libra and aquarius

Yip, sounds familiar. The only thing you can do is this:

He has told you (as well as he can) how he fels right now, and it is so important that you give him the space that he wants/needs. Dont analyse, he is freaked out and probably unprepared for the intenseness thats occurred between you. Dont be too concerned that he hasnt responded to your message. If he texts you soon, tell him you already have plans elsewhere, but that maybe he can call you with plan for another day. That means you arent making it easy for him to come and go as he likes, and encourages him to make an effort to see you...which otherwise he won?t.

If he hasnt contacted you by the weekend (you have to keep so busy)!! text him and say have a nice weekend. Dont ask him what he?s doing or if he wants to meet. Remember you are busy if he asks!!

If he calls once, dont answer. If he calls again, then its ok to answer. Leave it a day or two to return texts.

You are clearly hurting as i did with mine. But if you do these things, you?ll be fine..happy days 🙂

Are the two of you exclusive? After a year and a half, it shouldn't be "casual". Interesting.

God, 1&1/2 years?? whoah!!!

OK 8 months isn't that long afterall LOL.

Yeah, its hard alright. Only you know if he?s worth the hassle or not??

ok.. Im missing something! Is it from another post? Commit Phobia.. aquarius...player.. I know how to pick em.. I guess.

No, its just like a Libra/Aqua phenomenon. Its the whole scenarioof "cant live with/cant live without" damn!

Its wearing thin.. thats why Im on here.. to get my head together to know how to give him a chance by not overreacting or playing games which I hate.. and yet I know deep down that something has to give. I think he does too. - The week before he spazed he said he should come over everyday.. I let it ride then he said it again. I said well the only thing stopping you from that is you. Then he says he has to focus on his child..hes finally getting to spend time with him and I am 200 percent in support of that.. butttt its also easy to hide behind work and your child etc.. to avoid committment. so here it is. I have an aqua the chemistry after all this time just gets better and better. He wont sleep sleep over.. hes always busy but does call text and does come over though its never well planned.. Hes worth it if he can do it because commit phob or not hes a great guy.. but Im trying to figure out how to handle the next month or so - if things dont change I will have to move on.. but Im this far into this relationship and would like to at least do the right things to give it the one very very last chance.

Tell me more about the Libra/Aqua phenomenon- this info is what I need to understand how we communicate..I never was into astrolgy until this guy! lol now Im like help

I'm a Libra female dating a Aqua Man for 2 years and what a beautiful arrangement. This Aqua man is the most unpredictable individual I have ever encountered. As a Libra women I do know that sometimes when we do not get exactly what we want we tend to take it as ?We are so perfect and why cant the person we are being so perfect to understand this?

Being patient with Aquarius men are the key. Sadly, to say that if you fill him on all your exciting adventures he will appreciate you more. This will let him know that you are independent in your own unique way. Also I know that it may be difficult but do not jump when things are convenient for him. Even if you want to spend time with him make sure, when he is ready you let him know ?Oh that sounds great but I made other arrangements?. A family member our close friend that you have spoken to him about.

Discuss any political events that are current our, from the past, find out who his favorite President is they love politics. Aqua men have a way of being self absorbed so sometimes you have to remind them that there are two people in a friendship as well as a relationship and you have needs as well. Do not beat around the bush with these men, they appreciate honesty of your needs. Once you show that you are a loyal friend our mate there is nothing that this man will not do for you.

Give him space and let him know that you have your own life. And most of all prove to him that he is not your last chance for happiness. I don't like to say this but my Aqua man responds to me when I'm being unruly to him. I remind him sometimes of what he does he denies this but I know the real deal. What are some of your topics of discussion? Keep in mind those Aqua men love stimulation of the brain of philosophical topics.

In addition, he knows that he has you where he wants you. Just be honest and I know that you stated that you do not like to scream but sometimes I have to and he will be upset for the moment but in a weird way, he brags about my no tolerance to his brother as if he loves it. Sometimes I don't pick the phone up for him. I know playing games are for children but this man just doesn't respond when I'm game free. TRICKY

I am still with my Aqua and you have to keep in mind that Aquarius are true masochists, they will not admit this but they are. As far as the making plans, I totally understand. In the beginning we had a routine, Every Friday we would hit the town, but Aquarius are somewhat like Libras they are home bodies and his idea of going out is when it is a family function??his family BBQ's and the sort?. His family loves me and his brother adores me.

His daughter pretended to like me in the beginning but absolutely hates me now; she feels that I am a threat. Sometimes she tries to place me in a competition with her and I remind him of how uncomfortable this makes me. He understands and now opens up to the hardships she creates for him. I let him know that I will not get involved and only be a support system for him.

Just today I tel him and he did not answer my calls after trying to reach him. I left a message and informed him that when he tries to reach me that I will let him feel it. Do you know he tel me for 1 hour straight. I did call him back after 1 hour but why do I have to go trough this to get a response. What I can say is that do not let anyone tell you what to do in your relationship you can get feedback but remember we cannot help who we love.

If you love this man do not be afraid to let him know how wonderful he is and what joy he brings to you, but do let him know how he upsets you as well he may not change but make him aware of it. Pick up a hobby our two and keep in mind that this man is only there to add joy to your life not to bring you joy. In addition, like your Aqua he had not 1 but 2 bad marriages so imagine what I'm going through. It is a challenge, but well worth it if you stick it out.

He has asked for space and wanting to slow down because it isn't fair to you. To me, he is on his way out of the relationship.

Im not sure he has ever really been in it... one thing you should know.. he did this in january.. he did it Oct of last year.. and he did it a year ago march. Always with the guilt.. and if hes on the way out all the time.. why does he keep coming back.. theres the issue. Now he may not this time.. but we literally tore each others clothes off... and I wasnt alone...🙂

why does he keep coming back....you typed your answer literally tore each others clothes off... and I wasnt alone...

* but hes spazing because its not right to just do this

If this is the truth, he is spazing because he knows you deserve better. He feels like he is using you.

Good men don't actually like taking advantage of women. They feel bad about it.

There is nothing to be solved.

His feelings have not grown and he is not capable of giving you a relationship.

What would I do? Feel the pain of loneliness and end the relationship because being lonely in a relationship is way worse than being lonely outside of one because you aren't trapped or limited in your options.

why does he say he should be over everyday.. why did he keep coming back. is it possible he does care but just wont try.. or that he is acting all nuts because he realizes he does care...

then maybe if your right I should send an email and tell him we need to talk.. then I guess end it. so funny he always pulls away and comes back.. guess it means nothing.

he pulls away and comes back because you're continuing to allow it....

be strong girl and decide what YOU want from him. Also decide what you'll put up with. If you can put up with his wishy washiness, then by all means, stick around and let him use you.

well I did all of that complaining and he calls and talks for an hour.. I still have no idea what we are doing.. but I guess that makes me normal.. in an abnormal way.

Two bad marriages... wow.. can you see anything similar in the two - did he pick similar women.. and how long was each marriage. Mine had one but it was a mess. I think you have the most insight into what I am dealing with actually you and sola.. He called as if its been no time at all...told me about his weekend with his child and I got a little more insight into his past relationship. If what he says is for real and not just bitterness.. I almost cant blame him for avoiding committing. Its tuff you know when they open up a bit and let you feel how they are feeling.. then you know a week later your going to wonder where they are again. I realize I cant wait around for him to be ok.. but I do feel its a positive that he opens up a bit.

Yours kept dialing for an hours.. wow... was he upset when he finally got you?