Lust of a Libra
@Lust of a Libra
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Libra woman/ libra man
So what should I make of the things he says about us being together? I'm so paranoid of his dealings with this clingy chick. I just wanna hear what other people think of this situation.
He gives you soo much attention and still you wonder.. 😉
I know I shouldn't wonder, but at the same time this isn't my first dealing with a libra, heck I am one lol. Its the point that I know how wishy washy we can be and I don't want to get all wrapped up in him only to have him fall right back into the arms of the other woman, that would crush me esp considering I am a so called "damaged libra" due to the sag and taurus I had in my life. I know libras often send mixed msgs and I just can't help but get freaked out a bit wondering if I'm reading him right or not esp with his I'm scared comment
You know us libras have a hard time with letting people go. And guess what?...... you are OVERTHINKING!!!!! The libra thang to do, stop it, relax, smoke one, go do something but stop thinking. Put the thoughts out of your head that it's not all about you, because that insecurity will show. Show and be a more confident woman and he will crave more and more from you. peace and chicken grease.
I am an ex of a libra and he still hasn't let me go (two years now) and he's the one who broke up with me. I am not sure if he's seeing someone though. I know I am 🙂
maybe even 3 yrs now. I forgot.
Oooh I completely understand. Your post sorta put the silence of my 'partner' in words.
Someone told me that Libras usually have to undergo the crucifixion of the people they love and trust for their niceness and unwillingness to rock the boat. So it is mostly a suffer-in-silence thing until you learn assertiveness, tempered with your inner sense of justice.
That clingy girl should learn that she cannot cling on to what is not hers - hell everyone who reflects and dates should know that. I have had a repulsive 'pest' clinging on to my relationship for years just because she knew she could manipulate us (mostly him) due to his reticence and willingness to put full trust in friendship.
LOAL, it prolly takes time, and it may even be years to come to an equilibrium to decide to assert yourself or even choose - if its not you its him. He will continue to be rocked by this clingy person because he feels she deserves a fair chance of his attention. If you don't tell him straight-up about how this makes you feel, he will think its okay to swing from her to you, and take truly no part in a relationship process - putting you both as friends only, with a little more attention to throw your way.
Libra takes a long time to realise who they wanna be with - sometimes you seem better, sometimes her, but since he already said you're his reflection - straight up said it - you can be sure you're his goal, because no-one likes to throw away a part of himself, especially not a person as narcissistic and in love with himself as a Libra. Bank on that!
Someone told me that Libras usually have to undergo the crucifixion of the people they love and trust for their niceness and unwillingness to rock the boat. So it is mostly a suffer-in-silence thing until you learn assertiveness, tempered with your inner sense of justice.
That clingy girl should learn that she cannot cling on to what is not hers - hell everyone who reflects and dates should know that. I have had a repulsive 'pest' clinging on to my relationship for years just because she knew she could manipulate us (mostly him) due to his reticence and willingness to put full trust in friendship.
LOAL, it prolly takes time, and it may even be years to come to an equilibrium to decide to assert yourself or even choose - if its not you its him. He will continue to be rocked by this clingy person because he feels she deserves a fair chance of his attention. If you don't tell him straight-up about how this makes you feel, he will think its okay to swing from her to you, and take truly no part in a relationship process - putting you both as friends only, with a little more attention to throw your way.
Libra takes a long time to realise who they wanna be with - sometimes you seem better, sometimes her, but since he already said you're his reflection - straight up said it - you can be sure you're his goal, because no-one likes to throw away a part of himself, especially not a person as narcissistic and in love with himself as a Libra. Bank on that!
"Yes but libras talk a load of crap when they are into you. They don't necessarily mean any of it. For all you know he told this clingy ex that she was his mirror. It may be a line he uses."
It depends on the person involved. Maybe he did. This is one confusing situation with a confused person again. He probably sent some signals of promise or affection to the ex again. I don't think Libra lets go of people they care about at all. So, if an ex is an ex, he would still want to be friends, but if the ex doesn't want to be friends, you can be sure its a complicated situation. Afterall, the original lover holds the reigns in the form of powerful memories, especially if they have had happy memories.
Now there's one question on my mind.. whats the sign of the ex? So curious. 😛
"You would not use that term unless you felt she was a threat to you and to the relationship. "
Oh definitely I felt she was a threat. A potent one at that because of her highly manipulative nature. Also, I was too wrapped up in emotions to have any clarity in this - considering she was one of my closest friends!
By the way, I feel Libras worst areas are relationships - especially if yor saturn is in Libra.. enjoy the happy slow deliberation into couplehood! The only truth lies in your intuition.
It depends on the person involved. Maybe he did. This is one confusing situation with a confused person again. He probably sent some signals of promise or affection to the ex again. I don't think Libra lets go of people they care about at all. So, if an ex is an ex, he would still want to be friends, but if the ex doesn't want to be friends, you can be sure its a complicated situation. Afterall, the original lover holds the reigns in the form of powerful memories, especially if they have had happy memories.
Now there's one question on my mind.. whats the sign of the ex? So curious. 😛
"You would not use that term unless you felt she was a threat to you and to the relationship. "
Oh definitely I felt she was a threat. A potent one at that because of her highly manipulative nature. Also, I was too wrapped up in emotions to have any clarity in this - considering she was one of my closest friends!
By the way, I feel Libras worst areas are relationships - especially if yor saturn is in Libra.. enjoy the happy slow deliberation into couplehood! The only truth lies in your intuition.
you shouldn't get involved with him until he is truely done with his "ex". you dont know what he's telling her. it's not fair to her and to you. he is the one that has the best of both worlds. just remember that if you take him from her, someone will take him from you. and he will describe you as his "clingy" ex and he will tell his new girl that she is his reflection.
people don't change that much. it's better if he is fair with his ex, then you know he'll be fair with you. don't think you are the special one he'll treat differently. he's probably done this many times.
people don't change that much. it's better if he is fair with his ex, then you know he'll be fair with you. don't think you are the special one he'll treat differently. he's probably done this many times.
Thanks everyone so much for the input and comments. Quick update...
Libra man and I are doing great and going strong, the ex (who is a capricorn) has resulted to stalking 😢 He and I both actually filed for restraining orders against her a few days ago.
Just a few things, his mom did not in anyway pressure him to choose me over the ex she only backed him up on his decision. He broke up with the EX before even persuing anything with me but he still was trying to remain friends with her so when she questioned him about my presence he told her who i was so he wasnt forced to tell her because i was there we wernt even official yet.
She left me a very nasty threatening letter on my resturants door. Pretty much saying she doesnt know what he sees in me and other stuff and something about doing bodily harm to me. Then we had a verbal altercation where i completly spazzed and even told Libra man I will not deal with this if she continues. He looked at her and told her the same thing he told me, That i am his mirror image and I am the one for him. She lost it and flipped saying how could he feel that way about me so fast when he never even told her he loved her. So that assured me it was not just a line he used on her and I both.
@ Lucky, apparently you were spot on with your comment about not just giving random women that kind of attention. According to everyone around us he has always from our pre-teen years told them that eventually I would be his wife. No one ever told me until now, because everyone usually says stuff like "Oh you finally got her" or "you finally made her yours" so now my mind is alot more at ease and we are settling into blissful contentment. Dont know how long its gonna last but im enjoying the ride for right now.
Libra man and I are doing great and going strong, the ex (who is a capricorn) has resulted to stalking 😢 He and I both actually filed for restraining orders against her a few days ago.
Just a few things, his mom did not in anyway pressure him to choose me over the ex she only backed him up on his decision. He broke up with the EX before even persuing anything with me but he still was trying to remain friends with her so when she questioned him about my presence he told her who i was so he wasnt forced to tell her because i was there we wernt even official yet.
She left me a very nasty threatening letter on my resturants door. Pretty much saying she doesnt know what he sees in me and other stuff and something about doing bodily harm to me. Then we had a verbal altercation where i completly spazzed and even told Libra man I will not deal with this if she continues. He looked at her and told her the same thing he told me, That i am his mirror image and I am the one for him. She lost it and flipped saying how could he feel that way about me so fast when he never even told her he loved her. So that assured me it was not just a line he used on her and I both.
@ Lucky, apparently you were spot on with your comment about not just giving random women that kind of attention. According to everyone around us he has always from our pre-teen years told them that eventually I would be his wife. No one ever told me until now, because everyone usually says stuff like "Oh you finally got her" or "you finally made her yours" so now my mind is alot more at ease and we are settling into blissful contentment. Dont know how long its gonna last but im enjoying the ride for right now.
Wow Lust
Bitter and Sweet!
Wonderful about the Libraman and you. Before I saw your last post I wrote you saying He is in love with you. You can tell by the way he is acting. Take a deep breath because everything will be fine. Which it has turned out to be. YAY!
Damn about the ex. I really feel bad for her. I was going to suggest befriending her yourself but if she is that emotionally volitile ... I think you did the right thing re: restraining order. So sad that it came to that.
Hope everything works out for you. I am sure it will! Especially everything you have said in your last post. Wonderful!
Seldom do exs realize that their anticts can push a couple together. I feel bad for her because it is really hard when you have your heartbroken and the other person moves on but it happens to all of us. Hopefully, she has people in her life that can support her through this.
Much happiness to you and yours!
Bitter and Sweet!
Wonderful about the Libraman and you. Before I saw your last post I wrote you saying He is in love with you. You can tell by the way he is acting. Take a deep breath because everything will be fine. Which it has turned out to be. YAY!
Damn about the ex. I really feel bad for her. I was going to suggest befriending her yourself but if she is that emotionally volitile ... I think you did the right thing re: restraining order. So sad that it came to that.
Hope everything works out for you. I am sure it will! Especially everything you have said in your last post. Wonderful!
Seldom do exs realize that their anticts can push a couple together. I feel bad for her because it is really hard when you have your heartbroken and the other person moves on but it happens to all of us. Hopefully, she has people in her life that can support her through this.
Much happiness to you and yours!
Because of several of the details in your post I would take his sincereness to heart. It sounds like everything about his wishes regarding your relationship has been declarative like I can see myself making a life with you, not I can kind of see myself or I could see myself except.... being a libra yourself you know how we work and you also know that even the velvet words have a point and I think his is clear. He thinks he has found the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
As for clingy ex....Let me tell you the short version of a long story.
I met my current girlfriend, the woman I fully intend on marrying while she was engaged to her previous partner and, the father of her child. He believed he had lost his soul mate through and through, could not imagine ever loving another woman only her so on and so forth and he would do everything possible to prove and make her realize that they were right for each other. Aside from the expected conversations necessary for formal detachment and even though she thinks "he is a good person at heart" she doesn't and hasn't led him on to believe that they are anything more than what is necessary for the sake of her daughter.
I was also friends with my former girlfriend but always made it clear that while we were friends I fully believed that I am with the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and that needed to be respected. It turned out that for many reasons feelings were a little to raw after the way things came together to act as friends really should with the kind of perspective friends should really have of each other and that slowed way down.
I think if he really likes you. This will happen too. Right now he feels that the right thing to do is be friends and likely a few weeks or months from now he will realize that the attempt is in vein, that what him and the other girl share does not resemble much of a friendship. A friend would be happy for him finding what he feels with you and from the other side a friend would be able to tell her about all of the wonderful things he is feeling without upsetting her.
As for clingy ex....Let me tell you the short version of a long story.
I met my current girlfriend, the woman I fully intend on marrying while she was engaged to her previous partner and, the father of her child. He believed he had lost his soul mate through and through, could not imagine ever loving another woman only her so on and so forth and he would do everything possible to prove and make her realize that they were right for each other. Aside from the expected conversations necessary for formal detachment and even though she thinks "he is a good person at heart" she doesn't and hasn't led him on to believe that they are anything more than what is necessary for the sake of her daughter.
I was also friends with my former girlfriend but always made it clear that while we were friends I fully believed that I am with the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and that needed to be respected. It turned out that for many reasons feelings were a little to raw after the way things came together to act as friends really should with the kind of perspective friends should really have of each other and that slowed way down.
I think if he really likes you. This will happen too. Right now he feels that the right thing to do is be friends and likely a few weeks or months from now he will realize that the attempt is in vein, that what him and the other girl share does not resemble much of a friendship. A friend would be happy for him finding what he feels with you and from the other side a friend would be able to tell her about all of the wonderful things he is feeling without upsetting her.
So libra man has asked me to marry him. I am now in a state of shock and at a loss because things are moving way way way way fast. I havent said yes and I havent said no. I want to say yes, but I cant really make up my mind. Im afraid i will just be saying yes because we are "in love", which i know should be a good thing but im still trying to figure out if we are in love with each other as people or if we are simply in love with the thought that the other person loves being in love as much as we each do. If that makes sense.
the ex is in jail on an unrelated charge so she hasnt been able to bother us as of late.
the ex is in jail on an unrelated charge so she hasnt been able to bother us as of late.
Here's the deal: If a man is interested in you, he shows up.
@ 2 sides... If I say yes, its gonna have to happen fast, I cant have a long term engagement that gives me to much time to go back and forth on if i should or if I shouldnt, which ultimately will put us at a stalemate because I literally cant even make a decision between a blue or black skirt (my daughter usually chooses for me, seriously, and lets not get started on actually leaving the house to go somewhere as a matter of fact I dont think I have ever had to make a choice usually someone just breaks down and chooses for me) So if Im gonna do it i have to do it then lol or a long engagment will turn into a lifelong engagment.
"Here's the deal: If a man is interested in you, he shows up."
I was just thinking on this statement. It certainly does apply to Aries men. But do they apply to Libra men? Maybe there's a small catch.. if a libra man is interested in you, he shows up, but it may be a bit (or too )late.
The thing with Libra man/ Libra woman is, if none of them's going to make the decision, I'm not sure how things will eventually work out.. the libra man is not going to make decisions for you, the contrary in fact. He has so much trouble making his own decisions.
I was just thinking on this statement. It certainly does apply to Aries men. But do they apply to Libra men? Maybe there's a small catch.. if a libra man is interested in you, he shows up, but it may be a bit (or too )late.
The thing with Libra man/ Libra woman is, if none of them's going to make the decision, I'm not sure how things will eventually work out.. the libra man is not going to make decisions for you, the contrary in fact. He has so much trouble making his own decisions.
"the libra man is not going to make decisions for you, the contrary in fact. He has so much trouble making his own decisions"
Oddly enough he actually is very good with making decisions and sticking to them, its a big shock to me but he actually likes to make choices.
Oddly enough he actually is very good with making decisions and sticking to them, its a big shock to me but he actually likes to make choices.
Yes but will he take on decisions for people other than himself? Maybe for a while only, right? After some time, he may want you to make his decisions too. Will he help you choose whether you should take option 1 or 2? In my opinion, only for a short time. He's more concerned with his own decisions than anything
he said you are his reflection? my first libra said that to me then he pulled away and he did come back stronger than before. i left him, eventually, bc i didn't see him as my perfect partner. i didn't want this rollercoaster for the rest of my life. it was incredibly passionate and the love strong but i wanted someone balanced. this libra wasn't balanced. lol
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