Is it a good idea to talk it out when a libra is mad?

Yay so i am here to trouble again. For those who don't know my story, we brokeup 1.5 months ago because of his family issue and i accepted it. Now,we had promised to continue remaining friends and we did continue.Of course there was sudden feeling of awkwardness,guilt and nervousness around each other but we'd still be there for each other in times of need.He'd still text me even though not as much as before and i understood that.However,3 weeks ago a misunderstanding took place between his best friend and me involving my ex and i reacted impulsively and said few harsh things like "wow so he was being fake throughout our relationship." I reacted that way because i was already going through an emotionally low phase then and i was overcoming it but then his best friend texts saying my ex doesnt like me as more than a friend so i thought he meant that's what it was before the breakup else why would he suddenly tell me this when he knows we brokeup and when i accepted it?My ex texted me an hour saying how much he was shocked with my reaction and how much my reaction and words(saying he was faking it throughout our relationship) hurt him badly.He felt hurt thinking that's how i felt about him and doubted him and how i broke our bond of trust and honesty.I understood why he felt that way but I asked him to understand why i reacted the way i did but he didn't.My anger calmed down and i decided to apologize but then i found out he blocked me.Now that obviously fumed me.He started ignoring and avoiding me badly in college.As if I'm dead to him. His friends told him I wasn't wrong with the way i reacted but he continued.He unblocked me a week later but he still continued to behave that way with me and it just feels as if the hatred and misunderstanding between us is growing with each day.We would go home in our classmate's car and we went twice even after the fight but then the third day i heard him say he doesnt want to go with me. He also showed signs of jealousy when I hangout and talk more to our mutual guy friend(who is my best friend) and when i happily talk to all guys in class and joke around with them.Today our mutual good friend took my ex and me in his team for hackathon competition. My ex's friends were teasing him since I'm in the team too. My friend then asked him whats going on between us and my ex said "nothing.We fought" and his face turned pale.Then my friend asked him why and my ex said "lately she has been lying a lot and is being fake" Now that pricked me solid bad because I dont remember lying about anything at all and i don't know why is he saying I'm being fake. My friend thinks it's probably because i ignore him but happily laugh around and mingle with other guys in class.Now,i think it's really weird if he expected me to apologize to him after blocking me. It's his birthday tomorrow and I was thinking if I should wish him and talk out whats going on between us and why is there so much negativity and hatred. Is this a good idea?

Posted by blackphase
Or chances are there will be no talking and they will just show back up like nothing happened when they cool down..

that's what this guy is doing. No talking and behaving like I'm dead to him.And then when asked "why did y'll fight?",reply saying "lately she's being lying a lot and is being fake". Lying a lot? Being fake? Like WTF ??

That's why I considered the idea of talking it out with him since I see way too many misunderstandings,negativities,hatred and resentment building up between us with each day.

Also,it's his birthday tomorrow. I thought of wishing him but I don't know if i should text him in the group along with other classmates or text him personally wishing him or wish him in person tomorrow in school. I'm scared if he'll ignore.That would be damn insulting but I also don't like the idea of not wishing him because that's not good. Man such a dilemma :\

Leave him the hell alone.

I didn't even bother with that wall, just read the title and then knowing your history.

didnt read but to answer ur title, no.

@dolluxe @rockyroadicecream @Ophiuchus @blackphase - even though it's been 3 weeks already with absolutely no talk whatsoever and only and only ignorance and hatred? And also the fact that today when someone asked him why did we fight,he said that lately i've been lying a lot and being fake (just that i casually laugh around and mingle with all guys and girls from class except him since he ignores and avoids me too). I can always sense his nervousness and awkwardness when he's around me now.And also,what about his birthday? Should i wish him in person or just with everyone in group on chat?

Posted by gia
@dolluxe @rockyroadicecream @Ophiuchus @blackphase - even though it's been 3 weeks already with absolutely no talk whatsoever and only and only ignorance and hatred? And also,what about his birthday? Should i wish him in person or just with everyone in group on chat?

lololol hes hated u for 3 wks and ur still stressing over his bday. looolololol

I hear you all and I really appreciate the responses. Just curious. Does the fact that he's a libra/virgo cusp with a venus in scorpio have anything to do with his behavior?

I read somewhere that men with venus in scorpio tend to get really aggressive when hurt and behave like you're dead and also get jealous.

Posted by gia
@dolluxe @rockyroadicecream @Ophiuchus @blackphase - even though it's been 3 weeks already with absolutely no talk whatsoever and only and only ignorance and hatred? And also the fact that today when someone asked him why did we fight,he said that lately i've been lying a lot and being fake (just that i casually laugh around and mingle with all guys and girls from class except him since he ignores and avoids me too). I can always sense his nervousness and awkwardness when he's around me now.And also,what about his birthday? Should i wish him in person or just with everyone in group on chat?

I'm sorry but you're a moron.

Posted by gia
I hear you all and I really appreciate the responses. Just curious. Does the fact that he's a libra/virgo cusp with a venus in scorpio have anything to do with his behavior?

I read somewhere that men with venus in scorpio tend to get really aggressive when hurt and behave like you're dead and also get jealous.

"I hear you all and appreciate your responses, but I'm not going to listen to any of it and harass you about this to the point where you'll be considering having me admitted to a facility."

@rockyroadicecream , your opinions aren't required by me if you can't speak respectfully. Thanks.

Posted by gia

Posted by gia
@rockyroadicecream , your opinions aren't required by me if you can't speak respectfully. Thanks.Peace out.

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Thanks for proving my point with your failure to even quote properly.

Update for the ones who have given respectable opinions that I greatly appreciate

- So i just texted him today wishing him a happy birthday.A very simple Happy birthday enjoy your day text.

He responded back thanking me and said he wants to talk to me today.

So I was sitting in our class with my friend and he came to me and asked if we could have some privacy so my friend left the class. It was just the two of us. He sat with me and he said it was getting too childish.He also said he was very mad at me since it really hurt him but he didn't like the fact that we were behaving this way with each other and weren't talking anymore. I told him about how I felt too. It seemed we wanted to talk more but people walked in so we had to end the conversation. So we are friends again. However, I am probably over-thinking but the way he was looking at me throughout our talk felt the same way he would look at me when we were together. I sensed that nervousness and mild shyness from both of us. My friend who was occasionally keeping an eye on us from outside the class (just to make sure we don't end up fighting badly) also said she saw him looking at my lips many times while talking as if he would kiss me rightaway any moment.

We decided to be friends again forgetting all the drama and forgiving each other for all that happened in the past 3 weeks.

I'm sure we won't talk and text as much but I'm still glad we won't behave cold towards each other.

*eyeroll*

Anxiously awaiting the new threads where she'll be asking if he really wants her again. She's already ignoring what he's told her and reading into small details of nothing.

Fabulous.

Posted by dolluxe
Being friends with an ex never worked out for me. I burn bridges, it's my way of moving on. I do hope everything works out for you 🙂

I don't disagree @dolluxe. It does help moving on better but the case with us here is that we are classmates.We have to see each other everyday and even interact in class. We are in the same team for many class activites so we have to be in good terms. I am definitely not hoping for a reconciliation but all I've wanted was us to not have any hatred for each other. That's why I'm happy that he at least initiated the idea to talk out things and end the bitter treatment from both sides.

@tiziani, I do completely agree with you. I have desperatly wanted us to have this talk and I'm glad he initiated it but people do come into the picture from nowhere. We were in class ,alone together,when we started the talk but then 4 of our classmates got in for some work. Our classroom is the only private place we could manage then but few minutes later people got in. We waited for them to get out but then our professor came along alas.

I know we can't have a relationship because his family objected but all I've wanted is that we share a healthy positive rapport as classmates. I don't want any negativity and hatred. That's all I want.