My Leo friend disappeared from me

Give him time. He really might be busy.

Is there anything in his horoscope that could explain this? Are Cap Moons a bit closed off maybe? He's said before he has a hard time talking about things that he feels are "private", and I find that he, a lot of time, will repeat words and things I say (I talk a lot and have no problem talking about my feelings), sort of like "that's the word I'm looking for".

SOMETIMES.....

We build a thing up tremendously in our our mind, because we want it

SO BAD(ly), and then... when we actually GET it?

I have the same placements as him, except I have Leo mars. That could be the difference, because

a) I know right away whether I want someone romantically before I want to be friends; friendship comes later for me. If someone is a friend first, it's near impossible for me to see them as a romantic interest.

b) I never leave a romantic interest hanging for more than a couple of days, especially if something intense happened; I'll want to experience it again ASAP.

His Cap mars may be what's holding him back, but if you've been close friends for a while already, I don't know what more he'd be needing to be sure of.

If it were me, I would be having a hard time reconciling what happened with how I honestly feel about you. And whether those two things are compatible if anything were to happen beyond friendship.

I'm not sure you should have any expectations that he will want to move forward with a romantic relationship at this point, but to continue the friendship after any residual awkwardness fades.

LOL, well as usual, I'm just surprised at people's lack of manner and lack of honesty... to be honest.
I did give him a way out and told him to just tell me. I mean, no need to mean about it, you could just diplomatically tell the other person that you're not sure
how to proceed with all of us.. telling them that they're still into the idea when they're not is just plain mean.

Well, this didn't happen over night really, or over night, it happened gradually - we did flirt for a long time, shouldn't he have been able to make his mind up already?

*all of this, not us.
Damn, I need to preview my messages before I send them.

Even stranger is that he TOLD me he has feelings for me, and I know for sure he doesn't take those things lightly.

Trust me, I don't hang around people if I'm not wanted, but probably not going give up until I get some clarity. How do you bring a question like this forward without being too agressive about it? I'm used to laying it all out on the table but I know he's not a big fan of any form of conflict..

Maybe he was just busy. I know when I'm busy I tend to neglect the ones I care about without me realizing it and without WANTING.
You're deff someone special to him, I'm sure of it.

"b) I never leave a romantic interest hanging for more than a couple of days, especially if something intense happened; I'll want to experience it again ASAP." TRUE
We LOVE strong emotions, almost theatrical, been swept off our feet.

Maybe, like I said, he really was busy OR maybe he's confused on whether you represent a romantically or a friendly figure to him.

I'm a cancer venus but everything is the same as his. Something like this happened between me and a Virgo as well. Not sure her other placements.

As a Leo he might have been thinking about it for some time but his cap moon wouldn't let him be so bold considering your friendship. For me, once the Virgo and I kissed it was magical. The buildup between us had been months in the making. I really couldn't believe it and I fondly remember the way she smiled and tugged my ear when I said I was falling for her.

The aftermath is a different story. She came on strong like really strong. To me this was a bit difficult for me. It became to real too quick and leo/caps placement don't like losing control. I feel safe initiating and subtlety controlling it. I ran from it and we don't talk anymore.

My advice is to take it slow. Appeal to his leo side and be fun, playful, and let him shine. Appeal to his cap placement and let him go at his own pace. If my Virgo wasnt so negative, a but more carefree, and controlling things between us might have been different. I'm not saying you're negative or controlling but just giving you my side. I wish you the best of luck.

Posted by bloobaz
Maybe he was just busy. I know when I'm busy I tend to neglect the ones I care about without me realizing it and without WANTING.
You're deff someone special to him, I'm sure of it.

"b) I never leave a romantic interest hanging for more than a couple of days, especially if something intense happened; I'll want to experience it again ASAP." TRUE
We LOVE strong emotions, almost theatrical, been swept off our feet.

Maybe, like I said, he really was busy OR maybe he's confused on whether you represent a romantically or a friendly figure to him.

Yeah, thanks, let's just say I'm old enough to see and feel when someone has feelings for me and/or is attracted to me, so I'm pretty sure he HAS feelings, but like you said, might be struggling with them and also deciding if he wants to go any further.. maybe I should also mention that this is a long distance thing, not sure that matters to him, but maybe.

That's how it started with us. I bought her flowers for her birthday since she said nobody ever bought her flowers for her birthday. A few months later it started.

Maybe controlling was the wrong choice of words. I did feel pressured. You sound much more laid back and less crazy than my Virgo. Just remember leos hate nagging. We're a crazy bunch that can flip a script in a matter of seconds. We're also pretty stupid concerning our egos. But we are also considered the most generous sign out there. I swear when I'm happy I can spoil a girl rotten.

Im not sure about leg cramping. I guess you could be right about nerves. You really can't control a cramp. He might have been tensing up for a while or.... Maybe he faked the cramp to really understand the situation. Once he was comfortable he got really into it.

The only other thing you could do it relax lol...

Yeah well, I asked him how he was, no reply.
So yeah.. leaving it alone for a longer while now, then I'm sorting out for real and just ask him straight out and tell him this feels odd to me, because I think this behavior is ridiculous 😢

Hi guys, i also have some problems with my boyfriend which he is a leo man.

He has not been texting me for about for about four to five days. The last conversation he has with me was, he telling me that he need to think through certain thing 1st and this month is not a month for him. He also mentioned that he will get back to me soon. Does it mean that he is under a depression and stress of work? Will he get back to me ? I am so worry ... 😢

Sounds like it, I understand you're worried, but at least he's being honest and upfront with you about it.
Try contacting him after a couple of weeks and ask how he is 🙂

So, people, I asked him straight out - I felt sick and tired of being ignored and didn't like feeling like I was invisible and worthless - but I asked him very diplomatically and without jumping to any conclusion - got a lenghty reply about being busy and shit and then "and I also met someone else I fell really hard for."

This was literally one of the coldest things anyone's ever done to me and very out of character for this guy.
We ended our friendship then and there - years of friendship amounted to... this.

He tells me he feels horrible about this and asked for forgiveness, but I've said my goodbyes.
I feel I'm being pretty harsh but also feels like the right thing to do. I have a hard time forgiving cowardness and dishonesty in people, and I really expected better from a friend I've known for years.

Just... wow, guys. Really. Wow.

Posted by jpx
So, people, I asked him straight out - I felt sick and tired of being ignored and didn't like feeling like I was invisible and worthless - but I asked him very diplomatically and without jumping to any conclusion - got a lenghty reply about being busy and shit and then "and I also met someone else I fell really hard for."

This was literally one of the coldest things anyone's ever done to me and very out of character for this guy.
We ended our friendship then and there - years of friendship amounted to... this.

He tells me he feels horrible about this and asked for forgiveness, but I've said my goodbyes.
I feel I'm being pretty harsh but also feels like the right thing to do. I have a hard time forgiving cowardness and dishonesty in people, and I really expected better from a friend I've known for years.

Just... wow, guys. Really. Wow.

Damn.

That was just shitty--I'm so sorry it happened that way. 😢

Yeah, I could NEVER have seen that coming - wonder what's going through a person's mind when they decide to treat someone that way, also a friend they've had extremely intense contact with :O

Sorry to hear about this. I was rooting for you two. Hopefully this will lighten your mood.

Thank you so much 🙂
I was rooting for us too. I don't really understand why you'd give somebody all your attention and support for two years, then tell them you have feelings for them, and then you suddenly develop feelings for a new person and completely forget about the first one and treat them like they don't exist. It's just so weird to me, and not how I would act at all - or maybe this is how it is for some people when they meet the love of their life? Do they get so completely swept away? It's never happened to me I can't say :/

Leo's are like that. I can fall heads over heel with someone and it fizzles out until the next one. I honestly remember thinking I found my soul mate and realize later that I was just acting stupid and shouldn't drink whiskey sours. It's kinda like Ted from HIMYM. We always believe to found the one until we find that one trait or have that one thing happen.

Wow, that sounds really tiring. I'm a Virgo so I work quite the opposite, haha.
I don't understand why he doesn't value our friendship at all though and is just throwing it away basically - I thought Leos were supposed to be loyal.. also, this guy is a Cap Moon and Virgo Rising..

Posted by GreyWiz
you guys sound dumb when you say " i thought leos were supposed to be this or that". creation is so complex and people are so unique and colored by their environement and experience. You can't reduce anything to a single point.

Yes, of course, you're right, it was just a starting point for a discussion. I do know people are more complex than that.

And also, you think you know someone after 13 years of friendship - and still it turns out you really don't. But that's life, and that's what people are like - there's a lot more than what they project and a lot more than what meets the eye.

Posted by jpx

Posted by GreyWiz
you guys sound dumb when you say " i thought leos were supposed to be this or that". creation is so complex and people are so unique and colored by their environement and experience. You can't reduce anything to a single point.

Yes, of course, you're right, it was just a starting point for a discussion. I do know people are more complex than that.

And also, you think you know someone after 13 years of friendship - and still it turns out you really don't. But that's life, and that's what people are like - there's a lot more than what they project and a lot more than what meets the eye.

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I feel your pain... I've lost my Leo best friend (over 10 years of freienship) for a reason that i dont even know.. She was a sister to me. Suddenly everything changed and I still wonder.. at least you are out of the darkness of confusion.. some relationships just dont work out.. I loved my ex bf for 6 years.. we were friends, got into a relationship that lasted for only 4 months.. then I believe he just fell out of love. I learned to believe that one can never force love.. and I definitely cannot force a person to love me.. thats Life.. sighs

No, I would never want to force myself on anyone, and my biggest fear is being "lied" to.. and that the person I'm with doesn't really love me. It was me that ended this friendship, I just felt like.. well, if he feels like it's THIS awkward now, that he has to hide from me and ignore me, it's better if I just disappear. Also because I'm angry at this cowardness, that's not how you treat a friend, regardless of how much you fall out of love.

fall out of love? when did he tell you he loved you? im soo confused here. Also you kept talking about how strong the physical part was but did you ever wonder if his emotional needs were met? because its not just the physical stuff with a leo, it goes beyond that. And maybe it was never there emotionally because if it was you two would of been more than friends from the beginning. Which brings me to my other question, you said you were good friends but HOW? like were you guys BESTFRIENDS? or acquaintances? how often did you see and hang with eachother? because if it was my bestfriend in the whole world i could never do that to him or even put him in a situation where i know i would hurt him. Now if its a friend who i casually know from school or something then that's different...

When I said "fell out of love", I was kind of talking about what TxOgal was saying about her experiences.

you said it was 8 days since u last contacted him and you spoke to him shortly after, i dont think that is weeks and weeks without talking. I get your point and i get that he hurt you and maybe he should of been a little more clear but at least lets be fair here. Dont exaggerate the truth to make yourself feel better or to make him look like the bad person. He said sorry, and you dont want his friendship. If you really cared about this amazing friendship you have had with him for "years" then i would assume you would forgive him and just go back to being friends like he wants to. You tried it and it didnt work out. He tried to keep the friendship and YOU said no, now hes the coward?

You do have a point though, Moonshine Leo, I really did think and hope we could still be friends, and I wish I could still feel that way, but I just don't, everything changed for me after this.

jpx .. I'm positive though that he did feel something for you (even if its not as strong as you felt these emotions..) it is obvious he stayed quiet cause he did not want to hurt you.. Ofcourse it is up to you if you still want to be friends or not. I wouldnt though if things feel uncomfortable.. but who knows ..maybe you talk again some time in life

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jpx .. I'm positive though that he did feel something for you (even if its not as strong as you felt these emotions..) it is obvious he stayed quiet cause he did not want to hurt you.. Ofcourse it is up to you if you still want to be friends or not. I wouldnt though if things feel uncomfortable.. but who knows ..maybe you talk again some time in life

Yeah, I'm pretty sure he did too, that's why it got a bit complicated, but I'm a lot more hurt by the fact that he pretended I was nothing and like I didn't exist for weeks and didn't tell me until I really cornered him.. it was just very humiliating.
If he were to contact me later on, I'd reply obviously and maybe we'll be friends again but for now, I really feel it's too uncomfortable for me. I have a lot of trust issues as it is (abusive relationships in the past) and he knows this as well :/

Posted by jpx
You do have a point though, Moonshine Leo, I really did think and hope we could still be friends, and I wish I could still feel that way, but I just don't, everything changed for me after this.

i understand that. He will feel bad about it later on in life, trust me. Just go on with your life as he never existed either and watch him apologize later on. and if he really cared about you he wont let your friendship slip that easily, just give it some time.

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Posted by jpx
You do have a point though, Moonshine Leo, I really did think and hope we could still be friends, and I wish I could still feel that way, but I just don't, everything changed for me after this.

i understand that. He will feel bad about it later on in life, trust me. Just go on with your life as he never existed either and watch him apologize later on. and if he really cared about you he wont let your friendship slip that easily, just give it some time.

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My mother told me the same thing, almost word for word, haha. I hope you guys are right, but for now, it's probably best this way :/