Devastated!

Just ended my almost three year relationship with my Pisces boyfriend. I feel so angry...he was just escorted out by the police.

I cannot believe it had to end this way. So much for a peaceful departure. All of his belongings are still here. Now I have to hurry and change my locks.

Praying for a way to make this as quick and neat as possible.

Sorry to hear about your break up. Police— That sounds very bad. Please be safe going forward. Break ups suck!

Posted by CuriousLuv1
Sorry to hear about your break up. Police— That sounds very bad. Please be safe going forward. Break ups suck!

He hit me

damn.
but is that astrological?

Posted by ninalove

Posted by CuriousLuv1
Sorry to hear about your break up. Police— That sounds very bad. Please be safe going forward. Break ups suck!

He hit me

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Definitely not a good thing!! I don't know if you know the tendencies of this man, but I would have an escort if at all possible when you are out for a little while. Just to be safe.

Call the cops!!!!!!

Posted by msX
damn.
but is that astrological?

Not at all...it's character. I'm disappointed. I loved him and within minutes of leaving he drained our savings.

Posted by ScorpioFish
Call the cops!!!!!!

I did...and it hurt like hell. I lied and said he did not hit me because I did not want his child to see him arrested.

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Posted by msX
damn.
but is that astrological?

I don't think so. My fiance is Pisces but he never hit me. He can be verbally abusive though.

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He was also very verbally abusive...though he had begun to address this behavior. I am a poor judge of character.

Posted by xcake
Sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself. Keep safe.

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Thanks...I will do my best to remain safe.

Posted by Aesma
Yikes! Stay safe. 😢

Physical abuse is a deal breaker for me too. That's a BIG no no.

I agree...but couldn't see it coming

Posted by xcake
So will he have a restraining order?

I hope I don't have to do that...it's bad enough it ended this way

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Posted by msX
damn.
but is that astrological?

I don't think so. My fiance is pisces but he never hit me. He can be verbally abusive though.

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And that's ok with you? The verbal abuse. I really don't get libra women & their high levels of tolerance. My two friends are libra women, one is married to a very abusive gemini man & the other one to an aries. The one married to an aries told me of one incident where her husband threw a fork at her. It hit her on the cheek & drew blood. The reason was because she almost burned their daughter with hot water. BY MISTAKE. The little girl kept running around while her mom was carrying a kettle & a few drops of hot water fell on her arm. Ooh such a big deal *rolls eyes*

How are you even thinking about spending your life with someone disrespectful to you in any kind of way? That's beyond me.

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Posted by msX
damn.
but is that astrological?

Not at all...it's character. I'm disappointed. I loved him and within minutes of leaving he drained our savings.

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What a pig! Is there a way of proving that part of it was yours? That's why I don't mix money & love in relationships. My money is mine & mine alone no matter how little it is. I don't share my financial details or how much I make with a man. Ever.

I am sorry, OP.

Some Pisces men are just rotten with the whole violence thing.

When someone breaks my heart, I just go quiet and leave them alone.

Posted by xcake
You need to tell someone what just happened, family or friend.

Also, do you know any women's centre in your area?

You need to find the right support.

I just spoke with a good friend... I am feeling numb. I will try and see someone tomorrow after changing the locks

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Posted by msX
damn.
but is that astrological?

Not at all...it's character. I'm disappointed. I loved him and within minutes of leaving he drained our savings.

What a pig! Is there a way of proving that part of it was yours? That's why I don't mix money & love in relationships. My money is mine & mine alone no matter how little it is. I don't share my financial details or how much I make with a man. Ever.

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I can prove monies I recently wired...but it gets muddy and he could easily state is owed or for shared expenses. It was such a low blow. Just didn't see this coming.

Posted by xcake
I know you're scared and you may not want to have your bf get arrested, but if you feel it in your gut that he may cause serious harm more than he already did, you need to get the police involved. What he did should be enough to let the cops involved.

The abuse will not stop unless something is done on his end.

On your side, you need to be equipped. By that I mean, knowing when you should take action no matter how hard it is.

I am actually ashamed to admit it, but I was very frightened and his reaction after he hit me was not remotely remorseful. He acted as if I were being ridiculous and continued yelling at me. He tried to act as if it were an accident when he knew the police were coming.

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Posted by ninalove

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You need to tell someone what just happened, family or friend.

Also, do you know any women's centre in your area?

You need to find the right support.

I just spoke with a good friend... I am feeling numb. I will try and see someone tomorrow after changing the locks

Yeah, numb is a good way to describe it. Ive been there.

Im not sure if DXP would help you in any way atm though.

Although it might feel good to just put the bags down somewhere, even for a bit.

Do you know where he is?

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I think he went to his mothers place just 20 minutes away.

Posted by tiziani
Yeah I realise hindsight is 20 20, but it always starts with the small things. A little verbal abuse here and there, then upgrade. Boundaries are everything, and early too.

Good luck. Probably best not to make any decisions for a while until the shock subsides. Get your support network around you and he should get his around him too so you can both stay apart.

I agree though he told the officers he would arrive within 48 hours to remove all of his things.

Posted by ScorpioFish
I am sorry, OP.

Some Pisces men are just rotten with the whole violence thing.

When someone breaks my heart, I just go quiet and leave them alone.

I really wish one of us had walked away quietly...maybe it would not have escalated.

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Posted by msX
damn.
but is that astrological?

Not at all...it's character. I'm disappointed. I loved him and within minutes of leaving he drained our savings.

What a pig! Is there a way of proving that part of it was yours? That's why I don't mix money & love in relationships. My money is mine & mine alone no matter how little it is. I don't share my financial details or how much I make with a man. Ever.

I can prove monies I recently wired...but it gets muddy and he could easily state is owed or for shared expenses. It was such a low blow. Just didn't see this coming.

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Consider this a lesson learned. No sharing next time lol.

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Posted by tiziani
Yeah I realise hindsight is 20 20, but it always starts with the small things. A little verbal abuse here and there, then upgrade. Boundaries are everything, and early too.

Good luck. Probably best not to make any decisions for a while until the shock subsides. Get your support network around you and he should get his around him too so you can both stay apart.

I agree though he told the officers he would arrive within 48 hours to remove all of his things.

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Have someone there with you when he comes. You don't want to be one of those missing women. Some men get angry after a breakup. I bought a taser & a knife 😛 after I ended things with my aries ex. I thought he was going to act irrational after the split but he didnt lol. Plus I was angry so I would have tased him even if he came to just say hello lol.

people always warn you about a woman scorned.
but a man scorned is much worse, for they can stomp a hole in your ass if not kill you.
not saying a woman won't do that, but y'all get what i'm saying here.

Posted by ninalove
Just ended my almost three year relationship with my Pisces boyfriend. I feel so angry...he was just escorted out by the police.

I cannot believe it had to end this way. So much for a peaceful departure. All of his belongings are still here. Now I have to hurry and change my locks.

Praying for a way to make this as quick and neat as possible.

So sorry for you!! That's not right! I'm a pisces woman, and I know signs does not determine abuser or not, but I will say that for Pisces, emotions can be so strong and extreme and they can be so overwhelming that we can get impulsive and lose control. Let me say though that that by 'losing control' I don't mean violence. For me losing control is starting to cry (not even sadness, just the overwhelming feelings of anger, frustration, etc.). Yes, I have even slapped an ex boyfriend when drunk. BUT he did tell me never to do it again, and I genuinely regretted, so I never did it again.
But that is not to say that your Pisces boyfriend won't hit you again. With men it can be way more dangerous to take the risk of trying again because he is physically stronger and can kill you.
Just explaining so you can have peace in your heart (not excusing him either - it's unacceptable). But as a woman I know what it's like to be badly hurt and disappointed and you start doubting yourself and asking yourself what you did, etc. Don't go down that road, and don't bring him back into your emotional and mental space for closure. I hope I'm giving you closure by telling you that for Pisces feelings can be so overwhelming, that in this case maybe he grew up with abuse or has anger problems, so put those things together, and you get a man who beats women.

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Posted by ninalove

Posted by xcake
I know you're scared and you may not want to have your bf get arrested, but if you feel it in your gut that he may cause serious harm more than he already did, you need to get the police involved. What he did should be enough to let the cops involved.

The abuse will not stop unless something is done on his end.

On your side, you need to be equipped. By that I mean, knowing when you should take action no matter how hard it is.

I am actually ashamed to admit it, but I was very frightened and his reaction after he hit me was not remotely remorseful. He acted as if I were being ridiculous and continued yelling at me. He tried to act as if it were an accident when he knew the police were coming.

I've been on your end before and whatever it is you're feeling is a mixed of emotions to the point of numbness.

Do you have anyone who can stay with you for awhile?

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No one I can think of...I really would be terrible company at this point. I haven't cried over this yet...

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Posted by ninalove

Posted by tiziani
Yeah I realise hindsight is 20 20, but it always starts with the small things. A little verbal abuse here and there, then upgrade. Boundaries are everything, and early too.

Good luck. Probably best not to make any decisions for a while until the shock subsides. Get your support network around you and he should get his around him too so you can both stay apart.

I agree though he told the officers he would arrive within 48 hours to remove all of his things.

Have someone there with you when he comes. You don't want to be one of those missing women. Some men get angry after a breakup. I bought a taser & a knife 😛 after I ended things with my aries ex. I thought he was going to act irrational after the split but he didnt lol. Plus I was angry so I would have tased him even if he came to just say hello lol.

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I will have the police present for his move to keep things calm. They actually do this on a regular basis.

Posted by xcake
Let him know through smart actions that you are not afraid of him.

If you let him think you're scared of him, he will keep toying with you.

Im not suggesting to run your mouth on him or hit him. No. Play it smart.

Don't give in either if he comes running to you weeks or months from now.

I plan to block him once he has collected all of his belongings.

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Posted by ninalove
Just ended my almost three year relationship with my Pisces boyfriend. I feel so angry...he was just escorted out by the police.

I cannot believe it had to end this way. So much for a peaceful departure. All of his belongings are still here. Now I have to hurry and change my locks.

Praying for a way to make this as quick and neat as possible.

So sorry for you!! That's not right! I'm a pisces woman, and I know signs does not determine abuser or not, but I will say that for Pisces, emotions can be so strong and extreme and they can be so overwhelming that we can get impulsive and lose control. Let me say though that that by 'losing control' I don't mean violence. For me losing control is starting to cry (not even sadness, just the overwhelming feelings of anger, frustration, etc.). Yes, I have even slapped an ex boyfriend when drunk. BUT he did tell me never to do it again, and I genuinely regretted, so I never did it again.
But that is not to say that your Pisces boyfriend won't hit you again. With men it can be way more dangerous to take the risk of trying again because he is physically stronger and can kill you.
Just explaining so you can have peace in your heart (not excusing him either - it's unacceptable). But as a woman I know what it's like to be badly hurt and disappointed and you start doubting yourself and asking yourself what you did, etc. Don't go down that road, and don't bring him back into your emotional and mental space for closure. I hope I'm giving you closure by telling you that for Pisces feelings can be so overwhelming, that in this case maybe he grew up with abuse or has anger problems, so put those things together, and you get a man who beats women.

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Thank you for your insight sole. I've come to the realization that closure has to come from within. I have not begun to reconcile the events in my mind, but strangely I do feel bouts of guilt and shame.

Posted by Aesma

Posted by ninalove

Posted by xcake
I know you're scared and you may not want to have your bf get arrested, but if you feel it in your gut that he may cause serious harm more than he already did, you need to get the police involved. What he did should be enough to let the cops involved.

The abuse will not stop unless something is done on his end.

On your side, you need to be equipped. By that I mean, knowing when you should take action no matter how hard it is.

I am actually ashamed to admit it, but I was very frightened and his reaction after he hit me was not remotely remorseful. He acted as if I were being ridiculous and continued yelling at me. He tried to act as if it were an accident when he knew the police were coming.

I was in this situation before. It's still painful to talk about it. The worst part is he became my husband. He was the only guy that ever hit me. When it first happened, I couldn't believe it. I was in shock. I didn't know what to think nor feel that time. He reacted the same way, he wasn't sorry about it. He even denied it and said I was making it up. He was like this whenever he was drunk.

It kept happening for a year until I couldn't take it anymore. I was so scared of him. It felt like walking on egg shells. He'd say sorry and act nice and sweet only to do it again whenever he's drunk. I told him a lot of times to stop drinking and he said he would but he kept doing it and he'd even force me to drink or he'd demand sex and he says it's his right to use me whenever he wants because we're married.

I'm glad I came out of that alive. I really feared for my life and safety.

Please take care of yourself. Don't be alone with him. If he comes back, make sure you have a friend there with you.

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I am so sorry to hear you had to go through all this...but am grateful for the insight

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I am so sorry to hear you had to go through all this...but am grateful for the insight

It's okay, just don't do what I did. Don't stay, don't let it escalate to the point that your life would be in danger. I should've called the cops on him but I felt ashamed that it was happening to me. Most of my friends didn't even know until it was over. Take good care of yourself!

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Take care of yourself and of other women! i didn't read all of your posts but i saw that you didn't tell the police he hit you initially. It will be very difficult but i hope you decide to press DV charges. He should have a record and a way for other women he may get involved with to know what kind of man he is.

That was directed to OP by the way. I'm very sorry that happened to you and the other women who shared similar experiences here.

Wow Aesma it seems like we married the same man. I had the same experience, even after I finially decided to leave and get a peace bond on him he still broke into my apartment and robbed me...I felt embarassed to talk about it at first and had to go counselling,and everytime he hit me it was never his fault, once he slapped me so hard in front of our daughter that I couldnt eat right for a few weeks, which he then said that he didnt hit me that hard and I was overreacting. It was years of mental abused before we got married. Its been 3 years and the best decision I made for myself...they always try and sweet talk you back, stay focused on you, no one deserves to be treated like crap...Never take back someone who hits you or talks down to you

Posted by GandalftheGrey
i have one question for you........

did he have aries planets in his chart.. in mars or moon.

i also just read somewhere that pisces and taurus men tend to be most abusive/violent. Interestingly both signs sandwich aries..

you libras and aries should stay the hell away from each other. yes i understand that you are venus and he is mars and you guys think you are in hollywood romance....but seriously stay away. mature aries and mature libra are great for each other.

you two are the youngest of the pair of opposites.

His Venus is in Aries, moon in Cancer & Mars in Aquarius.

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Posted by jessgoogoo
Wow Aesma it seems like we married the same man. I had the same experience, even after I finially decided to leave and get a peace bond on him he still broke into my apartment and robbed me...I felt embarassed to talk about it at first and had to go counselling,and everytime he hit me it was never his fault, once he slapped me so hard in front of our daughter that I couldnt eat right for a few weeks, which he then said that he didnt hit me that hard and I was overreacting. It was years of mental abused before we got married. Its been 3 years and the best decision I made for myself...they always try and sweet talk you back, stay focused on you, no one deserves to be treated like crap...Never take back someone who hits you or talks down to you

I hope nina's okay. :/

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I am hanging in there Aesma...thanks for the well wishes.

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Posted by ANRivas2
Take care of yourself and of other women! i didn't read all of your posts but i saw that you didn't tell the police he hit you initially. It will be very difficult but i hope you decide to press DV charges. He should have a record and a way for other women he may get involved with to know what kind of man he is.

I didn't press charges because I was ashamed I let this happen to me and I don't trust cops either. When I said it was over, he was already seeing someone else. She knows how he is but she's willing to have a relationship with him despite knowing what happened so I don't feel responsible for her. After a few months, he even arranged a meeting with my sister and my mom just to show them that he has moved on and they're still together. Like I'd give a shit. lol

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What was his sun?

I share a similar experience. One former friend of mine is a Pisces with his Venus in Aries. We were friends for 2 years. He fell in love me, but the love was one-sided 😢 When I told him honestly that I just want it be friends, things became crazy. His reaction came very quickly and realy angry(Venus in Aries): he canceled our friendship at once, strained the truth (told lies about me) and made me look like a completely idiot.
Note: This is not an offence to Pisces in general! It's a negative experience I made with one of them. Other Pisces react probably different.

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Posted by ANRivas2
Take care of yourself and of other women! i didn't read all of your posts but i saw that you didn't tell the police he hit you initially. It will be very difficult but i hope you decide to press DV charges. He should have a record and a way for other women he may get involved with to know what kind of man he is.

I didn't press charges because I was ashamed I let this happen to me and I don't trust cops either. When I said it was over, he was already seeing someone else. She knows how he is but she's willing to have a relationship with him despite knowing what happened so I don't feel responsible for her. After a few months, he even arranged a meeting with my sister and my mom just to show them that he has moved on and they're still together. Like I'd give a shit. lol

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I understand. I meant that for the OP though. Abusers need to have records that follow them so that unsuspecting women know not to get involved.