Mentioned love - Libra froze

Yeah ... I whipped out the big guns last night and threw down my cards. It's been 2 years .. I think that's ample time to have a good handle on your feeling for another person. He just froze. Nothing. Said, "I don't know what to say. You caught me off-guard. You don't think that I like you?"

C'mon man ... it's not LIKE anymore ... Love. That's what I said. I said, "I love you." Told him that if he doesn't love me - then cut me loose; no sense in staying a loveless relationship especially when we both have a choice in the matter. He takes care of me, makes sure I have what I need, smacks my ass and flirts like no tomorrow with me. But he can't say it. Why?

I agree....just because he's not saying it,it is not a good reason to dump him...he's at least showing you in other ways.....most of us are here wondering what to do to get a LIbra to treat us like that. If you were worried because he's not treating you well, that he doesnt flirt with YOU then I'd understand but he's around, staying around and so whats the problem?

They're only words!!

getting a libra to tell someone that he loves them is like next to impossible. So please stop hoping to hear some stupid pickup lines.

my ex is libra. he loves everyone! he told me he was in love with me withing a couple of weeks. but he didn't have money, didn't take care of me, we were very much in love. so i guess libras can be very different.

I'm libra and I'm in love with love. I don't mind saying it and I love everyone as well. I don't have a lot of money but when the person I love needs something, I make a way.

yI'd freeze too...I've frozen just from a guy telling me how much he liked me...no springing feelings like that on me...its unnerving...the pressure of having to respond to that out the blue or suddenly... Don't think its not mutual because u didn't get the response u built up in your imagination... for me and other air signs I know its about actions actions acctions...me and my aqua have said the majic words once....no need to say them continually...we know and we act accordingly...

I love chicken, I love chocolates, I love people, I love ice cream. I dont think i can fit someone's name in such a sentence. It would sound way stupid.

u dont love people and never get confused why u like every one of them.

what thelibran said.

GRRRRRR ?.. stuff like this REALLY ticks me off.

Moon

You had experiences with Libras that WASN'T in love with you. You have NOT had experiences with Libras who WERE in love with you.

Seriously!

YES Libras love.

moon_eyes, its easier for you to delude yourself into believing that the libras who were once part of your life loved u than facing the reality that most of them never really did. And keep that "i wasnt looking for love" part for yourself. it shows how narrow your views on love are. We libras are experts in making ourselves believe that we are in love with someone when we are not. Its our negative side.

I dont need to know you to know you and still I would know you more than you ever knew yourself.

I have heard some brainless westerners saying that nonsense "I wasn't ready for love" so many times. Lemme respectfully ask you what the fck does that mean? You think its something which is stored in a container which you can collect whenever you are ready?

*sits back and enjoys the show*

Popcorn anybody?

Moon (Not Directed at Original Poster)

When libras are in love, we act like puppies, our tales wag. We can't hide it. There tends to be more confusion because we are an affectionate sign and people mistake our interest and curiosity and sincere friendship for romantic interest and romantic love. That is why I say go where it is easy. Libra in love makes it easy.

You are right. We don't really talk about emotions because we aren't an emotion based sign. We just aren't. You might as well ask the wind to sit still. If you want that, don't look to libra.

That, however, does not mean we don't care and don't feel.

I get incredibly tired of listening to people whine that libras who were NOT in love with them and TOLD THEM that they weren't in love with them, who TOLD THEM that they were only interested in friendship, spewing crap about how libras act when they are in love. If we were together for only three months, chances are it isn't a love connection. If we told you we were only interested in friendship, chances are that is true and you should listen.

There is only one person on here who I think was dealing with a libra in love and it went sour. She knows who she is because I contacted her with my thoughts. The rest were just romantic connections that went astray. Not every romantic connection is a lifelong love affair. MOST romantic connections don't amount to anything but a few short months and angst.

Furthermore, Libras are very concerned and care about the people in our lives. Everyone wants to know why we come back. It is because we CARE. We don't want anything. We can accept that a romantic relationship isn't meant to be (unless we are really in love then we hang on YEARS after it ended). That doesn't mean we DON'T care or don't want the person in our life. It just means it wasn't meant to be but all the stuff that was good about the person hasn't changed.


If you ever heard me talk about my exs, I usually say they are great men and anyone would be lucky to have them in their life. They just weren't the great guy for ME. It doesn't mean I don't appreciate everything good about them.

The biggest downfall to being a Libra is that noone listens and everyone thinks they know what is best for you and what you really want. It is tiring, exhausting, and unwelcome. I have had to remove more than a few people from my life who at some point decided that they knew better what I wanted and needed than me.

MayB

This is a tough one.

He either doesn't want to lie OR he doesn't believe in love and using those words because he has been hurt too many times. There is a good chance that you did catch him off-guard and he really didn't know what to do. Maybe he was just going along day to day and never gave it much thought because it felt good. Suddenly, two years have gone by and he needs to decide if there is a future in this or not. Because I think those words carry with them a certain amount of commitment.

It is not necessarily a bad thing that he froze because it means that everything has been so good he hasn't really thought about it. People tend to focus more on their relationships when something is wrong.

BUT love means a lot of things to a lot of people. My version of what love is has changed a lot in recent years. I use to see it as longing and desire. (What people refer to as "in love") I see it now more as compatibility and the absence of longing. I see it as peace, appreciation, and contentment. (What people refer to as love if you have ever heard someone say they love you but aren't in love with you. The difference is longing and passion IMO.) So I think in your case, it really depends on where he is on the maturity scale and how he defines love.

The only times I couldn't say it was because I really wasn't "in love" with the person. Not that I didn't think they weren't great but because there was no longing and passion. If they came into my life now, I probably would love them because my definition has changed. (Not too mention I was dating them when I was completely heartbroken over someone else. LONG story. I was young. lol!)

This is a tough one. I wish you all the best.

How hard is what to explain? Again, what are you talking about?

As I have said countless times, I don't communicate well with water signs. I just don't. The exception being scorps. I sincerely have no idea what you are talking about.

My post wasn't strictly for you, though it started out that way. It is for everyone who is in a one-sided relationship with a Libra.

If it is hard, then something is wrong 'cause Libras like Cancer tend to overgive in their relationships. Cancer and Libra are the two most giving and affectionate signs.

Yes LS certainly knows her stuff.....she has, on more than one ocassion helped me understand my own situation and I am grateful for that......I love her saying "go where it easy"....its so the way it should be 🙂

Oh and I did listen EVENTUALLY hehehe.

awww thanks Chatz. (blushes)

You had it really hard though! The push-pull and beautiful mirror of the Leo-Libra connection. You know how I feel about that connection!

Why you want to hear "I love you" ? it's not that special cause i love my friends 2
Isn't it more important by showing ? I'm sorry but if you break things up just bc he didn't say that you're verry small in your way of thinking and selfish.

libras love and fall in love but HATE using the word "love."

The libra I was dealing with used to say "I love you" all the time...unless he was running game...he'll always have a place in my heart though...

I was the one who told him that we should just be friends...😉

I'm sorry but if you break things up just bc he didn't say that you're verry small in your way of thinking and selfish.

Agreed!!!

gotta accept Libras as they are.

right on, Ashley. moon_eyes, looking forward to more BRILLIANCE! I mentioned LIKE to a Libra and she froze. Ha! They do NOT like dealing with emotion or feeling like they have to THINK about feelings / emotion. Really like Ashley's point about them being like Aquarians. But have seen Libras majorly blow their cool (EXTREME temper tantrums) and don't see that with Aquarians very often.