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is he not that into me? or is he scared?
I'm an Aries. 29. He's 37. Definitely single. Also I tend to have many men around me.. have more male friends than females. I don't think he likes that.
No he's definitely interested. At least with me I always do that hot and cold thing, where I seem totally interested then not. Libras dont like expressing showing emotions and will 'try' hard to hide they're feelings but they come off very transparent and moody at times. Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel so he can he'll for more comfortable expressing himself
This dude is 37 and behaving this way.
....this dude is THIRTY SEVEN and behaving this way.
Now you know why he's single.
Keep reminding yourself of this. He's behaving like an ass. Why would you continue to be attracted to someone like that?
Also, strike "is he scared?" from your vocabulary and mentality. This is a stupid fuck concept that women perpetuate when a man acts like an ass, which is what this guy is doing. He is not "scared." Men who are hot and cold are NOT "scared." They're immature asshats who are playing games. Men who aren't emotionally stunted do not behave this way around women they are interested in.
The last time I had a guy behave like this around me, it turned out he was one of the most psychotic men (boy) I have ever come across. Issues up the ass, emotionally fucked, and treated women terribly. Couldn't get his life together to save his ass. All in all, immature. I always wondered wtf was up with his behavior but stopped caring when I realized the dude was just a walking trainwreck. He didn't deserve my time or attention and I told him to fuck off.
Please, do yourself a favor and find a man that will act his age (you are now at the age where that should be an expectation of men your age). If you meet guys in their mid to late 30s still acting very much like teenagers and young 20 somethings, run for the fucking hills. That shit will NOT change.
....this dude is THIRTY SEVEN and behaving this way.
Now you know why he's single.
Keep reminding yourself of this. He's behaving like an ass. Why would you continue to be attracted to someone like that?
Also, strike "is he scared?" from your vocabulary and mentality. This is a stupid fuck concept that women perpetuate when a man acts like an ass, which is what this guy is doing. He is not "scared." Men who are hot and cold are NOT "scared." They're immature asshats who are playing games. Men who aren't emotionally stunted do not behave this way around women they are interested in.
The last time I had a guy behave like this around me, it turned out he was one of the most psychotic men (boy) I have ever come across. Issues up the ass, emotionally fucked, and treated women terribly. Couldn't get his life together to save his ass. All in all, immature. I always wondered wtf was up with his behavior but stopped caring when I realized the dude was just a walking trainwreck. He didn't deserve my time or attention and I told him to fuck off.
Please, do yourself a favor and find a man that will act his age (you are now at the age where that should be an expectation of men your age). If you meet guys in their mid to late 30s still acting very much like teenagers and young 20 somethings, run for the fucking hills. That shit will NOT change.
Posted by libraprobs4Why would you continue having interest in a guy who already has issues with other men in your life and he's not even actually dating you?
I'm an Aries. 29. He's 37. Definitely single. Also I tend to have many men around me.. have more male friends than females. I don't think he likes that.
NEXT.
Find someone who is compatible with you AND your life. You cannot force the square peg into the round hole.
@OP- I know a Libra co worker man he is something else. And once you betray me in anyway while at work. You're history...or I mean never speak or look like at me..
@OP- Working with a potential co worker can work of course I need to assume you are indeed single and not fucking taken.
But I don't want to work in the same floor or perhaps the same shift. I hate everyone in my business. And when shit goes down, it will cause tension and a possible job relocation..
But I don't want to work in the same floor or perhaps the same shift. I hate everyone in my business. And when shit goes down, it will cause tension and a possible job relocation..
Pretty much what rockyroad said, although to answer your question more directly, guy isn't that into you. Men know how to date women they are interested in.
Here is a bit of advice that might save you some heartache on the bumpy road to love. Unless they are asking you out on actual dates, they don't exist.
Here is a bit of advice that might save you some heartache on the bumpy road to love. Unless they are asking you out on actual dates, they don't exist.
Posted by littlesparrowYEP.
Pretty much what rockyroad said, although to answer your question more directly, guy isn't that into you. Men know how to date women they are interested in.
Here is a bit of advice that might save you some heartache on the bumpy road to love. Unless they are asking you out on actual dates, they don't exist.
That's why it pisses me off every time I hear some poor girl utter, "is he scared?"
NO. NO HE IS NOT. HE IS NOT INTO YOU.
You will KNOW when a guy is legitimately into you. He plays hot/cold because he's immature and is fucking around with you because he gets off on the attention. Guys are very much guilty of being "cock teases" like women can be.
He's interested in you but he's not serious about committing to anything serious or long term with you. So either continue to go along with the time and attention when/if he decided to give it to you or move on.
Oh boy an attention whore… yippy(rolls eyes) gross.
I personally don’t like guys that openly crave attention from multiple women. I mean if it happens naturally for him, then that’s different but when he’s going out of his way to flirt with anything in a skirt, it’s a turn off for me. It makes me feel like he doesn’t have any standards, and a man with no standards will mess with anything, which means…you’re not special. Get it?
At least that’s just how I look at it.
Anyway, I recently had a crush on a Leo. He gets a lot of attention just like your Libra but he doesn’t openly flirt with the women that come his way. He doesn’t even look for the attention, he just gets it. Heck he barely responds to the advances that come his way, and if he does it’s not over the top or flirty, it’s more cool and polite, showing that he basically just doesn’t want to be flat out rude or come off like a jerk. I tend to show him small amounts of attention, just like he does me. Nothing major like most women that go after him.
I get the feeling he’s used to women coming to him, so I show that I know he exist but I wont over do it, because I don’t want to fall in line like the others. Recently he surprised me by speaking to me first, I spoke back he gave me a brief hug, told me I look nice then he walked off, I smiled and said thank you and walked off too.
Let the man be the man. In your case, I wouldn’t hold my breath. He does sound rather immature.
I personally don’t like guys that openly crave attention from multiple women. I mean if it happens naturally for him, then that’s different but when he’s going out of his way to flirt with anything in a skirt, it’s a turn off for me. It makes me feel like he doesn’t have any standards, and a man with no standards will mess with anything, which means…you’re not special. Get it?
At least that’s just how I look at it.
Anyway, I recently had a crush on a Leo. He gets a lot of attention just like your Libra but he doesn’t openly flirt with the women that come his way. He doesn’t even look for the attention, he just gets it. Heck he barely responds to the advances that come his way, and if he does it’s not over the top or flirty, it’s more cool and polite, showing that he basically just doesn’t want to be flat out rude or come off like a jerk. I tend to show him small amounts of attention, just like he does me. Nothing major like most women that go after him.
I get the feeling he’s used to women coming to him, so I show that I know he exist but I wont over do it, because I don’t want to fall in line like the others. Recently he surprised me by speaking to me first, I spoke back he gave me a brief hug, told me I look nice then he walked off, I smiled and said thank you and walked off too.
Let the man be the man. In your case, I wouldn’t hold my breath. He does sound rather immature.
Posted by libraprobs4You're probably too pretty and your def too young for him. Find better.
I'm an Aries. 29. He's 37. Definitely single. Also I tend to have many men around me.. have more male friends than females. I don't think he likes that.
I agree with the comments here. Although I would like to add some extra points. I am an Aries guy and I've had my fair share of Libra women. Yes they do come across as bi-polar. But speaking one Aries to another. I know we like games and a challenge and we wonder why things aren't working out, we want things to be perfect and will perhaps over-analyse. We are impatient, and unfortunately you need patience dealing with a Libra. I could be wrong but think about this, my advice is not to make your feelings clear, act like what he is doing is normal. Don't show him much attention and let him do the work (after all he is the guy), I know Aries women go for what they want, it's attractive to me as an Aries, but it's the opposite for Libras, it isn't attractive. They want time to decide, they don't want in you face confrontation, they do get scared. So my advice is just to not to put that much effort in, forget him, and if he comes back and makes the effort to see you, then let him. But let him do the work. I can't really explain why but if you use force, you will come off worse, you will wonder why it's going wrong more than you do now.
I know this is extremely hard for and Aries. But if you are like me, you know we can fight fire with fire, and it will work out. But you can't fight libra indecisive behaviour with fire.
Find something else to concentrate on, maybe another guy (who knows), if he does do the work, then I think you will feel better but you will probably be bored of him by then, it will take time for him to do anything. But at least you will win if you have patience, if you act brash, you will lose. So forget him. Ignore him and talk to other guys, don't give him attention. Aim to win the game, not the guy, you only think you want the guy, but it's actually more the game you want to win, you win with patience, and when you win, you will be bored of him.
I know this is extremely hard for and Aries. But if you are like me, you know we can fight fire with fire, and it will work out. But you can't fight libra indecisive behaviour with fire.
Find something else to concentrate on, maybe another guy (who knows), if he does do the work, then I think you will feel better but you will probably be bored of him by then, it will take time for him to do anything. But at least you will win if you have patience, if you act brash, you will lose. So forget him. Ignore him and talk to other guys, don't give him attention. Aim to win the game, not the guy, you only think you want the guy, but it's actually more the game you want to win, you win with patience, and when you win, you will be bored of him.
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Basically, it makes me wonder if this is him not interested or actually him being scared. Because I feel this tension whenever we are by each other, and a part of me thinks he feels it too.