how do you start a relationship

If you think u have found the one ( 0r still if they are) what are the stages that you or they go through to get to the "real deal relationship" thingy..i.e. being friends with them first..for a long time or something or you go straight to courtship..etc..

and what does friendship really mean to you librans. If someone say for example is trying to get to know you better and making you get to know them more..stating more things in common and and pushing the "we are alike here in this and that" trying to be always on the same level with you..

I have this libra co-worker/friend ( he is from another department..lol) we've been friends for quite sometime now and had a crush on him and i think he had a crush on me too and we flirted a bit and that sort of destroyed our good friendship cause after that...we both played hard to get creating a big wall between us and now that we are back on a more "friendship" level..we are getting closer..than before..so i think sort of starting over is a good thing or is it up to friendship? then what is it? and the possibilities.

Interesting question....well I have to say I did the friendship thing for a year, he showed ALL the signs he was on the same page except just wouldn't give the actual commitment thing.

Apparently they know exactly when you are "the one" right from the start but sometimes ( more often though, they just dont have a clue what they want)....

Keep the friendship going, see where it takes you - dont read it in it...did i mention dont read into anything until he says he wants to be in a r/ship with you—

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hang around like good old friends, stay honest, talk as much as you can and then suddenly some day you should surprise him with a question like "would you like to have sex with me" on a non emotional way or "do you mind if I kiss you?". Say it in a way so you can later tell him you were kidding if turns around and think you are insane.

the libran is spot on!!! 🙂 Great post..!

I have never been friends first.

I agree with Chatz and thelibran. Keeping the emotional stuff out works. Libras are funny, they just might change their mind in an instant. Wake up one day and say. "I like so and so" and tell you.

As most of you already know, this sort of think happened (in a way) with my ex husband. We were FWB's, which was fine for awhile then we started spending more time together, then I told him I didn't want that anymore, that I wanted more. I was positive that would be the end. He responded: " Lets do it" a day or two later. I still didn't believe him until we actually started a relationship, within a couple months he asked me to move in with him (since my lease was up anyway) I did. But later I found out that the day he met me he told a friend he was with "She is going to be my wife some day". So, I guess they do know right off. I guess it is different with different ones.

I have a Libra friend who I know will never be more. But we are still close friends.

Go with the flow, and be yourself.... but I would tell him at some point that its hard to be around him due to your intense attraction towards him. that way you leave it open for him to respond its like you saying in so many words " I feel this way but I don't want to pressure you into something you may not be ready for nor do I want to put myself through this. I wouldn't want to suggest anything physical. He's a man so you may not want to open the door for a causal encountered unless that's what you want. That's just one women's perspective on the topic.

You will drive yourself crazy trying to read between the lines with a Libra. It's better to be aloof, BE INCREDIBLY PATIENT and know that actions speak louder then words. However, don't count on that either. Just because he says something he can change his mind right after he says it. He can be indecisive all he wants but even when he starts to show you how he feels......He'll pull a 180 and disappear, leaving you wondering and questioning yourself about what you might have done that brought about his disappearances. Get used to it if you're up for the games Libras play.

If you are happy being his friend then cherish it. Read and then re-read the Libra forum. KNOW what you're getting involved with. BE smart. Be friends! FWY: if you do get your heart broken by a Libra.......(and you probably will) this is the greatest place to go to for great advise, consolation, and personal empowerment and encouragement when it is working well. This forum in particular holds some first class Libra's and others! Yay!!!!

And Good luck whatever you choose to do.

Thanks y'all for the replies. I am not up for FWB. I would rather just be plain friends then go to a relationship. I am so fine with it. Right now I am happy with just being friends. He jokes a lot about things i do not want to give credit for like: none of my relationships work because i am waiting for you. I am fine thank God I met you. I am always thinking about you. Which since i am a skeptic I always have a none reciprocating response(if that's correct words)then say he is joking. Then say he appreciates our friendship and likes me as a friends. I am not being emotional about it and not completely crazy or attracted to him, but i like him and think I could/might want to be in a relationship with him. He is the closest person i have in the office right now and it's a good thing he is well respected there. But i know he has a lot of other female friends which is normal and other girls in the office a little flirtatious around him, it doesn't bother me that much cause somehow I know, I am in an upper level...lol... he told me he talked to his friend about me? i was like what? and he say it's funny they asked me questions about you and said " go be with her" I don't know what that means. BUt you are right, I am trying to stop thinking and just go along the mind games, which is also one of my hobbies...lol 😉