CALLING ALL LIBRA'S...may have happened to you

I have enjoyed reading MANY posts. Some of you are so REAL! Now, don't be saying "Here's another libra VICTIM"...LOL cause that is too funny to me. Especially, after some I've read. Anyway, I've had a strong like for a few guys in my life, even a strong LUST but this feeling is ridiculous!

This guy has thrown me off track and what's crazy is that he feels the same way about me. He mirrors me. I don't trust very easily or let anyone affect me too much. He and I are alot alike, he is afraid of me and I am afraid of him. He says that I make him nervous...it's cute. The problem is that I messed up (no cheating) long story...but I really want him like he was in the beginning.

Here are the questions and situation...You may find this entertaining or may start thinking you've had a situation like this and never knew what happened. Now after reading, don't go making that phone call to "The One" that got away...LOL.

HERE IT GOES
If you, LIBRAS, GENUINELY fell hard for someone (not that regular stuff) and then the person ran away from you, would you be hurt? I mean the person literally fell off the face of the earth. The person didn't leave because they didn't like you, it was quite the contrary, and they left because they fell for you TOO HARD. They actually ran away because they needed to balance themselves. Funny right? They needed to figure out how to handle this new explosive feeling that was going on. This person felt that if they stayed around you too long their feelings would be evident clear across their face with that smitten look. So they left to protect their heart from you. They felt that if you found out you might back away. Another reason the person left is because if you found out how bad they had it for you, you might change and they wouldn't be able to handle you changing. You had no idea but you were everthing they wanted but you had too much control and didn't know it. Therefore, they ran. So, if this person came back to you, but you knew NOTHING of what they where going through, would you give them a second chance or would you be indifferent to them because you felt they rejected you?

?'s:
If you, LIBRAS, genuinely fell hard for someone and then the person ran away from you, would you be hurt?
If this person came back to you, but you knew NOTHING of what they were going through, would you give them a second chance?
Would you be indifferent to them because you felt rejected?

The second chance thing is the only part that really needs an answer. If you genuinely fall for someone and they rejected you, of course it'll hurt. Regardless of sign, sex, or anything else. As for second chances, it depends. In some ways its not so much why you ran but how. How long ago? How hard did you run? How much did he chase? How did the chase end, what was the last straw? The worse the picture that paints, the more likely it is to get a cold shoulder. We all have our breaking points.

If it really was a fall off the face of the earth type thing then all that's left to look at is time. Are you talking about disappeared for days, weeks, months, years?

In general I believe the whole "it's not you, it's me" thing is BS anyway.

Posted by amethyst2002
...what's with the string of people pulling the disappearing act lately and then shocked when the person on the receiving end is hurt by it?

Strange.

I understand what you saying but not all people get affected by it. Some people dust off shoulders and keep it moving and some don't know how to do it. I understand both sides... probably cause I sometimes think like a dude or maybe because I have some libra in my chart...lol. Being put on hold is not always a bad thing.

Posted by TasteOfChaos
Ive never been ditched... I'm the ditchER...

Sometimes ya just gotta cut ya losses and move da fuck on...

People suck!

RIIIIIGHT! LOL. I never been dithed either. But, if I ever was it probably wouldn't matter but coming from him it would be too much for me to deal with. So I had to do what I had to do for me. My own logic. Some people may need to stop feeling like they were ditched and just let it SIMMER. It could feel real good when the person comes back.

Oh yeah... and aqua's are VERY aloof. Emotionless or maybe too much emotion and they just don't know how to deal with it. It can be a difficult task if your searching for expressions.

Posted by QLIbraMale
i've been hurt like this before.being shy+rejection FREAKING BLOWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you serious make him nervous, running away was probably the worst thing you could of done. i've experienced this twice my life, it made my eyes glossy, my throat hard, my hands shakey and couldn't eat or drink. i've dwelled on did i offended her, hurt her, does she hate me ect ect. needless to say i go out my way to completely avoid her even if she says we're okay, i never feel the same again unfortunately.

QLibraMale, but she could have been TOTALLY in love with you. I know it can make people feel like crap when your trying to figure out why someone is gone. But, BELIEVE me it is scary when you find some one who is so intense there is no need for words. You may have been that for her. But, if you couldn't allow yourself to go back then that could have been a real love LOST. They say if you let a love go and they come back then it could be meant to be. Now, in some cases that's a bunch of crap.

Running, not running, ditching, purging, feeling hurt etc... We should stop being so damn SENSITIVE, that's the problem.

Posted by LibraSid
The second chance thing is the only part that really needs an answer. If you genuinely fall for someone and they rejected you, of course it'll hurt. Regardless of sign, sex, or anything else. As for second chances, it depends. In some ways its not so much why you ran but how. How long ago? How hard did you run? How much did he chase? How did the chase end, what was the last straw? The worse the picture that paints, the more likely it is to get a cold shoulder. We all have our breaking points.

If it really was a fall off the face of the earth type thing then all that's left to look at is time. Are you talking about disappeared for days, weeks, months, years?

In general I believe the whole "it's not you, it's me" thing is BS anyway.

Niiiice! Well, was gone for about three weeks and there was no contact during that time. He didn't chase. Before when I last saw him, he had expressed so much to me that he probably felt like I should have jumped on board his ship and sailed away with him. After he expressed what he did he was most likely waiting on me to give him some feed but I didn't. Hell, i needed to assess what was going on and I needed three weeks for assessment..lol. So, I understand why he didn't chase. Plus, I have a strong, yet quiet, prideful, sexy and playful personality, very nice to look at (sweet with little BITE). So, I understand why he didn't pursue. Now, don't judge but to explain how I can bail so easily is that I know how to purge people from my life who are trespassing, draining my energy or simply not good for me. I look at purging as a way of developing new growth (like a grape vine has to be purged for new grapes to grow) my grapes are sometimes new friends. In the case of the Libra guy, I was trying to purge cause I thought he could be bad for my health (love sick).

Now, when i couldn't take it anymore I did go back to him after the three weeks. He was like an itch I just could seem to scratch. This man was all over me (mentally). When I came back he told me that he was glad that I did and to never leave again. But, he is now reserved with his feeling and I don't want him to be. I am patient enough to let him have his space and ponder over if I'm going to leave again but how long is the reserve going to last. My assessment is over and I don't want to get bored waiting cause I want to "NEED" him. And, that's RARE

Posted by LibraSid
The second chance thing is the only part that really needs an answer. If you genuinely fall for someone and they rejected you, of course it'll hurt. Regardless of sign, sex, or anything else. As for second chances, it depends. In some ways its not so much why you ran but how. How long ago? How hard did you run? How much did he chase? How did the chase end, what was the last straw? The worse the picture that paints, the more likely it is to get a cold shoulder. We all have our breaking points.

If it really was a fall off the face of the earth type thing then all that's left to look at is time. Are you talking about disappeared for days, weeks, months, years?

In general I believe the whole "it's not you, it's me" thing is BS anyway.

As far as the —it's not you, it's me?? you??re right it is BS when it's used for BS. But, I needed to recuperate from this man. I know I can be an intense attraction but I'm not use to this kind of intensity coming at me like a missile. I don't let to much get to me??_I thought I was bullet proof??_lol

Posted by TasteOfChaos
Yeah... Sometimes I feel kinda bad for running, must SUCK to lose me as a friend 😉

Hahahahaha

LOL....RIIIIGHT!

If you, LIBRAS, genuinely fell hard for someone and then the person ran away from you, would you be hurt?

Yes

If this person came back to you, but you knew NOTHING of what they were going through, would you give them a second chance?

Yes but only one


Would you be indifferent to them because you felt rejected?

i would be very cautious of myself and how much I allow myself to become re-attached, they may run off again...unless of course they openly express why they did it in the first place and have confronted their own demons!

Posted by TheVenusSun
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?'s:
If you, LIBRAS, genuinely fell hard for someone and then the person ran away from you, would you be hurt?
If this person came back to you, but you knew NOTHING of what they were going through, would you give them a second chance?
Would you be indifferent to them because you felt rejected?

1. hurt? yup. very, very deeply.
i did fall hard for this person after all.

2. just so that this is clear: this person returns, right?
because i would interpret non-communication (especially after 3 weeks) as a rejection/no-thanks/sorry-not-interested.
i would have moved-on at about the end of the 2nd week.
so...this person would have be the one to offer that olive branch.
anyway, if they returned i would ask what happened.
and regardless of answer (or no-answer), the 2nd chance would be given - providing that i'm still available or not in too-deep with another.
they've returned. that's all that would matter.
i did fall hard for this person after all.
(reiteration on purpose.)

3. indifferent to them? nope.
they've returned. that's all that would matter.
i did fall hard for this person after all.
(reiteration on purpose.)





if this is as deep as you say, there is no point in letting pride or fear of (whatever) get in the way. don't ignore those fears. talk about them. easier said that done, of course. get the resolve to talk about them from how you feel.

everyone gets hurt, right? so getting hurt from a relationship doesn't make one special or unique. when hurt, get a few mates together, consume a few drinks, get busy, put some time behind it, then consider the experience as a lesson.





(whoa! my replies seem melodramatic. but, you know, if this is as strong as you say, then that's the only way to be. also, i'm currently at the opposite end of your situation. search for my posts.)

Posted by TheVenusSun

Now, when i couldn't take it anymore I did go back to him after the three weeks. He was like an itch I just could seem to scratch. This man was all over me (mentally). When I came back he told me that he was glad that I did and to never leave again. But, he is now reserved with his feeling and I don't want him to be. I am patient enough to let him have his space and ponder over if I'm going to leave again but how long is the reserve going to last. My assessment is over and I don't want to get bored waiting cause I want to "NEED" him. And, that's RARE

How long ago did you come back to him?


Many Libras have deep rooted fears of rejection. You made his come true. Coming back doesn't erase the fact that you rejected him.

Posted by TheVenusSun
when I last saw him, he had expressed so much to me that he probably felt like I should have jumped on board his ship and sailed away with him.

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If he was really at a take down the walls and run away with me type point and your reaction was to disappear, his reservations could be there for quite some time. He may deny it but it will eat at the back of his mind.


If it's real for you the best thing you can do is show him you'll be there now. I don't know how you can do that but the point is to show it and not just say it. Prove that he can trust you.

Posted by LibraLuv

Posted by TheVenusSun

?'s:
If you, LIBRAS, genuinely fell hard for someone and then the person ran away from you, would you be hurt?
If this person came back to you, but you knew NOTHING of what they were going through, would you give them a second chance?
Would you be indifferent to them because you felt rejected?

1. Yes

2. It would depend on how long they stayed away. After awhile (what constitutes awhile in my book), I would move on to
someone else.

3. Nawww, If you really felt that way about the person, how could you be? Cautious is a better word for me. My heart
would be guarded.

btw...What's your sign? If you put it in the post, forgive me. I really need my coffee now. It's really early...hahaha

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I like the word "GUARDED" cause that is probably me in a nut shell. Can't just give me away to just anybody. Now, when a person is proved to be worthy they are in store for a fun ride (no pun intended). Well, I'm a lion (of a different kind I guess) not a typical one at all. Although I'm a double leo, I have a balance of everything in my chart (Leo, Sagitarius, Libra, Aries, Aquarius, Cancer, Capricorn, Taurus,and Virgo) No scorpio or pisces in it. Adding scorpio would probably make me too intense and pisces would probably make me too aggressive. I have a nice balance without them. Nothing against them though.

Don't have time for drama. But, I'm not completely absent of it. My natural nature is FUN, LOVE and to PROTECT. I desire to have FAIR PLAY. Don't like disrespect of any kind. It doesn't matter who it's directed at. If your close to me I'm LOYAL and definitely COMING to protect. Now, if the disrespect is directed at me (with intent) I just purge the person without a second BLINK. But, if its real bad disrespect my fire sign can SCORCH and having the libra in my chart doesn't help in that area...lol. My words can burn through metal (if I let them) but I RARELY let anyone affect me to much to get me heated. I just know who I am to stay balanced and I know what makes me tick. Thanx for the feed. Liked your comment. Hope the coffee was Niiiiice.....smile.

Oh and I HATE PUBLIC RUDENESS, EMBARRASSMENTS AND ANYTHING that causes negative attention to be directed my way.

Posted by QLIbraMale
I agree TheVenusSun being sooo sensitive is a bitch lol. but some libras who open there heart value true relationship and romance, so rejecting them them coming back can be disgusting in there eyes or they'll look at you indifferent.

You're right! True relationship and romance is #1 in my book too. That's why, when I seen it so strongly it scared me. And I agree with you 100% again, that when someone doesn't see how special you are, IT IS disgusting. Especially when you know you are the BOMB...LOL! I think I give pretty good self expression and I believe he values that. Plus, I did let him know a little bit of what was going on when I was away from him. I told him he was worth the explanation.

Posted by sweethearts
If you, LIBRAS, genuinely fell hard for someone and then the person ran away from you, would you be hurt?


i would be very cautious of myself and how much I allow myself to become re-attached, they may run off again...unless of course they openly express why they did it in the first place and have confronted their own demons!

Thanx for the feed girl...I think I give pretty good self expression and I believe he values that. Plus, I did let him know a little bit of what was going on when I was away from him. I told him he was worth the explanation.

I also think I have good character and I'm a pretty good judge of character so when I see a valuable person (who's worth keeping close to me) I slowly give a little more of who I truly am.

Now about those DEMONS that I think we all possess....Sometimes DEMONS are never confronted but they can be put in solitary confinement under lock and key...lol

Posted by dmyers

Posted by TheVenusSun
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1. hurt? yup. very, very deeply.
i did fall hard for this person after all.

2. just so that this is clear: this person returns, right?
because i would interpret non-communication (especially after 3 weeks) as a rejection/no-thanks/sorry-not-interested.
i would have moved-on at about the end of the 2nd week.
so...this person would have be the one to offer that olive branch.
anyway, if they returned i would ask what happened.
and regardless of answer (or no-answer), the 2nd chance would be given - providing that i'm still available or not in too-deep with another.
they've returned. that's all that would matter.
i did fall hard for this person after all.
(reiteration on purpose.)

3. indifferent to them? nope.
they've returned. that's all that would matter.
i did fall hard for this person after all.
(reiteration on purpose.)

if this is as deep as you say, there is no point in letting pride or fear of (whatever) get in the way. don't ignore those fears. talk about them. easier said that done, of course. get the resolve to talk about them from how you feel.

everyone gets hurt, right? so getting hurt from a relationship doesn't make one special or unique. when hurt, get a few mates together, consume a few drinks, get busy, put some time behind it, then consider the experience as a lesson.

(whoa! my replies seem melodramatic. but, you know, if this is as strong as you say, then that's the only way to be. also, i'm currently at the opposite end of your situation. search for my posts.)

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I love the reiteration part.... GOT IT! Protecting myself always gets in the way...lion in me i guess. Another thing is, I know if a person cares too much for me it makes me back away sometimes...for balance. I just thought that he would do the same thing to me if I showed him how much I wanted him. But to make up for it, I know how to give really sweet olive branches.

But, being hurt does have some advantages for growth. Having some fun with friends does take the sting out of things. I'm sure he did some of that or at least he should've cause I would. Thanx and I'll search your posts.

I really sympathize with you VenusSun. I ran once, from a leo (Oh God they are all saying. She is going to tell the Leo story again. Shhhhh .... haters. lol). I was in over my head. I ran. He ran. In the end, he put it on the line, I ran and he never forgave me for it. It has taken me about 4 years to get over the loss. I was very much in love with him, in a way that I don't think I have loved anyone else.

At the same time, because it was so intense. I suspect it would never have worked out in the long haul.

1. I would be crushed.

2. I would be guarded. I would also be hurt and angry. Much like one of the guys said, I would probably not be eating right and just a mess. Heartbreak and abandonment are really hard for me. When I really love someone, I really love them. I can spiral down fast. I would want to know.

3. Depends. At this point in my life, I think I have gotten better and letting it go and protecting my heart. I would hope that in three weeks, I may not be entirely indifferent to them, but would shut the door on them because I really need someone who is stable and respects my emotional vulnerability. I want to be with someone who will stand with me in my discomfort and make me feel safe not someone who will add to my heartache, but someone who will help heal it.

We're sensitive souls but shhhh .... don't tell anyone. lol.

@little_sparrow: why run...if u love somebody like crazy u should go for it. nowhere on your birth certificate is written that life will be fair...and that a love story will last forever...but u should enjoy for as long as it last and be happy coz it happened to u. love is not given to everybody...it's rare...u should cherish it!