So the Libra ex is back...

I don't know if you guys remember my thread from 5 months ago, but anyways I'll make things short.
Broke up with Libra after dating for 14 months because he told me he fell in love with a 15 year old girl who he only knew for 5 months and that he kind of wanted to let me know before he did something with that girl, which I am sure he cheated even if he denies it but anyways the guy didn't have the balls to say it to my face so I had to dig the truth out and broke it off by phone.
Anyways... I thought he wasn't going to come back but he did, after sending me almost every month text msgs telling me that he desperately needed to talk to me finally I decided to reply to one of them last month.
In one of the msgs I told him how frustrated and mad I was still at him and how much he had disappointed me and how I didn't want to know anything about him ever again. Anyways to all of that he replied back to me that he was very sorry of what he did to me and that he knew what he had done and that he had payed for his mistakes and was learning from them and that he wanted my happiness so he was going to leave me alone and he hoped some day we will talk again.

So I took his word, decided to remain on my "moving on phase" only to have him sending me messages AGAIN, just random messages like saying good morning and asking how I was doing. I didn't see any harm in them so I replied back to most of them, we talked a lot nicely and even started calling each other.
Things were going good so far, we talked to each other everyday, like nothing had happened, kept it casual, flirt once in a while. Until he asked me if we wanted to meet up, that's when I don't know why but I started fighting with myself thinking that after all the harm he did to me and how he "cheated" on my how could I be so casual to him, how could I even be trying to be "friends" with the enemy, so in one of my impulsive Sagittarius phases I told him that I could not keep talking to him anymore because I was still mad at him and that I was still confused about my feelings and I just didn't think we should keep talking. So to all of that he said that he cared about my happiness and that he hoped to talk to me again.

So once again I began my "moving on phase" only to have him calling me again everyday telling me that he was not going to loose me again, that he already done it once and he didn't want to ever again and that he wasn't going to give up.
So once again, I talked to him again I told him how I still kind of felt something for him but that I wasn't sure, that I had a lot of stress from work and school and that I just couldn't keep doing this.
So once all of a sudden he pulled the disappearing act that Libra's are known for only that this time it was over the phone (because I still haven't seen him in person since we broke up). He started ignoring me, texting and calling less, and everytime I called him he told me he was stressed.
So I left him alone and told him to talk to me when he was ready again, he told me that he thought he was depressed, that he wasn't feeling well that things from his past (he had a fucked up past) were coming into him again and not to take it personal, that he wanted to be alone and he didn't want to talk to anyone.
So fine, I took his word and left him alone and kind of got annoyed because I didn't know if he was just pulling that crap to get rid of me now that he got me to confess that I still felt "something" for him and that I wanted to meet him.

So I ignored him (mostly because I was busy and stressed) and when he finally decided to "come back" I was too stressed that I told him that I couldn't talk to him and that I would when I was ready, however he didn't get it cause he kept calling every day even if I send his call to voicemail and ignored his text messages.

Anyways to make a long story short I finally answered one of his messages last week after him insisting on how he needed to talk to someone so badly and how seeing me would be the best gift ever. So asked him why did he kept searching for me if I told him I clearly didn't want to talk to him and if he had so many friends to talk to why did he pick me. Well he simply replied that he felt comfortable with me and that I was the only one that knew him well and he was scared of opening up to people. To that which I replied that it wasn't fair of him to be using me like that and that we should just let time heal the wounds and to stop talking to me.

Now he keeps telling me that he is going to give me my time and would wait forever for me, even if he would only get my friendship, so he told me to tell him when am I ready to see him in person.

As of now, I finally decided just to keep it casual and see where things lead us. But so far I find this very confusing as I am sure it sounds to all of you since it's all back and forth, back and forth...

P.S Sorry for the grammar mistakes and punctuation, I was typing on my phone 😢

Thank you amethyst2002! I really wanted him to leave me alone and give me some space to breath but he won't!! I have blocked his calls, text, everything! Yet when I do that he starts emailing me like a nut bag or calls me from another number.

So I finally have resigned and decided to just talk to him randomly, is not harming me right now like it was 2 months ago, I think I have finally clearly established in my brain that I do not want to get back to him (at least yet).

ugh. you should cut him off completely. don't be "casual" with him. if he cared about you, he wouldn't be playing with your emotions like this. this is not how a friend treats you. he just wants to keep you around because no one better has replaced you.

this is him being an asshole. any guy can do it. the way he's doing it is certainly libran, but that doesn't change things. he's a jerk, and you need to move on. tell him you'll call the police if he keeps harassing you. and be ready to follow through on it.

This is what Libras are good at: weaseling their ways back into your life.
It's starts out just casual, then more and more friendly, then they want to hang out "as friends," (they know you will end up screwing) you do, then bam they're back in your life and eventually dating again.

You hardly notice it happening. Charming little fuckers.

Posted by pigeonpie
That's kinda like in a roundabout way saying you can't resist them ? 🙂

Damn.

Let's just put it this way. If I am seriously pissed/hate them/so done with a Libra...very limited to no contact at all is the only way if they're trying to get you back.

Because they get what they want.
They will have you back.

Thank you for all the replies. I know he is a jerk and I do feel disgusted of how he plays :s but....

I know what I am about to say next might not sound smart or bright but well.. I met him last Thursday, and I don't know he apologized of course, he finally for the first time since I've known him answered ALL of my questions, there was no "I don't know" like usual, this time they were straight answers which make me understand him and the way he acted while we were and we were not together. So once again I feel peaceful since now I know the "truth" which I wanted to hear from him ever since we broke up. I don't know somehow when we met again it wasn't awkward or anything, it actually helped me a lot to move on and to finally know what I want, also I saw a different him, he wasn't the dumb kid I used to date he actually got smarter.

Anyways we went out to some bars, talked a lot, came back home however we did not sleep together, I left it clear to him that he wasn't getting any either, we just kissed and cuddled and damn the passion was still there, next morning when he tried to kiss me however I didn't let him, just gave him a kiss in the cheek to say goodbye.

Anyways I left it clear to him that I forgive but I don't forget and that right now I am not searching for a relationship(no friends with benefits either) and I do not want one and if he wants me back he is going to have to stay single for a while and wait. Also if if he pulls his disappearing crap again with no "real" reasons I am gone for good. He seemed to agree since he is still talking to me, we'll see what happens.
Maybe I fell in the "Libra trap" but I somehow I don' feel what I am doing is wrong, I hope I don't regret my actions. I will keep you posted!

lol. is it just me, or do libras like kissing and cuddling just as much as sex? it's the attention and physical contact and knowing you like us that works.

but good for you for thinking you drew your line without giving him what he wanted.

like, a dude can be mad as fuck with me, but as long as he'll give me a good long hug, i really don't give a fuck. he can stay mad if that's how he is when he's mad. lol.