Dont know whats going on

Just when I thought I was done with libra men. You all know I am dealing with my ex libra sun, libra moon. Just today I get a message from another Libra ex (Libra sun, leo moon-idk if his moon is in leo or virgo) saying he misses me and wants to meet up. With this one we also didnt end on a good note. I mean we didnt really end on a bad note either. We just stopped talking because he said there were too many problems with our relationship and that he wants to see if there are other people out there. I said okay and I never spoke to him again (this was 2 years ago)

I'm a little nervous for this one, like idk what to do or say. He's intimidating.

I was shocked when I saw his message but also kind of happy, I never thought I would hear from him. I guess libra men never go away for good especially if youre ignoring them 😛

Oh good lord. Do you learn anything in life as you go along?

He basically ditched you to see if there are other options. He's back because he found none and wants to settle with you. When guys come back around, regardless of sign, they want something. The chances of it being genuine, especially at that age, aren't very high.

When a guy comes back around, he wants to either just fuck you or get some sort of emotional need filled by you.

You saying yes and giving in just gives him the green light. Going out initially isn't bad per se, but don't flatter yourself in thinking he's recognized the errors of his ways. It's unlikely that's why he's hitting you up.

See what he does, but don't be shocked if it falls flat or he ends up trying to bang you.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh good lord. Do you learn anything in life as you go along?

He basically ditched you to see if there are other options. He's back because he found none and wants to settle with you. When guys come back around, regardless of sign, they want something. The chances of it being genuine, especially at that age, aren't very high.

When a guy comes back around, he wants to either just fuck you or get some sort of emotional need filled by you.

You saying yes and giving in just gives him the green light. Going out initially isn't bad per se, but don't flatter yourself in thinking he's recognized the errors of his ways. It's unlikely that's why he's hitting you up.

See what he does, but don't be shocked if it falls flat or he ends up trying to bang you.

I'll keep that in mind

That's a very long time to ignore someone then suddenly pop back up. If I were you I'd stay clear of this one, he will probably keep you around as friend "for when he wants you". Very dangerous grounds.

Yeah I agree with MindofLibra - I miss you, let's meet up; could be I need sex let's hook up. Go slow.

I've heard libra is the sign where there's not much difference between the men and women. Not sure, but I can offer what I've done as a libra woman. I had met a Gemini before. It was the most straight forward courting, and I felt the same way about him. the next step was for us to meet up and confirm our chemistry after putting ourselves out there. but for one reason or another we didn't because of me. at the time I was un-balanced and so stressed about life that I kept putting him on the back burner and it fizzled out due to me.

a year later, after being in a better place mentally and feeling more balanced, I felt like I'm finally ready to see how far we can go. I hit him up and he has a gf gahh....and he's doing the same as you and being cautious. I understand this, but my intentions really are pure with seeing the error of my ways. and I came back apologizing and telling him exactly what I was apologizing for....

being a logical libra, I'm not going to lie that I did sit there comparing pros and cons and comparing him to other men I've tried. and he won every time. sometimes us libras think too logically 😢 we weigh and weigh again, but once we make our minds we're set. i mean, we might doubt again for one second, but we'll be set as we'll ever be lol.

2 years is a long time, but I also have non-romantic friends that I've come back around to after 2/3 years after needing to get away from their negativity...as someone said about making him grovel and declare his love, I agree to make him! And doing this around a group of friends is not the way to go about it. Face him one on one and ask him his intentions. Make it a safe space, be straight forward with him, and he will be straight forward with you.

so I would vote for give him one more shot.

1. He made a mistake and wants to reconnect
2. Why do you want to reconnect with each other?
3. He wants sex after multiple people and knows you're the one now
3. Just sex and back to square one

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh good lord. Do you learn anything in life as you go along?

He basically ditched you to see if there are other options. He's back because he found none and wants to settle with you. When guys come back around, regardless of sign, they want something. The chances of it being genuine, especially at that age, aren't very high.

When a guy comes back around, he wants to either just fuck you or get some sort of emotional need filled by you.

You saying yes and giving in just gives him the green light. Going out initially isn't bad per se, but don't flatter yourself in thinking he's recognized the errors of his ways. It's unlikely that's why he's hitting you up.

See what he does, but don't be shocked if it falls flat or he ends up trying to bang you.

You are a voice of sobriety. I love it.


I had written some sentimental feedback that I tried to hide, realizing I didn't read her op througholy.


2 years?

I wouldn't dismiss him if you still have a positive view of him. But, I'd also wait for a proper invite. I'd be more inclined to join group get together out so he can't try to fuck you. Make him present you in public amongst his peers, make him gravel and declare his love.

If after two years he tried to meet privately, I'd be weary. But you know you and you know who he was so take it as you will.

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No he is not trying to meet me privately, he invited me to a concert. He is saying that he would love if I came.

Posted by leeberated
I've heard libra is the sign where there's not much difference between the men and women. Not sure, but I can offer what I've done as a libra woman. I had met a Gemini before. It was the most straight forward courting, and I felt the same way about him. the next step was for us to meet up and confirm our chemistry after putting ourselves out there. but for one reason or another we didn't because of me. at the time I was un-balanced and so stressed about life that I kept putting him on the back burner and it fizzled out due to me.

a year later, after being in a better place mentally and feeling more balanced, I felt like I'm finally ready to see how far we can go. I hit him up and he has a gf gahh....and he's doing the same as you and being cautious. I understand this, but my intentions really are pure with seeing the error of my ways. and I came back apologizing and telling him exactly what I was apologizing for....

being a logical libra, I'm not going to lie that I did sit there comparing pros and cons and comparing him to other men I've tried. and he won every time. sometimes us libras think too logically 😢 we weigh and weigh again, but once we make our minds we're set. i mean, we might doubt again for one second, but we'll be set as we'll ever be lol.

2 years is a long time, but I also have non-romantic friends that I've come back around to after 2/3 years after needing to get away from their negativity...as someone said about making him grovel and declare his love, I agree to make him! And doing this around a group of friends is not the way to go about it. Face him one on one and ask him his intentions. Make it a safe space, be straight forward with him, and he will be straight forward with you.

so I would vote for give him one more shot.

Okay I will, thanks for your post. He has been messaging me constantly and telling me all about his new life. He seems happy. I'm glad he contacted me actually cause I know being an aries I wouldve never contacted him myself.

Posted by Librawoman77
Yeah I agree with MindofLibra - I miss you, let's meet up; could be I need sex let's hook up. Go slow.

Im just wondering if he says that (Idk if he would cause right now he just wants me to come to a concert with him) should I just tell him that its not what I want?

Posted by mindofalibra
That's a very long time to ignore someone then suddenly pop back up. If I were you I'd stay clear of this one, he will probably keep you around as friend "for when he wants you". Very dangerous grounds.

Interesting. He wasnt the one doing the ignoring, I was. I deleted him off facebook and deleted his number. He is the one who reached out just now. But youre right I should keep my distance cause Idk what his intentions are

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Posted by mindofalibra
That's a very long time to ignore someone then suddenly pop back up. If I were you I'd stay clear of this one, he will probably keep you around as friend "for when he wants you". Very dangerous grounds.

Interesting. He wasnt the one doing the ignoring, I was. I deleted him off facebook and deleted his number. He is the one who reached out just now. But youre right I should keep my distance cause Idk what his intentions are

You blocked someone and now you're back talking to the person? If so, that's mad shady and a dishonorable character.

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We broke up and I thought we are done. Whats wrong with that?

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Posted by mindofalibra
That's a very long time to ignore someone then suddenly pop back up. If I were you I'd stay clear of this one, he will probably keep you around as friend "for when he wants you". Very dangerous grounds.

HI one more question for you: Would you ever go back to an ex who stopped talking to you 2 years ago? Or would you ever talk to them again? perhaps libra men think differently than libra women but I'd like to know your opinion.

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Posted by mindofalibra
That's a very long time to ignore someone then suddenly pop back up. If I were you I'd stay clear of this one, he will probably keep you around as friend "for when he wants you". Very dangerous grounds.

Interesting. He wasnt the one doing the ignoring, I was. I deleted him off facebook and deleted his number. He is the one who reached out just now. But youre right I should keep my distance cause Idk what his intentions are

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So you stopped contact and deleted him? How was he able to message you then? And after 2 years? Shady... but the guy's got balls considering you ignored him those 2 years.

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Posted by mindofalibra
That's a very long time to ignore someone then suddenly pop back up. If I were you I'd stay clear of this one, he will probably keep you around as friend "for when he wants you". Very dangerous grounds.

HI one more question for you: Would you ever go back to an ex who stopped talking to you 2 years ago? Or would you ever talk to them again? perhaps libra men think differently than libra women but I'd like to know your opinion.

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I know you asked this to someone else, but just thought I'd give my 2 cents.

I personally wouldn't go back to an ex, especially not after 2 years, and definitely not if the ex deleted/blocked me. That tells me the ex doesn't want anything to do with me. So if he pops back in my life after 2 years, I'd be very suspicious.

Then again, I think Libra men are different from the women. They seem to have a habit of getting back with exes. At least that's what I get from reading DXP.

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Posted by mindofalibra
That's a very long time to ignore someone then suddenly pop back up. If I were you I'd stay clear of this one, he will probably keep you around as friend "for when he wants you". Very dangerous grounds.

HI one more question for you: Would you ever go back to an ex who stopped talking to you 2 years ago? Or would you ever talk to them again? perhaps libra men think differently than libra women but I'd like to know your opinion.

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I personally wouldn't to be honest, once I'm done it's done & if someone dumps me I would cut them off & move on even if I'm dying inside., but then again my twin brother used to break it off with someone & if after awhile he sees that they're doing well or look good he'd reel them in again but with no intentions of a 'relationship' but i think just to see if he had that power. It's nasty but he's grown out of it. Just be careful it may be an attention thing & he may charm the pants off you just to drop you.