CappyGurl9
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Libra men, do you lie casually? Any remorse?
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Libras and lies... my Libra is no stranger to white lies, that's for goddamned sure. It's annoying when he does it, but he thinks he is doing it for the right reason. For example, one night we were having a hot and heavy sex talk and I asked him what he thought about a certain kinky thing. He said he liked it. Later, he admitted he hadn't actually tried said thing before, but he THOUGHT it sounded fun and didn't want to ruin the mood. Ha!
On another level, I know that when he is in a less-than-ideal situation he will lie to his family about what's really going on, he says so they won't worry about him. I told him not to do that shit with me, so instead he just doesn't tell me the whole story until he feels like he's worked it all out by himself. BUT if I ask him directly "are you leaving something out, will you tell me the whole story later?" he will admit to it, and never fails to eventually deliver.
But lying about a major life event... especially something that supposedly shaped/changed who he is? That doesn't sound good, no matter what sign he is. It's POSSIBLE that he lied to you about it, not expecting to develop feelings for you later and is now finding himself stuck worried about what will happen if he comes clean, but I think that is also wishful thinking. I'd ask him about it, directly and gently, and see what he has to say. Then take it all in and do some soul-searching for yourself.
On another level, I know that when he is in a less-than-ideal situation he will lie to his family about what's really going on, he says so they won't worry about him. I told him not to do that shit with me, so instead he just doesn't tell me the whole story until he feels like he's worked it all out by himself. BUT if I ask him directly "are you leaving something out, will you tell me the whole story later?" he will admit to it, and never fails to eventually deliver.
But lying about a major life event... especially something that supposedly shaped/changed who he is? That doesn't sound good, no matter what sign he is. It's POSSIBLE that he lied to you about it, not expecting to develop feelings for you later and is now finding himself stuck worried about what will happen if he comes clean, but I think that is also wishful thinking. I'd ask him about it, directly and gently, and see what he has to say. Then take it all in and do some soul-searching for yourself.
You need to cut off all contact. You're being a giant baby by allowing yourself to "hang casually" through work. Who the hell are you fooling? You have deep feelings for the dude, it's too hard for you to handle, so you keep this little snippet around and tell yourself it's just for work.
Drop the asshole. He's lied to you and is fooling around while still attached to a supposedly separated wife.
You've made good progress so far as far as dropping him, compared to before, but now you need to kick yourself in the ass and completely tune him out.
Until then, you don't really have any room to complain about how he is. You already know, yet you still keep him around in your life to quell your tingly lady bits for him. Come on dude, you can do it. It's totally freeing when you drop losers like this.
Drop the asshole. He's lied to you and is fooling around while still attached to a supposedly separated wife.
You've made good progress so far as far as dropping him, compared to before, but now you need to kick yourself in the ass and completely tune him out.
Until then, you don't really have any room to complain about how he is. You already know, yet you still keep him around in your life to quell your tingly lady bits for him. Come on dude, you can do it. It's totally freeing when you drop losers like this.
Well as much as I'd like to shut him completely .. he is in my face 3 days a week and I don't act ignorant of others especially if he approach me in a middle of a group. I know what you are saying and I am aware of how horrible it is, I have to face it! I just can't wait to get my master program started so I can get away from this stressful environment.
About my question is .. I am wondering in general if libra men lies? I have a brother and though he is a libra, he was OK and would only never admit he is EVER wrong but whenever I confront him or ask him, he'd be totally honest or I think ?!. That's why I didn't expect to find more "dirt" under this man v-v ..
I don't like how it turns around to be worse .. it was enough as it is .. name it as you like, cry baby or anything but feelings are feelings ..
I won't act as if I don't care if it actually annoys me more that he lied about things too ! WTH! I needed to vent too so yea ..
I am truly angry that he lied and I wish I can express my anger in a healthy way but I feel poorly these days and gym is not on my list so I am not feeling my best.
About my question is .. I am wondering in general if libra men lies? I have a brother and though he is a libra, he was OK and would only never admit he is EVER wrong but whenever I confront him or ask him, he'd be totally honest or I think ?!. That's why I didn't expect to find more "dirt" under this man v-v ..
I don't like how it turns around to be worse .. it was enough as it is .. name it as you like, cry baby or anything but feelings are feelings ..
I won't act as if I don't care if it actually annoys me more that he lied about things too ! WTH! I needed to vent too so yea ..
I am truly angry that he lied and I wish I can express my anger in a healthy way but I feel poorly these days and gym is not on my list so I am not feeling my best.
In general, everyone can lie. Like me, for instance, there are some nosy people in my life that wanna talk about mutual people we know but it's not my place to say anything about them so sometimes, I lie & say I know nothing even if I do know what's going on. I do it because it's not my place to say anything and I can't just simply say ask the person yourself because the nosy one would know something is up. It just makes for an awkward situation.
Posted by MrBalance
Let me tell you one thing...NO other sign lies more than Gemini. Gemini are the kings and queens of lying. Which is why Sagittarius is their opposite...Sagittarius are BRUTALLY honest.
I never lie!
Well it is something easy to lie about small matters, out of fear or something .. I donno but to lie about your major life event ..
to create a different reality !!! I was shocked he is even capable of doing this because he is pretty honest on everything else BUT this ..
And yes everyone lie .. no one is immune to that .. and I am trying to understand what drive someone to lie about some matters ! Like saying something as a fact when it never happened or exist. Faking a person and creating a story?
May be a part of attention seeking?
to create a different reality !!! I was shocked he is even capable of doing this because he is pretty honest on everything else BUT this ..
And yes everyone lie .. no one is immune to that .. and I am trying to understand what drive someone to lie about some matters ! Like saying something as a fact when it never happened or exist. Faking a person and creating a story?
May be a part of attention seeking?
I have no idea if Libras in general tend to be dishonest, but the one Libra in my life does lie all the time. Two options, either stay away from this guy or else get to know him better & hopefully you may see even more qualities about him you don't like or realize how often he lies & then you may get over him because he isn't what he seemed, rather than being blinded by your feelings for him.
Posted by Rowan
I have no idea if Libras in general tend to be dishonest, but the one Libra in my life does lie all the time. Two options, either stay away from this guy or else get to know him better & hopefully you may see even more qualities about him you don't like or realize how often he lies & then you may get over him because he isn't what he seemed, rather than being blinded by your feelings for him.
No.
This dude is married and separated and hasn't made much move to get divorce, from what the OP says.
Combine that cluster fuck with blatant lying, I don't think she has any reason to keep the guy around. He's just going to fuck with her headspace since he's such a fucknut that can't get his own life together. Seems like he just wants to suck everyone in to his personal dysfunction as a way of coping with his poor life choices.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
No.
This dude is married and separated and hasn't made much move to get divorce, from what the OP says.
Combine that cluster fuck with blatant lying, I don't think she has any reason to keep the guy around. He's just going to fuck with her headspace since he's such a fucknut that can't get his own life together. Seems like he just wants to suck everyone in to his personal dysfunction as a way of coping with his poor life choices.
Perhaps I should've said get to know more about him. Like the man I know who lies a lot, I got to know him better as a casual friend while keeping my heart at a safe distance & I soon noticed lots of things I didn't like about him & observed him regularly lying to other people too. My feelings for him dried up as I realized he wasn't what I had initially thought. But I think getting to know more could also be done in a way that doesn't really involve spending much time with him. I don't know, I have no way of knowing if the man the OP mentioned is in fact a pathological liar or simply lied about one major thing for reasons unknown of course.
As to why someone would lie about something major, there are all manner of possible reasons, some more understandable than others in my eyes.
Wanted to make a correction to my first post in this thread, it should've said the one Libra MAN in my life, I do know female Libras (hence my other thread) & they don't seem to lie, but I don't know them nearly as well.
I don't want him around me. That is my brain talking but also I can see what you mean Rowan ... I would "try to see more" in to my memory of the events that combined us. I don't wish him around because though I care for him and it is sad to say goodbye to a person I thought of as a friend, I find my life more stable and much happier now.
He was occupying a large sum of my life and let me had less time for my friends and those I love! I even couldn't see how occupied he made me by him, helping him and caring for him .. I don't want to say he was always bad, he had his good side too! But most of the communication was "good" for him.
He must be so lazy to move on and fix his life but I can't stand with him on the ruins he has !
I am not a person to do that. I was engaged twice, once I was cheated on [multiple times] .. he was just simply a player! I only discovered it after he broke the engagement because I wouldn't be as he wish me to be. It was horrible. My second was the guy who died 😢 .. he was and will always be my true love. I can never imagine meeting a guy like him, I wish and hope but the more I meet guys .. I find I was sure lucky to meet him
He was occupying a large sum of my life and let me had less time for my friends and those I love! I even couldn't see how occupied he made me by him, helping him and caring for him .. I don't want to say he was always bad, he had his good side too! But most of the communication was "good" for him.
He must be so lazy to move on and fix his life but I can't stand with him on the ruins he has !
I am not a person to do that. I was engaged twice, once I was cheated on [multiple times] .. he was just simply a player! I only discovered it after he broke the engagement because I wouldn't be as he wish me to be. It was horrible. My second was the guy who died 😢 .. he was and will always be my true love. I can never imagine meeting a guy like him, I wish and hope but the more I meet guys .. I find I was sure lucky to meet him
Posted by CappyGurl9
For this guy .. he truly is not worth it and I need to find a way to keep me sane and not follow my emotions when I am down .. support system is what I need.
Get a hobby.
I know that sounds strange and I once had someone lose their shit over that suggestion, but I'm serious. When you don't have something keeping you busy and you have a lot of down time to dwell in emotions and thoughts, you tend to do things like keep people around like this out of a need to have someone around to cope with whatever you're dealing with.
replace that person with something else to do that you enjoy. After I split with my ex, the last thing I wanted was even dating (after I break up, I do the opposite and want to be left alone by the male population haha), so I ended up taking up cooking as a hobby/creative outlet. It was my way of coping with the "loss" of a break up.
Currently, I've been taking on my mom's gardening since she passed. Just one day, out of the blue, it was just a simple rearranging of things in the back yard turned into straight up taking over her gardening. It's been a creative outlet for me to deal with coping with the mourning process.
It's amazing what your emotions/brain wants you to do when doing any sort of grieving, and that includes keeping around people/reintroducing people that have no business in your life. I had a slight moment of wtfery about a month ago, when I'd heard from my ex off and on for a few weeks (a lot of mutual friends' parties) and my brain entertained the idea of a hook up. I was like good lord, grieving fucks with you haha.
That said, you gotta learn how you respond and cope with emotional matters like this. Once you know how you tick, you gotta keep your head in check and do something that keeps you busy so you don't go doing stupid crap due to flaky emotions.
^Wise advice.
Sounds like the man I know. Very self-centered & always needing help, always taking but not giving, unless it was just giving the bare minimum to keep me around. He does that to everyone. I have no clue whether or not it's anything to do with the sign or purely coincidence. The female Libras I know seem very giving.
Posted by CappyGurl9
I don't want him around me. That is my brain talking but also I can see what you mean Rowan ... I would "try to see more" in to my memory of the events that combined us. I don't wish him around because though I care for him and it is sad to say goodbye to a person I thought of as a friend, I find my life more stable and much happier now.
He was occupying a large sum of my life and let me had less time for my friends and those I love! I even couldn't see how occupied he made me by him, helping him and caring for him .. I don't want to say he was always bad, he had his good side too! But most of the communication was "good" for him.
Sounds like the man I know. Very self-centered & always needing help, always taking but not giving, unless it was just giving the bare minimum to keep me around. He does that to everyone. I have no clue whether or not it's anything to do with the sign or purely coincidence. The female Libras I know seem very giving.
Yes I do agree .. I need to find "my way" through my emotions and try to figure them out.
I seem to be having him in my mind a lot and that doesn't mean I am not busy, actually i am usually is until I go to bed, is alone. I think my emotions want an outlet to express themselves and I donno how I will do that. Until now, it seems like I am bottling them up instead of releasing them .. I am trying to push myself back in the gym but I know he goes there and I am worried he will be around :/ ..
I never had depression before but a friend said I do sound like I am depressed but again, it is an up and down situation, means I only feel down once I am alone in the apartment .. by myself and though I have a long list of things to do and work on, I struggle with myself to keep them done ..
On other hand, I think it is might be a good time to have a day off him or something. Seeing him at work is horrible and though I avoided the two meetings he was in, life was annoying because I saw him these two times and I also ran into him in the grocery store couple of times and once in the cafe hanging with his boys while I was with my girls. I used to never meet him unless we arrange a meeting and now it seems a small world and he is everywhere >_
I seem to be having him in my mind a lot and that doesn't mean I am not busy, actually i am usually is until I go to bed, is alone. I think my emotions want an outlet to express themselves and I donno how I will do that. Until now, it seems like I am bottling them up instead of releasing them .. I am trying to push myself back in the gym but I know he goes there and I am worried he will be around :/ ..
I never had depression before but a friend said I do sound like I am depressed but again, it is an up and down situation, means I only feel down once I am alone in the apartment .. by myself and though I have a long list of things to do and work on, I struggle with myself to keep them done ..
On other hand, I think it is might be a good time to have a day off him or something. Seeing him at work is horrible and though I avoided the two meetings he was in, life was annoying because I saw him these two times and I also ran into him in the grocery store couple of times and once in the cafe hanging with his boys while I was with my girls. I used to never meet him unless we arrange a meeting and now it seems a small world and he is everywhere >_
Yes, Libra man is a big liar ! Please find other sign ! I can understand you very well !
Delia .. thank you! I no longer associate myself with him and I decided.. he no longer can manipulate me.
He sure is a smart liar .. I never will understand how a person can lie perfectly O_O .. I just need to control my actions, even if I care for him.
He doesn't even deserve my love and care ... such a shame! I am very sad and disappointed in him actually as a friend. He sure turned out to be nothing .. even a stranger is much better than him. I am shocked 😢 .
He sure is a smart liar .. I never will understand how a person can lie perfectly O_O .. I just need to control my actions, even if I care for him.
He doesn't even deserve my love and care ... such a shame! I am very sad and disappointed in him actually as a friend. He sure turned out to be nothing .. even a stranger is much better than him. I am shocked 😢 .
Posted by CappyGurl9
Delia .. thank you! I no longer associate myself with him and I decided.. he no longer can manipulate me.
He sure is a smart liar .. I never will understand how a person can lie perfectly O_O .. I just need to control my actions, even if I care for him.
He doesn't even deserve my love and care ... such a shame! I am very sad and disappointed in him actually as a friend. He sure turned out to be nothing .. even a stranger is much better than him. I am shocked 😢 .
I wouldn't be surprised if he "collected" friends, tbh. People like this are always about having options around.
You are very right ! My Libra also lied me from the first meeting and a big big big lie and his surprise was when I found he lie, exactly in the next 10 minutes after he leaved me . I called him and asked him to come back there as I have a emergency ! He came there and I was calm ( even I am a Leo ...) and I looked in his eyes and asked hin " why do you lie me?" he said he don't lie me ! Then I asked him again ! He said sorry and lied me other story looking in my eyes.... I told him to forget everything and I took my baggage and leaved directly to airport . I was so so much hurt ! It was the first meeting with him, everything was so nice when met him , but after we arrived to hotel where I was planed to live that days there, and after he was gone from there, I found out he lied me, but not perfectly ! I found out his lie right there , right then ! I arrived in my city ( I am living in his country but different cities) and I was so much hurt, cried and in the same time I can' give up on him because I was fall in love with him even before to meet him real and we took a lot and spend a lot of time even on webcam and chat before to meet real and the meeting , that moment when I saw him real, was wonderful and cannot ever forget it. I forgiven him so many times, many mistakes because in time I loved him more and more ( don't ask me why, his charm, his look, his sweet personality when we were together and maybe this breaks up and come back again made us cannot be separated ). But now, the last time, he touched any limits and I also do not talk with him now. He keeps me in his QQ messenger , but ignore him, he no say any word also. We took before, about marriage, about future and every time he told me he no want to marry ( not only me, but no want to marry any woman because his failed past marriage) and the last time when we took he arrived to use cruel words to hurt me , jus to give him the space and time ..... he said we are not match to bed, we are not suitable for each other and things like this which he never said before an before he said I am his perfect woman, I am his princess, etc.. I told him, OK, this is the end. Let us meet for the last time and say good bye in a nice way , the last time together. He said he no want say good bye, he said he wants be friends all his life.
(continue) I told him, no, I no need friends, I have friends ! Then asked him to choice a day when to meet to say good bye and I said I promise after that to let him find his "match " .... He said OK, and we choice day to meet. I was fly in his city , I really wanted to meet him to say good bye ( in my mind was not only this things, but I also wanted to see him after along time we did not met ). I arrived there, and he did not came to meet me, no answer the phone, no reply in QQ to message, nothing, just ignore me. I kept my calm, I used that days to see the city around , myself , even I was so sad . Then I back my city. Now, I ignore him since 3 weeks and he stay connected day and night in QQ waiting for me to say something first, to can him continue.... but NO ! I no say anything. He did not came to say good bye, he do not want to lose me as he keep me in his QQ still , he is waiting for me to forgive him again, but no way ! I keep my silent. I treat him the same as he treated me, just like he does not exist, the same as I did not existed for him , right ? Ignorance give pain ! And I hope also he realize how much he lose . I passed so many things from his life ( his ex marriage about he did not told me, but I found out then he just confirmed.... his 2 kids , about he never told me, but I found out , then he confirmed to me.... his lies about working in Italy last year, but he did not worked in Italy... oh, so many things... ) So, I accepted him with all his life butter past and mistakes and lies and for what all this efforts and sacrifices ? Now let him alone , he said we are not match, then why is still waiting for me ? Let him waiting .........
Hope you feel better now reading my story, I related it here for you , in short, but is longer...
Hope you feel better now reading my story, I related it here for you , in short, but is longer...
One more thing to tell you : once he lied you, the trust is lost forever ! Trust cannot be partial, is full or not at all ! If you forgive him, you will cannot trust him anymore further anyway. And if he use the way to lie you a major thing as mine did too, then he will use this way always, be sure about this , he has in his blood this lies .... I accepted to forgive him and his lies many times , even the major things , because I was thinking maybe is a different culture here, so he can't tell me things directly as in western culture, but exactly this things made me accept him and it was a wrong thing for me. If I could stop things since first meeting, I would be far maybe now, maybe happy with other man who could be the one to loves me ... but I lose time investing in his ass and trying always to be supportive and to forgive his mistakes ( as Leo is good always in this way...) and because I no keep angry for long time also.
I know perfectly how you feel , is hard to see that the one you like/love lie you about big and important things. But is very sad thing and harmful when he use words like mine used to hurt me , about not being match in bed and things like this, when I know and he said this too that we are perfect for each other and it was perfect everything when we were together .... I read somewhere here, Libra say this things to make the person to back off and leave him alone for a while . I find this way very very selfish ! How to use that words to hurt someone , instead to say simple " Please let me alone for 1 month, for long time .. " anything nice, but not to hurt a person in special when you know is not true what you say...
The bet advice I can give to you, look at his actions now. Do not contact him in any way and let him come to you with serious and real proofed intentions . In this time, consider you finished the things with him , live your life and let him lie who he wants, but not you again .
I know perfectly how you feel , is hard to see that the one you like/love lie you about big and important things. But is very sad thing and harmful when he use words like mine used to hurt me , about not being match in bed and things like this, when I know and he said this too that we are perfect for each other and it was perfect everything when we were together .... I read somewhere here, Libra say this things to make the person to back off and leave him alone for a while . I find this way very very selfish ! How to use that words to hurt someone , instead to say simple " Please let me alone for 1 month, for long time .. " anything nice, but not to hurt a person in special when you know is not true what you say...
The bet advice I can give to you, look at his actions now. Do not contact him in any way and let him come to you with serious and real proofed intentions . In this time, consider you finished the things with him , live your life and let him lie who he wants, but not you again .
Delia .. what a very sad story 😢 .
Ironically, I keep seeing him at work, and it just happen to be much more! I even don't know why God keep him in my path .. may be I am tested? or I have a lesson to learn here, either I got weak or kept my strength? I think that's it. What happened is: I was helping my friend in another department with her project. She works in a different branch of the medical centre I work in; to find out, I will see him on daily basis !!
I sent him an email two week ago because I was not feeling comfortable with how things ended, I care for him deeply "I wish I can choose people I care about".. Generally, it was very formal but "nice" no aggressive tone and it says I can't be a friend with him in his terms. I have my own terms which I listed in the email and that's how things should go if he care to be a friend. I also told him not to bother replaying if he is not interested to work with my terms. He never returned to that email ..
It was already 8 days after the email when I saw him for the first time, that time I just got nervous, and acted as if he never exist, as if I don't see him or know him. The 2nd day I passed him, I did it with head up and confident and I just went to do my work. It happened for another day again, until the day he passed me, it was this Tuesday .. he usually will pass the area to go to another section, or wait to gather with the guys, but he was alone this time and he just stood few meters away, behind me holding his ipad and just "working", "answering emails" or w/e he is pretending to do. I knew he stood there because I was there, and I could see him because where I work the area have mirror walls and I can see him behind but I tried not to look. He stood there for a good time, then he even got closer and sat on one of the chairs in the corner .. I didn't see him do that, but when I turned to my right to move to another area, I could see him sitting on the chair, behind the plant ... "I think he was trying to hear what we were talking about" .. !
Of course we were discussing work and "other things" .. As a capricorn I am a private person so I am very familiar he doesn't know this part of me too! I also have an accent, but I can switch accents to match where are you from, so he never heard me talking in my accent .. which is where I and the other girl come from! I saw him couple of times again and the last time, I was able to look at him while he passed me but he was wearing shades , even thoug
Ironically, I keep seeing him at work, and it just happen to be much more! I even don't know why God keep him in my path .. may be I am tested? or I have a lesson to learn here, either I got weak or kept my strength? I think that's it. What happened is: I was helping my friend in another department with her project. She works in a different branch of the medical centre I work in; to find out, I will see him on daily basis !!
I sent him an email two week ago because I was not feeling comfortable with how things ended, I care for him deeply "I wish I can choose people I care about".. Generally, it was very formal but "nice" no aggressive tone and it says I can't be a friend with him in his terms. I have my own terms which I listed in the email and that's how things should go if he care to be a friend. I also told him not to bother replaying if he is not interested to work with my terms. He never returned to that email ..
It was already 8 days after the email when I saw him for the first time, that time I just got nervous, and acted as if he never exist, as if I don't see him or know him. The 2nd day I passed him, I did it with head up and confident and I just went to do my work. It happened for another day again, until the day he passed me, it was this Tuesday .. he usually will pass the area to go to another section, or wait to gather with the guys, but he was alone this time and he just stood few meters away, behind me holding his ipad and just "working", "answering emails" or w/e he is pretending to do. I knew he stood there because I was there, and I could see him because where I work the area have mirror walls and I can see him behind but I tried not to look. He stood there for a good time, then he even got closer and sat on one of the chairs in the corner .. I didn't see him do that, but when I turned to my right to move to another area, I could see him sitting on the chair, behind the plant ... "I think he was trying to hear what we were talking about" .. !
Of course we were discussing work and "other things" .. As a capricorn I am a private person so I am very familiar he doesn't know this part of me too! I also have an accent, but I can switch accents to match where are you from, so he never heard me talking in my accent .. which is where I and the other girl come from! I saw him couple of times again and the last time, I was able to look at him while he passed me but he was wearing shades , even thoug
Con: I saw him couple of times again and the last time, I was able to look at him while he passed me but he was wearing shades , even though I didn't "look" .. it happened I was looking at his direction when he passed .
It is very hard to be facing him not once but every day and sometimes more than once .. we seem to be crossing paths in the elevators a lot! I wouldn't take the elevator when he is there ... I just don't want to because I know I have a soft spot for him : I truly care for him and love him
But I can't read him .. and i do think I can't because I keep wishing he cares ... though deep down I know he mostly don't, and if he did, it would be because he uses the attention, care and love I give him to fill holes in his life. So I get bad and good days and I wish I don't care or that I can stop caring, though I do and I know I will always do. I even pray for his happiness ! I donno how a man can get loved this much by me, knowing how much he doesn't care for me 😢
But we know emotions don't go this way. So I control my actions and I tell myself it is ok to care for someone and wish them the best. To love them, miss them and pray for them but I have to also understand that it is ok to love someone and not have them in your life. Very hard lesson to learn.
You have no idea how many times I fought myself to text him, message him or call him during this week .. How many times I got the idea to check on him or to see how he is going but until now I try to deal with it, one by one and I am doing good ..
The things i have to understand and accept is that my emotions won't change just because he is not good or he is not worth it. I just realised I will always love and care for him .. no matter what ..! I truly have few people that I have this much love/care for and I know that he doesn't deserve it but I also know he is a good person inside, still he is a lost big time in life. I truly wish him all the best ...
It is very hard to be facing him not once but every day and sometimes more than once .. we seem to be crossing paths in the elevators a lot! I wouldn't take the elevator when he is there ... I just don't want to because I know I have a soft spot for him : I truly care for him and love him
But I can't read him .. and i do think I can't because I keep wishing he cares ... though deep down I know he mostly don't, and if he did, it would be because he uses the attention, care and love I give him to fill holes in his life. So I get bad and good days and I wish I don't care or that I can stop caring, though I do and I know I will always do. I even pray for his happiness ! I donno how a man can get loved this much by me, knowing how much he doesn't care for me 😢
But we know emotions don't go this way. So I control my actions and I tell myself it is ok to care for someone and wish them the best. To love them, miss them and pray for them but I have to also understand that it is ok to love someone and not have them in your life. Very hard lesson to learn.
You have no idea how many times I fought myself to text him, message him or call him during this week .. How many times I got the idea to check on him or to see how he is going but until now I try to deal with it, one by one and I am doing good ..
The things i have to understand and accept is that my emotions won't change just because he is not good or he is not worth it. I just realised I will always love and care for him .. no matter what ..! I truly have few people that I have this much love/care for and I know that he doesn't deserve it but I also know he is a good person inside, still he is a lost big time in life. I truly wish him all the best ...
Dalia .. I wrote my comment before I read the two other comments .. to reach the end of your story.
If he comes in my life, he need to be divorced for the good and just serious .. admitting his lies. He have no idea I found out about his lies. He still believe I didn't because he have no idea how social I am or if I have a friend in the area he chose to tell a lie about. Basically, he told me a lie about a person who doesn't exist ... !
And I know Libra lie because they never say their true reasons. They find it easier to say "something totally wrong or made up" than to say something rude or hurtful. Libra only hurt you when they are hurt or moody : off balance. I have so many Libras in my life .. but anyway :
I believe you are so right. I know in my mind, what I need to do. I am very sad because last week my study leave got rejected by the administration so I am also going to "see" him more .. I am not leaving the work to study anymore 😢 ..
Anyway .. life sure have something better planned for me .. and I hope on other hand that he will get w/e he wants, he was waiting for a promotion which will transfer him to work in another country .. so may be he get that, and we never will meet again.
I don't stand by waiting for anything or hoping for anything .. I know I wish things and it hurts to see someone you love and act as they are totally strangers .. not related to you 😢 ... horrible! My best action was not being totally open to him .. I am glad I kept few things about me to me .. I just love my personal space and I love to be able to be mysterious .. It is part of my safety shell.
I can't thank you enough for sharing your heartbreaking story and for your advice. You are very right .. I will not do anything, and I will keep my guard up. I won't lie to you .. seeing that I didn't hear from him since 14 days now is very bad. But knowing I wrote to him the email .. I sit up a bridge to have some communication in a proper way, and knowing he won't cross it tells me he doesn't appreciate me or my friendship .. and he only wants me 24/7 and caring loving as I was. Absorbing my kindness and care without reflecting a thing.. truly I hope he is not that but I feel he is mostly like that, due to the way he acted until now ...
If he comes in my life, he need to be divorced for the good and just serious .. admitting his lies. He have no idea I found out about his lies. He still believe I didn't because he have no idea how social I am or if I have a friend in the area he chose to tell a lie about. Basically, he told me a lie about a person who doesn't exist ... !
And I know Libra lie because they never say their true reasons. They find it easier to say "something totally wrong or made up" than to say something rude or hurtful. Libra only hurt you when they are hurt or moody : off balance. I have so many Libras in my life .. but anyway :
I believe you are so right. I know in my mind, what I need to do. I am very sad because last week my study leave got rejected by the administration so I am also going to "see" him more .. I am not leaving the work to study anymore 😢 ..
Anyway .. life sure have something better planned for me .. and I hope on other hand that he will get w/e he wants, he was waiting for a promotion which will transfer him to work in another country .. so may be he get that, and we never will meet again.
I don't stand by waiting for anything or hoping for anything .. I know I wish things and it hurts to see someone you love and act as they are totally strangers .. not related to you 😢 ... horrible! My best action was not being totally open to him .. I am glad I kept few things about me to me .. I just love my personal space and I love to be able to be mysterious .. It is part of my safety shell.
I can't thank you enough for sharing your heartbreaking story and for your advice. You are very right .. I will not do anything, and I will keep my guard up. I won't lie to you .. seeing that I didn't hear from him since 14 days now is very bad. But knowing I wrote to him the email .. I sit up a bridge to have some communication in a proper way, and knowing he won't cross it tells me he doesn't appreciate me or my friendship .. and he only wants me 24/7 and caring loving as I was. Absorbing my kindness and care without reflecting a thing.. truly I hope he is not that but I feel he is mostly like that, due to the way he acted until now ...
Cappygirl9, I wish we talk more. If you can, send me an E-mail here in mail box and tell me a way to contact you. I think we can talk about everything in private , as we have too much in common with this story 😢 I know what you feel, sooooo well I know what you feel .... and I am deeply sorry for you also ! When I read your words, I feel cry and is just like I read from my own story...
Is hard to see him around, I believe you ! Maybe not the same to me, but my Libra keep me in messenger list and I see him online every day without to say a word to me, at least to hear from him he say sorry for what he did or to say thanks for my all support for his mind, in all tis years... I was more than a support for him , if you know how is a support for a tree , when the tree is not so strong to resist to wind and rain... something like that I was for him and now, as you say too, he just used my help and support and love and care, just to make himself better and to can move on to other woman probably... I am thinking this too... I ask you also, why and for what he keep me in messenger now when I wanted to say good bye and the same as you, I can't accept to be his friend in his "terms" only ? Before when he play with my heart, he can delete me when he wants, but now why he keeps me there ? I don't have the heart to delete him also , because somewhere there in my heart , deep, I still hope I will see him in one day... Don't ask me why I wish this, maybe because I loved and love him still. IS hard to be apart of the one you love, but is more hard to see that the one you love consider you was doing your work for him and now he is fine... no need you...
It would be good if you can change your job or working place , if your company has more offices around your city. Other way, is hard to avoiding to see him and it will be more hard if he will leave first from there. Also what else you can do, just to play a role of happy woman all the time there. In this way you don't show him you feel hurt .
Is hard to see him around, I believe you ! Maybe not the same to me, but my Libra keep me in messenger list and I see him online every day without to say a word to me, at least to hear from him he say sorry for what he did or to say thanks for my all support for his mind, in all tis years... I was more than a support for him , if you know how is a support for a tree , when the tree is not so strong to resist to wind and rain... something like that I was for him and now, as you say too, he just used my help and support and love and care, just to make himself better and to can move on to other woman probably... I am thinking this too... I ask you also, why and for what he keep me in messenger now when I wanted to say good bye and the same as you, I can't accept to be his friend in his "terms" only ? Before when he play with my heart, he can delete me when he wants, but now why he keeps me there ? I don't have the heart to delete him also , because somewhere there in my heart , deep, I still hope I will see him in one day... Don't ask me why I wish this, maybe because I loved and love him still. IS hard to be apart of the one you love, but is more hard to see that the one you love consider you was doing your work for him and now he is fine... no need you...
It would be good if you can change your job or working place , if your company has more offices around your city. Other way, is hard to avoiding to see him and it will be more hard if he will leave first from there. Also what else you can do, just to play a role of happy woman all the time there. In this way you don't show him you feel hurt .
Transfer him to other country — He told you this or you know sure this from other side ? I ask you because my Libra lied me this thing ! He told me he will work in Italy and told me to wait him one year... He used so sweet words " baby, please wait me ! I will be back " ... I was waiting for him one year then, he told me " I cannot wait to see you and kiss you ! " , but since then until now, it passed 2 years and he did not met me as he promised .... oh, and this maybe because I found out he was not in Italy in fact ! I discovered his second messenger in internet, I added him and talk to him without let him know is me. He was tough he talk with other girl. Then I told him is me . He said sorry and remained without words... after I got all the info I wanted from him, including that he is not in Italy ! Oh, oh, so long story with him......... This is why I asked you, if you know sure he is going to other country or it may be just a lie that mine used it too..... 😢
What you did with that E-mail to him, I tried hard to avoiding to do with my Libra too... I wanted to say something, even now I feel to say something, to let a door open for some kind of communication after my last words to him was " if you do like this, and not come to meet while I am here, you can consider it as a good bye forever ". Sometimes I think I was too hard for him , closing all the doors, but I think I was enough good to let him in my messenger list and not deleting him. It means I already let him a door opened, right ? At least he promised we meet there, but then he treated me just like I don't exist on this Earth at all . So, I suppose I no have why to feel is my fault now to not let a door open to him , right ? He should cross my words, no matter what I said there and he could say sorry for not meeting me, for X reason, no matter what reason , but he could say something. This is polite at least. But his totally ignorance since then until now, I can't understand it and also I can't understand for what he is holding me in his messenger . I know he is waiting for me to do the first step again , even a word, but I can't . Now not only my Ego is, but also as woman I can't get so down to say something. From today, I will stay offline 2-3 weeks, I hope one month at least. Maybe in this way he can see I take a serious decision and don't accept only what he wants.
If he delete me in this 2-3 weeks, is the same if he keep me in his messenger but not talk at all anything. So, I have nothing to lose 😢 If I tell you his words.... the last time when we took he say words " I miss you, I hope you have a good life " or " I love you, but I don't want get married , I want be alone all my life" ... and many like this, which really broken my heart in 1000 pieces. So bad feeling ! I am watching come comedy daily , to can keep my mind in a happy mood, but even I stay offline, I am thinking of him a lot , but in the same time, I tell myself " he does not loves you" , " he does not miss you " . This make me realize more and more that this is true . If someone loves you and miss you, cannot stay away of you !Do not want to lose you ! But he do nothing and no care even I die....
If he delete me in this 2-3 weeks, is the same if he keep me in his messenger but not talk at all anything. So, I have nothing to lose 😢 If I tell you his words.... the last time when we took he say words " I miss you, I hope you have a good life " or " I love you, but I don't want get married , I want be alone all my life" ... and many like this, which really broken my heart in 1000 pieces. So bad feeling ! I am watching come comedy daily , to can keep my mind in a happy mood, but even I stay offline, I am thinking of him a lot , but in the same time, I tell myself " he does not loves you" , " he does not miss you " . This make me realize more and more that this is true . If someone loves you and miss you, cannot stay away of you !Do not want to lose you ! But he do nothing and no care even I die....
Delia .. you have to try and be strong for yourself. Deleting all the messages, throwing all the photos and few items he gave me was hard and I had to do it twice before I finally do it. I was fighting myself to delete him off my life and at first, I would hold on for one day then will chicken out and would get the items back!
But what I did is I boxed them in a box for awhile, and when I felt it is time for me to move on, time for me to break free, I just cut him off. threw everything and deleted his number. I only have his email but also I never send him anything personal. last thing I send was in the middle of a group and a kind of inspirational movie .. I know it shows I care, but I used to do that all along and I think he needs a reminder to be good.
Good thing is he is "waiting" for me to run back to him or admit I am sorry for sitting my rules/standards but I am not. Actually I am great and much relaxed than the times we were friends and yes, seeing him daily last week was a disaster but I survived! At first it was very hard but by time, I could restore my confident and just be normal. Funny thing, the more I see him, the more I feel casual about it too. I don't feel hurt because I left and I gave him an option to be a friend on my rules but he didn't take it . I did what is best for me and that is a good call.
Well, I know he is waiting for a promotion in his company and with the libra I know, I am not aware what lies I got to hear. I only found out about one lie but I don't care. I don't want his friendship or at least I know it is not good for me. I am much real and more valued than he is and it is ok, he just doesn't fit me.
Still I know I care for him .. and I believe every now and then I will still include him in my mailing list of inspirational topics but not more. I honestly don't want him close because I know he effects me badly. It reached to a point where me or him is the choice, and sure I chose me!
What helped me is that I didn't hold on "our memories" and just got ride of them. Don't get me wrong, I miss him and I miss all the things I threw or erased but I knew keeping them won't help me so I had to do it. I ignore him because I don't want to talk to him and I still can't look him in the eye because processing emotions take time but that never means I will be weak to his presence .. or I will act none sense.
I am a strong gorgeous and a wonderful girl and I will just move on from this to a better relationship and be
But what I did is I boxed them in a box for awhile, and when I felt it is time for me to move on, time for me to break free, I just cut him off. threw everything and deleted his number. I only have his email but also I never send him anything personal. last thing I send was in the middle of a group and a kind of inspirational movie .. I know it shows I care, but I used to do that all along and I think he needs a reminder to be good.
Good thing is he is "waiting" for me to run back to him or admit I am sorry for sitting my rules/standards but I am not. Actually I am great and much relaxed than the times we were friends and yes, seeing him daily last week was a disaster but I survived! At first it was very hard but by time, I could restore my confident and just be normal. Funny thing, the more I see him, the more I feel casual about it too. I don't feel hurt because I left and I gave him an option to be a friend on my rules but he didn't take it . I did what is best for me and that is a good call.
Well, I know he is waiting for a promotion in his company and with the libra I know, I am not aware what lies I got to hear. I only found out about one lie but I don't care. I don't want his friendship or at least I know it is not good for me. I am much real and more valued than he is and it is ok, he just doesn't fit me.
Still I know I care for him .. and I believe every now and then I will still include him in my mailing list of inspirational topics but not more. I honestly don't want him close because I know he effects me badly. It reached to a point where me or him is the choice, and sure I chose me!
What helped me is that I didn't hold on "our memories" and just got ride of them. Don't get me wrong, I miss him and I miss all the things I threw or erased but I knew keeping them won't help me so I had to do it. I ignore him because I don't want to talk to him and I still can't look him in the eye because processing emotions take time but that never means I will be weak to his presence .. or I will act none sense.
I am a strong gorgeous and a wonderful girl and I will just move on from this to a better relationship and be
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I am a strong gorgeous and a wonderful girl and I will just move on from this to a better relationship and better life choices 🙂 ...
I hope you will give up on your relationship too because that person sure was a player as well. He played you and that is not nice at all
I am a strong gorgeous and a wonderful girl and I will just move on from this to a better relationship and better life choices 🙂 ...
I hope you will give up on your relationship too because that person sure was a player as well. He played you and that is not nice at all
Anything I would do, I feel he is to be mine.... I don't know why and I also don't know why he also cannot give up at all . As I told you, keep me in his list, it means he will be back or he will make me explode ! Because I am Leo and he know this well that Leo never admit ignorance . I always like to talk and at least , I think the best thing I can do is to try to talk with him again to find the reason from him why he treat me like this. Only in this way I can get my peace in my soul. For me, a ending or a start must always have a reason, other way, I will think and think until I get crazy or obsessed by his image. I need an answer and I want to find it ! At least what I have to lose if I try talk with him ? From what I know, Libras waiting for others to do the first step always, no matter in what circumstances . So, I want do this , and in the same time, to think I need an answer only. In this way, I can give up or forgive him. To can have peace in your mind, you must forgive the person who made the mistake to you , but to can forgive, you must to know the reasons and what he did exactly, right ? Is the same as you go to a church and tell your mistakes to the Father there and then God forgive you. But if God don't know your mind, how he can forgive you ? I will try find an answer, no matter what. If he lie, I will know this anyway, as I know well his way to lie. If he did that because other reasons, I need to know the reasons. I found out everything about him until now, I believe I can find this reason too. Maybe I was doing a mistake in my way of comportment too, who knows ? I may not see that mistake, but he may see it. Maybe for me was something normal , but for him not, so ignorance not go to anything good. Just wasting of time, a time which possible is very precious . Now, I simple, no agree with this idea just to "move on" with my life, you know why ? Because I will never get peace in my soul in this way. I can't delete the feelings from my heart, even I delete some pictures , but our memories remaining forever with me . I don't know how you feel, but I feel always that he is to be mine. And his actions show me that this relationship will never end .... This is what I wanted say . I will stop this ignorance . I will use a face and way to try to talk to him and to make him talk to me. I think if he really want stop our relationship, he would not stay there waiting something still. A man when is move on is move on for good . I don't know why,
I don't have for what to be fake with myself to say " I am ok without him " or " he is not worth for me" , because if I would see him in my front , I could not say this ! Understand what I mean ? My feeling for him are too strong. Love is harmful sometimes, but I don't want and I can't be fake with him. If I love him, I love him , nothing can change this and I can't be fake because this is not working for me. Love always win , if from both sides are not made fast and wrong decisions. And the communication is the key in happiness and love and marriage. Why should I ignore him then ? Why should I be the same as him ? Why should I not show I am myself ? Why should I change for him and show to him the fake me instead the real me ? No, I decided to be myself, no matter the situation will be with him. I can't be fake, this role is not for me .After one month of ignorance, I really feel bad. I feel good if I talk with him, no matter if he reply to me or not, but is not into my nature to ignore someone. I think I did this from my Ego, not because I wanted . I was wrong , better be yourself always, never do something fake. 🙂
I left a message for him today 🙂 I can't tell you how good I am feeling now ! I can't be bad and cruel even with the people who hurt me as him , because this is me. I know I deserving something better than him, but I can't change myself being a bad person , then what would be the difference between me and him ? no one... I believe, if not will be him to be, then other one, when God will want, but I will not change myself being a bad person just for a person from my life who was hurting me. I think is better remaining as God made us and show our heart as it is, not show a fake image or heart. Who will see the way I am and see how good I am, that one will be the most happy man in this world. Who don't appreciate this, it means he lose, not me. Why should I change for someone ? It was so bad for me this one month ( 25 days) to keep ignore him and to be silent and to think in my mind so many things and in the same time to try to "hate" him if I can use this word... because it is not in my nature anyway to hate someone and to pretending that I don't care and love him anymore for what he did ... No, now I feel peaceful, I feel me good again, I feel myself and this feeling is so great as I know I am a great woman with a great heart, why should I become full of hate or silent when my nature is not this to be ? I agree ignorance is good, but not for long time. I remaining to the idea that to talk with someone what problem you have with that person, is the best way to find your peace. Other way, ignorance for long time and non-communication from both sides, give you only negative energy. You start feel bad, you start thinking much and you start lie yourself that is better without him or without talk with him . Where there is communication, there is a way always ! How many marriages was broken because both sides was not communicated well the problem ? A lot ! If there would be at least one side who want to talk the problem, things would get a way, right ?
For you things would be more easy than for me. You see him every day. You can simple stop him once and tell him you want to talk to him. Then put the cards all on the table. If I would see him every day, I will do this. Better you have a clear answer face to face, instead to hide yourself in the back of tears , feelings and regrets. If you can , try, believe me, you lose nothing ! Anyway now in this moment, you consider the relationship is lost, right ? What can lose more if try to know the truth about him
For you things would be more easy than for me. You see him every day. You can simple stop him once and tell him you want to talk to him. Then put the cards all on the table. If I would see him every day, I will do this. Better you have a clear answer face to face, instead to hide yourself in the back of tears , feelings and regrets. If you can , try, believe me, you lose nothing ! Anyway now in this moment, you consider the relationship is lost, right ? What can lose more if try to know the truth about him
Dear ..
Libra or not, if a man is in to a woman, he will make the first move. For me, it took him 5 times to catch my attention! He tried to start a conversation with me multiple times and I was not interested. I honestly could see his charm, his presence but I also was aware, that I am not interested in anything now. Something in his straight gazes, in his pure interest made me go in to my shell. So a sign is not always as it is written. It also depends on his other planets, and on his birth mother and environment. He might adapt to other actions, change or alter things based on him.
I understand you want to do all that, because you see hope in it and it is not my call to tell you: there is no hope. All I can say: sometimes when we are so close to someone, we fail to see the signs and the picture outlook. We are all obsessed with details and tiny frames but we are not seeing the picture in total. Try to think of your problem as if a friend is consulting you regarding a guy she met. Try to imagine the situation from far, with you as a observer not included in. Try to see his part and your part. This practice always come beneficial to me.
Don't get me wrong : I want to know why for a lot of things he said or done. I want to hear his side of story too, similar to you but I know it never will happen or if it happened, will I believe it? Do I trust him to tell me the truth and not manipulate me with another story? And will I get a closure or more details to obsess and wonder about? Will I be less or more confused? In my ideal time frame: I would want him to be honest and clear to me and I would love to know he cares for me too and he wish to be friends. I would want to believe he thinks of me, wish me good and just wish every day is a good day to me too, as I do to him! But it doesn't go like that.
Libra or not, if a man is in to a woman, he will make the first move. For me, it took him 5 times to catch my attention! He tried to start a conversation with me multiple times and I was not interested. I honestly could see his charm, his presence but I also was aware, that I am not interested in anything now. Something in his straight gazes, in his pure interest made me go in to my shell. So a sign is not always as it is written. It also depends on his other planets, and on his birth mother and environment. He might adapt to other actions, change or alter things based on him.
I understand you want to do all that, because you see hope in it and it is not my call to tell you: there is no hope. All I can say: sometimes when we are so close to someone, we fail to see the signs and the picture outlook. We are all obsessed with details and tiny frames but we are not seeing the picture in total. Try to think of your problem as if a friend is consulting you regarding a guy she met. Try to imagine the situation from far, with you as a observer not included in. Try to see his part and your part. This practice always come beneficial to me.
Don't get me wrong : I want to know why for a lot of things he said or done. I want to hear his side of story too, similar to you but I know it never will happen or if it happened, will I believe it? Do I trust him to tell me the truth and not manipulate me with another story? And will I get a closure or more details to obsess and wonder about? Will I be less or more confused? In my ideal time frame: I would want him to be honest and clear to me and I would love to know he cares for me too and he wish to be friends. I would want to believe he thinks of me, wish me good and just wish every day is a good day to me too, as I do to him! But it doesn't go like that.
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People are different, their emotions differ as well in intensity and in forms of expressions. I only can control my actions, and I can control how I react based on my emotions but I can never make his emotions or actions as I wish or as true I want them to be. I again didn't read through all your message because I know what you feel very well. It is very hard to let go and especially if you care and love the person but sometimes it is not because of them but because of you. May be you should ask yourself why him? is he better than anyone else? is the connection limited to him? there is many fish in the sea... truly there is! I know how it is to feel that you want certain person but ... you have to accept he doesn't want you, that way at least.
And for Libra ... they don't like fights nor breaking it with anyone .. they will always keep you an arm length. It is them, in their blood! For them enemies don't exist and they want to friend everyone! Libra men actually befriend their x-wives so .. that tells you! He keeps you because he want to make sure you don't hate him or he did good to you! It is about his ego too .. him self satisfaction. He needs to make sure everything he left or kept is in balance.
People are different, their emotions differ as well in intensity and in forms of expressions. I only can control my actions, and I can control how I react based on my emotions but I can never make his emotions or actions as I wish or as true I want them to be. I again didn't read through all your message because I know what you feel very well. It is very hard to let go and especially if you care and love the person but sometimes it is not because of them but because of you. May be you should ask yourself why him? is he better than anyone else? is the connection limited to him? there is many fish in the sea... truly there is! I know how it is to feel that you want certain person but ... you have to accept he doesn't want you, that way at least.
And for Libra ... they don't like fights nor breaking it with anyone .. they will always keep you an arm length. It is them, in their blood! For them enemies don't exist and they want to friend everyone! Libra men actually befriend their x-wives so .. that tells you! He keeps you because he want to make sure you don't hate him or he did good to you! It is about his ego too .. him self satisfaction. He needs to make sure everything he left or kept is in balance.
Delia I can give you these tools to use in your search:
1. try to go through your experience with him as an outsider .. see your part and his .. acknowledge your mistakes but also HIS! Of course we made something wrong once, raised my voice at a point or argued about tiny thing but honestly, if he is in to you, he won't hang on that thing or another to keep you away! If a man is in to you, he will even be sorry though he is fully right just to make sure he won't lose you! He will be as madly in love as you are!
I felt that once, with the most incredible person lived on earth, and I know what love is. I am blessed to say that actually. So I can tell you also what you are going through is not good for you.
Love should make you feel warm, safe, peaceful, and just happy. Everything else, life problems .. comes but you never worry about losing the person or getting dumbed by or cheated on! You can truly tell if he loves you .. because he will try to make you KNOW and notice he does. You don't have to remind him or ask him why he doesn't, he simply will .. all the time! At times, you will feel ashamed you take it for granted! And at times, you will be feeling blessed, amazingly blessed to have him.
The man you deserve is a man who loves you .. care for you and if he doesn't know you enough, he would be interested to know you .. to walk steps towards you! For me if a man is not interested to do that or he is playing shady, it says a lot! I was blind myself by this libra guy and at times I was stupid too to think I found a great guy ! He is great, don't get me wrong, he has lots of amazing and wonderful qualities but not in anyway as a lover to me! I even doubt as a friend too .. I am sure I can be his great friend, but he can't be my friend. He has no ability to be less selfish, less manipulative or less himself. And as himself, he can't be a good friend to me ...
So dear, I know emotions hurt, I know you care a lot, and love this guy may be ? But I think you think you love him and you think he is the one. May be it is a good time to find the one person but believe me, it doesn't worth it to be in rush! Your guy will come and he will be everything this guy is not. I understand that you think he is amazing .. but trust me memorising his features .. thinking of him .. is signs of lust not love. You are being emotional more than you need to be and I truly want you to make your choices based on what is good for you. Write to me in the PMs .. I will alwa
1. try to go through your experience with him as an outsider .. see your part and his .. acknowledge your mistakes but also HIS! Of course we made something wrong once, raised my voice at a point or argued about tiny thing but honestly, if he is in to you, he won't hang on that thing or another to keep you away! If a man is in to you, he will even be sorry though he is fully right just to make sure he won't lose you! He will be as madly in love as you are!
I felt that once, with the most incredible person lived on earth, and I know what love is. I am blessed to say that actually. So I can tell you also what you are going through is not good for you.
Love should make you feel warm, safe, peaceful, and just happy. Everything else, life problems .. comes but you never worry about losing the person or getting dumbed by or cheated on! You can truly tell if he loves you .. because he will try to make you KNOW and notice he does. You don't have to remind him or ask him why he doesn't, he simply will .. all the time! At times, you will feel ashamed you take it for granted! And at times, you will be feeling blessed, amazingly blessed to have him.
The man you deserve is a man who loves you .. care for you and if he doesn't know you enough, he would be interested to know you .. to walk steps towards you! For me if a man is not interested to do that or he is playing shady, it says a lot! I was blind myself by this libra guy and at times I was stupid too to think I found a great guy ! He is great, don't get me wrong, he has lots of amazing and wonderful qualities but not in anyway as a lover to me! I even doubt as a friend too .. I am sure I can be his great friend, but he can't be my friend. He has no ability to be less selfish, less manipulative or less himself. And as himself, he can't be a good friend to me ...
So dear, I know emotions hurt, I know you care a lot, and love this guy may be ? But I think you think you love him and you think he is the one. May be it is a good time to find the one person but believe me, it doesn't worth it to be in rush! Your guy will come and he will be everything this guy is not. I understand that you think he is amazing .. but trust me memorising his features .. thinking of him .. is signs of lust not love. You are being emotional more than you need to be and I truly want you to make your choices based on what is good for you. Write to me in the PMs .. I will alwa
Oh dear .. the last thing I want to do is to talk to him 🙂
You think you want to put cards on the table .. but have you considered that their might be never cards or a table .. only the illusion of them?
I deeply care for him and I love seeing him daily, I won't lie! It is the most confusing feeling but I tell myself: as much as it is hard, as much as it drives my anxiety high .. it is also teaching me to be emotionally strong .. to face things like him everyday!
I didn't see him since last Tuesday so I am feeling good too! I know I will see him and I know he will try to "spare me sometime" when he is free or just for a chat but honestly I am not a side dish ... and I don't want to add anyone to my life plate! I have amazing friends and family .. those I already live with and they share my life plate, and I have my interactions with them ..
With family, at least no matter how crazy it goes, I know deep down, they love me and they will be the first to be by my side if anything bad happened to me, each in their own way! But with him, I never know ... I never will know and most of all .. unless he be crystal clear, I don't want to know.
SO yea 🙂 .. I sit rules, and I plan to stay by them ! It is hard, very hard sometimes but to know this is right and you do it for good reasons is better than the feeling of self doubt you get with this person around.
You think you want to put cards on the table .. but have you considered that their might be never cards or a table .. only the illusion of them?
I deeply care for him and I love seeing him daily, I won't lie! It is the most confusing feeling but I tell myself: as much as it is hard, as much as it drives my anxiety high .. it is also teaching me to be emotionally strong .. to face things like him everyday!
I didn't see him since last Tuesday so I am feeling good too! I know I will see him and I know he will try to "spare me sometime" when he is free or just for a chat but honestly I am not a side dish ... and I don't want to add anyone to my life plate! I have amazing friends and family .. those I already live with and they share my life plate, and I have my interactions with them ..
With family, at least no matter how crazy it goes, I know deep down, they love me and they will be the first to be by my side if anything bad happened to me, each in their own way! But with him, I never know ... I never will know and most of all .. unless he be crystal clear, I don't want to know.
SO yea 🙂 .. I sit rules, and I plan to stay by them ! It is hard, very hard sometimes but to know this is right and you do it for good reasons is better than the feeling of self doubt you get with this person around.
Good lord, move along.
I know it's hard, but freaking try, ladies.
I ended up finding out a lot about who my ex really was well after we broke up. We have a lot of mutual friends and the things I learned about down the road were amazing.
It all boiled down to the guy being a total train wreck. Insecure as fuck, way too concerned with shallow things, which in turn, made him miserable because in reality, shallow things don't mean shit in the long run.
You know it's bad when his mom constantly tags him in things on Facebook in regard to what a guy should expect from a "real" woman. In his case- he thought money, nice cars, and all that other shit would bag him the woman of his dreams.
...All he did was find drug whores, strippers, and dumb chicks who were impressed by shiny things but held no substance whatsoever.
So he continues to wander around, wreaking havoc on any female that will entertain him.
This is the type of Libra dude you're going to hear about the most here- the unbalanced, emotionally fucked variety. They're too busy being incredibly stupid with matters of the heart and will not learn til much later in life.
It is not your job, nor should be a life goal, to figure out assholes like this. I know it's hard not to. I was caught up in the confusing wtfery of trying to understand, but at some point, you get tired of it and just file dude under "mentally unstable." It's not you, it's THEM.
I know it's hard, but freaking try, ladies.
I ended up finding out a lot about who my ex really was well after we broke up. We have a lot of mutual friends and the things I learned about down the road were amazing.
It all boiled down to the guy being a total train wreck. Insecure as fuck, way too concerned with shallow things, which in turn, made him miserable because in reality, shallow things don't mean shit in the long run.
You know it's bad when his mom constantly tags him in things on Facebook in regard to what a guy should expect from a "real" woman. In his case- he thought money, nice cars, and all that other shit would bag him the woman of his dreams.
...All he did was find drug whores, strippers, and dumb chicks who were impressed by shiny things but held no substance whatsoever.
So he continues to wander around, wreaking havoc on any female that will entertain him.
This is the type of Libra dude you're going to hear about the most here- the unbalanced, emotionally fucked variety. They're too busy being incredibly stupid with matters of the heart and will not learn til much later in life.
It is not your job, nor should be a life goal, to figure out assholes like this. I know it's hard not to. I was caught up in the confusing wtfery of trying to understand, but at some point, you get tired of it and just file dude under "mentally unstable." It's not you, it's THEM.
Nope, I don't like your fear, really 🙂 It old you, you lose nothing if take him one aside and ask him talk, really nothing ! You can find maybe things that you never found until now about him and maybe he will tells you now. If you think so negative, the next relationship you will also think the same, s try to change your ideas and give chances, but in the same time, protect yourself !
Mine is nervous now, after I left him that message, he is online and waiting.... for me to appear online, but I stay hided , offline . I don't do it as a game, but just to make him think more like where I am or what I am doing that I am not online as usually... Even after the message, he don't delete me from his list.
Why I feel is him ? I can't say why, is my own feeling that he and only him is to be mine, maybe not right now, but he will be back to me, I am sure about this because I feel this. When someone is to be, you feel. Maybe you did not met the one to be yours , to see how you will feel him. I speak serious and you can ask someone else about this feeling.
My mistake was that I pushed him to get married . He don't want to get married after his divorce with his ex wife and I insisted on this subject for a long time . I know now I was wrong and this is why he keep distance , but he can't say good bye to me also. I know he is scared of marriage idea again, so, I should not push him for this . He will come around when he is ready , or maybe he will just keep silent for long time, but anyway my feeling is the same.
I did not got any reply from him after that message, but I am no wonder for this . I don't feel bad or sad anymore. I just like stay offline and let him waiting for me .... I prefer stay offline instead to be online and to let him ignore me. I let him play his game alone now. When he will finish, he may be back to talk again 🙂
Well,I planed to "disappear" from I don't deny the idea that maybe I am too paranoia also 🙂 and why I have this feeling he will be mine, but everything is possible if you think positive, you know ?
I see too much negativity in your thinking now and you don't have the courage to talk to him, thinking that he will lie you or things like this, but just think, you have him face to face, things can be change very nice way. In my case is different as mine is at distance and things may be change without I know maybe 🙂 not in a nice way maybe and I can't know this from here . But you are there, do everything
Mine is nervous now, after I left him that message, he is online and waiting.... for me to appear online, but I stay hided , offline . I don't do it as a game, but just to make him think more like where I am or what I am doing that I am not online as usually... Even after the message, he don't delete me from his list.
Why I feel is him ? I can't say why, is my own feeling that he and only him is to be mine, maybe not right now, but he will be back to me, I am sure about this because I feel this. When someone is to be, you feel. Maybe you did not met the one to be yours , to see how you will feel him. I speak serious and you can ask someone else about this feeling.
My mistake was that I pushed him to get married . He don't want to get married after his divorce with his ex wife and I insisted on this subject for a long time . I know now I was wrong and this is why he keep distance , but he can't say good bye to me also. I know he is scared of marriage idea again, so, I should not push him for this . He will come around when he is ready , or maybe he will just keep silent for long time, but anyway my feeling is the same.
I did not got any reply from him after that message, but I am no wonder for this . I don't feel bad or sad anymore. I just like stay offline and let him waiting for me .... I prefer stay offline instead to be online and to let him ignore me. I let him play his game alone now. When he will finish, he may be back to talk again 🙂
Well,I planed to "disappear" from I don't deny the idea that maybe I am too paranoia also 🙂 and why I have this feeling he will be mine, but everything is possible if you think positive, you know ?
I see too much negativity in your thinking now and you don't have the courage to talk to him, thinking that he will lie you or things like this, but just think, you have him face to face, things can be change very nice way. In my case is different as mine is at distance and things may be change without I know maybe 🙂 not in a nice way maybe and I can't know this from here . But you are there, do everything
you can until is not really late and you will be sorry. If you love him, give him a change to talk to you if he wants this. And tell him you want to see his actions, not words .
messenger for about 1-2 months. In this time, I try to live my life doing things I like and working. If he delete me from messenger in this time, is his choice and there will be no way for me to add him back again. So, is a test also, test of time. In this time can happen many things.
In your case, ignorance not really help as you meet him face to face every day. If you ignore hi, you just show him you are angry and suffer. In my case, if I ignore him or he ignore me, can say anything, like I am busy, or travel or anything else, because we don't see what each other do. But in your case ignorance make you feel more bad, so this is why I said is best to talk and put card on the table with him as you two meet there. Now you do things from ambition . If you would hate him, yes, you can say you want to end things with him, but you say you still love him and care about him....
messenger for about 1-2 months. In this time, I try to live my life doing things I like and working. If he delete me from messenger in this time, is his choice and there will be no way for me to add him back again. So, is a test also, test of time. In this time can happen many things.
In your case, ignorance not really help as you meet him face to face every day. If you ignore hi, you just show him you are angry and suffer. In my case, if I ignore him or he ignore me, can say anything, like I am busy, or travel or anything else, because we don't see what each other do. But in your case ignorance make you feel more bad, so this is why I said is best to talk and put card on the table with him as you two meet there. Now you do things from ambition . If you would hate him, yes, you can say you want to end things with him, but you say you still love him and care about him....
Dear, I don't want any other guy to come to me. I don't know if you an understand me. Some women love the last time in their life and I am the one of them. I already decided. No more try, no more want to know anyone else. Because I can't and I hurt myself more trying to find a man again. In my heart is only him, the first and last true love . I had bf before, but when he appeared, I knew he will be the last one for me . I am at a age also when is not easy to meet someone . And for me, his look , image is very important , not his personality or soul. This is me and if he is not handsome in my eyes, is nothing and it will be never love. Is not a immature thinking, but this is me and I can't be with another man ever, because I don't like anyone . No one have his look, no one have his sweetness . No matter how bad he wrong to me, made me hurt , cry, etc. I could pass all this if he will want to be with me in one day. My love for him has no limits. I have to say this. Maybe he does not loves me , but there nobody loved me anyway. Once I said, I was born to love and to give, not to be loved and to receive and this is really true to me. Even my mother did not wanted me when I was born, so growing up without mother's love, I wanted and dreamed to meet the man I will love and always love , I expected little , but I always had so much to give. Maybe this is wrong, but it is because my childhood I think . Is something I was grow up and wished to love someone , maybe because nobody loved me. I really don't want to meet another man , no want any other relationship. Maybe this was my life and fate. I can't love other man. I really hope you can pass over your Libra if this is what you wish and be happy ! Maybe you are more young than me and for you did not came the one for who to feel what I feel. Sometimes, peoples meet, they are happy 1 month, they marry and he die or she die. There are peoples who can't marry again or can't love again. In case he no want be with me, is the same thing, and other one can't replace his place 😢
Good God, Delia, fucking tl;dr.
You're obsessing and writing novels because you're a Leo woman. You silly bitches do this shit- Fixate and obsess and play games like kitties play with dead mice.
Simmer down yo.
You're obsessing and writing novels because you're a Leo woman. You silly bitches do this shit- Fixate and obsess and play games like kitties play with dead mice.
Simmer down yo.
HA! Gems do lie, but they suck at it lol. I know from experience. I told my ex (gem) to give it up, he's seriously sucks at lies but he tries to do it anyway. They eventually wind up telling the truth by the end of the conversation. But they do lie. Hands down.
Sagittarians very seldom lie, at least not white lies like a leeb. I think they don't really see the point. They are more of a take it or leave it type of people.
To the OP, a general answer to your question is yes. But I??d like to add that most men and women do lie when they have a side agenda that they know will only benefit them. If this guy had it out for you, then yes he??d lie to get what he wanted from you. Sorry to say your feelings didn't matter to him at the time. When you meet selfish men or people period like that, you cant be afraid to cut them off. Who cares yall work together, that doesn't mean you have to be cool with him. Speak to him about work and keep it moving. If he walks up to you when a crowd is around, be like —I'm sorry have to get back to work, if you need something shoot me an email. Good day everyone.?? Cut him straight like that, so he knows you mean business.
Sagittarians very seldom lie, at least not white lies like a leeb. I think they don't really see the point. They are more of a take it or leave it type of people.
To the OP, a general answer to your question is yes. But I??d like to add that most men and women do lie when they have a side agenda that they know will only benefit them. If this guy had it out for you, then yes he??d lie to get what he wanted from you. Sorry to say your feelings didn't matter to him at the time. When you meet selfish men or people period like that, you cant be afraid to cut them off. Who cares yall work together, that doesn't mean you have to be cool with him. Speak to him about work and keep it moving. If he walks up to you when a crowd is around, be like —I'm sorry have to get back to work, if you need something shoot me an email. Good day everyone.?? Cut him straight like that, so he knows you mean business.
Posted by PEITHO
Yes they lie one told me his heart was with another woman yet he still wanted to sleep with me.
wait what part about this was a lie? If he wanted to lie and play games he
wouldn't have mentioned the other woman at all. That was your choice to even
entertain him when he said his heart was with another woman. I had a guy tell me
he didn't love his ex but he just wanted to make sure she was "okay" with the break
up i told him to hit me up when he's done making sure she's okay, meanwhile i'm
gonna do me. Bye.
In your case sounds like classic male trying to get some. He came back to you once she
dissed him, because he likes whats between your legs. Had nothing to do with him being
dishonest. If you haven't heard, a man can very easily love a woman but have sex with others
if that woman is not paying him any attention. At the end of the day his still male.
Plus from the sounds of it, they weren't in a relationship. For example this guy that lives in my complex, is crazy about me. I dont like him like that and i even told him i dont
want him in that way, yet he keeps trying, sometimes to the point where it's pestering.
Now he claims to feel very deeply for me, how? I have no clue. But no matter how deeply he may feel, i'm
sure he's getting his rocks off with someone unless he's gay or celibate. lol
want him in that way, yet he keeps trying, sometimes to the point where it's pestering.
Now he claims to feel very deeply for me, how? I have no clue. But no matter how deeply he may feel, i'm
sure he's getting his rocks off with someone unless he's gay or celibate. lol
Yes I agree with Rocky .. because I am already over this libra man. Moving on doesn't mean I don't care and if I chose not to talk to him in the past because I know it will get me no where, it is wisdom not fear. I totally know him and I know he lies or deceive w/e you call it, to build a perfection image of himself, others, and the world. He colors the story? I donno it is just he tell it from different points of views, and give different versions of truth to a point it drives me nuts .. plus he do add spices ...
Libra can't handle mistakes very well nor their imperfections. If I talked to him it would be not about the past or what happened, it would be something casual, not related and totally random. Something not personal or emotional too. I prefer to keep this guy far away from my emotions.
I am different and I understand that. I can say I don't work well with a guy who will "flip" things around just to insure his image is perfect. It is how he run his world but it does confuse me. It doesn't make him bad, it just makes him who he is. For him things has to shine and be smooth and nice .. For me I have a blunt attitude about things and I would be clear cut sure of this or that. He would get surprised that I fear nothing but honestly I do fear lots of things, and I risk take life while making choices! I don't mind being wrong .. Libra on other hand, will stand in the middle, in fear of wrong.
And my story: he was a friend, we got closer and I developed emotions for him when I noticed he didn't or at least he was in the grey zone plus him being in the middle of his own pile of packages. I wanted a wake up shake the moment I came here and I got it. I tend to get emotional sometimes and trapped there.
It might sound harsh but honestly: unless I am emotionally in control, I won't allow myself to go around him. I can sense I am on the right steps as by time, my emotions are getting untangle but I won't run to tangle things again ... I am in no rush and i enjoy life as it is. As far as I remember, this life is about me and not about him in my life 🙂 .. I just live by that, always did and it is not the time to change my motto .
Libra can't handle mistakes very well nor their imperfections. If I talked to him it would be not about the past or what happened, it would be something casual, not related and totally random. Something not personal or emotional too. I prefer to keep this guy far away from my emotions.
I am different and I understand that. I can say I don't work well with a guy who will "flip" things around just to insure his image is perfect. It is how he run his world but it does confuse me. It doesn't make him bad, it just makes him who he is. For him things has to shine and be smooth and nice .. For me I have a blunt attitude about things and I would be clear cut sure of this or that. He would get surprised that I fear nothing but honestly I do fear lots of things, and I risk take life while making choices! I don't mind being wrong .. Libra on other hand, will stand in the middle, in fear of wrong.
And my story: he was a friend, we got closer and I developed emotions for him when I noticed he didn't or at least he was in the grey zone plus him being in the middle of his own pile of packages. I wanted a wake up shake the moment I came here and I got it. I tend to get emotional sometimes and trapped there.
It might sound harsh but honestly: unless I am emotionally in control, I won't allow myself to go around him. I can sense I am on the right steps as by time, my emotions are getting untangle but I won't run to tangle things again ... I am in no rush and i enjoy life as it is. As far as I remember, this life is about me and not about him in my life 🙂 .. I just live by that, always did and it is not the time to change my motto .
Pink libra .. I do appreciate your input . Well as a cappy, I sit rules and I am very patient. I am a hard girl I guess .. just in the outside because I take time to warm up and be mushy! But once i am in the emotional stage it is crisis .. because I give my trust very slowly and once I do, it is hard for me to pull back.
I didn't confront him of his lie .. I just still don't know if I ever will. It is his personal lie and it just makes me not trusting anything I hear from him. I am actually a person who find it hard to give trust in the first place so it is even harder after it being broken. I know I will observe him very well .. usually it is very hard to lie to me and I am surprised he lied to me and got by with it. Everything else he said was real and true .. which makes me wonder why the lie?
But, I do believe if it is meant to be solved, it will be solved by itself. One day may be? I care for him and I know that he have a good heart but he is very confused about everything in his life. I know he is very sad and very tired and that makes me sad and I wish I can be by his side and brighten his world, but i can't. What I did is I chose to protect my feelings as I know my friend is incapable of that. He is incapable of saving himself how about me?
He has lots of issues in his life he fails to address! Libra are so unsure about everything! It surprise me when they become sure .. it is only if it is anger or injustice driven choices! They need others opinion and approval a lot, more than they admit it. They like to act cold and superior as if they are in control when they are actually very fragile and sensitive.
What I love about libra is they accept how annoying I can be. I could be very blunt and hurt his feelings "which are very sensitive" and he will stick to it. I think it is a sour truth! If anything I can be a sister to him .. a close friend just because I care for him a lot and I want him to feel better and I know he knows that very well, which is why he stick around observing me from far away.. but also his life call is not my life call and I have to let him be what he wants to be .. what feels right to him and that also he doesn't know of! I donno why but libra sound like a very sad sign sometimes .. or my version of happiness is different than their version of happiness ..
I didn't confront him of his lie .. I just still don't know if I ever will. It is his personal lie and it just makes me not trusting anything I hear from him. I am actually a person who find it hard to give trust in the first place so it is even harder after it being broken. I know I will observe him very well .. usually it is very hard to lie to me and I am surprised he lied to me and got by with it. Everything else he said was real and true .. which makes me wonder why the lie?
But, I do believe if it is meant to be solved, it will be solved by itself. One day may be? I care for him and I know that he have a good heart but he is very confused about everything in his life. I know he is very sad and very tired and that makes me sad and I wish I can be by his side and brighten his world, but i can't. What I did is I chose to protect my feelings as I know my friend is incapable of that. He is incapable of saving himself how about me?
He has lots of issues in his life he fails to address! Libra are so unsure about everything! It surprise me when they become sure .. it is only if it is anger or injustice driven choices! They need others opinion and approval a lot, more than they admit it. They like to act cold and superior as if they are in control when they are actually very fragile and sensitive.
What I love about libra is they accept how annoying I can be. I could be very blunt and hurt his feelings "which are very sensitive" and he will stick to it. I think it is a sour truth! If anything I can be a sister to him .. a close friend just because I care for him a lot and I want him to feel better and I know he knows that very well, which is why he stick around observing me from far away.. but also his life call is not my life call and I have to let him be what he wants to be .. what feels right to him and that also he doesn't know of! I donno why but libra sound like a very sad sign sometimes .. or my version of happiness is different than their version of happiness ..
Libra men are so charming. But, I have known no male sign that lies the most. They seem to say anything to keep the peace. I don't know who lies and denies the most... Cancer men or Libra men. I have several Libra male buddies they are great friends, but I always felt sorry for their SO. They get controlling with them and never let them out of the house.
The women are usually very serious and straightforward though.
The women are usually very serious and straightforward though.
Well someone told me here that this guy was absorbing my energy, power, love and care ...
I forgot the name but I know who and for him I say : YOU are fully right.
The libra guy tried to play me again but this time I was fully aware what to look for. So this guy is typically an immature Libra. He is so fake! I mean he would say loads of crap that sounds good to find out he is faking it all. It is fake to the level you feel sick of it. Gosh, I have no idea why out of my lovely friends, I decided to focus and get depressed by this guy who I never was close to before 7 months ago! I mean seriously he never was in the radar nor special or interesting to me. I remember thinking something is so OFF about him once I met him. Something was fake since then ..
Anyway .. I am trying hard to keep the no contact. I blocked him everywhere because the last conversation we had and the way he acted later on last week was disgusting. So I went up blocking him and deleting him from my phone/social network. I wish I never see him again because I am hurt as I truly cared for this person and I am learning to stop caring: I cared for a character of his not even himself! I am sure if I knew the real him, I would never liked him.
I just don't care who he is truly .. and just want him out of my life now. I am so thankful for everyone advised me here and for all the stories I heard and all the wake up calls! To deal with losing a friend that you now know he was not a friend and actually was lying on you all along is very hard. I try to swallow it but sometimes my heart goes in denial .. (not anymore) .. it is just so much to process and I truly would like not to see this guy at all.
He is a shame for humanity! I was nothing but a human who cared and wanted the best for him! Until the last moment, I told him that and I thought that but now I just wish he leaves me alone .. he vanish and just never exist anymore .. you know? I
I forgot the name but I know who and for him I say : YOU are fully right.
The libra guy tried to play me again but this time I was fully aware what to look for. So this guy is typically an immature Libra. He is so fake! I mean he would say loads of crap that sounds good to find out he is faking it all. It is fake to the level you feel sick of it. Gosh, I have no idea why out of my lovely friends, I decided to focus and get depressed by this guy who I never was close to before 7 months ago! I mean seriously he never was in the radar nor special or interesting to me. I remember thinking something is so OFF about him once I met him. Something was fake since then ..
Anyway .. I am trying hard to keep the no contact. I blocked him everywhere because the last conversation we had and the way he acted later on last week was disgusting. So I went up blocking him and deleting him from my phone/social network. I wish I never see him again because I am hurt as I truly cared for this person and I am learning to stop caring: I cared for a character of his not even himself! I am sure if I knew the real him, I would never liked him.
I just don't care who he is truly .. and just want him out of my life now. I am so thankful for everyone advised me here and for all the stories I heard and all the wake up calls! To deal with losing a friend that you now know he was not a friend and actually was lying on you all along is very hard. I try to swallow it but sometimes my heart goes in denial .. (not anymore) .. it is just so much to process and I truly would like not to see this guy at all.
He is a shame for humanity! I was nothing but a human who cared and wanted the best for him! Until the last moment, I told him that and I thought that but now I just wish he leaves me alone .. he vanish and just never exist anymore .. you know? I
These guys do tend to stick around and you can't help but wonder why aside from selfish reasons.
I had one who was like this situation - my needing to shove him out of my life since he was so toxic.
Just when I thought he was finally gone (me never initiating contact and after not hearing from him for longer and longer periods of time), he'd pop back up.
I finally got to the point where I straight up ignored his text and blocked him on social media. Either he got the hint or he didn't notice. Probably the latter, but whatever. People like these don't deserve headspace or emotional space. They're just leeches who go around using people for their own personal gain. Once they realize they've burned bridges with you, they move on to someone else who's yet to catch on to what a dickfence they are.
I had one who was like this situation - my needing to shove him out of my life since he was so toxic.
Just when I thought he was finally gone (me never initiating contact and after not hearing from him for longer and longer periods of time), he'd pop back up.
I finally got to the point where I straight up ignored his text and blocked him on social media. Either he got the hint or he didn't notice. Probably the latter, but whatever. People like these don't deserve headspace or emotional space. They're just leeches who go around using people for their own personal gain. Once they realize they've burned bridges with you, they move on to someone else who's yet to catch on to what a dickfence they are.
Rocky .. yes he have no shame to still hold on to keeping everything! And I am sure he assume that I will come to him asking for his forgiveness and to be friends again. I know I annoyed him the most when I broke the friendship when it was not working in my terms. He just was so happy with what he gets from me and now he is not happy with how I'd like things to work a bit for myself too.
From this experience: I find that Libra men are people with a mindset saying "ALL ME" ..
I am sorry if there is any decent libra man hearing this but the one I friended was just "over the edge" ..
So full of himself, so immature, and so in the negatives. He never saw himself but a victim of everything, as long as I know: Libra is a walking GOD or what I call is always playing in a "god mode" and i should be thankful and appreciative that he is there to "save" or "be around me"? I donno but Libra is full of themselves to a point that is sickening when they actually need to look at how stuck they are in their " I donno how you can call this perfect " life .. everything is (because of others) or (out of their hands) or (because they care for it) or (they want to be fair) when in real they just wouldn't hold responsibilities for any decisions unless it is forced? They won't even make any for themselves but they don't hesitate making them for you or pointing them at you!
And they fake they care for you ... if you required care to give care. They will just give you the minimal requirement in order for you to function well with one perpose: to please them! And if you failed that or if they found out that you require more than they are welling to accept giving you, they just go weird, ignorant, and cold.
One of the things I most hated about this guy is that I am normal wait but having a baby belly .. not a flat belly, a normal body? And he would always recommend certain exercises or encourage me to lose weight or eat healthier when he doesn't even cared to ask if I do anything? That is one of the main reasons I ever felt off about him because in our second hangouts as a group almost 2 years ago. He actually told me I should try Zomba or some belly movements to lose that belly weight! I felt that is so rude of him and I was a girl who is confident and just enjoying my time. I let him say w/e he said but I never asked his opinion nor it was a topic .. I am happy as I am ! I would like to do exercises when I choose to .. I don't like to be told what to do and he is so o
From this experience: I find that Libra men are people with a mindset saying "ALL ME" ..
I am sorry if there is any decent libra man hearing this but the one I friended was just "over the edge" ..
So full of himself, so immature, and so in the negatives. He never saw himself but a victim of everything, as long as I know: Libra is a walking GOD or what I call is always playing in a "god mode" and i should be thankful and appreciative that he is there to "save" or "be around me"? I donno but Libra is full of themselves to a point that is sickening when they actually need to look at how stuck they are in their " I donno how you can call this perfect " life .. everything is (because of others) or (out of their hands) or (because they care for it) or (they want to be fair) when in real they just wouldn't hold responsibilities for any decisions unless it is forced? They won't even make any for themselves but they don't hesitate making them for you or pointing them at you!
And they fake they care for you ... if you required care to give care. They will just give you the minimal requirement in order for you to function well with one perpose: to please them! And if you failed that or if they found out that you require more than they are welling to accept giving you, they just go weird, ignorant, and cold.
One of the things I most hated about this guy is that I am normal wait but having a baby belly .. not a flat belly, a normal body? And he would always recommend certain exercises or encourage me to lose weight or eat healthier when he doesn't even cared to ask if I do anything? That is one of the main reasons I ever felt off about him because in our second hangouts as a group almost 2 years ago. He actually told me I should try Zomba or some belly movements to lose that belly weight! I felt that is so rude of him and I was a girl who is confident and just enjoying my time. I let him say w/e he said but I never asked his opinion nor it was a topic .. I am happy as I am ! I would like to do exercises when I choose to .. I don't like to be told what to do and he is so o
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So full of himself, so immature, and so in the negatives. He never saw himself but a victim of everything, as long as I know: Libra is a walking GOD or what I call is always playing in a "god mode" and i should be thankful and appreciative that he is there to "save" or "be around me"?
Unfortunately, this is notorious in immature and insecure individuals, regardless of sign. They're too insecure to admit when they're wrong because they can do no wrong!
One of the things I most hated about this guy is that I am normal wait but having a baby belly .. not a flat belly, a normal body? And he would always recommend certain exercises or encourage me to lose weight or eat healthier when he doesn't even cared to ask if I do anything? That is one of the main reasons I ever felt off about him because in our second hangouts as a group almost 2 years ago. He actually told me I should try Zomba or some belly movements to lose that belly weight! I felt that is so rude of him and I was a girl who is confident and just enjoying my time. I let him say w/e he said but I never asked his opinion nor it was a topic .. I am happy as I am ! I would like to do exercises when I choose to .. I don't like to be told what to do and he is so oclick to expand
This made me lol. I've heard this bs before. They want the object of their affection to look like some prize that they snagged. All about beauty and other shallow bs. If you aren't up to par with their "beauty" they have an ill mannered approach of saying things like this. Chances are they could be working on the same things themselves. I've said this before- but an ex would give me a hard time about what I was wearing after a lab day at school. Since he didn't care for it, he would make snide comments or offer to buy me "better" clothes. The reality was it was a fucking 8 am lab and it's jeans and t shirt, buddy. Deal with it. Nevermind he wore flip flops, jeans, and a tshirt all the time. It was okay for him, but not for his shiny object of a girlfriend. Double standards ftw! Haha.
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