I'm a scorpio and my ex is a leo. We met 4 years ago and dated for a couple of months but ii didn't work out. Mostly because he drank too much and I worked all the time so it just caused a whole bunch of issues. We managed to stay pretty close friends though (after a year or 2 of not really talking). He's always looked out for me and I him, he even got me a new job last year. Anyway to make a long story short, I went over one night for a beer back in August and never left. He at the the time was still with this woman he's been going back and forth with for years. She's sort of his crutch and she always takes him back. As long as he's sitting on her couch, durnk or otherwise, she's happy. He was not. So after a very serious discussion about what we both wanted for the future, he left her and we decided to give it a go. He wanted to stop drinking but didn't know how or didn't think he was strong enough to do it on his own. I told him I'd support him in anyway I could. Things were great for a couple of months, and then he got really distant for about a week, and then he broke it off. Said he had been going to counselling and that she didn't think he really loved me. He never got over his wife leaving him 8 years ago and needed to work on that if he had any real chance of being happy. And that was it. I left him be for a few days but I wanted him to know that he was not alone so I left a couple of cases of water on his back deck with a note that said "You're stronger than you think". The water was because when he talked about not drinking he asked me to take the beer from his hand and give him a bottle of water to drink instead. He said he wanted someone to be tough with him and not just accept him like he was. He thanked me for the water by txt and that was that. So last night I get a facebook message that says:" I know it really doesn't mean anything and you don't want to know but I'm gonna tell you anyway, I'm not drinking through the week now, except lots of water..feeling alot better..guess I am strong enough..."
We chatted for a bit & then I called him. He's thinking about moving out west to work because he has nothing holding him here...I wanted to scream ME, you have me! I don't know what to think. The tone of the conversation felt like he wanted me to ask him to stay. He says he doesn't know what to do...
I'm at a loss as to what to do now... I love him so much and I know he cares about me a lot but I don't know if this is
I know you love him but you have to think about whats best for the both of you. This is a very delicate situation considering he's an alcoholic. But, if you want him to stay you have to be ready to accept him completely for what he is and be open to the idea that he might not ever change... are you okay with that? Are you willing to stick it out with him even if he never gets better? Not trying to be negative just realistic. Because at the moment that is the reality. He has a real problem and you can not help him with it. Only he can do that. If you're willing to stay even with the possibility that he will be like this forever then I think you should go for it and tell him how you feel. Just be aware that you have a long and bumpy road ahead of you with no guarantees that he will get better or become the man you want him to.
But, if you are not ready for the commitment it takes to keep a man like that in your life then I suggest you shut the door on that chapter... and let him go.