how do you ladies moving on?

I'm a leo female. I'm not like the stereotype definition of Leo's for example: life of a party, flirts without trying, royal, luxurious and confident of being in the center of a crowd...I was the other way round. Lol.



Its been a month since my ex had left me. I was mentally abused by my ex so I had a hard time to forgive, forget & move on. I wanted to know is there another way for us leo ladies to get out from distresses after an abusive relationship apart from starts to date again?

Find a Sagittarius and let him sweep you off your feet.. Lol.

Posted by zoe gonzales
I'm a leo female. I'm not like the stereotype definition of Leo's for example: life of a party, flirts without trying, royal, luxurious and confident of being in the center of a crowd...I was the other way round. Lol.



Its been a month since my ex had left me. I was mentally abused by my ex so I had a hard time to forgive, forget & move on. I wanted to know is there another way for us leo ladies to get out from distresses after an abusive relationship apart from starts to date again?

Don't be too anxious about moving on, a month is barely any time at all- especially coming out of something you deem abusive.

At this juncture I would be optimistic if you felt like moving on after approx 6 months @_@

Give yourself plenty of leeway to grieve the relationship first. Make sure you have friends and/or family around to keep you relatively distracted - whether it's watching movies, curled up on the couch snacking and watching netflix or catching up on things you let slide while you were dating, maybe fitness, walking, reading a good book or hanging with pals.

Good luck 😘

Exactly, @Wagtail.



And I'm sorry, but idgaf if it sounds stupid, it's true: don't

effing let yourself go.

Get your hair done and spare no expense... and go back to the gym--

exercise is the healthiest way to get rid of the toxicity in your

body and your mind.

Doesn't have to be strict-- just a few times a week is good.

And most of all, be nice to yourself.

I see people on here looking for the next action, holding themselves

to rigid standards like there's a drill instructor involved.

So mean. lol

Take it easy.

You'll feel so much better.



🙂

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Posted by zoe gonzales
I'm a leo female. I'm not like the stereotype definition of Leo's for example: life of a party, flirts without trying, royal, luxurious and confident of being in the center of a crowd...I was the other way round. Lol.



Its been a month since my ex had left me. I was mentally abused by my ex so I had a hard time to forgive, forget & move on. I wanted to know is there another way for us leo ladies to get out from distresses after an abusive relationship apart from starts to date again?

Don't be too anxious about moving on, a month is barely any time at all- especially coming out of something you deem abusive.

At this juncture I would be optimistic if you felt like moving on after approx 6 months @_@

Give yourself plenty of leeway to grieve the relationship first. Make sure you have friends and/or family around to keep you relatively distracted - whether it's watching movies, curled up on the couch snacking and watching netflix or catching up on things you let slide while you were dating, maybe fitness, walking, reading a good book or hanging with pals.

Good luck 😘

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I've been trying to indulge myself, buying new clothes and shoe, go to kareokes, I'm involved myself in bonding time with my coworkers & relatives, starts to blend well with my two out of plenty 'in real life' friends that I've abandoned ever since I'm with my ex- but still I feel sort of emotionally numb.

Maybe its due to previously I was too depending on my ex to make me happy, while he, giving a cold treatment in return.

Now I'm not severely as sad as before, only occasionally when I drew myself back to things that reminds me of my ex. I'm just afraid of I cant be authentically happy in a long run 😢

aw, it's going to be fine - you're going to be fine.

I absolutely guarantee it! 😄

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Posted by zoe gonzales
I'm a leo female. I'm not like the stereotype definition of Leo's for example: life of a party, flirts without trying, royal, luxurious and confident of being in the center of a crowd...I was the other way round. Lol.



Its been a month since my ex had left me. I was mentally abused by my ex so I had a hard time to forgive, forget & move on. I wanted to know is there another way for us leo ladies to get out from distresses after an abusive relationship apart from starts to date again?

Exercising and eating better is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Maybe reconnect with things you liked to do before you were in a relationship. Like if you liked to write, or paint or something like that; then try to get back into it. When you're in an abusive relationship your partners needs can overtake yours and you may forget who you are and what you like. Take your time to grieve and be sad; vent to someone, it helps. It takes me at least 6 months and possibly over a year to get over somebody. I'm a Leo too, it's hard to move on even if the relationship wasn't that great because my loyalty is so deep. Maybe you should make a list of what you enjoy doing, and try to work that back into your daily routine.

I just remembered, I have this technique I used to move on from a very toxic person and situation last year. Imagine your ex in front of you, imagine what they're wearing and everything. Then say to your ex everything you have ever wanted to say to them, about how much they hurt you, how you wished things could have been different, everything. Say it aloud. Say it until you feel all tension leave your body. It helps. If it's too hard to do that, write them a letter saying everything you've ever wanted to but don't send it... throw it away, rip it up or burn it instead.

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Its true what you said my ex needs overtaking my own's. So now I'm gonna try to write the letter method in anytime soon. Thank you for sharing☺

Posted by MiZLeo
I agree with what everyone else has said. I'm going through a similar situation as the OP. Mentally abusive husband. Narcissistic ex boyfriend. I've actually had some ptsd because of it that has created some issues lately. I have started exercising and it does help. I've done the letter writing thing and then I burn it while imagining the person. Imagining the smoke taking the letter to them. I've gone and put my feet in the ocean and imagine the waves taking the pain away. Don't hold back your emotions, ride the waves. It's going to hurt.

As far as men are concerned I have 2 men helping me through it. One for sex...he's the only one I can stand to touch me, anyone else I've tried to be intimate with has stirred up my ptsd.....the other is going through a similar situation as I am so we are in the same boat riding the waves together. He wants to get intimate but I'm holding off on that. Ones a Virgo the other is an Aquarius. I find them grounding and refreshing at times. I'm used to dealing with mostly water and fire signs. They are both detached and allow me space when I need it and are both fully aware of my situation.

I'm gonna try writing the letter method anytime soon. If i'm ready, I'm gonna step my foot back to the beach coz there reminds me alot of our memories. I'm not ready yet to find remedy from any men or women, flings or fwb coz I was emotionally numb & no sexual feelings at all. Lol? anyway, thanks for your sharing.

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