Is this Leo man done with me?

*DISCLAIMER* This story is pretty long. If you don't feel like reading it all, skip to the last 2 or 3 paragraphs. So this fairytale gone wrong begins with a young Leo boy (16) and a young Virgo girl (17) meeting in high school. He was a super quiet
    This story is pretty long. If you don't feel like reading it all, skip to the last 2 or 3 paragraphs.

    So this fairytale gone wrong begins with a young Leo boy (16) and a young Virgo girl (17) meeting in high school. He was a super quiet underachiever and she was an super involved over achiever. Somehow these two bonded instantly over their shared interest in Xbox 360 and exchanged gamer tags. This was the beginning of a 3 year rollercoaster of a relationship.

    Everything was great between us for the first year. We eased into the relationship so organically but because he was so shy, I had to initiate most of the relationship "milestones" (first kiss, first I-love-you, etc). But was okay with that because we were super in love with each other. I don't want to sound self-absorbed but he was consumed with me. He texted me everyday, he called me every night and every morning, we watched movies all the time, and played the Xbox for hours. We thought we were going to be together forever and began talking about our future.

    One day I was hanging out with friends (I had just turned 18 at the time) and we started playing truth or dare. I was dared to act like I was breaking up with my Leo. I objected profusely because I knew how sensitive he was. I also knew that this was going to end bad but it was either do the dare or drink this disgusting cup of nastiness they threw together. So I did it and it was dramatic and broke my heart to see him so sad. He even Facebook messaged my mom saying that he loves me and that he was sorry he couldn't get to know her better. He cried and he begged me to stay. After a few minutes of this I couldn't bear it so I told him about the dare and how sorry I was. He didn't take that well either. I'm sure he thought he was being seem as a joke or something. Although he said he was relieved that I want breaking up with him, I know that instance began the downward spiral. So thinking back, I should've just drank the damn concoction.

    After this, I started to become somewhat distant. I was leaving for college and was focused on that. Since I was a year older than him, he remained in high school. Us talking everyday all day turned into us talking less and less often. He was always still so attentive when we did talk. But still, it wasn't the same. Since we were so distant and I was sort of feeling like the relationship was a burden, I called it off so many times but he never would leave. It was like he was living in a delusion. But each time I would break it off, he would get a little bit more distant from me until our our feelings were reversed. I was trying so hard and he was trying so little.

    Now at this point, I'm 19 and going into my second year in college. For about 7 months before hand, we talked almost every other week. During this time, I was talking to another guy. I was open with him about this and he made it seem like he didn't care. I didn't understand why he didn't care so I rubbed it in his face and showed him text messages of our conversations and asked him for advice about it. I was being a petty b****. And I know doing this only pushed him away more.

    The more he didn't want me the more I wanted him until I didn't care anymore and he would text me once a month or so until a week ago. This instance we started having a banterous conversation about Xbox one vs PS4 and wandered to a conversation about University. I asked him how college was and he asked me what I was going to do after I graduate. I said I was planning on going to law school and he replied "so it looks like I got me a lawyer". Then I replied "I'll still charge though". Of course I was only joking. Then we said goodnight and that was the end of that.

    Two days after that (around three days ago) I logged into his Facebook because I look at news stories and funny videos through his account. Usually his account is dead but a message popped up. I tried to ignore that red notification but I had to click on it and the message was from a woman. I clicked on the thread and i saw a long flirtatious conversation between him and the girl. She was pretty but she had to be six or so years older than him (he's 18). I felt anger well up inside of me and I confronted him about it. He told me that they were just friends and seemed pretty confused about why I still log into his Facebook acct. I was so mad. I told him that I was going to block him and never talk to him again but that was a bluff. Later on I apologized to him and told him that I would love to see him to rekindle our relationship and that I would be in his town for thanksgiving but after that he blocked me on iMessage and Facebook.

    Does blocking me mean he's done with me? He and the girl have been talking for a few days but he seems to be moving super quick with her (unfortunately I can still see their Facebook messages). I love him so much and would be willing to fix things but I just want to know if these last three years were a waste or if there's a chance he would unblock me and come back to me.
  • Chuckcem
    Four neighboring signs in four different elements...That's Me...
    Young love at it's finest.

    There's a lot to be said here, but the two of you are young. So the first thing to know is that most relationships that start in high school don't make it past college. At your age life/goal changes will arise that will bring you a variety of different experiences.

    That being said you have a lot of maturing to do. Accepting a dare to break up with your boyfriend was neglectful of his feelings. You sent the message that you are open to toying with his emotions and possibly throwing him under the bus at your convenience. Just think how you would have felt if the tables were reversed. This was reckless on your part, but not an insurmountable obstacle.

    As you mentioned when you went off to college, you felt that the relationship was a burden. This is because you were in a different phase of life. While you know the Leo loved you, you also had the desire to get new experiences and grow as a person. Your responsibilities had changed and your Leo could not relate to what you were experiencing in college. So you found the need to distance youself. This is natural and would have been a good time to break up.

    When you called off the relationship several times, the Leo started guarding his heart (building up an immunity against the pain he was feeling). He still loved you at this point, which is evident by him coming back to you. Since Leos in love are blindlhy stubborn and ruthlessly loyal, he wasn't prepared to let you go. He was still willing to make things work between you.

    When you started talking to another guy, the Leo was hurt, but was too proud to say anything. He'd already been hurt by you several times and chose to guard his heart even more. When you chose to be petty and rub the other guy in his face to prove a point, you only proved that you were no longer someone he could trust. To a Leo we see this as disloyalty. This is also about the point when the Leo realized he could no longer trust you with his heart. Speaking from experience and having been in love at 17/18 many years ago, this is when you truly started to lose him.

    Additionally you played hot/cold. As you mentioned the less the Leo interacted with you, the more you wanted him. This is because you were bored of your Leo's presence. When he was constantly available you found yourself slowly pulling away. However once he less accessible, you wanted his attention. It is only human nature to want what we can't have.

    So the Leo did what anyone would do. He moved on and found someone who was interested in him. Of course when you realized this, you became upset. This however was the nail the coffin. Remember when you rubbed the other guy in the Leo's face? Remember how he acted non chalant and didn't scold you. This is what you should have done.

    Instead you overstepped your bounds and tried manipulating the Leo by being passive aggressive and hypocritical. You tried scolding him about his female friend. Then when that didn't work, you tried going cold on him. By playing the hot/cold game you essentially disgusted your Leo and made the other woman look like a more viable romantic candidate. So in response we went cold on your permanently. He no longer saw you as a viable romantic candidate and used the negative emotions he built up to finally walk away.

    Also know that if a Leo blocks you, that means we are actively and unapologetically trying to push you away. While some Leos will bluff to get your attention, most Leos will only block a person they see absolutely no future with anymore. This is our way of removing pain and negativity from our lives. The Leo now sees you only as a source of pain in his life.

    Unfortunately you will never see the same love from this Leo agian. Once a Leo goes through heartbreak, we never come back in the same way (if we come back that is). This is ESPECIALLY true for our first loves. Young Leos love harder than probably any other sign. We are completely blind to reality. When are hearts are broken for the first time, we learn to protect our emotions are adamantly and are never as innocent or gullible again. This is a lesson all Leos must learn though at some point, so don't take it too hard.

    Leos value people who are honest, loyal, and direct. Also know that guys in general admire these qualities in women. A woman who plays mind games and is emotionally manipulative will not be as heavily sought after as one who is is direct and honest about her feelings (at least not for anything more than sex and short relationships). Guys are looking for a woman we can trust at the end of the day.

    Don't take this message as chastisement. You are still young and have a lot of maturing to do. Instead take this message as words of wisdom for the future. You will have a variety of relationships with different people. Be mindful of how you treat others and don't be careless with people's hearts. Be direct with those you care about and walk away from those who are not direct with you. Don't get caught up in silly mind games or manipulative tactics.
  • Hey, Summervirg.
    I procrastinating on DXPnet until I saw your post. Your situation sounds remarkably like mine; this is why I want to share my experience with you. My ex was also a Leo. Like you, I did not appreciate the love, admiration, loyalty and trust that my Leo once had for me until he was gone. I constantly threatened wot break up with him to test his limits (and also to see how much he cared about me). At first, he was devastated and begged me to go back to him. As time went by, and several mini breakups later, instigated by me, he took these episodes less seriously until he didn't care as much anymore. Soon after, I saw that he was speaking to somebody else and decided to break up with him. Like you, I was jealous and impulsive at that time. That was the last straw, and he never spoke to me again. Although he did not block me, he never responded to my pleas for him to come back to me.

    In conclusion, I think if you hurt a Leo, they would lose their trust, admiration and respect for you. Past a certain breaking point, the Leo would seek someone else to provide that emotional connection and "spark" that they had at the very start with you. It's strange that in life, we want what we cannot have and cannot appreciate what we have until it is gone. So I think if he blocks you, he is done with you. He was already detached enough to cut all contact with you. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Think before you act next time, and do not take a Leo from granted. Their patience and tolerance is very high, but past a certain point, they will shut you out from their life altogether and deem you no longer worthy of their love and attention.

    I was checking Facebook earlier today and decided to look him up and I could see that he unblocked me. This is good, right? He doesn't totally hate me...
  • Lol um he actually texted me today saying that he tried to get over me but he can't. I knew there was too much history there to even consider letting go. Thanks so much for your "help".
  • MoonshineLeo
    24 years old female from Texas
    Posted by SummerVirg
    Lol um he actually texted me today saying that he tried to get over me but he can't. I knew there was too much history there to even consider letting go. Thanks so much for your "help".

    Looks like Mercury retrograde got to him

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