libra guy is MIA what does that mean?

Before I get started let me begin with this is my fault. I made the mistake & I regret it everyday. So I'll try to make this long story as short as possible. I'm a sag female & was friends with a libra male for 2 years before we started dating. We dated for about a month & things continued to get better & better. We really were falling for each other. Just when things started to get even more amazing an ex of mine contacted me. I told him I was happy with someone & he needed to respect that. Well he didn't. He hacked my phone because he is crazy & started harassing my libra bf. Not knowing what else to do & respecting my libra too much I decided it was best to spare him the hassle of being with me at the moment & broke things off with him. It felt wrong & I didn't want too but I cut ties completely with him. I have since taken action to legally remove my crazy ex from my life & after a few months of not talking to my libra ex I reached out to him to explain. We talked for 2 & a half hours. I told him literally everything & he understood & was very supportive. I told him I cared about him a lot & I never wanted to leave, my intention in doing that was only to keep him safe. He said he appreciated it & told me he was really happy with me too during that time we were together. Two days after our phone call I asked him to hangout. He said yes & he would let me know since he had clients to meet after work but it would be within the week. I waited two weeks cause I know he's busy with work & I asked if he still wanted to get together. Never answered me. I waited another week & sent him another text asking how he was. Never answered. Its been three weeks & no answer. I have no intention of texting him a third time as not to bother him. So what is it? Is he giving me & him space because of the situation or is he rejecting me? He is very punctual & honest I at least expected him to tell me he changed his mind & didn't want to see me anymore than just disappearing on me. I was completely open & honest with him. so with that being said everyone's opinions are much appreciated. Thank you!

LMAO! Yet another libra guy disappeared.

Come on down, Rocky, and explain to her the usual. LOL

This story sounds sketchy, how is it your ex was able to get close enough to hack your phone if you were happy with the Libra guy? Seems like your actions back fired. You were trying to force the Libra in to a commitment by showing him your ex still wanted you. Now you want him to believe you care for him AFTER you Dumped him which coincidentally is right around the same time your ex is sniffing around? .yeah....uh good luck with that.

No that's actually not how it happened at all. I never told my libra bf about my ex because my ex didn't matter to me in that way anymore. I was happy with my libra & he knows that. Libra was the one pursing me. I was with libra when my ex started texting him. My ex hacked my iCloud account & found his phone number. I know it sounds sketchy & trust me sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy but I explained all of this to my libra ex & like I said he was completely understanding

Or maybe he wasn't since he hasn't followed through on the plans we made

I feel you taking the initiative to ask him out two days after reconnecting was to soon. You are moving to fast for reconciliation, I mean the man have'nt had the chance to fully process your reasons and explanations..now cause you contacted him and apologized you want him to be in the same emotional/mental place with you?.. You've been gone for a couple of months no contact whatsoever..And now you feel some type of way about him not keeping 'the plans we made' those were YOUR plans..I think he was being nice to spare your feelings. To get you off the phone..

I mean for goodness sake think about it..you explained to the Libra your 'ex' has Krazy tendencies the proof is Ex texting a TOTAL stranger ranting and raging about you!..You disappear off the face of the earth no explanations!..Hell for all the Libra knows you could have been involved with ex for the last few months..I mean the story is just really out there to be believable. I still stand behind my initial comment....Good Luch with that...

Thank you, I appreciate your input. I wasn't seeing everything from his point of view & that's something I have to work on. I didn't actually expect things to go back to normal just didn't want to lose my friend. We were friends for two years before this happened & it isn't a story. This is something that actually happened to me no matter how unbelievable it sounds it happened. But from someone on the outside looking in who doesn't know either person involved your messages were very enlightening. Like I said I'm not going to initiate any further contact. I don't want to Hurt him & i do want him to be happy. I'm not a mean or vindictive person. He told me on the phone when we talked he knows I'm a good person & played the only cards I had at the time. Not making excuses or anything like that. Just wanted my friend back but like you said that probably isnt going to happen. I'm starting to accept that

Remix - I agree with what ladygem says.. You didnt mention your ex to him for 2 years. And then disappear when he reappears. Didnt you trust your man enough to confide in him? Couldnt you let him in on your problems and let him help in any which way? Is he just supposed to be around only in good times? I understand that you wanted to spare him the issues associated with your ex. But you needed to let your man in and not push him away.
Give him time... He may be back. But dont stop trying - just dont expect it to be so soon. Put yourself in his shoes and understand things from his perspective.
Neither of you was wrong - but every relationship is built on trust and the ability to communicate in all situations!

Thank you so much starry22 & again ladygem. You're right, I haven't really taken Time to see things from his perspectice. For about a month or two I was dealing with the courts to remove my ex from my life. It was a messed up situation & during it I didn't see any other way to handle It. As time passed I've thought about how I could've done things differently & I regret how I went about it. Sometimes though I think this was something I needed to handle on my own since it became so involved I didn't want to bring libra down. I truly believe everything happens for a reason & even though I regret leaving it was meant to happen this way. He might come back or he might not. I'm just glad I was able to spare him any further heart ache or head ache. I'm glad too I was able to talk with my libra & explain to him. You're absolutely right, relationships of any kind are built on trust & communication & that's something I failed to realized being so worried about other things

I told my libra guy on the phone I didn't leave him for my ex because that was what I was afraid he'd think. My ex is not a good person, he is very controlling. He thinks I'm his property. so if he can't have me no one can. Again these are all the same things I told my libra. He was more understanding than I thought hed be haha I was expecting him to tell me he hated me & not even hear me out but he did. & I agree with you sugarfoot, me not communicating because I was scared probably made him think I wasn't the right person for him. & he doesn't owe me an explanation which is why I never asked him for one. The last thing I sent him was a text about a week ago asking how he was but he never responded so I'm giving him space & time. I just wanted to repair our friendship I didn't think Wed jump back in a relationship nor do I want too. We both need to heal. My close friends & family that know everything are very supportive & keep telling me I did the right thing by keeping him away from my ex & out of the situation because as I said earlier it became a huge ordeal that dragged on for a month or two

Thank you tiziani I really appreciate everything you said & that is definitely the way I'm living life as of late. Everything happens for a reason. this message board is awesome & really helpful

Tiziani- Im sorry the same thing happened to you, exes coming back to haunt you isn't something anyone needs to deal with but its relieving knowing we are not alone.

I'm glad for you that your ex did not hurt your friendship with your sag. In my opinion that was immature of your ex but you can't control other people just yourself & I think you did the right thing. Your sag appreciated your honesty. My ex didn't dig up our past he threatened my libra so my quick thinking I told him we should just stay friends I didn't want to involve him in that kind of situation at all. But knowing you two remained friends is wonderful. It's a natural connection for sag & libra

Sugafoot- I hear what you're saying, looking back on it I wish I would've talked to my libra & normally I'm very open to communicaton. In the moment I made a quick decision & as much as I regret it I honestly don't think I would've done anything differently. I had to get a pfa against my ex he was getting so bad so that whole time I was away from my libra I was in court. I wasn't going to drag him through that even if he wanted to be there for me. I had his well being in mind even though my heart was breaking for him. I definitely don't expect anything from him though. I will be grateful for a friendship but i won't ask for an explanation if he doesn't want one. I would've appreciated honesty from him if he had changed his mind but after everything I told him I can't blame him for wanting to stay away from me for a while. It hurt to have to accept that but I take responsibility for the role I played in pushing him away. If I could go back & do one thing differently I would've taken your advice & told him more

remix, what are your placements?

Placements? I Just started to look into astrology not too long ago haha how do I find out?

Thank you sugafoot 🙂 & thank you for telling me your perspective. I was so used to getting advice from my inner circle hearing outside points of views really helped a lot. I was nervous to post anything due to not knowing the reaction I would get. Some people can be mean. But for this being a message board everyone was super helpful & insightful. Definitely feel like I grew in a more positive way so thank you for that 🙂 hope all goes well for you too!

HE'S NOT INTO YOU.

You proved you were an idiot and a dramallama.

You turned him off and he headed for the hills. Sorry.

I also find it moronic on your part is that if you knew your ex was a controlling douche, why did you reply when he got in contact? The CORRECT response would have been to ignore the dude, seeing as how he's your EX and isn't exactly deserving of any time of yours, let alone a response to an out of the blue "sniffing things out" message.

I don't blame the Libra for high tailing it out of there. Any sane guy would. Chicks like you are the ones they all should be running from.

Posted by tiziani
I don't relate to anything being said here at all.

I believe you did the right and honourable thjng by ending it at the time. In my book, no one should enter a new relationship without their loose ends ties up. You offered to end it with him on principle and me personalky I totally get that... at no point would I have wanted to be dragged into some latent drama with your ex and I wouldn't have been questioning your trust of me at all.

That's just me though and as a friend of course I would have wanted to make sure you were safe, but there's no way I would have confused romantic feelings or obligations with all of that, ever.

So you did the right thing imo.

But just as you had 2 months to sort out yourself, he's going to take some time. And either way, live your life. Ball is in his court. Don't wait around, just be glad you put the past chapter firmky in your history and enjoy today.

It's funny you state you can't relate to what was said, but understand her "doing the honorable thing by ending it"..but her FRIEND the Libra she was dating did not? She didn't end it amicably. She just broke up with him and disappeared how is that honorable?.. They were friends first correct? I mean that's what she's concerned with now losing the friendship, but she didn't even consider that when she left..She said they were friends 2 years before starting the relationship, you mean she wasn't comfortable in being up front and honest about what was happening in her life with her FRIEND at the onslaught of this whole debacle?...ok...yeah well I can't relate to your perspective either...

This wasn't meant to turn into an argument. I was expecting people to not agree with me & think I was lying or being a b**ch but I did tell my libra the relationship wasn't going to work right now. It was after that i stopped talking to him. It doesn't matter what I say your mind is made up & that's fine I'm not trying to change it but there's a difference between constructive critisizm & being rude. & I didn't even tell my family for a long time. I'm a private person. It's just who I am. It's not a yes or no situation. I'm open to positive & negative feedback but again don't be insulting. I know i made a mistake & couldve done things differently I didn't come here to be put down & neither did anyone else. Tiz has his point of view as does everyone else on this thread & they're entitled to that

Its not an argument at least not to me..(Tiz) made a comment about the previous postings and I replied in kind..I get the whole down the line rekindle the friendship/relationship, but that will take time. As I stated in a previous post OP was moving to fast!..Hence my good luck with that comment..

Okay I mis read your comment then I'm sorry. Yeah I'm going to give it time, I guess I just got excited from how well the phone call went I thought a friendly get together was in the cards but it's not haha it hurts but I did it to myself & I accept whatever happens. Libra is a good guy & if I gave him the impression I was a crappy friend then he doesn't deserve that anyways

Maybe I'm old school/ old fashion, but to expect the Libra guy to forgive and move on so quickly is just baffling to me!..The Libra just found out about the details he really have'nt had the chance to lick his wounds over losing his girl more or less why this happened in the first place!! Just say fuck it! We all make mistakes..now where were we?...Jeezus..At least let him gain sure footing in just communicatin with you without having to wonder if some psycho is gonna jump from around the corner and attack him!..since they seem to be falling from the sky!.. Smh...

Posted by Remixanonymous
Okay I mis read your comment then I'm sorry. Yeah I'm going to give it time, I guess I just got excited from how well the phone call went I thought a friendly get together was in the cards but it's not haha it hurts but I did it to myself & I accept whatever happens. Libra is a good guy & if I gave him the impression I was a crappy friend then he doesn't deserve that anyways

You don't have to apologize, we have all been there in some form or fashion..No judgement just my advice, it may seem a lil abrasive, but it's with good intent. I wish you the best..

No you're exactly right. Actually my psycho ex is another reason I would be reluctant to be in a relationship with my libra again. Or anyone for that matter. in my personal opinion no one deserves that kind of harassment & I would spare them. That's just who I am. I won't contact my libra again though. I want to give him space to think & give his life the attention it needs. If I never hear from him then it is what it is. Just glad I was able to tell him. The past is in the past

No thank you, I mis read your one comment but knowing it was with good intent I aporeciate it. The truth hurts but I respect that you're giving it to me

Hey Remix relax, let bygones be bygones. I have yet to meet a libra who holds a grudge against something wrong done to them. However, it will take time for him to forget this. Leave the ball in his court now, and just follow his lead.
All the best _??

Haha I'm good starry22 but thank you! You too!