making up with a libra

Why not do both? Start with the apologize up front (short and simple) and then finish with the funny line you wanted to use to let him know you haven't lost your sense of humor afterall.

thank you, guys. i appreciate all your replies. i will write my letter this weekend. goodluck to me. 😄

Hi Ms. Deuxantares,

I hope you are still checking this thread.

I have venus in virgo and can i just say? We are big procrasinators in love. Not for the sake of procrastinating, but for the reason that we like (we NEED) to take our time when choosing our love object, or the object of our affections.

It is like what the books say, we are cool cats in the game of love. We don't play games, but we are cool customers, seeming detatched, because we really are.

Now, when i say detached, i don't mean that we don't fall... We just like to take our time and see what the person is really about. Are they for real? Will they stick around?

I just thought i'd give you a heads-up on the burdens that plague the venus-in-virgo people. We really are good, we just take a bit of time to get to know.

If you truelly love this guy, you won't give up on him. We just need to know you are not just a flash-in-the-pan type of person, because, when we give our hearts, we are in it for the long haul.

I hope i have shed some light 😉

i dont think he took that,the remark, seriously..he Might not even remember what ud said.heh

anyways just appear online. if he comes online...message him first

applemint, i guess you are right. he is just waiting for me to make the first move because it's my fault. i think he is the type of man who won't let a woman push him around. which is good for me, because as a scorpio i cannot fall for someone i cannot respect and admire. this is a good lesson for me. thanks for taking the time to reply to my post 🙂

mgirl,

your message is very helpful. yes, your virgo-venus description fits him.

i myself am very cautious when it comes to entering relationships. actually, after one month of knowing each other online, he dropped a hint that he was checking out flight scheds (he could take 1-2 weeks off from work prior to his next project). i knew what he meant was flight to my location but i got scared and pretended that i didn't see what he said and just went on with my chattering. he must have thought that i wasn't interested yet. LOL.

i don't want to let a small rift ruin a potentially great relationship. he is only the 2nd guy off the net that i ever had an uncannily strong connection with. and the funny thing is he reminds me of the first guy (5 years ago, didn't progress becoz i was scared and we could not synchronize our scheds till both of us lost interest) becoz they're similar in so many ways.

my attention span is very short and it's hard for a man to hold my interest, especially online. i can tell just within the first 2 minutes if i would click with a guy offline.

i think i'm delaying my action becoz i'm scared. i feel scared that if we talk i won't be able to deny that i am strongly attracted to him, and i am doubly scared that he might confess that the feeling is mutual. in fact, i am more scared of us moving on to the next level than him rejecting me! i am such a wuss. 😄

girls, please send some "balls" my way. 😄

Deuxantares: ?i knew what he meant was flight to my location but i got scared and pretended that i didn't see what he said and just went on with my chattering. he must have thought that i wasn't interested yet. LOL.?

Lol, that is funny! It sounds like it is all forgotten now and you have both moved on from there though 😉

I have never done the online thing, but I've heard it takes a lot of time, checking in on your profile and everything. I guess also, keeping the momentum going would be a challenge. But, i imagine the solution would be to maintain consistency. You could have cyber dates... you could keep it interesting somehow. You could write down random thoughts and send them via email while he's sleeping. The list goes on.

I think the next step for you would be to talk to him in person though, but deliver the apology in the medium that you have been communicating in up until now, you don't want to freak either of you out.

With regards to the apology, I think your second idea is the best one. Crack a joke, warm him up a little and within 15 minutes of the conversation bring the issue up and apologise. Being a Libran, I am sure all will be forgiven..

As for wanting balls, I think you've already got some. Well, maybe one, and we can send you another one 😉

Oh yeah, one last thing. I wouldn't give up if this apology doesn't work out. I think it will, but, at the very least, you want closure and you won't get that unless you tell him what's really on your mind.

Good luck and remember to relax. It is interesting to see where the natural processes take us sometimes 😉

moon_eyes: "So question why do libras demand respect and integrity but do not always reciprocated that what they receive?"

Librans can be the biggest hypcrits, you should know that! Lol.

I don't know. Most of the librans i know (which isn't many) don't demand integrity. They seek a certain level, but it isn't all that black and white. It's like, as long as people are treating us fine and they have some moral values, all is well in my opinion. Strict standards are way too invonvenient as situations, emotions and perspectives change over time, sometimes quickly, so having rigid standards would not suit us well.

I hope i have made sense.

That's not to say we don't have standards. I'm just saying, there are so many other things to do and pay attention to, that obsessing over excessively HIGH standards seems counter-productive. As long as there is an acceptable level of respect, all is well. For example, do not call after 10pm (but deuxantares, that does not mean you shouldn't call your guy out of the blue, we love surprises. But, the general population must respect our privacy!), leave me alone when i want to be alone, and respect my opinions and intellectual space! 😉

Hi

I have a very similar situation with you. We were on the verge of actually being "US" but unofficial. He have told me the words "care about you - await reply". I was so damn attracted to him. He is really gorgeous and all. The problem is, I have fears too. But I am a "once-and-for-all" type of person. This is or this isn't. I told him I care - DAMN LOTS! He began to drift away. I was sad and depressed but I let him. Soon someone will be sent my way again (I always thought). We were about to meet up here in my country, he is infact already here for 2 days. Prior to that I did not write him back for 5 days then suddenly I receive a mail today saying "Do you have the phone with you?".

If a libra man is feeling strange to someone, I think he'll think it over for many many times. He will not let you go if he finds in his system he really likes you. He'll get back. Do your part - let him know what you feel. Think it's going to end all the questioning. That's the risk of falling in love.

i saw him go online on messenger today very briefly, just to check emails maybe. i am always invisible when im online so he didn't know if i was online or not.

i have been agonizing over this for over 1 week already and was planning to send him the email tomorrow. but when i saw him online today i immediately drafted a very short note and sent it to his email. i didn't give myself a chance to change my mind. LOL.

the note was just one sentence written in a light-hearted way in reference to one of our private jokes. but at the same time it will compel him to reply and that will be enough to measure if he still wants to talk to me or not. (i used to work in the media and in advertising that's why i can be very brief but direct. LOL).

as soon as i hit SEND i felt good. the ball is in his court now. whatever action he takes, i will accept it. but i feel truly positive that he is just waiting for me to make the first move and that after this everything will be ok again. so i am not worried anymore. the space must have done both of us good.

guys, thank you very much for your inputs. you have been most helpful and supportive. 🙂

jinggay, i believe your guy is gorgeous as most librans are. i have read some of your earlier posts and i understand why you are scared, too.

my guy has sun/moon/mercury/mars in libra (not sure if libra ascendant too coz we are not sure if he was born AM or PM) so he is very much a libra. i am aware about their indeciveness that's why im taking it real slow and not being clingy. i believe i have given him enough signals to signify my interest.

so right now he is in your country? are you meeting up with him soon? do you know his exact time of birth and birthplace? try to find a way to get him to tell you without making him suspicious. LOL. i can help you a bit to know him better if we have these info.

goodluck to you and always remember that when it's your time love will track you down wherever you are. 🙂

Wow! Thank you very much.
Just this hour he sent me 3 songs
And - he stated in his mail that he will stay here till sunday - (nice try)
I send back a song:
Norah Jones revival of "Are you lonesome tonight"
He said then - "after sunday I will know more about my life"

Will try to ask his birth time but he was born October 20, 1958
I was born June 29, 1969

Cheers to us!

jinggay, we don't have his exact DOB and birthplace so i tried using several options. there is a very high chance of him having an aqua moon, which according to my experience is one of the most difficult to deal with during the initial stage.

If you have moon in aqua you are: "Very freedom-oriented, you must always be able to do what you wish, no matter what. You become stubborn and recalcitrant when others try to force you into a mold. You are a true democrat -- you are not a follower, but you enjoy being with those who are like-minded. You appreciate emotional self-control -- you practice it yourself and you look for it in others. You solve problems, including emotional ones, with your brains and intellect, not your feelings. Try to be tolerant of those who have powerful and obvious emotional responses -- not everyone is as objective, cool, dispassionate and detached as you are."

i try to avoid men with aqua moons because my scorpio sun and moon cannot handle them. with your cancer sun i think it may not be easy for you. however, don't lose hope because his venus is in libra which means that he is partner-oriented.

there may be a conflict between his freedom-loving moon and his partnership-loving venus. this is maybe what causes a tug-of-war in his dealings with a woman.

do not be clingy and needy, aqua moon does not like this. he wants to feel that he is free. but once he discovers that he feels strongly for you he does not change his mind, he will be loyal to you.

Wow! I've seen all that from him. Really !!!!
So I believe with that reading.
So far - I think now what I am doing is right thats why he really cant let me go.

thank you so much, the insight has strongly indicated that I'm on the right track.

Appreciate the effort. Luv yah!

Finally, he replied to my short email after 7 days. I can tell by the tone of his reply that everything is back to normal between us. (Btw, I read somewhere that things were supposed to get better today, wednesday, for people who are in standoffs/impasse in their relationships. It has something to do with transits). Oh well, i don't know much about it. I am just thankful that my days of agony are over. I promise never to walk out on anyone/anything in the future. LOL. I realized I don't like being served a dose of my own medicine. 😄

hahaha 🙂