Libra wants fwb...but....

So i mentioned my libra giving me the silent treatment for days. Today we had that talk and with alot of persuading, she said she'd me a chance. However she said to start off as friends, but we are still in love with eachother so we are chosing not to deny that. I.e we still show affection and make out etc. She says i need to work on me before she can ask me out on a date and we can start over. Alot of my past relationship really broke me and i guess i projected alot of that new person onto her. Said i threatened her confidence. That she was afraid to tell me things, of how i'd react.
I really love her, and the thought of losing her just terrified me. So i am working on me. My question is....she says i have nothing to worry about. If someone new shows interest, that she only has eyes for me. But at the same time i feel like there is competition to win her back. Do i need to worry? Is her word her word? I told her id learn to trust her and i asked her not to break my heart. She said ok.

Also she said lets be friends, yet she does random odd things like hold my hand in public, says its still ok to call eachother babe, baby...

A little confusing but is this a sure thing?

Also while working on me what can i do to win her back slowly? The little things that u libra women like 🙂

Win her back in time. U need to be confident and secure and as i mentioned no arguing fighting and throwing stuff if u cant keep the peace with love u dont need to be with anyone. I agree just date. Whats purpose of a rel if its not benefiting both ppl and helping them grow in a healthy way. Just be patient and consistent. Do sweet things show her u can control ur temper this goes both ways. May not happen over night etc but with love and time and patience it can.

Im not gone lie zodiac sign or not. If someone mess up with me of course there is and will be competition thats kind of ur loss. U have to fight and show her with actions if ur serious. No arguing or fighting all that does is give other ppl the upper hand etc.

Posted by tiziani
Very unlikely that you could take her at her word. At this point she would probably rather say whatever she feels you need to hear to keep you off her case.

You insulted her family, refused to speak to her for an entire day when she wouldn't let you do things your way, got drunk on a night out and stayed over at her place then trashed her stuff in the morning, sent her a text threatening to never be with her again if she didn't give you a reply in time and now you basically tried to talk her into doing things your way yet again. Would you have let her get off the phone if she'd said "no, I don't want this"? Something to think about.

The point is when you treat someone like that you make it more and more in their interest to stop telling you the whole truth of what's going on with them in their head. Because they just fear you're going to bring even more problems into their life. And I'm sure you know this, because your instincts must be telling you as much if you're asking these kinds of questions.

Hey OP did all of this happen ??

That's abusive behavior. You're quite crazy and controlling.

You should probably take some time to figure out how you think you could do things like that to someone you seem to cherish.

Especially if she has not exhibited any of these behaviors towards you.

YOU NEED TO SELF REFLECT ALONE.

Posted by lovely77
Im not gone lie zodiac sign or not. If someone mess up with me of course there is and will be competition thats kind of ur loss. U have to fight and show her with actions if ur serious. No arguing or fighting all that does is give other ppl the upper hand etc.

Thanks. I appreciate the advice. Its always very honest and non judgemental

Posted by Sugarfoot
I'd say she's probably being sincere but you're under heavy scrutiny. Literally one false move from you could be the end of things for good. Since she still has feelings for you, she's giving it another shot. Just do what you said you were going to do. Show that you're making an effort to do all the stuff you talked about. She just needs to feel that you care about the relationship as much as she does.

You see My mind will say she can't care about the relationship if she ended it so easily. No way could she love me as much as i love her. Stupid stuff like that i have to get over. But thanks i understand

Posted by Libralula
What's your charts look like?

Libra sun
Rising sign sag
Moon sag
Mercury virgo
Venus virgo
Mars gemini

Me
Aquarius sun
Rising sign taurus
Moon libra
Mercury pisces
Venus aries
Mars cancer

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Posted by Sugarfoot
I'd say she's probably being sincere but you're under heavy scrutiny. Literally one false move from you could be the end of things for good. Since she still has feelings for you, she's giving it another shot. Just do what you said you were going to do. Show that you're making an effort to do all the stuff you talked about. She just needs to feel that you care about the relationship as much as she does.

You see My mind will say she can't care about the relationship if she ended it so easily. No way could she love me as much as i love her. Stupid stuff like that i have to get over. But thanks i understand

As someone else said, she's thinking about the future. She doesn't want to be with someone who's gonna act like you did every time they get upset over something. Guaranteed she's watching out for how you will behave the next time you get mad. Love or no love, I'll leave if someone is exhibiting behavior that i can't accept. As a Libra, i want a peaceful relationship.

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I see u both have a sag moon, whats your venus in?

I'm guessing she' s thinking something similar. She said she doesnt want a relationship where she has to fight me on things. But im naturally dominant and intimidating.

Posted by Sugarfoot
I'd say she's probably being sincere but you're under heavy scrutiny. Literally one false move from you could be the end of things for good. Since she still has feelings for you, she's giving it another shot. Just do what you said you were going to do. Show that you're making an effort to do all the stuff you talked about. She just needs to feel that you care about the relationship as much as she does.

Pretty much.....

Wow..um thanks. For the good... and the bad comments. I understand i'm lucky to be given a second chance considering how I acted. But i'm trying to make up for it.

Also didnt know some of yall Libras were so scary. Maybe i should thread carefully round you guys

Posted by Aqua_firece
Wow..um thanks. For the good... and the bad comments. I understand i'm lucky to be given a second chance considering how I acted. But i'm trying to make up for it.

Also didnt know some of yall Libras were so scary. Maybe i should thread carefully round you guys

Scary? Hardly. They just like to defend themselves even when it doesn't make sense.

It seems people who are detached from emotions can do fwb..

What made you think libras are scary? Couse some of them said things you dont like? What you did was not nice.. Try for a moment puting yourself in her shoes...you ask for a second chance but you didnt respect her whishes.. The silent treatman was an obvious sign she needs space.. You dont know your lover well enough.. Or am i wrong?