than true reality. We think up fun or silly situations, and make them real by bringing our partners into the magic. It is absolutely a selfish act, but without our partner to act with, we are desperately alone and unhappy. We know this, and we think about it a lot. We are constantly thinking and analyzing, wondering if our relationship is as fun as it could be, if there is someone else who would understand our insanity and make us feel accepted, or if we are terrible people for thinking this in the first place. You can always tell when we're lost in negative thoguht by our empty expressions. But will we ever tell you something is wrong? Noooo way! Confrontation would disturb the peace, or the fun of the relationship.
This is how the Libra mind works: **Leo just made me a little bit upset, and doesn't know it. But this isn't the first time. Leo ALWAYS does this. I bet other people don't do that. Last week he did something unrelated that I'm still mad about. Ugh, why am I with him? Cause he's really cute and plays with me. Would other people play with me? Why are the good times so good, but the bad times so bad. I wish he could read my thoughts. Does he even know that I'm mad right now?**
"Hey, Libra, are you okay?" "Yes." "Are you mad? You're making that face." "No I'm not, I'm fine." "Are you sure?" "Yes." "I think something's wrong..." "Everything's fine. Let's dance like monkeys!"
See? We blame others for not understanding us, but its our fault for not expressing ourselves. All I'm trying to say here, is when a Libra retreats into silence, there is a vast storm of thought thundering in their heads. Often times those thoughts are destructive to the relationship. My best advice is to MAKE THEM TALK. No matter how they refuse, make them speak what's on their mind. And let them know its okay to question things, and express their uncertainty or indecision. I can guarantee that although we may be the most fun and charming sign of the zodiac, we are also the most lonely due to our escapism.
Maybe this post was helpful. Maybe it was entertaining. Maybe it was a waste of your time. In this instance, I again apologize, bow ever most graciously, and sweep away through the dazzling curtain.
That's an excellent and insightful description Librarian. Leo wants to know so he can help you fix the problem and get the good times rolling again. Small slights that are ignored turn into major problems down the road...
I am a 100% leo lady (30).....I am currently dating a Libra (33)... Good-Looking guy, very sociable, knows what he wants, looks and smells good all the time....my kind of man. we've been dating for about 2 months...still getting to know him...but can't figure him out....he's not much for talking about feelings, emotions and what's on his mind....We leos like to discuss everything...out in the open..so if I'm feeling something I'll tell him....for example, hey I miss you....he'll say how much? if i say ....you look good or I like you...he'll say i know..why won't he return a compliment....leos love compliments...but I can't get that from him..I like to be close, hold hands, kiss in public....he doesn't seem to feel that way...why—.In the bedroom, Us LEOS are frisky..I like to be in control but at the same time I'd love it if could lose control and just take me passionately....he seems very reserved in the bedroom...lets me do all the work...WHY—? so here are my questions... 1) Do I push for answers? 2) how much is too much for a libra.. 3) when do I know if he's serious about me? 4) the aloof thing is right, but how can I tell if he really cares or is interested in more than just dating... 5) I want more....but I don't want to scare him off....what scares off a libra—
I can say that my Libra wasn't hard to capture, we dated for almost 2 years, he was lazy, didn't want to work but reliable in sense of he was their when I needed him, loved attention but yeah, he didn't give alot of compliments, sneaky, I actually threw a candle at his head for lying about being with another girl, I would never do that today (I was alot younger) no excuses but he drove me NUTZ!
he was charming, when I first met him, he didn't really know me but bought me a gift on my birthday, he had a roving eye, very handsome, mesmerizing attitude, never stayed upset very long, immature Libra but fun none the less. He said I love you first and when I didn't say it back he pouted lol! It was cute.
Nydia:for example, hey I miss you....he'll say how much? if i say ....you look good or I like you...he'll say i know..why won't he return a compliment.
My libra didn't compliment alot but he was very affectionate, this was the only way I knew if he was in to me, you won't get alot of compliments...this sign is emotionally selfish, they won't reveal to much, this is from experience of loving and living with a Libra.
Nydia:I like to be close, hold hands, kiss in public....he doesn't seem to feel that way...why—.
You need to do his chart because my Libra had no problem with affection, granted I'm an Aquarius, I don't do too much public displays of affection but we hugged and kissed etc, now that I think about it, my Libra didn't display too much outside affection but he was very warm and caring with me. Sorry Mr.Libra isn't going to give you too much PDA but it doesn't mean he doesn't care about you.
Nydia:In the bedroom, Us LEOS are frisky..I like to be in control but at the same time I'd love it if could lose control and just take me passionately....he seems very reserved in the bedroom...lets me do all the work...WHY—?
My Libra wasn't that wonderful in the bedroom, I mean the sex was okay but he wasn't freaky or adventerous, pretty routine and when I tried to get him to be more sensous and open with his emotions, you know..more touching and foreplay, he shut down, never found out why but I needed more than him jumping on me and finishing his business, LEO'S are wonderful in bed, not sure how your going to light his fire, now I have to add that we did have sex in different places, the park, the steam room, women's gym bathroom, outside, the alley in his car, this might perk him up a bit.
1) Do I push for answers? No, because he will not be forthright and they tend to sugar coat and say I don't know alot (from my experience)or not say anything, just sit there bewildered or upset because he would rather be out playing (:
2) how much is too much for a libra.. I need more elaboration on this question but libras are pretty easy going and always want excitement and stimulation, if your pushing for a relationship or more intimacy, good luck! They do what they want and when they want to despite having an emotional tie to a lover.
3) when do I know if he's serious about me? I knew right away, my libra singled me out, walked up to me and called me the next day, he immediately clung to me and told me he loved me, this Libra may not be that into you if he isn't telling you right away that he likes you and wants to be serious with you (not saying this to be offensive) so please don't take it that way.
4) the aloof thing is right, but how can I tell if he really cares or is interested in more than just dating......I'm aloof so it didn't bother me too much, if he cares he will spend a lot of time with you, call you every day, kiss you a lot, give you nice things or find ways to show you that he loves you, laugh with you, include you in his life such as work functions, family, friends.
When my Libra decided to act out he didn't include me in his life and I moved on.
5) I want more....but I don't want to scare him off....what scares off a libra— Nagging, complaining, too much seriousness, pushing for what you want, they are pretty easy to deal with but from what I know Libra's like life to be easy, they don't like complicated situations, don't like to be pushed into answering questions, like to do things their way without being judged, like their space and freedom but at the same time will keep you close and include you in his life if he's serious.
Also from my experience my Libra wasn't very physically faithful and this may be the case with your libra, he may be emotionally attached to you but doesn't put a high priority on being physically available with you due to his own indiscretions.
Suggestion, vent your concerns and then ask him to think about it, let him know that you want to come back to the discussion at a later time, this may work. Libra's can be very stubborn and push their heels into the ground if you push, so please don't push.
if you want him, you will have to be aggressive and make him understand that he's yours
but if he's spending time with her and she sounds to me to already have her foot in the door, she can push but not too much or he will grow agitated with it and push her away, and when I say be aggressive, I mean more like demonstrative in her actions, initiate more kissing, intimacy, hand holding etc to demonstrate that she's in it to win it, I wasn't super intimate but when I was he responded in a positive way and we grew closer.
Words can work with Libra's but I have found that doing something exciting and adventurous, being playful can put her in a powerful position because they love to play and show off, they don't care too much for serious verbal banter, they love the sunny side of life, so being physical with him and initiating more physical attention could spark the flames, she just has to be creative in her approach and be creative with sex, my libra liked doing it in places other than the bedroom *wink*
*not sure how your going to light his fire*.......I could only suggest some raunchy texts or emails to light his fire....tell him what you want to do to him and what you want HIM to do to you!!! From my experience, they love it when their partner takes the lead but those texts— you'll have him chewing at the bit to get you between the sheets again
tiki33, oh yeah initiating the kissing, etc— works a treat...as I posted above, they seem to get relief in their partner taking the lead and them loving the sunny side of life— what better star sign than us Leos to give them that huh?? hehehehe. I don't think my Libra guy has laughed so much as he has when he's with me....I remember the time I almost had him in stitches as I was....almost and that is my challenge...to get him to that stage!!!! Man that smile!!! Those eyes and that laugh— priceless.
Compliments?? I think that's a Libra thing not giving them as much as receiving....mine seems to thrive on it....the more I give the more he wants and its never too much!!! but yeah, again, being a Leo?? we don't mind it every now and then either. He gives rare compliments but when he does? wow!!! LOL
I also second tiki33's comment: re: being physical and initiating more physical attention......sparks sure do fly!!
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