Need some Libra insight please... extra please

Hello wonderful Libra readers. Please bare with me this is a lengthy story that spans over 8 years but it’s a good one and I neeeed your help!

I’m from a very small town 40 minutes from a major city. I go out on occasion and it’s very tourist populated. 8 years ago I meet a man in a bar when we started singing a song across the bar to each other. We spent the entire day together and at the end exchanged numbers and gave a deep hug and a small kiss. I thought nothing of it as I knew he was far away but we’ve kept in contact all this time.

We talked non stop for months and planned to meet. I backed out being scared and about two months he found out I started seeing someone and it truly hurt him. I explained I truly liked him but I was terrified as what I would do with that. He travels the world with work and changes his home city about every 3 years. I’m just small town me. He said he would have made it work. I knew it hurt him and I’ve apologized over and over throughout the years and have attempted to explain it had nothing to do with him but my own insecurities.

We ceased communication for a few months but as we always do started up again. We’ve planned other meetings through the years that have fallen. Some on my part some on his. We have went months without talking but pick back up with ease and no questions. Confide in one another. Sometimes sexual sometimes supportive. We have became part of each other’s lives over the years and close friends. I care for him like I care for a close friend and he is the same. He knows all my dark secrets all my big events. He brings me up when I’m down and he’s always around for me. I’ve dated a few people “very few” over the years. He knows I’m not a hoochie...and I’ve never seen him on social media with anyone else.

The past two months we promised each other no more talks it was time. 8 years face to face and we would meet. Like little kids giddy we couldn’t compose our excitement. I flew to his city “small town girl me” and it was everything and more I could imagine. We stayed in his apartment for three days with a little sight seeing. I’d wake up in the mornings and suck in the view off the balcony like a dream I had envisioned for years.

He was crazy about me and couldn’t take his hands off. When being intimate he insisted he wanted to take his shirt off and he never does. He wanted to “be as close as possible” We talked about how my friends are all excited I finally went and his the same. We talk about each other in our lives we aren’t secrets.

Our second day we walked the city and watched movies and ate in that night. He was a little distant but again we had a great night.

The next day it was time to fly out...he seemed distant but I knew he had a million things in his mind as I did. I didn’t want to ask what our future brought I wanted to suck in every second of our moments and figure out what needed to be later. I know he’s content with being alone he has been all this time so a short stay was perfect. We rode the elevator down to my Uber laughing and joking. He opened my door and I tossed my bag in. I turned and hugged him with everything in me looked up and gave a soft kiss and I was gone. I sent him this exact msg when boarding my flight.

“I’m jumping on my flight now. Thank you for this weekend and being great. I really hope it isn’t so long until the next time. Def not opposed to coming back your way whenever you are free or you my way. If that is what you want also...if not that’s completely ok. No regrets from my side...I like you..knew I would...Thanks again”

I snapped him when I was back in my bed with a picture that said back home so he knew I made it safe.

Three days went by and he never answered me. He never opened my snap...first day I thought nothing of it he was just exhausted like me and each day on I realized something wasn’t ok. On the third day of no contact I sent this.

“I snapped to let you know I was home but you never read or answered. Hope you aren’t ignoring me because of this weekend. I still just wanna be friends, nothing more, don’t be weird about it please.😑 Going kick some ass in kickball now.”

Today makes day 5 no contact. I am utterly devastated. Not the same as I would be in a breakup but like losing my very best friend. Like a death to someone close to me I am completely grieving. If this would have happened after 6 months I would understand and this post wouldn’t be up. I have had 8 years of deep conversations...FaceTimes...pictures...He has been through everything with me. If we would have sat on the floor and never touched for those three days I would feel the same way because he is my best friend before anything else and I would NEVER want to lose that.

I am 30 he is 37...I am a mature Aries not the young hot headed implosive me of the past. I realize I can not say anymore it will make it worse even though I want to say so much. I realize I must be silent and give this all time. I feel like I have reassured him if nothing more our friendship is most important to me and I am perfectly fine if that’s all we ever have. I honestly thought something might have happened so I googled his name and city to make sure I didn’t read anything...Yesterday, he posted something on his Twitter “He only uses for sports no friends on it”. I was just happy to know he was ok. I will never hate him I’ve cared about him for too long but I can not understand this.

Please any insight is greatly appreciated.

O man...you gave me the best laugh just now!!! I needed that. Honestly, I didn’t even proof read this just wrote in my moment and posted. 😂💀😭

I went up with no expectations. I would completely accept if he thought we aren’t compatible. What hurts is acting like 8 years didn’t happen. How can someone pretend that? It’s impossible...you can fake a chase for a moment but that would be an insanely long time. He’s shared things that would make me believe he cared and I felt he was attracted to me. In no possible way does this come from anger I left on good terms.

A: He likes me and can’t handle it knowing our lives don’t match.

B: He doesn’t feel for me in any way and is scared to hurt me. “Not like this isn’t worse then knowing that”

C: He’s twisted and this is all some revenge for hurting him that first time YEARS ago.

This is the only logical options I can fathom...I know he has to think of me it can’t just go away. He has to feel something good or bad. He knows my past hurts and for him to do something this cruel I really can not understand.

sorry he hasn't responded in 5 days - only time will tell I think - but keep your head up and keep us posted

I say distant because the second day he just wasn’t all over me as the first. Obviously they had some excitement in our meet up so I didn’t read much into it. It’s not like we didn’t hold conversation or sit next to each other afterwards he just wasn’t ALL over me. He was fine again by the second night...and when it did go down it was more of a connection not a casual “bang bang done” for lack of better words 🤦🏼‍♀️.The last day he sat at the end of the sofa while we watched tv but we talked all afternoon. Our goodbye didn’t feel strange in any way. I’ve been replaying it all over and over trying to pick up on any missed parts. I won’t be devastated unless he leaves it with silence. Idk when or if I’ll ever reach out for an answer again. If all he wanted was to sleep with me he sure played a long game of it....I can’t believe that though not with the things we’d talk about. Most confused I’ve been in 30 years for sure.

Also, he did not delete me from snap I can still see his score number. He just never opened my msg and I believe he didn’t block my number but can see my text. When I’m done with someone and go to ignoring I delete contacts...it has me thinking he’s going through something in his mind. Only reason he didn’t make me disappear if he’s doing this. Any thoughts on it all welcomed and appreciated.

Too big to read.

grasping at straws here but are you sure he still has his phone?

Anything is possible...but communication is his life line at work it would have been replaced by now. Think I’m going to give it about two more weeks and send this. What do you guys think?

“I want you to know nothing you could possibly say will upset me other then saying nothing at all. You have always been a good friend to me and if all we ever have is how it was before I’m ok with that. NOTHING would hurt me other then you just acting like I don’t matter after all this time.”

maybe just call him.

Eight years? You're 30 now, so you were, what, 22 and he was 29 when you two first met?

Tbh, it sounds like he got caught up in the fun and fantasy of the long distance thing. People tend to get all caught up in it when it's an idea and something that's not as tangible as being physically present.

Libras are notorious for getting caught up in the lovey dovey fantasy of romance. Seeing you and the reality of it was a slap in the face to whatever he was imagining it to be. Not to say that you did anything wrong, but something about the whole thing seems to have made him pause, so to speak. For someone who seems to think so highly of you to suddenly just go MIA like that, aside from any random life issue, he sounds like he's being a total coward.

I really wouldn't be surprised if dude built you and the relationship up in his head, getting caught up in the romance of it all, and once it all settled down, he realized it wasn't what he thought it was and doesn't know how to cope with it. One thing emotionally immature Libra's are notorious for, its treating the object of their desire as a new toy to covet. Once it's lost its novelty, its tossed in the pile and they're on to the new one.

Hopefully, dude will get ahold of you and try to piece together some sort of bullshit reasoning as to why he's doing this crap. Men who are into you don't do that shit, so I have a feeling he's going to jerk you around.

Posted by Aries985

O man...you gave me the best laugh just now!!! I needed that. Honestly, I didn’t even proof read this just wrote in my moment and posted. 😂💀😭

True aries lol

Nothing...two weeks today. I went ahead and deleted all forms of communication. I didn’t want to be the weak drunk girl who has a low moment and writes her feelings. I want him to know I am strong. I want him to think of me in moments as I do him wondering what I feel. We have gone about 5 months without talking but never being ignored like this. If I never get an answer that will suck but if I do he will never have a hold on my inner heart again...just will hold him at a far distance strictly as a friend. Thank you all for the feedback. I appreciate it and I’m doing much better with it all even without answers.

If I were you I would stop calling him names like "best friend" and "friend" because neither would treat you the way he has. He is more of an acquaintance. If I were you I wouldn't respond again unless he comes begging and I mean on his hands and knees.

i'm still trying to figure out what is wrong with calling him. you felt comfortable enough to get naked and open your legs but a phone conversation is out of the question?

we live in topsy turvy times.