I am steamed!!!!!!!!!!!!

WTF? I am soooo pissed right now I can't even see straight which is why I'm on DXP as to refrain myself from texting this douche bag! So I have a Libra male "friend" whom I have known since we were children we're both 30 now. To be honest things got sticky at one point when we became FWB but that ended in October, so within 6 months there have been no problems. Now my father took ill in February, he had a stroke, then I found out he was HIV+ Libra was one of 3 people that I shared this info with because I thought we were friends & I trusted him. Now I've felt recently as if all of my friends have kind of distanced themselves from me, so I got a chain email/text on my phone saying describe what a friend means to you & I'll return the message.I sent it to him along with a few others He responded immediately stating.....Means all kinds of things LOL gotta be true! I can give a better answer at a diff. time LOL. well excuse me but I see nothing funny about this! So I respond saying that a friend is someone who sympathizes with you, is there for you & who you can always depend on day or night. Do you know this bastard texted me back......well it looks like I'm not your friend! My feelings are sooo hurt right now I didn't even know how to respond! So I wrote well that's OK you don't have to consider me a friend but I consider you a friend to me, but then I got so angry that he would treat me this way that I wrote him back........on 2nd thought, you don't think of me as a friend......really? WHY would he act like this? Please help!!!

On second thought .. I'll just say ..


"I've felt recently as if all of my friends have kind of distanced themselves from me"


Why?

People do things for a reason .. and if all your friends are distancing themselves from you .. rather than getting upset over "that" they are doing this .. the prudent thing to do is to try and figure out "why".

For one person, or two of your friends .. is a bit odd .. but, if ALL of them don't think you are a friend back to them .. then this is something you should be considering.

CanTuar

Sometimes people respond differently in certain situations...Some people have a hard time dealing with sickness and in knowing how to respond accordingly to family memebers of the sick person..A lot of people will distance themselves in situations like this because they don't know what to say, how to sympathize or just plain don't want to deal or think about unhappy situations...

My friends father had a stroke years ago and a lot of his friends who fished, hunted with him ECT just drifted away...Very sad..What their reasons are we will never know..

My father has had cancer for 4 years and last year he had to have a stem cell transplant..My daughter who is 17 has always been really close to him and when he got sick she really distanced herself from him...They are still not close now...In this situation I believe she was afraid of him dying and that she didn't know how to react to his sickness...

Not saying it's the same situation, but it could have something to do with him not knowing how to emotionally deal with the situation and with your feelings..

Thanks everyone for your replies, Libra called & left me a V.M. last night apologizing, he said he meant it as a joke but didn't think about what I had been going through & how I could take what he said the wrong way. He asked that I please call him ASAP so I waited maybe a half hour just to give myself a little time to cool off/compose myself because when someone makes me that angry, there's no telling what I may say. Anyway I called him & no answer & I didn't leave a message. This morning I wake up to find a rather long e-mail from him waiting for me. Basically he says that he doesn't know what kind of friend I expect him to be, but he prays for myself & family all the time. He says he doesn't know how I feel & he isn't going to try to figure it out. He then goes on to say that he's not ready to speak to me on the phone( why did he ask me to call him asap then?) because he needs to take some time to figure out why I got so upset with him, wouldn't that info be obtained easier by talking to the person (ME) directly?

Oh one other thing he says in the letter that has me ready to throw in the towel with this guy states.....When I found out about the new thing with your dad it kinda made me worry about other things........Am I crazy or is he suggesting that I may possibly have HIV as well, thus being worried for himself because we hooked up for 4 months? That's how I took it & that is hurtful, That shows me that he doesn't know me at all. The fact is, my father was diagnosed with this recently, I have not taken part in any activity with my father that would even put me at risk for contracting the virus. Further more IF...I had it I would never put someone else at risk &&&& we always used protection. To me the statement was kind of a low blow, rub salt in the wound type thing 😢 Makes me sad that I wasted my time attempting to be friends with someone who I'm now coming to realize was never even interested!