Dominant in a relationship?

In response to another post, Nic said Libras like to be dominant in a relationship. Yet, I've also heard (and experienced) that they like to be persued. Plus, they are happy to let others make decisions. I know the yin-yang thing is typical of Libras, so I can see how it could go both ways.

Has anyone else experienced a dominant Libra in a relationship? And how has that person showed his/her dominance?

In a romantic relationship, I do not wish to be the dominant.

I also don't want to be owned .... at all.

I wouldn't say that in my relationship it's one over the other. We try to be equal in terms of our relationship. He does ask me what I want to do, where to go, who to see, etc., but that's just courtesy and I return the gesture.

Then there are times, like this morning, when he tells me to keep a certain day open because he's taking me out. I let him do all the planning for that.

dom?i?nant [dom-uh-nuhnt] adjective
1. ruling, governing, or controlling; having or exerting authority or influence: dominant in the chain of command.
2. occupying or being in a commanding or elevated position.

I like to be dominant as well as being dominated

Yeah. I have to be demanding and controlling in my outter life ... I like my romantic relationship to be my soft place to crash. I don't want to have to be in charge and fight with someone to do something. Nor do I want someone who will push me and fight with me to do something.

I want things to be mutual and equal.

We are a special kind of dominant. We aren't the controlling, jelous, demanding kind of dominant. And if we act that way something is really wrong and it needs to get sorted out ASAP because it is unnatural for us. Us healthy ones will be damned sure the relationship is fair, just, both people are getting what they want out of their lives within the relationship and they will take the initiative to make sure those things happen.

We are nice, agreeable and very go with the flow so it is rare in normal circumstances for us to not just go with the flow. But in the end we both have the idea of what we want and need, and what our partner wants and needs empathetically and sensitively and we quietly make sure they are getting theirs two.

It is a special kind of dominant. Dominance in that we take responsibility and ownership for everything that happens in our life, instead of trying to displace the bad.

"eah. I have to be demanding and controlling in my outter life ... I like my romantic relationship to be my soft place to crash."

Exactly the whole iron hand in a velvet glove kind of thing. One of the few things astrologers tend to get right about us consistantly. We like our relationships to be nice and easy going so we can focus our more intense engergy on other things. But that is the whole point, harmony does require firmness in a lot of areas. We are just really tactful and charming about the firmness.

Just like everything else, our dominance is dependant on the state of balance. We will pull back and let the other person take the lead if it is necissary, we will step up and take control if necessary as well.

We like to set things up so that everything flows and neither has to be dominant for the majority of the time. It's a gentle and calculating kind of behind the scenes dominant.

Thank you archer, you just said perfectly what I was trying to say clearly.

".... they master the art of dominating without showing their dominance."

Nice...