Insight Please. Pisces man confusing me

He's a great guy. 35 never married no children. Strong silent old soul but loves to joke and laugh.Stereotypical Pisces in the money department. About 2 months backI thought we were still kinda just friends. He saw a compliment I let another man on his picture on a social site and really surprised me by baring his teeth. He was VERY upset. So we discussed it and I explained to him I thought we were just friends. Of course I wanted to be more but he always said "let's not rush". About 2 weeks after his blow up we're talking and he says "oh we're friends do what you want". I assume its because someone else has caught his eye. I say ok but then he calls to check in when he's out with his cousins and calls before bed. Last weekend he texts that he's irritated but we will talk. I just told him call when he feels better. He calls immediately and says "I dont want you to think I don't want to talk to you" we talk for hours. The next day I tell him "you're amazing I think Im falling for you". He says "you give me too much credit. I like you but let's slow down." I get upset tell him My feelings are hurt but yeah I'll slow down. So the past couple days Ive been platonic and it seems like he's becoming more platonic and slightly annoyed.. He said he felt pressured and I reminded him that I never asked or insinuated that we should be more than friends. Im ready to sabotage and save my feelings. I don't think he knows what he wants.

certainly sounds like a guy that isn't sure of what he wants 😢

where's the dudes with fins—?

Posted by SweetestFatale

I reminded him that I never asked or insinuated that we should be more than friends.

Posted by SweetestFatale

I tell him "you're amazing I think Im falling for you".

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Stupid is as stupid does ... except in your case it's .... stupid is as stupid says

It happens to the best of us sister.....

Lol P Angel if he made an ass of himself by assuming like you just did then I guess both of you are stupid.

Like I said I didn't ask of insinuate we should be more than friends. I don't think sharing my feelings should be taken as such.

What your saying is the equivalent of saying someone is suggesting you bake them a cake just because they tell you that they love chocolate cake.

You're*

Here's the nugget that's worth far more than your petty snide comment

The point if you want to be in a relationship with someone is for them to like you and vice versa. If someone who is supposedly interested backs up when you say you like them...they are just that...supposedly interested.

Apart from the 'petty snide comment/s'. What is it he is feeling pressured about? Not being in a relationship with you or being in a non relationship with you? Since he has already said 'slow down' and then coz he has said that, he now is feeling pressured coz of what he has said in the first place. This is something that be questioned?

So what do you think is his 'problem'? Him feeling pressured coz of not getting what he wants which is exactly what he is getting or him feeling pressured in him getting exactly what he wants and this is not something he is used to of and is blaming you for it.

Well alls I can say is join the club for the blamers you fit right in there and also to sit back and wait and enjoy the show/ride/whatever you call it and yeh goodluck hon you gonna need it. HA!

Not only that really all it boils down to is if you safe from harm then you got it made and then you go for it with everything you got and make the most of it. To hell with what others say do what you want to do only you know what is and what is not. Dont make the mistake of letting others think for yourself, if you want it you go for it and do what you want.

As for this guy if he is pressured by what you say, then really you have no stress about anything at all. Can you talk to him about it and what does he say if you have?

Posted by SweetestFatale

... if he made an ass of himself by assuming like you just did then I guess both of you are stupid.

Like I said I didn't ask of insinuate we should be more than friends. I don't think sharing my feelings should be taken as such.

What a fucking idiot.

so, now you are accusing me of assuming that you really want, by virtue of copying YOUR OWN words.

When in reality .. you do, so there is no assumption ...

You are saying that you didn't think sharing your feelings should be taken as such ... when in reality, those feelings mean exactly as they were taken = you want more.

Posted by SweetestFatale

Of course I wanted to be more .....

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Again, in your case .... stupid is as stupid says

What I'm not understanding. Why did you spill your feelings out towards him after he declares "let's not rush" "oh we're friends do what you want".

Don't you think telling him you're falling for him will only make matters worse? If he's unsure the last thing that will help your situation is spilling your emotions/feelings out towards him.

If you want a real relationship with a man then don't spend so much of your energy on a man that isn't sure about you, isn't on the same emotional page as you.

Why not friend zone and continue on your journey until the right one finds you.

His being slow and/or wanting to go slow isn't the real problem here, it's the mixed messages you're receiving that isn't fair to you but you have to uphold a certain standard for yourself to avoid these kind of men.

Thank you Tiki

Still to this day I remember you sharing about the emotionally unavailable. He's more open sbout his ambiguity and calling it that but this one qualified lol

An ambiguous man makes for a terrible friend/boyfriend.

You will never experience consistency nor will you experience stability with an ambiguous man.

Throwing your heart and love at a man that actually professes to be ambiguous is playing with a fire and a huge risk, a risk that only leads YOU into being hurt over his behavior/actions.

He can't qualify if he's ambiguous, he should have been dropped by you the moment he admitted to being ambiguous.

If you take these on these kind of men with these kind of issues knowingly you have to suck it, stop complaining and deal with it on your own.

You truly can't complain about a man that has openly told you he's ambiguous, you know better and you know confusion follows with this type of man every time, always.

I was married to a Pisces and have dated seriously 1 since my divorce. Also, I have a few Pisces male friends. What tiki33 said is dead on. Unless there is something else in his chart to balance him out, the Pisces men I know are very ambiguous, especially when it comes to love and relationships. There seems to be a discrepancy between what they want versus what they are attracted to. They will tell you the traits, but when a woman with those traits comes along - they confuse her or shun the hell out of her. But they are attracted to women who run them through the mill lol. I just ended a back and forth deal with my last Pisces. He is 39, no kids, never married, never lived with anyone. Very stable financially, owns his own business, responsible. We'd alternate between "I miss you, lets work on getting back together, I want you to trust me" to "I'm single, we're not in a relationship, I feel pressured" - all the things you have said. In the meantime, HE would call and text me EVERYDAY. They are the masters of giving you enough to make you hang on and question yourself, but not enough to seal the deal. It seems they want all the benefits of a relationship without the responsibility of a relationship (with YOU being faithful and emotionally available to THEM, but they are not emotionally available to you!). I am praying for strength to stay away from my Pisces and not get sucked back in. I'm sick of the half-a $ $ ing; either SHOW UP and ACT or stay gone!

You're best bet is to walk away. Limit your communication with him and move on. I bet if you find out about his past relationships they would say the same thing. Pisces men are notorious for having a bevy of exes that are still around in some way because they are "good guys".

In my opinion, and knowing a few pisces (sister.. high school friend) they are all inconsistant and moody....

Our nickname for our high school buddy is "flip flop"

Annoying. Absolutely but a trait I notice

Caliber, exactly!!!
It is easy to fool us women that way - esp if we don't have lots of experience with men. A lesson learned for me tho: I don't need to be any one's "phone girlfriend". Men SHOW UP and ACT when they want something/someone. Constant Phone, texts, emails are great, but it's lazy communication. In the end, it's not enough if you're trying to build
Something with someone.

Of course, it's easy to fool women .... because they're fools when it comes to this.

Posted by P-Angel

Of course, it's easy to fool women .... because they're fools when it comes to this.

Yes, ma'am!