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hi, don't really know what to call this post.

My best friend died in a car accident last night.I am all torn up. We have been friends since we were 11 years old.

Libra ex, came over to "comfort" me.He heard what happend.He let me cry and held me.The next minute he says let me put you to bed.then he tries to kiss me.

I have never been rude to anyone and I just lost my mind on him.He just had just blank look on his face and he left.

why is he doing this...I am hurting so much an he wants to have s*x.

I am so sorry about your news - please take care of yourself.

As far as the man wanting sex? some people actually find relief in sex during these times...perhaps he thought you might...my ex was like that....he lost his mother and that night he wanted sex (it was stress relief for him).

Again, take care of yourself during this time and get comfort wherever you can find it....dont question it, just take it - if Libra insulted you? move to where it does feel better but perhaps he was just trying to help

I guess he thought that he was helping...He won't hold it against him.I was emotional and I blew a fuse.

I remeber that when his mom died he wanted to have s*x. Come to think about it very time he went through something difficult he wanted to get physical in stead of talking.

do Lira males use s*x to ...get close or comfort.

Anyway, Chatz & Virgo_Libra thanks.

Its usually the best option for stress relief.

I am hurting and not stressing.

Even,I can appreciate a good roll in the hay when I am stressed out.

I am just so angry... not with him or anything in particular.

EVERYONE,SORRY I AM JUST NOT MYSELF...

I AM JUST RANTING AND RAVING.

Bella, I pray she went quickly and didn't suffer. I'm sorry to hear the news. Continue to be her friend by being there for her family and her other friends.

As far as him kissing you, perhaps he felt that was his way of showing he cared for you? I know it sounds odd, but many people find comfort in knowing that they're cared for especially after losing someone they care about. These posts so far are right - men sometimes don't know the words to say to comfort, so they resort to something that shows affection (kissing, sex, touching, etc.).

don't really know what to say.

I am glad that he came over to comfort me.Yes, I know he cares about me and I care about him.But he could have just held me and let me cry. I have unresolved feelings with this guy. Kissing him and sleeping with him is just going to mess me up even more.I am really trying to get to a place with this guy that the things he does not "rattle" me so much.

He has a girlfriend and they live together. So,if I gave into him. I would have felt 10 times worse and had more emotional issues or is it emotional baggage...

All of us(5 friends. we all went to a convent primary school. then all of us went to the same high school) are meeting tonight for a get together. It really is a sad story her baby is almost 6 weeks old.

Sorry, B. Men can be cads.

Bella!

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through. Please be gentle with yourself.

As to your question, I think a lot of men get sex and intimacy confused. They don't understand that when a woman wants to be close to them, they don't necessarily want sex. When they feel emotionally close to a woman, they sexualize the feeling. Unfortunetly, it seems pretty common place belief and so many people are having relationships and/or sex without clear boundaries, people are more confused than ever.

I sincerely wish you the best with your healing.