sweethearts
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Sulky Leos...peace :)
i know i need a little time to get my head together but, yes, eventually i like to resolve the problem. then move on immediately. i'm all about facing my issues head on but like to go forward with my life asap. i hold no grudges and don't stay mad long. u also have to take into consideration that he is also a male. u can't just go on his sign alone.
Great insight there Provs...I can and will ignore it because I've made up my mind and it's not likely to change...so sweeping it under the rug suits me too...only thing he wont get what he wants and even if he pretends that he can change my mind...I know he cant!
>>> No and Yes. Nothing in between. Leave then come back later along with that 'thing' or 'words' I wanted to hear. Your exit and re-entry must be original. Exit like a warrior, Re-enter like a warrior. If you become 'over' sappy and emotional that will stress me. It will just be a big frustration if you compete on his highfalutin' P-R-I-D-E.
I can taper my Pride it doesnt mean as much to me as you Leos...but once a Libra has made up their minds...they aren't going to change it for anyone! BUT I can still come back like a warrior! thanx 🙂
>>> No and Yes. Nothing in between. Leave then come back later along with that 'thing' or 'words' I wanted to hear. Your exit and re-entry must be original. Exit like a warrior, Re-enter like a warrior. If you become 'over' sappy and emotional that will stress me. It will just be a big frustration if you compete on his highfalutin' P-R-I-D-E.
I can taper my Pride it doesnt mean as much to me as you Leos...but once a Libra has made up their minds...they aren't going to change it for anyone! BUT I can still come back like a warrior! thanx 🙂
Children!!! And I'm nearly 43 & have 3 that are all in their teens!!! And I finally have a real life...
so definetly not budging on that and have told him find someone that is more suitable. That's one, the other is because I havent opened my mind (apparently) to a real future because of the 1st problem and he says I'm negative but I've told him I'm trying to be real!
I dont think his desire to have more kids will fade and believe we are at a stale mate! And then I had mentioned because he had said he was busy that I was talking to someone else too...now that's when he packed the shits and signed off a week ago. (Just so you know we are in separate countries and converse over the net til we met up again in Feb, we've been friends since childhood and he thinks I'm the one for him) We seem to be a good match...although I'm losing it as I really cant stand being ignored it's a pet peeve of mine.
so definetly not budging on that and have told him find someone that is more suitable. That's one, the other is because I havent opened my mind (apparently) to a real future because of the 1st problem and he says I'm negative but I've told him I'm trying to be real!
I dont think his desire to have more kids will fade and believe we are at a stale mate! And then I had mentioned because he had said he was busy that I was talking to someone else too...now that's when he packed the shits and signed off a week ago. (Just so you know we are in separate countries and converse over the net til we met up again in Feb, we've been friends since childhood and he thinks I'm the one for him) We seem to be a good match...although I'm losing it as I really cant stand being ignored it's a pet peeve of mine.
Posted by sweethearts
Children!!! And I'm nearly 43 & have 3 that are all in their teens!!! And I finally have a real life...
so definetly not budging on that and have told him find someone that is more suitable. That's one, the other is because I havent opened my mind (apparently) to a real future because of the 1st problem and he says I'm negative but I've told him I'm trying to be real!
I dont think his desire to have more kids will fade and believe we are at a stale mate! And then I had mentioned because he had said he was busy that I was talking to someone else too...now that's when he packed the shits and signed off a week ago. (Just so you know we are in separate countries and converse over the net til we met up again in Feb, we've been friends since childhood and he thinks I'm the one for him) We seem to be a good match...although I'm losing it as I really cant stand being ignored it's a pet peeve of mine.
Oh well.... now this is NOT a minor problem or just a case of giving in to give him what he wants. You really need to think long and hard about whether you are well suited..... this is the kind of thing that CAN and WILL break a relationship. If his desire to have children is something he feels strongly about, it will likely not change and he will resent you for it later whether or not he tries to move past it for sake of making it work.
Very touchy situation!!!
long distance relationships seem so lonely to me....how ever to you do it?
Posted by dward417
long distance relationships seem so lonely to me....how ever to you do it?
This probably wasnt directed at me, but I will answer since I have experience.
They are not so bad. It does however depend on the distance too. I myself have had two and the last one was with a Pisces and the distance proved to be a bit too far and it did end. It can be lonely at times, but I can honestly say that I probably got closer to my Pisces than I had ever been to anyone just because we couldnt physically be together on a regular basis we were more often forced to be together emotionally instead. Which led to us knowing more about one another than anyone else ever did and we formed a very deep connection that we still have today. It is something that you eventually do have to address though.... you cant be long distance FOREVER without having some form of contact in place. We were able to see one another about every three weeks and it gave us something to look forward to as well valuing the time we did have together much more.
Right now, I am currently in the beginning stages of another long-term relationship although we are closer in distance than w Pisces. Only about 5 hours away so we will be able to see one another much more frequently. It's doable, but yes it can get a little lonely. I kinda like it though.... gives me my space and freedom to do what I want. I dont like being smothered or tied down too tightly until Im sure you are THE ONE. And right now at this stage in my life, Im not sure Im ready to find THE ONE just yet!
Well, it was unintentional and at this stage we aren't in a relationship. He sort me out and expressed his desire to be with me and have a future together(we've known each other for over 35 years)...then he hits me with the children thing and also I think why he's packed a sad is because he is also expecting me to be the one to move over to where he is... This is where my REALITY checks in and he closes down because I'M NEGATIVE!!
His keep your mind open to all possibilities and anything can be achievable is now looking like you can do anything I want you too as long as you are open minded enough. And I did that for 20 years with my ex and I know I wont go down that track again...
His keep your mind open to all possibilities and anything can be achievable is now looking like you can do anything I want you too as long as you are open minded enough. And I did that for 20 years with my ex and I know I wont go down that track again...
Wow you guys can really sulk!!!
Posted by sweethearts
Wow you guys can really sulk!!!
I take it you mean that he is still upset?
This is a pretty big issue. Its not just a little obstacle. Don't you think so, SH?
I understand that it's a huge issue...and it wasnt the first time I told him it wasn't going to happen with me. First and foremost we have been friends since kids the only crossing of the line has been in the mind. His words not mine, nothing will ever get in the way of our friendship...and now this! Not one word or confirmation as to why he is feeling like this...I'm going off a hunch. Dont know whether it's because I wasn't open to the idea or that I was talking with someone else or both together. Mostly I'm fine but sometimes I want to just smash him and really have it out...then I realise the stupidity of arguing over the net and thats pathetic. Soooo here I am thrashing it out on Dxp...you guys are my sanity!
Yes he has stressed me already!!!
But I think he knows what I'm like, I told him straight up that I'm a flirt and he also knows I'm very particular about who I let in. He even knows that he isnt the type I would normally consider given his track record....
I'm still undecided whether I should contact him or let him get over whatever is going on and let him contact me. I'm thinking he is the one with the problem as I really arent sure exactly what it is, so let him cool off and contact me again if he wants. Remembering one of his issues are huge and I cant accomodate...
Geez thank god I discovered the gym...ALL my frustrations are now being able to be released!!!!
But I think he knows what I'm like, I told him straight up that I'm a flirt and he also knows I'm very particular about who I let in. He even knows that he isnt the type I would normally consider given his track record....
I'm still undecided whether I should contact him or let him get over whatever is going on and let him contact me. I'm thinking he is the one with the problem as I really arent sure exactly what it is, so let him cool off and contact me again if he wants. Remembering one of his issues are huge and I cant accomodate...
Geez thank god I discovered the gym...ALL my frustrations are now being able to be released!!!!
You shake your head at us woman, when we throw ourselves at a man and also when we hold back and wait!
What i have noticed in my years and I had 20 with a man and loads of friends going down the uneasy track of love is that the main reason there are problems in a relationship/friendship is the lack of communication! I for one learnt never go to bed angry with your partner and at least address any problem that occurs even if it cant be resolved right there, it has to be opened for discussion or it will eat away at the person and eventually have dire consequences! Now if only alot of you men and women could understand this...but of course you cant make someone spill especially if they have that much pride that it steps in the way!
I've now extended an olive branch, cant do much more than that!
What i have noticed in my years and I had 20 with a man and loads of friends going down the uneasy track of love is that the main reason there are problems in a relationship/friendship is the lack of communication! I for one learnt never go to bed angry with your partner and at least address any problem that occurs even if it cant be resolved right there, it has to be opened for discussion or it will eat away at the person and eventually have dire consequences! Now if only alot of you men and women could understand this...but of course you cant make someone spill especially if they have that much pride that it steps in the way!
I've now extended an olive branch, cant do much more than that!
Posted by Pr0vs
If you are sulking because you cant get what you want or havent been told what you want to hear...should I just leave you be?
>>> No and Yes. Nothing in between. Leave then come back later along with that 'thing' or 'words' I wanted to hear. Your exit and re-entry must be original. Exit like a warrior, Re-enter like a warrior. If you become 'over' sappy and emotional that will stress me. It will just be a big frustration if you compete on his highfalutin' P-R-I-D-E.
I'm inclined to point out the problem and want to harsh it out but I think he'll deny there was anything wrong and make out I imagined it.
>>> Well, most likely yeah I will also deny there's something wrong because it wasn't my emotion that's at stake. Selfish huh? Remember, Leos is all about me-me-me. The good news THERE IS HOPE. Just keep on trying he will listen. 😉
And do you want the topic to come up again to resolve it or do you prefer to just sweep it under the rug?
>>> Sweep it under the rug or cover the dirt with a cloth or sheet. I will clean it later after I get what I want.
OMG PROvs everything you said was so true, complete denile that anything was wrong and it was all me-me-me...
And for some strange reason it never bothered me...like it would have with someone else especially the me-me-me part! Never found that appealing at all... I think I need my head read, so out of chartacter for me. I care alot about this person and my tolerance levels are so much higher with him.
I do find it hard to offer alot of flattery unless I'm really impressed...how will this effect?
OMG PROvs everything you said was so true, complete denile that anything was wrong and it was all me-me-me...
And for some strange reason it never bothered me...like it would have with someone else especially the me-me-me part! Never found that appealing at all... I think I need my head read, so out of chartacter for me. I care alot about this person and my tolerance levels are so much higher with him.
I do find it hard to offer alot of flattery unless I'm really impressed...how will this effect?
And for some strange reason it never bothered me...like it would have with someone else especially the me-me-me part! Never found that appealing at all... I think I need my head read, so out of chartacter for me. I care alot about this person and my tolerance levels are so much higher with him.
I do find it hard to offer alot of flattery unless I'm really impressed...how will this effect?
Haha I get that, he's always reassuring me that he doesnt mean to be a show off, but it's just that he is good in what he is doing...which is just about everything. Personally i find it refreshing because I dont feel like I do anything exceptionally well...I know I'm good but dont necessarily do anything GREAT!!!
He appreciates my imput and knows that I'm not needy but he keeps pointing to "expectations" and I'm just finding out now whether he feels that way because other girls may have put that on him or he might be picking that up off me somehow...
He appreciates my imput and knows that I'm not needy but he keeps pointing to "expectations" and I'm just finding out now whether he feels that way because other girls may have put that on him or he might be picking that up off me somehow...
Good, because I'm not comfortable buttering someone up and stroking their ego all the time especially when they stroke their own. Credit where credit is due though, I fine with that.
Constructive criticism...you think— Somehow I'd tread very carefully there, I've picked that up. Our family are always cooking and we offer constructive criticism all the time to each other and it's always taken a little offensively...he's a chef, I can imagine me telling him it needs a little more flavor or something is missing...dont think he'd talk to me again somehow!!
Constructive criticism...you think— Somehow I'd tread very carefully there, I've picked that up. Our family are always cooking and we offer constructive criticism all the time to each other and it's always taken a little offensively...he's a chef, I can imagine me telling him it needs a little more flavor or something is missing...dont think he'd talk to me again somehow!!
I can ooze sex appeal when I need too... I think most women can 🙂
I've just noticed I have Leo in Moon (emotion) Mars (assertion) & Jupiter (Expansion)
can anyone shed like on that?
I've just noticed I have Leo in Moon (emotion) Mars (assertion) & Jupiter (Expansion)
can anyone shed like on that?
Maybe you've been stutting your stuff and they are hungry for a real man!!!
I never know a guys star sign til way after I know him...but I guess it's easier to talk these things with woman becasue most are in to it!
I never know a guys star sign til way after I know him...but I guess it's easier to talk these things with woman becasue most are in to it!
Did you try your luck in the online dating thread (pick their signs) in Astrology, think it was lilldol thread.
Thanks for the help here, I like the way you guys are even though you get a bit sulky, I guess everyone has their thing. And the different input from you all does help me to understand cos Libra has alot of pride too...or maybe that's where that Leo side of me is coming in!!!
And yeah I had to extend the olive branch before he came bounding back all apologetic, but he wasnt apologising for any problem just for not being around the last few weeks...lol, cant believe I find that funny!
Thanks for the help here, I like the way you guys are even though you get a bit sulky, I guess everyone has their thing. And the different input from you all does help me to understand cos Libra has alot of pride too...or maybe that's where that Leo side of me is coming in!!!
And yeah I had to extend the olive branch before he came bounding back all apologetic, but he wasnt apologising for any problem just for not being around the last few weeks...lol, cant believe I find that funny!
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I'm inclined to point out the problem and want to harsh it out but I think he'll deny there was anything wrong and make out I imagined it...
He says he likes my honesty so when I'm honest why is it a problem **shakes head**