Married Leo giving mixed signals.....

I work with him, so we spend many hours around each other. He is a recently married and a brand new daddy. We are pretty close, and have even walked a similar path in life, so we do understand each other. Recently, I have noticed a change in his demeanor. It's like hes losing interest or is unsatisfied with his wife. She won't work and now with the baby she really doesn't wnt to work, and this has placed a huge financial burden on him. But, I believe, through things he has said, that he just might to a certain extent really dislike her.

Usually he and I are on the same page, but he got really confrontational with me, to the point I had to give him the silent treatment. I understand that he's going thru some stuff, but I am really starting to become concerned about his behavior being self-destructive. I don't know if leos are likely to cheat when they are married, but if he were to cheat, it would be now. He really doesn't talk highly about his wife, and that really shocked me, especially coming from a leo. I thought leos schtick was loyalty.

I feel like he's testing me too, which makes me uncomfortable. Being an aries, I'm the wrong girl to be playing games with but seeing him in this light questions his loyalty towards me as a friend and as a co-worker/ possible business partners. Are leos that unstable when not happy? Or does the love life have such an effect on leo that it filters thru other aspects of life? I guess I'm just surprised to see him act this way, almost over dramatic and under dramatic at the same time. He keeps a cool demeanor for the most part, but maybe its because he and I work so much together that he automatically feels he can drop his guard. It truly is like a rollercoaster, sometimes leaving me a bit drained, and I am high octane energy!!!

Can I get some light shed from other leos—

Posted by Jynja
Confused.

Are you asking if Leos are human, too?

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Not to be rude here Mars in Aries, but while reading your post all I could think was, "Who are you to comment on anything dealing with his marriage?" Your post just smacks of every reason why wives hate mistresses...

You think he really dislikes his wife, eh? Because if you thought he loved her how would that help him?...You think she "really" doesn't want to work now because she's got this brand new baby, eh?

Disgusting. I wish my husband would go to work and associate with any woman who feels she knows our marriage or our household. Go get your own damn husband. It would be totally different if you knew this woman too, then you'd be able to say "she's my friend too and she told me she doesn't want to work" but no, you get everything conveniently filtered through a man? LOL Hilarious. Oh and you are "business partners" with him but not with the wife too, huh?

This just disgusts me on so many levels. But that is what Karma is for. End of Rant.

Mocha

And I must add the title of your post says "Married Leo giving mixed signals"...

The jokes almost write themselves dearie.

Mocha

Posted by mochacaremel
Not to be rude here Mars in Aries, but while reading your post all I could think was, "Who are you to comment on anything dealing with his marriage?" Your post just smacks of every reason why wives hate mistresses...

You think he really dislikes his wife, eh? Because if you thought he loved her how would that help him?...You think she "really" doesn't want to work now because she's got this brand new baby, eh?

Disgusting. I wish my husband would go to work and associate with any woman who feels she knows our marriage or our household. Go get your own damn husband. It would be totally different if you knew this woman too, then you'd be able to say "she's my friend too and she told me she doesn't want to work" but no, you get everything conveniently filtered through a man? LOL Hilarious. Oh and you are "business partners" with him but not with the wife too, huh?

This just disgusts me on so many levels. But that is what Karma is for. End of Rant.

Mocha

Posted by mochacaremel
And I must add the title of your post says "Married Leo giving mixed signals"...

The jokes almost write themselves dearie.

Mocha

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I really like this 🙂

having been a wife in this scenario i have to agree with mocha. how could you even be interested in a man who is so disrespectful about the woman who has just borne his child!! i mean, doesn't that make you question his integrity? is that the kind of man who turns you on?

i just don't understand what happens to sisterhood sometimes. i would never EVER disrespect someone else's relationship by indulging them telling me things i have no business knowing.

anyhow. just the fact you are interested shows you have zero integrity too and so perhaps you would make a perfect couple.

any thoughts about the baby involved in all this? whatever your 'relationship' with him is, it's just inappropriate.

thank god for karma.

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Um, the post was more about the integrity of leo's........ I know the wife, so that is why what he says makes me uncomfortable. He has said that she doesn't want to go to work, which is understandable, but he has criticized her lack of self motivation and the fact that she's not a self starter. There is strain right there, of course. I can see what it physically does to him, because I'm right there working the exact same hours.

Maybe you should re-read what I wrote, because I clearly state that I'm alarmed at his recent change in behavior, which does make me feel uncomfortable. This wasn't anything about being a mistress, or having scorned females jump the gun. It was more trying to rationalize his behavior. As an Aries, I could flat out just be blunt with him and ask questions about his marriage, but I do more of the listening because I don't want to be placed in the moral dilemma of having to speak truths, especially since I know her.

Its just some of the things he has said has made me wonder if he's the type to cheat in order to aliviate his stresses. And yes, this makes me question about his integrity as a business partner. It doesn't make me feel secure knowing we are 50/50 in a business relationship when he might possibly jeopardize his marriage. I want stability in a partner, just in any relationship. The way he is acting is self-destructive. My first reaction is to act as a friend and be there for him, but when it comes down to business, having your private business be known at work on such a level is a bit too honest, even for my liking.

My inquiry was honest and pure..... I simply wanted feed back on whether a leo's personal life can have such an astounding affect on them that they unravel and are willing to throw everything that they have worked hard for away. Like I said, it's exhausting sometimes, because it truly is up and down with him that it's hard to keep up on what "level" he might be. I'm worried by his recent behavior, so I guess I was just trying to get more feedback on whether this is something common as a leo trait. I know what I would do as a female Aries, and that would be to lay down the law, but this leo is someone that I do care about and is someone that I am loyal to. I guess, ultimately, I want to know if he is worth the drama that is attached with the deal.....

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
having been a wife in this scenario i have to agree with mocha. how could you even be interested in a man who is so disrespectful about the woman who has just borne his child!! i mean, doesn't that make you question his integrity? is that the kind of man who turns you on?

i just don't understand what happens to sisterhood sometimes. i would never EVER disrespect someone else's relationship by indulging them telling me things i have no business knowing.

anyhow. just the fact you are interested shows you have zero integrity too and so perhaps you would make a perfect couple.

any thoughts about the baby involved in all this? whatever your 'relationship' with him is, it's just inappropriate.

thank god for karma.

What— Where re you getting this from?I mean ,seriously, is this the typical Leo response?? To be so dramatic— I'm starting to realize that it is, in fact, a common trait. Obviously one that stems from insecurity......... I have plenty of integrity. It's why I can stand on my own two feet and lay in my own bed, drive my own car, and conduct my own business. My reputation is something I take pride in, a trait that I thought I shared with this leo. Now, if I had said that there has been flirting amongst us, touching, etc..... then I think you ladies would have a leg to stand on. But alas, every other female of the zodiac is threaten by the Tom Boy Aries female who does *gasp* get to hear the inner most feelings of your boyfriends/husbands about you. I would feel insecure about me too.......

Posted by Mars.In.Aries

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
having been a wife in this scenario i have to agree with mocha. how could you even be interested in a man who is so disrespectful about the woman who has just borne his child!! i mean, doesn't that make you question his integrity? is that the kind of man who turns you on?

i just don't understand what happens to sisterhood sometimes. i would never EVER disrespect someone else's relationship by indulging them telling me things i have no business knowing.

anyhow. just the fact you are interested shows you have zero integrity too and so perhaps you would make a perfect couple.

any thoughts about the baby involved in all this? whatever your 'relationship' with him is, it's just inappropriate.

thank god for karma.

What— Where re you getting this from?I mean ,seriously, is this the typical Leo response?? To be so dramatic— I'm starting to realize that it is, in fact, a common trait. Obviously one that stems from insecurity......... I have plenty of integrity. It's why I can stand on my own two feet and lay in my own bed, drive my own car, and conduct my own business. My reputation is something I take pride in, a trait that I thought I shared with this leo. Now, if I had said that there has been flirting amongst us, touching, etc..... then I think you ladies would have a leg to stand on. But alas, every other female of the zodiac is threaten by the Tom Boy Aries female who does *gasp* get to hear the inner most feelings of your boyfriends/husbands about you. I would feel insecure about me too.......

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well obviously my comments are tainted with bad experience. my ex husband is aries and his partner is also aries although i have to say i am absolutely not insecure in myself at all but yeah, it hurt knowing my husband and father to our kids was confiding in a woman initially about our marriage and he alllowed it to escalate to a degree that he destroyed everything.

as a businesswoman myself i simply don't deal with people who bring their private lives to the office. i have no interest in their personal dilemnas, particularly if it involves someone i know outside work. also the issue of integrity i was applying to the work situation too. i mean where exactly is his focus?

anyhow....sorry to imply anything to the contr

to the contrary but you did give the impression that it was all some kind of exciting ride you were getting a buzz out of.

Posted by Mars.In.Aries

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
having been a wife in this scenario i have to agree with mocha. how could you even be interested in a man who is so disrespectful about the woman who has just borne his child!! i mean, doesn't that make you question his integrity? is that the kind of man who turns you on?

i just don't understand what happens to sisterhood sometimes. i would never EVER disrespect someone else's relationship by indulging them telling me things i have no business knowing.

anyhow. just the fact you are interested shows you have zero integrity too and so perhaps you would make a perfect couple.

any thoughts about the baby involved in all this? whatever your 'relationship' with him is, it's just inappropriate.

thank god for karma.

What— Where re you getting this from?I mean ,seriously, is this the typical Leo response?? To be so dramatic— I'm starting to realize that it is, in fact, a common trait. Obviously one that stems from insecurity......... I have plenty of integrity. It's why I can stand on my own two feet and lay in my own bed, drive my own car, and conduct my own business. My reputation is something I take pride in, a trait that I thought I shared with this leo. Now, if I had said that there has been flirting amongst us, touching, etc..... then I think you ladies would have a leg to stand on. But alas, every other female of the zodiac is threaten by the Tom Boy Aries female who does *gasp* get to hear the inner most feelings of your boyfriends/husbands about you. I would feel insecure about me too.......

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RIgs not a Leo 🙂

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Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
having been a wife in this scenario i have to agree with mocha. how could you even be interested in a man who is so disrespectful about the woman who has just borne his child!! i mean, doesn't that make you question his integrity? is that the kind of man who turns you on?

i just don't understand what happens to sisterhood sometimes. i would never EVER disrespect someone else's relationship by indulging them telling me things i have no business knowing.

anyhow. just the fact you are interested shows you have zero integrity too and so perhaps you would make a perfect couple.

any thoughts about the baby involved in all this? whatever your 'relationship' with him is, it's just inappropriate.

thank god for karma.

It's why I can stand on my own two feet and lay in my own bed, drive my own car, and conduct my own business. My reputation is something I take pride in, a trait that I thought I shared with this leo. Now, if I had said that there has been flirting amongst us, touching, etc..... then I think you ladies would have a leg to stand on. But alas, every other female of the zodiac is threaten by the Tom Boy Aries female who does *gasp* get to hear the inner most feelings of your boyfriends/husbands about you. I would feel insecure about me too.......

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How cute. Leo is a masculine sign, and quite Alpha. There's nothing to be insecure about 😉

Anyway, whatever is going on - he's a new daddy, new babies can be difficult especially if its a first, him and his wife are probably struggling and learning at the same time but in different ways, maybe one of his ways of coping is to unload all of his problems onto a trusted friend/business partner. Go with it, let him let it out, if you are truly a friend, a good Aries will always ALWAYS listen and try to find a solution, a bad one will tune out of a friends distress and make it about themselves.

FWIW, I've never felt threatned by an Aries fluff, male or female, au contraire 😉

sorry but it must've been the thread's title that gave me the impression this was nothing to do with business. my ears totally stop working if someone starts talking about their personal shit at work but i realise i'm a little on the obsessive side when it comes to business.