Libras Why——??/

To keep it short, my ex and i decided to stay friends after our breakup. Well after a long period of time of not speaking to each other i figured maybe he matured more and since its been a longtime not talking we could be just friends. But i realized whenever i pop up on messenger he changes his display picture of his new girl. At first i thought it was all in my head but then i tried something twice. 1st i stayed off messenger didn't sign in as me at all for a day and asked a friend who had him on messenger to check his update and he didn't change his picture. The next day i popped up on messenger and as soon as i'm on he changes his picture to all the fun he was having with his girl. I didn't take it on i figured he's inlove and its cool or whatever. The second time i stayed off messenger again for half a day and this time i changed my profile picture of myself instantly he changes his with his girl making cute faces. I then change my status to Life has been good to me and again he instantly changes his to the love of my life. Life is sweet. Lol. So is he trying to get my attention because if he is he did i admit but in a very funny immature way. Talk to your girl.

Posted by Huldra
There's not even a whiff of maturity coming from either side in this, honestly. No offense.

None taken. Advise me on how i should deal with this

Looks like someone is playing games unless he is spending 24 hours on messenger and changing his photos every 10 minutes (that can't be the man of your dreams!). Don't be a part of it!

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by Tauress
Looks like someone is playing games unless he is spending 24 hours on messenger and changing his photos every 10 minutes (that can't be the man of your dreams!). Don't be a part of it!

True ^^^^^

You need to stop "stalking " his messenger and get a life!!! The libra is now your EX. You now need to focus on yr life and get your life back in check as a single woman. Sometimes you can't always be friends with an Ex so why look for it?! Cut him out as he has done you and move on. He loves the attention he is getting from keeping you "guessing" and you are feeding it.... Cut him out.

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Never looked at it in that way. I always thought we could be friends but you guys are right. I will cut off all ties with him because to be honest i really don't want to be with him just believe exs could be friends. Maybe that's something i have to change.

Posted by Tauress
Looks like someone is playing games unless he is spending 24 hours on messenger and changing his photos every 10 minutes (that can't be the man of your dreams!). Don't be a part of it!

Not about games.

I agree with Busy you need to move on. You saying you still want to be friends when to him he's thinking you're just looking for an excuse to stay in his life and hang around when he wants his focus to be on his girlfriend. Not to mention you being friends with him could cause problems in his relationship and he doesn't want that either. He's making it clear he's moved on and his focus is his girlfriend, so yes stop stalking him and move on just as he's done.

My Libra's ex was doing the same thing, still trying to contact him "to stay friends" and he started posting pics of us on FB and changed his relationship status to in a relationship. Now she has deleted her FB.

She probably too thinks he is being childish when in reality he just doesn't want to have anything more to do with her and wants her to move on.

Posted by passonate99

Posted by Huldra
There's not even a whiff of maturity coming from either side in this, honestly. No offense.

None taken. Advise me on how i should deal with this

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Stop giving a shit. He's clearly an immature child.

I agree with the opinions that you need to get on with your life unless you have unresolved issues with the relationship. It sounds like you guys played these one uppmanship games during your relationship. Maybe focus on what you did wrong and be determined to learn/grow from the experience. Engage in a life that fulfills you instead of feeding your impulse to have him occupy your time.

Then think about it this way...if you're going to be friends with him, treat him like your other friends. Are you that invested in what profile pictures or updates are featured in their PM life?

Posted by libraqueen
Obviously he's an ex so you might be curios on what he does, hence your fast reaction towards his profile pics. After all, at one point you two saw forever with each other. You can't go from that, to friends without some sort of in-between feelings. It can be hate. It can be indifference that can be similar to annoyance. It can be sadness. Etc

You're feeling indifference that triggers annoyance from his actions and he's most likely seeking validation from you by trying to confirm in his own, looney head that you cry everytime you see him with his new girlfriend. But you don't. But he thinks you do, and that's why he does it. By now, he's sure you've seen the profile changes and is curious as to why you haven't displayed obvious signs of jealousy. He's going to keep at it until he gets bored, or you cave in and act spiteful back.

My advice? Delete him. It'll be even better if he knows you deleted him. He'll go back to his sad, miserable life when he next waits for you to log in but sadly for him he notices you're not on his contact anymore. LOL

I'm sorry, but just get rid of him. You guys can never be friends. He's clearly over you, but doesn't mean you guys are on good terms. Does that make sense?

Makes plenty of sense and its funny because i did exactly that even before your post. Almost like you were in my head i swear lol. Thanks love.

Posted by MsTeeq1974
I agree with the opinions that you need to get on with your life unless you have unresolved issues with the relationship. It sounds like you guys played these one uppmanship games during your relationship. Maybe focus on what you did wrong and be determined to learn/grow from the experience. Engage in a life that fulfills you instead of feeding your impulse to have him occupy your time.

Then think about it this way...if you're going to be friends with him, treat him like your other friends. Are you that invested in what profile pictures or updates are featured in their PM life?

The problem was with me. I loved the guy too much when in fact he didnt deserve me. He didn't do right by me thats why we broke up in the first place. It was my dumb mind and soft heart thinking he matured and we could actually be friends. which is why i agree with everyone here that the idea of being friends with an ex is a bad one it never works and truthfully for a while it got me thinking why would he treat his new girl so good and me so wrong when i've been nothing but good to him but oh well....I'm passed that. Gave myself that self talk that he's just being a jerk and he only chooses to do theses things to show me he's a good man and the fault was on me. But guess what, I NOW NO LONGER CARE AT ALL. he wasn't the one yesterday still not the one today

Posted by MsTeeq1974
I agree with the opinions that you need to get on with your life unless you have unresolved issues with the relationship. It sounds like you guys played these one uppmanship games during your relationship. Maybe focus on what you did wrong and be determined to learn/grow from the experience. Engage in a life that fulfills you instead of feeding your impulse to have him occupy your time.

Then think about it this way...if you're going to be friends with him, treat him like your other friends. Are you that invested in what profile pictures or updates are featured in their PM life?

Doesn't matter anymore. I'm done. Life goes on

And no, I didn't want to be more than friends just in case anyone was wondering. He had done enough to turn me off and the only reason why i wanted to be friends was because he was a good listener and adviser but that was the past. I burned that shit and buried it. DONE

Posted by passonate99
And no, I didn't want to be more than friends just in case anyone was wondering. He had done enough to turn me off and the only reason why i wanted to be friends was because he was a good listener and adviser but that was the past. I burned that shit and buried it. DONE

Prove it. Delete this thread.

Posted by passonate99
To keep it short, my ex and i decided to stay friends after our breakup. Well after a long period of time of not speaking to each other i figured maybe he matured more and since its been a longtime not talking we could be just friends. But i realized whenever i pop up on messenger he changes his display picture of his new girl. At first i thought it was all in my head but then i tried something twice. 1st i stayed off messenger didn't sign in as me at all for a day and asked a friend who had him on messenger to check his update and he didn't change his picture. The next day i popped up on messenger and as soon as i'm on he changes his picture to all the fun he was having with his girl. I didn't take it on i figured he's inlove and its cool or whatever. The second time i stayed off messenger again for half a day and this time i changed my profile picture of myself instantly he changes his with his girl making cute faces. I then change my status to Life has been good to me and again he instantly changes his to the love of my life. Life is sweet. Lol. So is he trying to get my attention because if he is he did i admit but in a very funny immature way. Talk to your girl.

I don't understand... if you and him are now (or were attempting to be) just friends, why care if he changes his profile pics? How old are both of the people involved? This sounds very kids born in the 90s stuff, so concerned about what's going on in other people's online life. One changes his/her profile pic or uploads some new photos, the other immediately goes "ZOMG!!! How dare he/she!! Is he/she trying to tell me sth??! WTF!! LOLZ!! SMH!!!"

I worry for my nieces... *says someone who had one of those trendy flip nokias back in the 90s and watched a lot of The X-Files - "Mulder?" "Scully?" "Mulder?!" Scully!!"*