Only a libra man would act like this......

Thank you.....I'm not upset I'm not 'the one' I'm upset over losing the friendship. I took his words at face value when he said he just wanted to be friends because I operate by what you say not what I think you mean. Therefore, what upsets me is how he's acted with the friendship. There's no rhyme or reason for his behavior....and I told him flat out I'm not the one to make sense out of his nonsense...(of course when I said this to him I said it in one sentence filled with multiple expletives)

Like I said in the other thread....if he doesn't include me in his personal problems then they have nothing to do with me...and I refuse to take on someone else's issues, drama, etc I have enough of my own right now....

I do feel bad about having to tell him off; however, I refuse to let someone treat me badly.

that's what happens when you tread into an area of uncertainty...sleeping with a friend will always change the relationship, no matter how strong you think this relationship was in the beginning. Straight away your love changed to being in love with him and you told him when you had also told him that you didnt want you friendship to change just because you slept together!!!

It looks to me that you have tried to manipulate a relationship from him emotionally, straight after sleeping together you suggest you want to see where this will go and he declines...then you change your mind and tell him that you dont normally jump into relationships and want a FWB with him to which he declines again...so you try to take it back to the platonic friendship even though you are falling for him more. Having come up against a brick wall you then go back to being buddies but decide to try the jealous route by dropping that you are on a date and also your ex is back!

I would suspect that he is the confused irritated and frustrated one as he doesnt know what you'll do next!! Yes the friendship is broken and will be very hard to get back on track...you want more and he doesn't and he has made that perfectly clear with his actions.

You may have to distance yourself from him for a while to clear your head, also sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder, but dont bank on it...sort yourself out first.

@ effedupgirl and sweethearts (applause, applause and applause once again) I could not AGREE more with you both anymore. Correct to all that you both said!!!!

Never make anyone your priority, while you remain their option! As one of you already said, we have all been in these kinds of situations, but you gotta know when to say enough is enough! I damn sure deserve better and I'm going to GET better.

Thank you sweethearts.....I appreciate your feedback. My intent was not to be manipulative or an effort to manipulate the situation because a relationship that is built on tricks and lies may provide instant gratification; but falls way short of being fulfilling and sometimes long lasting. I don't want a relationship like that. Therefore, when I shared how I felt I did so because I believe in being open and honest in all of my relationships whether they are friendships, romantic, etc. Honesty in relationships is a lesson I have learned the hard way in the past. I know myself well enough to know that if I held how I felt inside and tried to pretend I felt the same way he did these feelings would eventually appear in some negative form or fashion. I knew and know he feels differently and I have no choice but to respect that......when has forcing someone into a relationship ever been a successfully met goal or had a happy ending? However, I can see how he could be confused which would explain the change in our friendship, and the only thing that will heal that (or not) is time.

I will say that sleeping together didn't create or change the 'love'...love is why I slept with him in the first place, it's been there for awhile now.

Thank you all for your feedback I really appreciate it! I will have to let time sort the situation out one way or the other. Either way it has been a lessoned learned!

Thank you all for your feedback I really appreciate it! I will have to let time sort the situation out one way or the other. Either way it has been a lessoned learned!

Dont be too hard on yourself...alot of women mis-read things or see a little more from men blindly because we are romantics at heart...how many times have you heard of a girl thinking she can turn a gay man straight if he would just sleep with her—

What it is saying is you are ready for love and sometime soon you will no doubt find it...when you least expect it. Good luck 🙂

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Dont be too hard on yourself...alot of women mis-read things or see a little more from men blindly because we are romantics at heart...how many times have you heard of a girl thinking she can turn a gay man straight if he would just sleep with her—

What it is saying is you are ready for love and sometime soon you will no doubt find it...when you least expect it. Good luck 🙂

Thank you! The confusing part is he initiated everything...the sleeping together, the promise we'd always be friends etc. I just followed his lead...until I figured out he was leading me in a circle. I believe the main issue here is fear; however, that is not something I can fix...especially if the person will not admit that that is what is going on. The only thing I can do is be myself and live my life :-)

Which Head do you suppose was doing all the talking— 😛

This happened over awhile....so it's a little more complicated than that. My gut says all of this foolishness is being caused by fear

We have crazy history with each other so I know with time the situation will work out. Am I hurt now? Yup! Am I confused? Yup? Am I kinda pissed? Sure am! Nonetheless, I'm a libra meaning give me a few days to balance the scales along with the facts that make up this situation and I'll be ok. t f

At the end of the day regardless of the past few weeks I love the man to death and will always wish him well!

Spoken like a true Libran!!

But Libran men and women are different species, your friendship will eventually be in tact I feel, but if he is going to want anything more then it has to come from him...he is the one that has backed away...whether that be time to think and reassess or whatever his reasons are.

And then he will be back (in typical Libran style )...whatever he comes back as is what he is wanting for sure!

So true sweethearts! At this point it is much easier, less stressful, and less painful if I determine the nature of this relationship. Therefore, regardless of what he may want when he comes back we should only be friends.