Leo/ Libra compatibility??

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Posted by Kittenfish
Yeah I have a good feeling about this one...no mixed signals, but he has asked that we take it slow. He's not even a year out of a divorce, and his father died last fall.
We see each other about once a week, and it's always a great time - very amicable mix. I'm digging it.
After 3 failed Aqua relationships, this is feeling pretty good to me.
Ooooh I love this combo! Eeek keep us updated
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Hi! I have an update! The Libra and I are still having a great time. We had a beautiful date Sunday, and are now in contact at least a little every day - have been for the past few weeks. I've noticed that I'm the planner though. I plan to see him, but then when we meet up, we both plan what to do with him taking the lead on it, and having fun coming up with something fun. I give him space - we still only see each other once a week, and I'd like this to change, but I'm with this for now. Is it typical Libra behavior to be passive but wanting in seeing you? He has a lot going on in his life right now (divorce papers signed w the ex Monday), but I want to see him twice a week now. We live ridiculously close (4-5 blocks apart). We're about 2.5 months in to dating. Any pointers on how to amp his interest? He has a Leo moon, fyi...

I'm thinking about asking him out for spontaneous hangouts as well as scheduled dates - maybe the problem is we have only had scheduled dates up until now? We have a little bit of a work schedule difference, so it's been making meeting up a little difficult. The problem is I really don't want to be the chaser (I am totally the chaser - fuck) I want him to lead more.

Don't want to scare this one off
I really like him - I can tell he likes me. Really the only problem I have is that I want to wake up with him more often...

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Posted by MiZLeo
He just signed divorce papers. Give him a moment to digest that. Libras are pretty quick to get back into relationships but are you sure you're not the rebound?
I thought I might be at first, but he rarely brings up his ex. There's no resentment or anger there - split was mutual, and happened 8 months ago. It's really more of a getting to know you relationship we're having, not a super sex filled rebound-like thing.

But you know, it's always going to be in the back of my mind - am I a rebound or not? Ultimately I guess what matters is how he makes me feel. He makes me feel important, not like I'm a placeholder for someone else.

I'm following the advice here, and giving him room/ space to do his thing.
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Sort of blue...haven't seen the Libra in over a week. On Monday, he made a date for this coming Friday, but then texted Tuesday to say he might have a gig that night, but he's keep me posted, and that if he didn't have a gig, we could definitely hangout. I told him it wasn't a problem, and that i hope he had a good day. Space - I give it. I just want to say that it's hard.

I was doing fine until I watched this short film about a 3 legged puppy, then I started bawling. I need a hug. I'm sure everything's fine. Video below...it's really good:

https://vimeo.com/152985022

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Tried this combo. Went good till I gave her the D. Then she went lvl 5 stalker and got MAJORLY insecure and jelly.
...you tried giving her a 3 legged puppy?
That might have worked. Would have taken her focus off me. Plus, her dog was an asshole
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Hahahaha! So what happened? You were hooking up w some girl NSA, and she started texting you all the time?
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Tried this combo. Went good till I gave her the D. Then she went lvl 5 stalker and got MAJORLY insecure and jelly.
...you tried giving her a 3 legged puppy?
That might have worked. Would have taken her focus off me. Plus, her dog was an asshole
Hahahaha! So what happened? You were hooking up w some girl NSA, and she started texting you all the time?
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LOL. Wasn't NSA at all. I actually knew her and danced with her several times. We had some wings and beer, laughed our asses off then she invited me over, did the deed. Before I got in the truck she done changed her FB status to in a relationship, tagged me in it and then posted on my wall about 10 love songs. I was like wtf is going on here. Then, she messages my sister on FB saying they should grab lunch. My sis is like "who the hell are you"?

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Tried this combo. Went good till I gave her the D. Then she went lvl 5 stalker and got MAJORLY insecure and jelly.
...you tried giving her a 3 legged puppy?
That might have worked. Would have taken her focus off me. Plus, her dog was an asshole
Hahahaha! So what happened? You were hooking up w some girl NSA, and she started texting you all the time?
LOL. Wasn't NSA at all. I actually knew her and danced with her several times. We had some wings and beer, laughed our asses off then she invited me over, did the deed. Before I got in the truck she done changed her FB status to in a relationship, tagged me in it and then posted on my wall about 10 love songs. I was like wtf is going on here. Then, she messages my sister on FB saying they should grab lunch. My sis is like "who the hell are you"?

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WTF— Oh wow that is crazy!!! Yeah no I've got my head on straight over here. I'm only dating this guy, but we both have expressed feelings. Still not official. Still not wanting it to be either- and that goes for both of us. We both have baggage we're dealing with. Stalkers are out there though. I had a guy ask me to be his girlfriend after 2 dates (he had known me for a whopping 5 days total) then asked me why I was playing "shit games" when I declined.

Slow and steady wins the race - or I guess, keeps you from the crazy.
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e together some tidbits here for you, since the red flags were pretty obvious from the beginning. Sadly, a few here misled you into thinking this was going to be more than it led on.

Posted by Kittenfish
I thought I might be at first, but he rarely brings up his ex. There's no resentment or anger there - split was mutual, and happened 8 months ago. It's really more of a getting to know you relationship we're having, not a super sex filled rebound-like thing.

But you know, it's always going to be in the back of my mind - am I a rebound or not? Ultimately I guess what matters is how he makes me feel. He makes me feel important, not like I'm a placeholder for someone else.

I'm following the advice here, and giving him room/ space to do his thing.
You gave him space and he disappeared for 3 months. Sounds like he's really into you and wants to get to know you. *nods seriously*

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Sort of blue...haven't seen the Libra in over a week. On Monday, he made a date for this coming Friday, but then texted Tuesday to say he might have a gig that night, but he's keep me posted, and that if he didn't have a gig, we could definitely hangout. I told him it wasn't a problem, and that i hope he had a good day. Space - I give it. I just want to say that it's hard.

I was doing fine until I watched this short film about a 3 legged puppy, then I started bawling. I need a hug. I'm sure everything's fine. Video below...it's really good:

https://vimeo.com/152985022


Went from making you feel important to not bothering with you for a week and flaking on plans. Which turned into what, THREE months of no contact?

You even said so yourself in a Libra thread- "they do the slow fade."

And then I'll add on this tidbit that was admitted by a Libra in that same thread-

Posted by luckiedollsmith
Sadly Libras do kind of cut you off if they found somebody better company than you. Sometimes libras really don't see people as people, they just see people that they can use for their own personal social benefit, then when they are done with you or tired of you and your company (Which is often) They will disappear.
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Tbh, it's up to you whether you go on that "date" or not. Personally, I wouldn't, despite being morbidly curious to see wtf nonsense he'd try to veil his shitty behavior under. But it sounds like dude is playing with his options and using his divorce as leeway to play the field. "I'm not ready for anything serious, so give me my space so I'm not accountable for any consideration toward you as an individual."
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Posted by Kittenfish
Soooo...I haven't seen this guy in 4 months. We haven't spoken in 3. He just popped up this weekend, and said he was thinking of me...hoped I was doing well, and asked me on a date for this Friday. Any insight into Leebs on this one? Should I go—


Keep in mind, dudes do this when they want something from you. Whoever was entertaining his user ass the last few months isn't in the picture and you came up in his mental database of people he can use to entertain himself for the time being.

Here, you'll need to use this liberally.

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Posted by Kittenfish
Soooo...I haven't seen this guy in 4 months. We haven't spoken in 3. He just popped up this weekend, and said he was thinking of me...hoped I was doing well, and asked me on a date for this Friday. Any insight into Leebs on this one? Should I go—


Keep in mind, dudes do this when they want something from you. Whoever was entertaining his user ass the last few months isn't in the picture and you came up in his mental database of people he can use to entertain himself for the time being.

Here, you'll need to use this liberally.

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...yup...sigh. This is why I haven't been dating. Not like this fuckers gonna change anything. He'll probably make me feel worse about myself after so it's best to just - not. Thanks for the advise.
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Posted by Kittenfish
Soooo...I haven't seen this guy in 4 months. We haven't spoken in 3. He just popped up this weekend, and said he was thinking of me...hoped I was doing well, and asked me on a date for this Friday. Any insight into Leebs on this one? Should I go—


Keep in mind, dudes do this when they want something from you. Whoever was entertaining his user ass the last few months isn't in the picture and you came up in his mental database of people he can use to entertain himself for the time being.

Here, you'll need to use this liberally.

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...yup...sigh. This is why I haven't been dating. Not like this fuckers gonna change anything. He'll probably make me feel worse about myself after so it's best to just - not. Thanks for the advise.
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Dating is exhausting because this shit just seems way too common, sadly. However, women NOT tolerating this bullshit would help cut this back, yet women still entertain bad behavior like this and guys continue to do it.

They need a smack on the nose with a newspaper to get it through their entitled heads that this is not okay. But women won't do it so they just keep doing it over and over with no consequence. In the meantime, let some other, silly bitch tolerate this behavior. You don't have to, that's for sure.