Just a Cap Girl who Fell for a Leo Man and he just disappeared.

I know there has to be a Post about this somewhere. If there is, please forgive me for posting twice. And if you can..direct me to it. Nevertheless here's my issue

I met this Leo guy at my job. He's very attractive and I only started paying him attention when we started working more together. He pursused me, and I didn't want anything to do with him because he was still At the time, living with his fiance and her kids.

As we worked more together he started telling me how he's leaving her and going to get his own place. Which he did. I still wasn't moved. As a Capricorn professional woman we MAKE SURE things are ALL the way right...before we hook up or date anyone. Long story short...he got me with his charm. I mean caring, affecionate got me medicine when I was sick. So what the heck..I said fine, let's date.

So it has been 3 months and everything has been great. A few bumps here and there but nothing to complain about. Then he started to text less, call less...just been disapperaing slowly. I had a key to his apartment and I went to see if everything was ok with him...especially since I've been calling him constantly with no answer.

He's had some health issues with his back and he has missed A LOT of days from work so he's been in the slumps...but mainly our relationship has come to an end. And although I have tried to assure him that I'm here for him...he just said he wanted some time.

Fine I gave him his time. But when I would periodically call to check in on him or text...NOTHING. Like that really pissed me off. So I sent an angry text and told him that's kinda rude not to respond for DAYS. Like I only want to know if you're alive and doing well. I just couldn't take it...I'm sorry, this is my first Leo encounter..and this is crazy. So I went back to his place used the key I had and took whatver I had left over his place and kinda told him...take the time you need; but I can't be on hold for someone.

Maybe that was mean on my part...but I just don't get him. It's been weeks and all he text me back was "you're right". WTF—? Are you serious? After all the time I've been checking up on you. So I'm calling this a lost. But it was soooo sweet until he got in his slumps and disappeared. All I wanted was to be here for him.

Are Leo men THAT "undetached"? Like he has expressed so MANY things to me...even cried once. And opened up about him being jealous....yet he can just be gone like that. Mind boggling for this Cappy who loves to know and have things in control. This right here...too much.

Hiya @Angedoux
Could you please clarify the timeline for meh?
It's been 3months-
Since he left his fiancé
Since you started dating
Since you began working together
Since all of the above... 😕

It's a very tight timeframe, are you certain he wasn't rebounding? I'm sorry to ask so bluntly, it's awful but just something I thought might be possible...

No it's fine @wagtail. It's 3 months we've been together.
Before we dated or even talked he was staying in the basement of the house. And according to him...they were just in the house but had been separated before his move.

Posted by Angedoux
No it's fine @wagtail. It's 3 months we've been together.
Before we dated or even talked he was staying in the basement of the house. And according to him...they were just in the house but had been separated before his move.

Well I won't speculate, but overall view is you both have a LOT on your respective plates.
You might be prepared to shuffle things around to make it work, but his priorities may be very different.
A fiancé with kids (even if they aren't his) that's a bit to let go of.
Regardless, they may very well be over but it's an emotional process for a a Leo. Moving on from a situation like that.
I say give it time, and space. Not just between you but for yourself first and foremost.
Make sure your own ducks are in a row before investing too much energy in this guy.
It'll work out I'm sure 🙂

Thank you for your response. I appreaciate that so much @wagtail. Well shocking enough he out of the blue send me a long text.

Pretty much saying how this is VERY hard for him and he misses me, I'm his heart and he doesn't want to hurt me...blah blah blah. I don't know. I just can't understand if you care about a person...regardless if you're going through some health issues(its his back) why dissappear like that?

I kind of told him to do what he has to do and I'll let him have his time. On the other note...I can't just sit and wait on someone who is/isn't sure for whatever reason if they want to be with me or not. It was a FIRST time with me EVER experiencing anything like this.

Leo's can pursue you ALL the way out. Romance you, be kind and charming. Get you then go disappearing for whatever reason...yeah. That's crazy to me.

Well that's good ey? Bit of communication? Could be stringing you along...or could be trying to maintain a connection despite some difficulties - who knows ~shrug~
I dunno wat to say...
I can be 100% invested in someone I love, but just a hang nail makes me MIA for 3months.
Leo's are loners. At least as far as I know. It's not a reflection on the people we care about. We just need understanding and space.
But that's just meh, other kats are possibly different. 🙂
I admit it would be nice if we let you know, my inclination is if we aren't keeping you posted tho, it's not positive sorry

Thanks for responding. I've decided to wish him well and move on. @wagtail

Posted by Angedoux
Thanks for responding. I've decided to wish him well and move on. @wagtail

Good call 😎

Illnes and/or depression can make a Leo shut down big time. Just keep that in mind.

very much agree with sugarNspice.

^ yea it sounds like he's depressed :/

Yes...he's seriously depressed. I'm just going to respect him and give him his space. Thanks all

Hate to tell you this...
But he might not want space right now. As a Leo he might actually read that as abandonment.

He may want to hear that you care and that you're open to discussing his worries or concerns if he feels like opening up to you.

Leos are loyal people. Ask him if he really cares about his ex.