My First Leo Man!

So I met this Leo guy about 4 months ago and we've had crazy chemistry. I made the mistake of going to bed with him and figured I'd never hear from him again, but we've actually continued to see eachother.....not often mind you. He's had some personal stuff happen and he LOVES to be with his enormous amount of friends.

I've never pushed him for more as I could sense pretty early on this was not a guy that would respond well to a needy female constantly wanting his attention.

A few weeks ago, out of nowhere, we're making plans to see eachother and he's talking like he's crazy excited to see me and asking me to get to his place as early as possible and that he was going to get the tv and everything set up in his bedroom so we could have a few hours of cuddling and movies. Up until then we had never cuddled or been close like that.

So we're cuddling and he starts to subtly open up to me a bit. Telling me a few things about his past (which is quite sordid as he was in trouble alot when he was young). Then I saw him 2 weeks later and I get to his place and he's all set up for more cuddlinh and again starts telling him even more about himself, his life, his past ect...

I should note that he is going through a really rough time right now and has told me via text that he's really depressed, which actually makes me more surprised that he would even want to spend tome with me let alone start opening up to me while he's so down.

He makes subtle remarks when we're together like I'm licky he likes me because he doesn't let ANYONE see him when he's like this (depressed, vulnerable, not his usual happy self ect...)

But the part that confuses me is, even though he obviously likes me (why else would he bother to actually open up to me), after we see eachother he can go a week or even two just basically ignoring any messages I send him. I don't message him everyday or anything crazy. I might get a sporadic short response now and then. But he disappears for the most part. Then suddenly he'll message me and be crazy excited to see me...like he didn't just go mia for 2 weeks.

This is my first leo, but I'm aware they can be difficult on a persons patience lol. Is this fairly typical leo behavior? Sorry this was so long

Going through something similar myself. Seems they go into an "aftershock" mode when things get really personal.

Hmm, be careful. We Leos are VERY transparent when we like someone. We also like to connect more and more the closer we get to you. Yes we like our freedom, but if we like you, you'll see and hear from us rather consistently. We don't leave people hanging for one to two weeks if we really care about them.

There are some red flags here for sure. The fact that he was (and possibly still is) a bad boy with a troubled past can be like cat nip to women. The thing that's ringing my "player" alarm is that he opens up to you, then pretty much disappears. While it can be hard for us to become emotionally open to someone, we're not altogether oblivious to the power of our emotions. The bad boy who opens up to that ONE girl thing is an easy trick to pull for some people and because Leos can be guarded about our emotions, we can make it very believable. Then by ghosting, it keeps you on the hook wanting more. He makes you "chase" him essentially as you try to unravel the mystery.

Also astrology aside, just know that if you give up the goods too quickly, guys won't always take you as seriously as you'd want. Instead of trying to build a relationship with you, they'd be more inclined to create a bond that simply leads them to sex. Sounds like you're constantly going over to his place? Has he taken you out on a date yet? A guy who is willing to spend money on you in public is definitely trying to garner your affection. If he already has you coming over, he won't bother with this step at all. You may not care about that too much, except if you were to find out he is taking OTHER women out on dates, which leads to my next point.

Leos are notorious for having other romantic options when single/not-exclusive. Depending on the Leo they could be casual dating options, hook up options, on/off relationships, etc. I suspect when you're not hearing from this Leo a week or so at a time, he's entertaining someone else. Again this may not be an issue for you right now, but because he hasn't tried courting you to build a relationship, this may be an issue in the future. Also Leos can still be vocal if we has other casual interests. Him going quiet worries me.

He seems to like you and it's very possible you touched his heart, but be aware that you don't really KNOW this person and he could be using this same line on other women.

Thank you for the responses!

Chuckcem, thank you for so much insite. We've never gone "out", but maybe it's worth noting that the personal issues he's going through right now is that he got hurt at work (broke his right arms) and has been out of work since Feb 8th and his doc put him off another 2-3 months.... he's super stressed and depressed and having a hard time with it.

Also, at one point I straight out asked him if he was sleeping with anyone else and I was actually shocked when he didn't lie to me. He told me he was casually sleeping with an older married women who he's known for years, but that it didn't happen often. Last time I was at his place about a week and a half ago, he told me he had nothing to do with her anymore....without me even asking him. I was just chilling watching tv when he came out with that.

He's certainly a baffling character for sure!

Aquarius_beauty.. I see where your point is coming from. I'm trying to not make excuses for his behavior. I'm also trying not to get my hopes up or expect too much just yet.

Having never dealt with a man like this before, that leo charm just came right out of nowhere and hit me like BAM!!! Completely knocked me off my guard. I'm sure that other women practically throw their panties at this guy

Capmercury87.. I've never had my chart done. I'm a Libra and all I know about him is he's a Leo born August 8th

I should note that he seems to have also gone silent on both facebook and snapchat. Like not interacting with anyone on there either when he is generally very active on both

To be honest I guess I'm not totally surprised by this....right from day 1 even though he puts on a good act like nothing bothers him....the impression I got and my gut feeling was that he was going yo be a tough nut to crack and this is a guy who keeps his heart VERY well guarded

He was married to the mother of his kids and from what i know she was very abusive towards him (I was told this by other people that we know in common) and the next long term relationship he had (9 years) ended badly after he apparently raised HER 3 kids while she did nothing. To the point where he was going to work for 1 hour in the morning and then coming home to get her kids out of bed, fed abd off to school. When I asked what she did, I was told "nothing"

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Thank you for the responses!

Chuckcem, thank you for so much insite. We've never gone "out", but maybe it's worth noting that the personal issues he's going through right now is that he got hurt at work (broke his right arms) and has been out of work since Feb 8th and his doc put him off another 2-3 months.... he's super stressed and depressed and having a hard time with it.

Also, at one point I straight out asked him if he was sleeping with anyone else and I was actually shocked when he didn't lie to me. He told me he was casually sleeping with an older married women who he's known for years, but that it didn't happen often. Last time I was at his place about a week and a half ago, he told me he had nothing to do with her anymore....without me even asking him. I was just chilling watching tv when he came out with that.

He's certainly a baffling character for sure!

Interesting. So he's having a pretty weak moment, which we Leos HATE. It's good he is being honest (as far as we know) about the other person/people he's sleeping with as well. A weakened Leo will remember those who had our backs in a time of need for sure BUT, I'm still looking at his erratic communication.

Also as aquarius_beauty said, beware of anyone using you as their emotional blanket. Leos can sulk pretty hard when depressed and aren't above using people. Since everything is so early, be mindful of the fact you don't really know this guy. Basically don't get TOO attached yet.

Chuckcem--- Thanks! I certainly do see your points and the red flags here as well.

I'm thinking for now I'm just going to back off and leave him be. I may still send him the odd message so knows I'm still here and I still care (as any good friend would), but I'm not going to make any attempts to make plans with him.....we'll see what happens!