Leo children

Just wondering how Leos cope with traumatic events as children. Did you internalize hurt and pain? And did it make you have emotional issues? What could your parents have done differently?

I have a cap moon. I learned to stuff them, because the trauma was too painful. In some instances, my feelings were dismissed (because to others the situation didn't warrant such a reaction), other times I was only allowed to express myself for a short period of time and then told to stop. I was taught to control my emotions because they weren't helpful.

I don't know that I have emotional issues because I still express them, to people who will accept them. I'm actually both resentful for being told to stuff them down and thankful that I was, because having that kind of control has served me well.

Posted by sultrykitty
I have a cap moon. I learned to stuff them, because the trauma was too painful. In some instances, my feelings were dismissed (because to others the situation didn't warrant such a reaction), other times I was only allowed to express myself for a short period of time and then told to stop. I was taught to control my emotions because they weren't helpful.

I don't know that I have emotional issues because I still express them, to people who will accept them. I'm actually both resentful for being told to stuff them down and thankful that I was, because having that kind of control has served me well.

Thank you for responding. My daughter is a Leo sun Virgo moon and there are some issues she’s had with her father and his wife. She’s stuffed down a lot and I think it’s time for her to let him know. He asked her if everything was ok, but she said yes. I told her she needed to tell him the truth about how she feels. She had an anxiety attack at school, which is not the norm for her.

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Posted by sultrykitty
I have a cap moon. I learned to stuff them, because the trauma was too painful. In some instances, my feelings were dismissed (because to others the situation didn't warrant such a reaction), other times I was only allowed to express myself for a short period of time and then told to stop. I was taught to control my emotions because they weren't helpful.

I don't know that I have emotional issues because I still express them, to people who will accept them. I'm actually both resentful for being told to stuff them down and thankful that I was, because having that kind of control has served me well.

Thank you for responding. My daughter is a Leo sun Virgo moon and there are some issues she’s had with her father and his wife. She’s stuffed down a lot and I think it’s time for her to let him know. He asked her if everything was ok, but she said yes. I told her she needed to tell him the truth about how she feels. She had an anxiety attack at school, which is not the norm for her.

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Yeah, I never had much problem telling people how I felt; for me, no one seemed to care.

Virgo looks similar to Cap but inside we're pretty different.

I do think in these situations the moon is going to play a bigger part than the sun, except that our Leo sensitivity may influence the reason for our expressing or not. We don't like hurting people or having them think we can't handle something.

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Posted by sultrykitty
I have a cap moon. I learned to stuff them, because the trauma was too painful. In some instances, my feelings were dismissed (because to others the situation didn't warrant such a reaction), other times I was only allowed to express myself for a short period of time and then told to stop. I was taught to control my emotions because they weren't helpful.

I don't know that I have emotional issues because I still express them, to people who will accept them. I'm actually both resentful for being told to stuff them down and thankful that I was, because having that kind of control has served me well.

Thank you for responding. My daughter is a Leo sun Virgo moon and there are some issues she’s had with her father and his wife. She’s stuffed down a lot and I think it’s time for her to let him know. He asked her if everything was ok, but she said yes. I told her she needed to tell him the truth about how she feels. She had an anxiety attack at school, which is not the norm for her.

As a dad to 2 Leo boys, I can say they do internalize a lot. Sometimes they feel like they can't rationalize what they are feeling so they push it down, but it doesn't go away, you can see it on them, and have to force them to stop and get it out in order to help.

I'd advise helping her open that dialog with her dad since she probably won't do it herself.

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Thanks for your response. I’ve had to make her open up in the past and it normally works. Her father in the past has not been open with her and would shut her down. She no longer feels comfortable talking to him. And it’s bad because she really doesn’t want a relationship with him anymore and he has no clue. It’s sad because I feel like he’s missing out on a wonderful relationship with our daughter.

Posted by Lioness18881
I always acted tough and was pretty resilient. I didn't have time to dwell on anything because something else would always come that i would have to deal with. I'm aries moon so i can jump from one thing to the next. I don't get too stuck. I didn't realise how much stuff affected me until i became an adult. I have virgo venus and mercury so i was very good at rationalizing things and separating emotions from events. I think the best you can do is give lots of love, don't let her become and adult too soon and let her have a childhood. Try not to burden her with too much adult stuff and responsibility. Stick up for her when she can't do it so she trusts someone to have her back. I think we have sensitive hearts and too much heart break isn't something we recover from. People think we're stronger than we are so we have the burden of living up to that expectation.

Thank you for your response. I do give her lots of loves and hugs. She’s an amazing daughter. I couldn’t ask for a better child. I just get worried because she no longer cries. She acts like everything is ok, but I know deep down inside it’s not. So I just try to hug her and kiss her face frequently. I admire her tenacity in tough situations but she will always be my little baby girl.

We will bottle it up and put on a strong face. We will become more less trusting of the people and place trust only in ourselves. We'll slowly appear callous, cold and/or intimidating. We'll seem very judgmental as our trust slowly fades.

If it becomes too much we'll become angry. This can come in a wide range of appearances, but it will be fairly out of character. The Leo will seem more antagonistic or detached than normal. This occurs when the Leo is trying to maintain composure, but is having a difficult time controlling the anger he/she is bottling up. Every Leo knows how destructive our anger can be. It's like a blind rush of rage and even we don't even like dealing with it.

An angry Leo can cut deep. We'll say (and possibly do) the worst things possible so that you'll feel how we felt. It will seem to come out of nowhere, but unlike Aquarian angry (which is more systematic), this is extremely emotional. In this way we can be known to take things too far. As if a flip switched and we're a completely different person.

The best thing to do is to teach a Leo kid how to voice his/her feelings. Leos are often more preoccupied with remaining positive than creating drama. Those who do seek to create drama are often just doing so for attention (because they never learned to voice their feelings). Leo is also a sign of strength, but we can be easily hurt as well. So we need to be taught how not to lash out, but also how not to ignore our feelings too.