Leo And Cappy

Hello,

I have been dating a Leo for about 4 months. We knew eachother in school and had crushes on eachother. We came across on another on Facebook and started talking. I moved and he wanted to move in with me. At first, it was great. He hadn't been working bc he was recovering from a bad motorcycle accident. He did a ton of stuff around the place, was a super companion, kind, funny, showed me what love was. Something that I didn't know existed this way. Many times not sleeping for what seemed like days. I began to wonder but had no real proof and I 'm not one to accuse without proof. Suddenly this last month, nothing......

Then I started coming home from work to people (not so great looking) in our space. I don't even bring my own people to my space. Nothing done around the house that was usually done, he usually had dinner done, but now dishes all in the sink where he had ate all day and cleaned nothing, and him sitting in his chair like the was king of the castle. I started doing the cooking, cleaning, and feeding of the animals after work while he hung out....

Well, last Friday the Land lord asked for his part of the rent since he didn't help out around the property all week. He flew off the handle, and started yelling at me telling me to take him back to where he came from. I did just that. He got out at the entrance of his old neighborhood. Now, he is telling me that I am spreading rumors about him being on drugs, a thief, and no good. I haven't discussed this with anyone until now.

Are we over? Was it all a Lie? Was I taken advantage of?

What do I do? I miss him and the way he was at first. I want to be with him, but don't know how to go about correcting this.

You were only dating for 4 months and moved in together in that time? The problem is you moved far too fast before getting to know this person. From what you've described this guy could be a narcissist, a player, or just a guy who moves too fast in new relationships. What we do know is that this guy showed you his best self for the first 3 months (since it takes about 90 days for the honeymoon phase to end), then afterward he showed you his true self. Also since you two moved in together quickly, I would assume there wasn't a real conversation regarding your personal boundaries and house rules.

The good news is, yes the Leo you knew was more than likely real (so what you felt wasn't a lie). The bad new is, now that the honeymoon phase is over you are seeing even MORE reality. You saw the good side first and now you are seeing the bad side. Know you that when the Leo has a conflict with you, he will devolve into a angry child. This is a huge red flag. He KNOWS what type of person he is. That's why he is spreading rumors that you're talking about him behind his back. He knows that he's no good, so he's trying to get in front of that by reversing the script and gaining sympathy.

To be frank, you can't have a real relationship with this person. My advice for the future would be to take your time in your next relationship. Get to know the person before moving in with them. Lastly know that this Leo isn't mature enough to handle a real relationship. It's best to let him go.

Looks like you came across a typical leo douche. Sounds just like my ex. I wonder if he’s a moon in gemini too.

Thanks Chuckcem. I am starting to see alot clearer of this relationship.

Turns out that he was indeed using drugs. Meth I believe. After all has been said and done and packing his things, I found several baggies in random spots.

He is gone and I am good! 🤢gt;

I left the use out bc at the time I had no proof, but since he has been gone I have found solid proof and my eyes have been opened up to alot more that I didn't even realize.

We have talked and I have mentioned his getting help. He says he isn't in drugs and doesn't need help, that I'm just crazy and he doesn't want to be with someone who is always accusing him.

That's perfectly fine with me. I don't think I could enter back into another relationship with him as my trust is broken. I will offer emotional support should he ever decide he wants help, but as long as he is living in a house with other users I will not offer anything.

Posted by Chuckcem

You were only dating for 4 months and moved in together in that time? The problem is you moved far too fast before getting to know this person. From what you've described this guy could be a narcissist, a player, or just a guy who moves too fast in new relationships. What we do know is that this guy showed you his best self for the first 3 months (since it takes about 90 days for the honeymoon phase to end), then afterward he showed you his true self. Also since you two moved in together quickly, I would assume there wasn't a real conversation regarding your personal boundaries and house rules.

The good news is, yes the Leo you knew was more than likely real (so what you felt wasn't a lie). The bad new is, now that the honeymoon phase is over you are seeing even MORE reality. You saw the good side first and now you are seeing the bad side. Know you that when the Leo has a conflict with you, he will devolve into a angry child. This is a huge red flag. He KNOWS what type of person he is. That's why he is spreading rumors that you're talking about him behind his back. He knows that he's no good, so he's trying to get in front of that by reversing the script and gaining sympathy.

To be frank, you can't have a real relationship with this person. My advice for the future would be to take your time in your next relationship. Get to know the person before moving in with them. Lastly know that this Leo isn't mature enough to handle a real relationship. It's best to let him go.

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