Head or Heart

What do you listen to??

Think I've asked this before.....I tend to lead with the head, if I follow my heart I'm blinded and it has alway gotten the better of me!

I like to listen to my head/gut. I get in trouble when I follow my heart... but I keep doing it. That's one of the things I am trying to change.

I am normal....

Hate it when I start doubting myself over issues...what you both have said is how I feel everytime!


The heart is treacherous and I need to lock it away for a few months!

Well we all know which is the stronger head in the male.. 😛

I've never understood why god gave us two heads but only enough blood flow to operate one of them at a time.

Ahaha...and yet you guys still manage to listen to the big fella!

I think I feel like your avatar now!!

What are you confused about TOC?

i try to balance. I try to understand my emotions, b/c they are so sudden and at times intense and at tiems they get me just stuck, in one spot feeling lost,. so i HAVE to use my head to see if its anger, or is it disappointment an once i find out what it is i set a boundary with that person on what they did so i can control how i feel nest time around


For me, using my head only, i can be cold, withdrawn and detached and using my heart only i become highly illogical and irrational so i balance them, find a spot that works effectively so i can keep an equilibrium and a sense of awareness of the subconscious while leveling the conscious

Usually, in all honesty, I go with my heart. However, once I see that my heart has fucked me over by making a poor choice then I instantly follow my head.

head

Definitely heart. The head is a false, restless chatter.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Sshh

Shush.

😛

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Oh look over there ! A butterfly......


*wanders off*

That sounds like Achaea (online game!)

I think for Libra a balance is a must - use the head to know if they should use the heart. Some people deserve no sympathy!

This time my head is saying everything is right, he ticks all the boxes on my list, financially independent, business man, traveller, good looking, fit and healthy life style , no children or want for them, easy going and persistent with me, going on 3 months now...we met at Christmas, and in my drunken state I kissed him.


I made excuses to not see him again, I had just moved into my newly built home and was under a lot of stress completing it and dealing with workers, travelling myself and then entertaining house guests over the last couple of months...he was prepared to wait as he said "Good things are worth it" typical Libra couldn't just say, my heart is somewhere else...

But that wasn't meant to be, and I have fresh wounds...is it wrong for me to try and bury them now with a distraction?


Because, he called and he's still very keen to take me out and I have agreed, so I wait for him to call again and lay out the plan....not sure what to expect, I really haven't been on many dates and I've always taken control as I wanted to be somewhere where I felt safe.

I feel a little embarrassed about kissing him and leading him on before too, as my head was messed up and it still is, so I hope he isn't expecting me to be so forward again... I think he'd be the perfect gentleman.

Time will tell where the heart lies on this one or whether my guards have been put back in place tightly again too scared to let feel...

Yes I agree, BUT when is it ever an equal standing? It's always ever the heart ruling or the head!

Posted by sweethearts
typical Libra couldn't just say, my heart is somewhere else...

You couldn't tell him that?

If it is still true have you told him now? It doesn't matter how good he may be in your mind (or your tick list) if your heart isn't available it won't be good.

I'm asking because of this part.

Posted by sweethearts
Because, he called and he's still very keen to take me out and I have agreed, so I wait for him to call again and lay out the plan....not sure what to expect, I really haven't been on many dates and I've always taken control as I wanted to be somewhere where I felt safe.

I feel a little embarrassed about kissing him and leading him on before too, as my head was messed up and it still is, so I hope he isn't expecting me to be so forward again... I think he'd be the perfect gentleman.

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While he may be a perfect gentleman, he liked you. If he told you he was willing to wait and no you are going out with him again he may think he's done waiting now. If you're upfront about stuff it's fine.

Posted by sweethearts
Yes I agree, BUT when is it ever an equal standing? It's always ever the heart ruling or the head!

Head is safer than heart. It is odd for me to say that too, I've always followed the heart (when it had an opinion 😛). I can analyze and/or rationalize my way through just about any problem if it is a non-emotional issue. Once the heart gets involved the brain takes a backseat and just laughs.

Things haven't worked out LS...my heart aches for someone, yes, but it's not going to happen, so I'm moving on! I don't think I need to tell him that.

However, I will apologise for my forward behaviour the first time we met, I feel embarrassed about it. Kissing someone I had only just met, not my normal thing. My only excuse was dumb and drunk, so I'll make sure I don't over indulge when we go out. And I hope it hasn't given him the wrong idea of me.

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Posted by sweethearts
Yes I agree, BUT when is it ever an equal standing? It's always ever the heart ruling or the head!

Head is safer than heart. It is odd for me to say that too, I've always followed the heart (when it had an opinion 😛). I can analyze and/or rationalize my way through just about any problem if it is a non-emotional issue. Once the heart gets involved the brain takes a backseat and just laughs.

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That's why I now question it! The heart normally rules and makes me question whether I am making the right decision.

This is weird, because this guy is on paper everything i have been (thinking) I want...but I feel nothing from the heart. I know I don't know him yet and this is all looking too far ahead but I'm scared that he may be too perfect and I'm not sure I'm even ready for a relationship!! Stupid huh? Mama always says be careful what you wish for, you may get it!!!

Posted by sweethearts
I'm scared that he may be too perfect and I'm not sure I'm even ready for a relationship!! Stupid huh?

I'm not sure about the "too perfect" thing, he's just a guy. We're all assholes sometimes and none of us are perfect (of course you knew that already). I understand what you mean about not being ready for a relationship though. I don't think that is stupid at all. You know you, you know how your heart and mind work. If you aren't ready, it's better that you know that now. No rush.

I meant that in the sense that...too perfect an opportunity to let pass even though I'm not sure if I'm ready...

Guess that is also why I kept him there because I knew it was only a matter of time before the other came to an end.

Thanks LS, bouncing off you helps me work things out.


Now I sit patiently and wait to see what surprise he has in store, and I bet he will take his time getting back to me now as I made him wait out my every reply to his calls/texts....**laughs**

Guess I deserve that!