Capkat
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Swearing Off Libra Men for good!!
I seriously need to just keep a copy of this tidbit around and just paste it-
Libra guys are in love with the idea of love. They go in with every intention to be that romantic, sappy guy that makes your panties drop.
However, reality kicks in and omg you aren't as perfect as they thought! They create this ideal dream woman, think you fit that mold, and then proceed to have their bubble burst when you aren't that woman. It can be rather unfair to women generally because who they create in their head is often an unrealistic goal because everyone has their flaws.
These guys can be so stupidly fickle when it comes to dating.
Libra guys are in love with the idea of love. They go in with every intention to be that romantic, sappy guy that makes your panties drop.
However, reality kicks in and omg you aren't as perfect as they thought! They create this ideal dream woman, think you fit that mold, and then proceed to have their bubble burst when you aren't that woman. It can be rather unfair to women generally because who they create in their head is often an unrealistic goal because everyone has their flaws.
These guys can be so stupidly fickle when it comes to dating.
Posted by Lust
Hi Rockyroadicecream!!! You are funny woman. I always enjoy your comments_—.
They make me cry
😭
Posted by LibraSidPosted by Lust
Hi Rockyroadicecream!!! You are funny woman. I always enjoy your comments_—.
They make me cry
😭click to expand
I'd be lying if I said I was butthurt by this comment.
@OP you said it yourself, dating is completely different from living together. Things always change there is no guarantee what the future brings. At least you found out soon enough that it's not going to work. It's better that way than being stuck married with kids to the wrong guy.
Did you honestly think there was anything more you can do to change his decision? At some point it would've felt like you two are just faking it if it continued. At least he told you and he had the decency to admit what he truly felt. That's better than getting strung along.
I'm sorry this is how things ended up. 😢 I wish you better days ahead.
Did you honestly think there was anything more you can do to change his decision? At some point it would've felt like you two are just faking it if it continued. At least he told you and he had the decency to admit what he truly felt. That's better than getting strung along.
I'm sorry this is how things ended up. 😢 I wish you better days ahead.
Tiziani
Hencewhy I am frustrated. Cause this guy is a NICE dude you know..... but really had no balls to speak out on wht was going on in his mind about us..... He kept on romancing me....
He is not a jerk.... but now he does look like a jerk.... which is plain sad
Hencewhy I am frustrated. Cause this guy is a NICE dude you know..... but really had no balls to speak out on wht was going on in his mind about us..... He kept on romancing me....
He is not a jerk.... but now he does look like a jerk.... which is plain sad
Posted by Lust
Libra loves romance & happen to be very very good at it. It's a skill that we are blessed with. However, deep inside our hearth we are very picky and uncertain. Yup, unfortunately we are cursed with it (if I can call it that).
It does look selfish for other people, but logically we are just trying the best we can to show how much we care. Unfortunately Things don't alway last forever.
Just be glad that you are not married to him, and the fact that he lets you go. Many men string women way too long, wasting time really!!!
Part of me is truly glad @Lust
Just that I miss him so very much and because I still love him..... just sucks.....
Just that I miss him so very much and because I still love him..... just sucks.....
Posted by rockyroadicecream
I seriously need to just keep a copy of this tidbit around and just paste it-
Libra guys are in love with the idea of love. They go in with every intention to be that romantic, sappy guy that makes your panties drop.
However, reality kicks in and omg you aren't as perfect as they thought! They create this ideal dream woman, think you fit that mold, and then proceed to have their bubble burst when you aren't that woman. It can be rather unfair to women generally because who they create in their head is often an unrealistic goal because everyone has their flaws.
These guys can be so stupidly fickle when it comes to dating.
OMG @rockyroadicecream,
You sure have said it well!! That is soo true. That is what happened here to me.... He even told me that how he envies his certain married couple friends and how they have the energy to stay happy and healthy.... and that he thinks I just dont have it in me!!!... He said all these to me at the airport as he was seeing me off.....
Sigh... wonder men like him can even be truly happy.....
Posted by AesmaDaeva
@OP you said it yourself, dating is completely different from living together. Things always change there is no guarantee what the future brings. At least you found out soon enough that it's not going to work. It's better that way than being stuck married with kids to the wrong guy.
Did you honestly think there was anything more you can do to change his decision? At some point it would've felt like you two are just faking it if it continued. At least he told you and he had the decency to admit what he truly felt. That's better than getting strung along.
I'm sorry this is how things ended up. 😢 I wish you better days ahead.
Thank you @AesmaDaeva
You are right. No point dragging on. But I am just so frustrated and pissed that he never talk it out to me his concerns about us. He spoke to his mom and sister about our problems and decided it by himself. I had to literally pause my life back in my country to be able to work at our relationship you know. A lot was at stake here..... So I feel really sidelined bigtime....
But yea... my friends and family are just glad that we did not get married.... cause they think I would have been miserable....
Posted by CapkatPosted by rockyroadicecream
I seriously need to just keep a copy of this tidbit around and just paste it-
Libra guys are in love with the idea of love. They go in with every intention to be that romantic, sappy guy that makes your panties drop.
However, reality kicks in and omg you aren't as perfect as they thought! They create this ideal dream woman, think you fit that mold, and then proceed to have their bubble burst when you aren't that woman. It can be rather unfair to women generally because who they create in their head is often an unrealistic goal because everyone has their flaws.
These guys can be so stupidly fickle when it comes to dating.
OMG @rockyroadicecream,
You sure have said it well!! That is soo true. That is what happened here to me.... He even told me that how he envies his certain married couple friends and how they have the energy to stay happy and healthy.... and that he thinks I just dont have it in me!!!... He said all these to me at the airport as he was seeing me off.....
Sigh... wonder men like him can even be truly happy.....click to expand
Nope.
Unless they have some sort of epiphany about how life and romance ACTUALLY works, they'll continue this vicious cycle.
Posted by CapkatPosted by AesmaDaeva
@OP you said it yourself, dating is completely different from living together. Things always change there is no guarantee what the future brings. At least you found out soon enough that it's not going to work. It's better that way than being stuck married with kids to the wrong guy.
Did you honestly think there was anything more you can do to change his decision? At some point it would've felt like you two are just faking it if it continued. At least he told you and he had the decency to admit what he truly felt. That's better than getting strung along.
I'm sorry this is how things ended up. 😢 I wish you better days ahead.
Thank you @AesmaDaeva
You are right. No point dragging on. But I am just so frustrated and pissed that he never talk it out to me his concerns about us. He spoke to his mom and sister about our problems and decided it by himself. I had to literally pause my life back in my country to be able to work at our relationship you know. A lot was at stake here..... So I feel really sidelined bigtime....
But yea... my friends and family are just glad that we did not get married.... cause they think I would have been miserable....click to expand
That's so terrible! I'd be angry if I were in your shoes. I find it disrespectful if my SO would talk to other people about our problems instead of talking about it with me. I understand your frustration and I'm sorry it felt like he didn't even give you a chance but people like that aren't really looking to fix things. They're just looking for others to validate their opinion and to encourage them on what they already set their mind to do. 😢 My heart goes out to you. Sending some positive and healing energy your way.
I commend you for doing all that for love. Most people wouldn't bother because there's so much at stake in moving and changing jobs. Your whole life is at stake there and yet you did it for him. That's really something and I hope your optimism in life wouldn't change. Good luck on your new endeavors.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
I seriously need to just keep a copy of this tidbit around and just paste it-
Libra guys are in love with the idea of love. They go in with every intention to be that romantic, sappy guy that makes your panties drop.
However, reality kicks in and omg you aren't as perfect as they thought! They create this ideal dream woman, think you fit that mold, and then proceed to have their bubble burst when you aren't that woman. It can be rather unfair to women generally because who they create in their head is often an unrealistic goal because everyone has their flaws.
These guys can be so stupidly fickle when it comes to dating.
lol Where are these libra men?? I do not ever meet any sappy, romantic ones. Give me one and he will be mine for life. hahaha
Posted by tiziani
Plus, think about the REALITY of what you've achieved - you find someone you were interested in, you travelled, you moved cities to see them and find out your answers and the truth. You made it happen and you seem very in control of your life's direction. Do you realise how many people don't do that? You are in a category of very impressive people. Look around and you shouldn't have too much trouble finding a man who can accept you, whether they have the balls or not is another question entirely!
Agree with Tiz..He was a jerk, but at least NOW you know what you DON'T want in a relationship and at the end of the day when you've gotten over him, you can chalk it up as a great experience that not too many folks get or at least take. You crossed the ocean and took a chance on love and it didn't work, but guess what? HIS LOSS! You have nothing to feel bad about. A few hurt feelings, a year of wasted time maybe, but a love story to add to your diary...plus, it seems as though he did love you and vice versa, but his maturity level could not match yours. Everyone here hit the nail on the head...Consider yourself lucky because at least you didn't marry him.
Just a little note..Libra & Capricorn love can work..it's a lotta work, but it can happen...lol. Best Wishes to ya though because Caps are a great bunch of folks to have in your life. When you love, it's usually for keeps.
🙂
Posted by WateryGemPosted by rockyroadicecream
I seriously need to just keep a copy of this tidbit around and just paste it-
Libra guys are in love with the idea of love. They go in with every intention to be that romantic, sappy guy that makes your panties drop.
However, reality kicks in and omg you aren't as perfect as they thought! They create this ideal dream woman, think you fit that mold, and then proceed to have their bubble burst when you aren't that woman. It can be rather unfair to women generally because who they create in their head is often an unrealistic goal because everyone has their flaws.
These guys can be so stupidly fickle when it comes to dating.
lol Where are these libra men?? I do not ever meet any sappy, romantic ones. Give me one and he will be mine for life. hahahaclick to expand
Believe me, the ones who try to act like they aren't sappy or romantic, really are. They just put up that stupid ass front for the sake of their egos.
Posted by Lust
Dating process is a learning curve about your potential forever one. Now that you find out about his goods & bad, are you going to continue or cut the losses? Libra is learning about you too. They tolerate you, again and again. Unfortunately they don't communicate this thing "what they tolerate you about".. Until they give up and tell you it's over...it's not you it's me kinda talk. That's when libra being accused of being fake.
The thing is, libra has this mind set that we can't change others, that's not fair for us to change you, be the way you are. That left us with, can I tolerate you? For how long? What's the trade of for this kind of level tolerant for us? Yeah, it's complicated.
Why is this viewed as fake though? This is as authentic as it gets. I am me and you are you. Sure, no one is perfect... but some imperfections are bigger than others. Some you can accept and some you cannot.
I was joking about crying at rockys comment. A lot of libra guys seem to do the same stupid shit and she calls them out on it. I'm just a sensitive libra though and when I hear, libra this, libra that, sometimes I get defensive. Then I remember I don't do that shit so no worries.
I like hugs though, bring it in... 😄
I like hugs though, bring it in... 😄
Posted by AesmaDaevaPosted by CapkatPosted by AesmaDaeva
@OP you said it yourself, dating is completely different from living together. Things always change there is no guarantee what the future brings. At least you found out soon enough that it's not going to work. It's better that way than being stuck married with kids to the wrong guy.
Did you honestly think there was anything more you can do to change his decision? At some point it would've felt like you two are just faking it if it continued. At least he told you and he had the decency to admit what he truly felt. That's better than getting strung along.
I'm sorry this is how things ended up. 😢 I wish you better days ahead.
Thank you @AesmaDaeva
You are right. No point dragging on. But I am just so frustrated and pissed that he never talk it out to me his concerns about us. He spoke to his mom and sister about our problems and decided it by himself. I had to literally pause my life back in my country to be able to work at our relationship you know. A lot was at stake here..... So I feel really sidelined bigtime....
But yea... my friends and family are just glad that we did not get married.... cause they think I would have been miserable....
That's so terrible! I'd be angry if I were in your shoes. I find it disrespectful if my SO would talk to other people about our problems instead of talking about it with me. I understand your frustration and I'm sorry it felt like he didn't even give you a chance but people like that aren't really looking to fix things. They're just looking for others to validate their opinion and to encourage them on what they already set their mind to do. 😢 My heart goes out to you. Sending some positive and healing energy your way.
I commend you for doing all that for love. Most people wouldn't bother because there's so much at stake in moving and changing jobs. Your whole life is at stake there and yet you did it for him. That's really something and I hope your optimism in life wouldn't change. Good luck on your new endeavors.click to expand
Slowly but surely, am getting there. As in trying to put the past as my past.... tough, but gotta do it....
Thank you. Need all the positive vibes..
Posted by LIb4LifePosted by tiziani
Plus, think about the REALITY of what you've achieved - you find someone you were interested in, you travelled, you moved cities to see them and find out your answers and the truth. You made it happen and you seem very in control of your life's direction. Do you realise how many people don't do that? You are in a category of very impressive people. Look around and you shouldn't have too much trouble finding a man who can accept you, whether they have the balls or not is another question entirely!
Agree with Tiz..He was a jerk, but at least NOW you know what you DON'T want in a relationship and at the end of the day when you've gotten over him, you can chalk it up as a great experience that not too many folks get or at least take. You crossed the ocean and took a chance on love and it didn't work, but guess what? HIS LOSS! You have nothing to feel bad about. A few hurt feelings, a year of wasted time maybe, but a love story to add to your diary...plus, it seems as though he did love you and vice versa, but his maturity level could not match yours. Everyone here hit the nail on the head...Consider yourself lucky because at least you didn't marry him.
Just a little note..Libra & Capricorn love can work..it's a lotta work, but it can happen...lol. Best Wishes to ya though because Caps are a great bunch of folks to have in your life. When you love, it's usually for keeps.
🙂click to expand
Thank you!
Yes.... few years down the road, will probably laugh about it...
Yes, looking at it as blessing in disguise. 🙂
Posted by mindofaquarius
Somehow I came to conclusion that libras tend to be fake. Like my libra bf, sorry to say so but that kinda reminded me when I read your post. He also says lovely things etc and then when we get into an argument it's —I'm so unhappy blab la since months I'm —surrendering?? bla bla?? and I'm like WTF?!
1. of it shows how fake you are, telling me lovely dovey things and all of a sudden when I get bitchy or whatever you turn 180 degrees and say you are so so unhappy?! Or top that by saying —I'm unhappy since months?? but on the other hand one day before or even hours before you cuddled the shit out of me or just were super cute, telling me how much you love me bla bla?! Someone who is truly unhappy wouldn't do such things.
2. They don't have any gut, it's all perfect and fine until you cross their line — then it's like the world ending all of a sudden.They don't speak up about problems, they hide??_
Sorry, don't get me wrong I love my libra bf but I'm starting to lose trust in him since he also pulls that —180 degree shit card?? from time to time. How am I supposed to believe him anything that he says?! If just a little argument can turn everything he just told me 180 degrees?! Nothing I can really trust??_ and that hurts me the most as an aqua, not being able to trust him cuz of stupid shit like that.
that's how I can relate to your story... sucks
I understand the feeling of people to be able to compromise and change for the better. The keyword here is TALK. Which my Libra guy and yours I guess are not good at. They will think about it for sure.
And I can so relate to their character of being so happy after an argument like nothing has happened and making us think, that it is ALL GOOD. But they will silently record it in their stock book!!
And yes, be affectionate and cuddle as if things are great... total mindfuck...
I think they are just confused, and not matured. I am sure there are some nice Libra men. But I guess we met Libra BOYS and not men.
As for you, better to lay it out on the table and TELL him how you feel. And ASK him what he wants and if he loves you. That was the mistake I made. I never asked him "If you love me?"
*correction .....mindF*** not mindtreetrunk
Posted by mindofaquarius
Maybe we just aren't compatible enough on a more serious level. All I want is to be able to rely on him and the stuff he says. Maybe that really is how he is but then I can't handle it to be honest. I need a partner who is honest and who means what he says. Not someone who mirrors me just because he can't make up his own mind or is afraid to talk about things. I never begged him to stay, I told him multiple times to leave if he doesn't want me anymore. If he can take me as I am, fine — but if not then please leave and save time for both of us. Jezz table manners shouldn't be a huge thing to change about oneself
But thanks??_.. I??ll think about it
Can Libras be a bit dramatic?
I think as well people's feelings don't stay the same. One day you might be feeling positive about the relationship, another, well maybe not so much. it's not a case of one day was a lie but rather it was the truth on that day.
Still, he needs to be fairly constant in his message. i would just call him out on it. he may just being a little bit melodramatic or it could be that he isn't secure enough in the relationship to tell you the truth. pushing, chiding and berating him is not going to foster that trust.
are you really asking him to change his table manners? or is that just a metaphor?
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