saying things u don't mean

libra guys, do they tend to say thing they don't mean to be on the same page with someone or as a mere perfunctory, so as not to hurt someone, just to get away with something..so as not to cause more trouble...

like saying, I love you too or playing with the words love...without meaning it..saying things like, I am crazy about you...

but not showing any signs other than words that he loves you..not showing it—??

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Awesome topic! Agreed squared!

He's rather lie than hurt your feelings..i know i do that sometimes.

yeah they would. I sometimes do it. Say things I don't mean to people I don't really care for just to spare their feelings. Or promise people dates, etc. that I have no INTENTION of going on simply because I don't want to hurt them or be rude.

The only time I don't really care whether or not I hurt your feelings is when you piss me off then my philosophy is you asked me to perform, now you're going to get the show you requested and if it hurts your feelings oh well you shouldn't have acted like an A**!

I haven't actually found my Libra friend to do any of that directly to me.....he says what he means and he means what he says....he's very direct but oh so charming at the same time but he doesnt like to hurt anybody and is always fair in his decisions and ALWAYS comes through when he makes a "date/plan" although he is very indecisive but that's in his sign LOL.

I could see though, that he'd squirm his way out of something if he found himself in an awkward position, i.e. saying yes he'd be somewhere when he didnt really intend on going.

We don't mean what we say when we are angry. Other times we say what we say to keep the options open. If we ever say "I love you" or something similar, then it means a lot. Bcoz we normally don't enjoy saying it unless we are dead sure about it.

... and yea.. we dont show any signs of affection other than the words spoken till we know where you stand and talk about it openly to us. No hints please, Libras are bloody naive. Any hints, we can see a dozen reasons which made you hint in some particular fashion and we go mad thinking about which one is right. When a libra says "I love you" or "I guess am in love with you", the best reply will be to say "Even I feel the same towards you" or "I dont know If I have similar feelings for you". That makes things crystal clear and then we will think about taking the next step.

i am confused myself..i think like a libra now. We were jut playing girlfriend, boyfriends..more like a game..then i said i love you and he same i love you too and many other sweet stuff..like i am crazy about you.. but after a few hours...when i left..he wouldn't talk to me anymore he would rather do other things. I know I shouldn't take thngs seriously..but it's too late now..i've slided down..i'm just glad i know i have.

I've enjoyed the pain i felt thought, it's not everyday i feel pain. I tried to analize what one really goes through when they are in pain...it pretty cool and kinda hard to decipher 😉

i got 2 different answers here..but what is heavier? action or words? actions right? and what is the best gift you can give someone you love? I think TIME.

and if he cannot do it, then your not worth his time... true, it's 4 am when i tried to talkk to him but still...

For me the situation of saying things I didn't mean or wasn't completely sure of only really happened in relationships where the other person was falling a lot harder and faster than I and I felt a strong possibility that I could or was slowly falling for them and didn't want to hurt them. It is the whole "keep things on an even keel kind of thing."

If the other person is really emotional or even slightly insecure then this is how we kind of ease their mind. It is akward to be in, we don't want to lie or lead someone on but we want them to stop worrying and be comfortable so we can focus on those feelings that are budding for them.

I think this is more common with the less mature Libras, I used to do it a lot more. I would shower someone with affection to keep them in the right mindframe while I took the time to fall for them.

In the last couple of years that changed. I say what I mean and mean what I say. I don't return an I love you if I am not there yet, I will say I love " such and such" about the other person if I do love that about them. You can love aspects of the other persons character prior to being in love with them, or without being in love with them.

The I love you doesn't come until I have an overwhelming feeling of love for the other person to the point where I need to let it out. I am usually in love with someone for a while before I let it out....wanting to be sure and all that. When it does come out, my lover can be rest assured I mean it with every fiber of me.

thanks ya'll that was enlightening 😉

* but after a few hours...when i left..he wouldn't talk to me anymore he would rather do other things.

He has a life outside you. I am crazy about my bf but I do other things.

* true, it's 4 am when i tried to talkk to him but still...

WTF? That would piss me off.

You sound really young so let me help you out by giving you some advice to help you.

The thing is there are three things at play when you are in a relationship or dating someone or even married to someone. There is your life, his life/her life, and a life together. Your relationship has to be kept in check with your own life. You have to keep your own interests, your own friends, your own time. You also have to respect your partner enough to allow them the same.

If you keep this in mind, your relationships will be healthy.

BTW, calling in the middle of the night is really disrespectful.

haha thanks LS, do you have that etiquette and grow up book to help me? 🙂

anyway, i did not call, it was on chat and he was obviously online. But yeah..my bad..

"There is your life, his life/her life, and a life together."
-true, i downloaded that.

I am a busy person and we don't get to talk as much anymore so i expect that evrychance we or i could get we will talk, but of course that is selfish of me..

muah!

he is a matured libra over 25 so i don't know... its' either he says things he feels or he know i like him so he plays along...

I think its the second one, if it would be the first one, he would express it in a way you wouldnt be confused.

well i am a confused person..lol

ok then would you cross the atlantic ocean to meet someone who is only a friend?

"ok then would you cross the atlantic ocean to meet someone who is only a friend?"

Yes, in my head and heart. In real life, no.
Perhaps the intention is there, but the true urge isn't (due to multitude of potential consequences).
I know even for the guy I profess to love I won't do everything for him.
My guy is overseas in the opposite side of the globe from me (and has been for some time), and I won't fly there to meet him. I know if I do he won't appreciate it. 😛 And what for? I feel him within me 24/7.

I think perhaps they do say what they mean, even for that particular moment only. I find it hard to say things I don't mean. Even if I say "I love you" to someone, there would be truth in it, but the catch would be (...not as much as someone else/myself) or (...but it doesn't mean i'm willing to commit) or (..as a friend). Also, things do change when people realise some things they once assumed that make their previous statement void.

Good wisdom, LS.

My Libra always says he loves me when he sees me (although he rarely sees me) and usually always says it when he ends a phone call. Yet, he makes no attempt to call for days or weeks afterward to see how I'm doing and if things are ok with me. When I initiate contact with him I get voice mail, unanswered emails until he decides to make contact again. What kind of F'd up love is that? why would he initiate saying it to me but not behave like someone who loves and cares about that person except when he's "in the moment".

He doesn't use it like a figure of speech, ie: "love ya babe". No it isn't like that at all. He out and out says "I love you". Then he disappears.

I had the worst wake up call with my self-centered Libra a week ago when a very tragic event happened to me and although when i told him what had happened he offered to spend some very good quality time with me one evening after work I haven't heard or seen from him since. How can you possibly tell someone you love them knowing they are having a very difficult time with something and then not want to know how they are doing over the course of the next few days, weeks, months? I realize there are many different kinds of love. But just as a friend I would have expected the common courtesy to call or check-in to make sure all would be well during a troubled time. But if he has the courage to throw the "L" word out there....he should be backing it up. Yes, a real eye opener, heart breaker, and reality check for me! So, NO I do not believe Libra's say what they mean particularly when they say "I love you". NO, It doesn't mean a thing unless the actions come with it.

So Libras, why would you believe that saying something to spare someone's feelings is doing them a favor. Eventually when the person realizes you lied about what you meant or what you said then the lie hurts worse and the hurt lasts A LOT LONGER and Wounds much deeper then just being honest and upfront. You're not really sparing their feelings.........you're sparing your own.

***When I initiate contact with him I get voice mail, unanswered emails until he decides to make contact again. What kind of F'd up love is that?***

Libra love? This can be the case even when they love you, they can be self-involved and pretty forgetful really. I know, it is hard to believe, but they can at times, it just shouldn't happen often.

***I had the worst wake up call with my self-centered Libra a week ago when a very tragic event happened to me and although when i told him what had happened he offered to spend some very good quality time with me one evening after work I haven't heard or seen from him since.***

Okay, this my dear is very abnormal. They are the most supportive partners or even friends in time of tragedy. In my experience. Well, most of my experiences. LS, you get me?

Libras hate hurting people, so yes, at times they may say what you want to hear, but it is up to you to get to the core of it. Have them express themselves to you. I hear it easier for a scorp or gem to do this with them on an emotional level, but this is what has worked for me. Just can't be too much in an emotional state when doing so.